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Love
This is an opinionated question; how do YOU know when you're in love?
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I agree with everything light of truth said. But since I gather you wanted to hear from several different people, here's what I feel. both of us are truly 'in love'. First marriage I loved him, but he mistreated me though he said he loved me, and in the end, admitted to mutual friends that he never was in love with me. He loved me like you love your security blanket as a kid, or how you love a type of music, food or style of clothes. It's love but not the kind needed for a long term committed relationship
In my 2nd marriage: He feels exactly the same i do btw,
any time we are apart, like for work or other stuff, we can hardly wait to be back together. When together, we want to do everything little thing in daily life(even the mundane tasks) together so we can share the experience and it also makes everything in life more exciting and wonderful...just having them by your side.
We get joy from doing special things for each other, like both taking turns to cook meals or while the other is up, asking if we can refresh a cup of tea or coffee.
We also can't stand to see the other feeling bad, headache, sick, maybe stressed from work, etc... it there's such a burning desire to have a magic wand and wave it to make it all better for him, I want to massage his scalp if he's hurting, do some Reiki energy healing, but sometimes, there is nothing either of us can do but just hug and hold the other while we sit and suffer.
Love is wanting to uphold and support that which your partner has interest in, their wishes, hopes, dreams and goals and to do so in a way that helps them actually achieve them.
Love is taking delight in each others laughter, blooming and blossoming in each others constant compliments, and wanting to bring pleasure to each other which can happen in many ways (in thoughtful deeds, gifts and also in bed.)
And the ultimate final thing, he and I would give our life if we had to,just to save the other!
I never had that in the first marriage. I was more like a piece of furniture in the house that he liked. I looked pretty, fit in with the decor and like a collecters item, made him feel special gain status cus he had a prize item to show off.
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I think you just know.
I see love as a bigger thing than just looking at someone and thinking about them a lot. I just see that as liking someone.
I see love as doing everything you can for that person. To make them happy, to stick with them through hard times and to just do anything for them.
I see it like how you love your family. You'll stand up for them, care about them and their needs, ect.
Love is an action more than an actual feeling, in my opinion. So I don't believe that it's the butterflies in your stomach or daydreaming about them, I think that means you like someone. Love is so much more than those feelings.
I know there's a difference from love and being in love but I think they both wrap about the same idea. That you'd do so much for them even without expecting something in return.
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It's hard to explain and most people cant so just go with the flow. I suppose you know when you're in love when you look and someone and you tend to think that he/she is cute. You can sometimes get butterflies in your stomach or find it hard to bring up topics to talk about and just come out with random things. This is the same if you're gay or think you are but don't know it, if you look at a guy and think ' oh he's kinda cute lets see if he likes me' then talk to him don't hide yourself away, also ask people when they were first in love how did they know it!
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