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Me and my bf have been going out for a while now and his ex is trying to talk to him and acting like my friend then I have people telling she talks mess about me and wants to fight me.Well I'm not such an abusive person but I don't really know how to handle this.She keeps on trying to wear some really skanky clothes to impress him.He told me the way he feels about me already but I don't really know how to get this girl off his back. Please help! (link)
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She's probably only trying to be your friend to get close to him. I don't know why she would tell others that she wants to fight you, maybe more than one person is trying to stir up trouble.
Let the boyfriend deal with her.He's the one who needs to tell her to back off. He needs to keep her off your back!
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I have a Zig Fighter jet that has been very reliable until recently. Just yesterday my air-conditioner belt broke and I had to replace that. And for the past few weeks it has been sputtering just before I hit Mach-8..and it drinks the gas horribly; you all know how much jet fuel costs these days, its crazy. Is there any way I can fix this or make it more efficeient? Should I just get a new jet? (link)
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Don't mess with it. Go to the lot and pick you out a new one. Sputtering is not good, could cause abrubt stop....very, very, bad for the pilot. You better buy a new one.
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A senior girl in my first period's mom passed away on Friday. She wont be coming to school for the rest of the week because of the tragic situation. My teacher was to get a "sympathy card" and get my whole class to sign it saying how sorry they are and all that. I, along with a few other people in the class, don't think it'll be a good idea. WE said so in class today and our teacher just responded with, "Lauren need to know we care about her."
We don't think it's a good idea because she would be just coming back from a whole week at home with her family grieving and she doesn't need all this pity from us. When our teacher told us what happened, all you could hear around the class room was "Oh that sucks, I can't believe she's finishing her senior year without her mom, Prom is going to suck for her, etc." I know those kind of things are going to end up in the card.
At the end of class, we just decide that we weren't going to sign the card but do y'all think there's a way to stop the whole thing?
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Why would you? I think it's a great idea. You don't have to save it until she comes back. The teacher will probably send it to her at home.
You don't want her to come back thinking none of you cared. How rude that would be. Get one, sign it, send it to her AND her family. I'm sure she will like it that you were all thinking of her.
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ok so my birthday was like a month ago..i started planning my sweet 16 but couldnt do it the date i wanted because one of my good friends is having hers that day. I was ok with that and decided to wait until June because my aunt who works there said i can get a deal this one weekend. I checked with everyone to make sure i didnt interfere..my one good friend is having hers the day after mine..im having mine on a friday. Today she asked me if i can change mine because she was talking to her mom and her mom doesnt like the idea because she said it will be hard for people to go to to parties in one weekend. She asked me to change mine because she cant change hers. I was like WHTA? her dad works at the firehouse (thats where shes havin hers) and i know she could probably change it if she feels that way. Every weekend there seems to be a sweet 16..i have to wait 2 1/2 months after my actual bday to have my party..so i think ive sacrificed enough. I dont mean to sound stubborn or anything..its just im sick of accomadating others...plus i can get a good deal on the catering that friday night..and i have double header softball games on saturdays..between everyone elses parties,plays for the schools,and talent shows,this is my open date and i dont wanna change! do you agree? how should i say this to her (link)
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I agree. Have your party. Those who can't go to both will just have to decide if she doesn't want to change hers.You know that phrase You can't please everybody. It's true. You waited long enough. Have a nice party, and a belated happy birthday :)
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ok...all my friends have their boyfriends and all this stuff and they always want 2 do something with them and it makes me really upset to see them all have someone they like except me. Everytime they ask me to do something with all of them i will say mmm.... im not sure! and they will get mad at me...
how can i tell them so they wont get mad at me?? (link)
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Why don't you just go with them. Maybe get out and meet someone? Can't hurt now and then.
If you don't want to just tell them. Don't say not sure just say no thank you.:)
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there's this guy that i like and i haven't told him that i like him but i'm not the kind of person that really does that. Well, over spring break the guy went on a cruise and today he had pics of these 2 girls that he met that were drop dead gorgeous. He kept talking about one of the girls and how they were gonna take him on a cruise next year and how he might move to indiana to be with one of them and i know that he can't have been serious because he only knew them for a week and i know he was just trying to get me and my friend to be jealous but then he kept being all like a jerk and it pissed me off. But i still like him. Its so hard because i really like him but he can be such a jerk sometimes. He can be a showoff and stuff but he's my friend. I don't know. I don't wanna tell him i like him because then he will be like all weird and maybe be disgusted. I don't know. Help me! (sry its so long) (link)
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He won't no unless you say something!
Next time he show's off like that, just go along with him. It will annoy the hell out of him.Just tell him how yes they are pretty, and oh what a good idea moving to Indiana. Works real well.:)
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Ok, I am kindof too shy to ask this to the "pool" because people I know are here... you understand? Thanks in advance.. sorry it's so long..
Ok, I'm 14/f, and I know that's really young, but I have "guy problems". Two guys, one girl, and myself are involved. My best friend "sister", Jacki*, liked my best friend that's a guy, Nate*. Nate also liked Jacki, for a while. I liked this guy, Pete*, for a while, and he liked me. All well and good, eh? Not so. You see, Jacki doesn't like Nate anymore, nor does Nate like Jacki. Pete still likes me, and I suppose I like him a bit still. But, I've always had underlying feelings for Nate, but I'd put them in the back of my mind 'cause it was Jacki's turn to shine. But now, Nate likes me, and so does Pete. Problem is, Nate and Pete are still friends. I don't know what to do, 'cause I know - and love - Nate very well.. and I like Pete. But I sortof see Pete as a "brother". I don't want to do something dumb that would make everyone mad.. and I don't want Jacki's feelings hurt. (we all know that a little piece of your heart stays with every guy until you find the right one..)
Thing is, I really, really know that I love Nate. I've known him since fifth grade, and we're best friends. I know stuff about him that no one else knows, and he knows stuff about me that no one else knows. We have alot in common, and love to hang out. Every night when we're on Instant Messanger, when we have to go, we say "I love you, sleep well, sweet dreams." This means alot to both of us.. Sometimes I think, maybe, he's the one? But I'm still so young, it's hard to tell. Nate's almost two years older than me, Pete's a few months older than me, and Jacki's a few months older than me.
I'm just really confused, if you have any advice what so ever, please lend me some! Thank you so much! (link)
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This question will probably show up on my column somewhere. I don't know if you can delete or not.
after but you may want to try it if you don't want friends to see it. Okay? Not sure how that works.
Do you think Pete would understand if you told him that you think of him as more like a brother?
And also that you and Nate sort of have feelings for each other? Maybe you could get him alone and just kind of ask his advice about it. Maybe he would take it a little better if he thought he was helping you make the desicion...know what I mean?
I'd hate for you to have to hurt his feeling's , but then again if you and Nate really care for each other it would be a shame to pass him by.
I think you need to have a real heart to heart with Pete about your feelings. If he is as good a friend as you say then he may just understand.
You don't say how young you are, and it may not last with Nate either but, I have a feeling you should maybe give it a try.
I hope this helps some. You have a lot to think about. Big decsions to make. If you need any other help feel free to email me. Address is on my column. More private too! Best of luck and let me know how it goes. :)
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Hi. I have a really hard time getting over things that people do that emotionally hurt me, yet I mostly keep it all bottled inside of myself. I try to prevent opening up about it to the exact person if I feel it's uneccessary. In the meanwhile, I had in-laws of mine tell me things that they only said out of being helpful, or they just said something without thinking or not caring on how I would feel afterwards. They aren't necessarily being evil or spiteful people, yet it can seem that way to me at times. That's why I try to not really associate myself with them if I don't really have to. I do receive telephone calls from them from time to time and alot of times, I feel like I have to put on a front and act all happy to hear from them, when in actuality, I really don't want to talk to them at all (due to those things that they said to me, even if each thing that they say that hurts me is few and far between. I always remember it, which is becoming a huge problem for me). If you saw us together though, you'd think everything's all fine and dandy and have a beautiful relationship, but for a fact on my part, I'm being phony to spare their feelings and spare from being confrontational. How do I forgive someone for something they said, even though they didn't say sorry or better yet, someone who has no idea that I'm even bothered with them?
Thanks,
MrsRDeLove (link)
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You really have to stop holding a grudge because it will just eat you up inside if you don't.
You said they didn't say these things to hurt you. So why do you want to hurt them? If they say something that bothers you, you have to say something at the time it is said. Don't let it fester like you have been. But just forget what was said in the past and start over.
There are just some people who say things like that and don't even realize it. My husband is one of them. I used to let it bother me but now, I just repeat back to him what he said. Half the time he just says "what?" and I say thats what you just said. He didn't mean it the way I took it at all. So give them another chance and let the past rest. Good luck. :)
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OK heres the dealio
i HATE showers...they just seem like a waste of time for me. Does anyone know any ways that will make showering fun?? no sarcastic answers please. Thanks (link)
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Oh just get in there, wash and get out. 5 minutes isn't gonna hurt you much! Sing!
oh, and just to be on the safe side since you didn't mention your age.Twynelyne had a good idea, but don't put stereo in there that you have to plug in. You knew that, right? Otherwise YOU WILL NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT TAKING A SHOWER EVER AGAIN! :)
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theres this guy, my boyfriend. sometimes i feel like i like him and other times i feel like i dont. he is crazy over me. i feel like i want to dump him but i dont want him to be upset. (this guy also gave me chocolate 4 no reason and we have been going out for about 3 weeks) i need help!!!!! il give 5's and feedback to the first 4 good answers i get! PLZ HELP!!!! (link)
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It sounds like you aren't ready to be tied down to just one guy yet. Which is perfectly normal.
Tell him you want to be friends and you even want to go out now and then but that you are not ready for a long term relationship.
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a lot of people keep coming up to me and asking me if i'm anorexic. i'm starting to thing i am now. people always tell me how skinny i am, but i think i'm fat. and i'm obsessive over what i eat, and i always weigh myself.
it's my stomach i don't like. when i stand up and squeeze my stomach there's like 2 inches of fat! is that normal?! =(.. i feel so fat. i want to try to have NO fat there. does anyone know any good exercises to get rid of that fat?
so i have 3 questions:
-do you think i might be anorexic?
-is all that fat normal? you can compare me to a normalish stomach or whatever, i don't care.
-what are some good exercises to get rid of that fat? (link)
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Sounds like you're just skinny to me.Some body fat is normal I think you're okay. Stop obssessing go walk 30 minutes every night.
Just read mylinhthan's answer hers is good.Follow her routine and it should help.
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My best friend is really rich and she always likes to brag about her $3.2 million mansion and how mine is only worth $1.2 million. I never really had a problem with her being so "Oh mine is better than yours" because shes done it with our cars, our clothes, etc. But its beginning to bug me because she wrote me this really long email about how she went to Hollister Co. and bought $3,000 worth of stuff. She began listing it one by one. 37 logo shirts ($721), 7 pairs of capris ($276)...and she listed it all the way to underwear, flip flops, mini skirts, shorts, bathing suits, and fragrance. Is that just a little too much? Because I think so. See my family is rich, but we like to save our money. But her family, blows it all on stuff they dont really need. Her $3,000 wardrobe will be thrown out when spring/summer is over. The email really bothered me...I'm not jealous. I can go to Hollister and spend a lot of $$ too. But, how can I teach her that money is not everything...and tell her she can save money while still looking great in all the latest fashion and styles? (link)
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Just don't tell her about what you spend and then tell her you don't want to know what she spends.
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I'm a female in my early twenties. My brother-in-law has a wife, who he married last year. I was jealous of everytime he was in a serious relationship. Now, he's married, I'm even more jealous. Now he's having his second child with his wife, whom I'm not comfortable accepting yet. My husband and I are also planning to have a child as well, but I am not pregnant with my second child yet. Sometimes I hate it when people do better than me. Especially people I don't like. My brother-in-law doesn't really talk to me and his wife I don't really like, yet I have to learn to accept her. Is it normal to be jealous of other people's good news? I'm acting like my brother-in-law is my blood brother, or something. I also came from a small family where I was always put first, and when someone has good news that happens to them, then it's not all about me anymore. Does the way I was raised have something to do with this? I love it best when I was the ONLY daughter-in-law in the family. (link)
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It is probably because you are used to being the only one. It's just kind of hard for you to share the limelight with the sister in law.
Have you given her a chance? I mean really, she may make a good friend for you. It is something that you will have to learn to deal with so that you don't cause a problem in the family. I'm sure it was the way you were raised, but you don't want that for your kids so try to treat her like a sister, a friend at the very least.
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I have a friend who is heavily into drugs. She isn't doing it to have fun, she is doing it to escape problems in her life. She has had a very difficult life, so it isn't like an emo thing. I am too close to her to help her. I have been through this with her many times. My question is, what can I do to try and get her away from all of the drugs without making her mad at me. Also if there is anything you could suggest, where I could help her, it would be much appreciated. Thank you all so much in advance. This problem has really got me down.
~Nokomis~ (link)
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You need to get with an adult who can get her into treatment. Yea, she'll be mad at you. Better for her to be mad than dead though, right?
She will get over it once she has her life straightened out.
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I used to date this boy(we'll call him john doe) for two months. Everyone at school told me a lot of bad things about him. Stuff about how he cheats on his gurlfriends and stuff. I talked to him to get to know him for about 2 weeks. I was straight up w/ him and told him that I wasnt sure if we should hook up b/c of all the things i had heard about him. He told me that they we're true & he did used to do those things, but he really did changed. He told me that it pisses him off when people say that about him b/c a lot of gurls wont date him b/c of it. He's the guy that all the gurls wanna date and he said that they're just jealous b/c he dont want them. Well I started hearing stuff about him the first day we started goin out, but I didnt believe it b/c I trusted him. He seemed really ginuwine when he told me all that stuff about him. 1 month after we got together I was in the hall w/ one of my friends. She was talking to one of her friends that I didnt know at the time. Me and her b/c kool and around lunch she wrote me a note saying I think you're a really kool gurl and I cant tell you love " John Doe " and I know ou would never cheat on him. but he having sex w/ a gurl at school( we'll call her jane doe). I called him cussing and yelling at him for about two hours. He swore to me it wasn't true. I didnt really believe him and he knew it, I told him I was going to trust that he wouldnt do that to me and I let him know that it does make me look at him differently now. Things got worse after that b/c the gurls knew they had got to me and they had me not believing him now. We'd been together for exactly two months when everyone told me that he was going around telling people we didnt go together. Everyone, well a lot of gurls & my friends, told me that he said that, or had heard someone telling people he said that. The whole school was talking about it, so I just assumed it was true. He tried talking to me, but I just ignored him. He asked one of my friends what was wrong and they told him that I said we didnt go together anymore & I did tell her that b/c of what I had heard. He stopped coming to school and went off to job-core. He started dating someone else that went to my school. He came back to huntsville but didnt come back to school. I called him on his birthday to tell him happy b-day & he was surprised that I called him. We talked for a while and we continued to talk. He still goes w/ that other girl, but he says he wants to go back out & that he's gonna break up w/ her. He said that he never said he didnt go w/ me & he tried talking to me, but I wouldnt listen to him. Do you think what everyone says is true or do you think he's telling the truth? (link)
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I don't know.I do think that if you do get back together that the two of you should listen to each other and not the rest of the gossips at school. That would be a good place to start.
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Ok, this past week, I went to Disneyworld to march in the parade with the band. (yes, I'm a bandgeek...) Well, my really good friend, Nicole, was sitting with me on the busride to Floriday (24 hours, yuck!) and the way there and the 1st few days of Disney were fine, but then she started getting on my nerves. At the time, I didn't think she was a lesbian at all. She was just NOT giving me my space and was hanging around me A LOT. She basically wouldn't leave me alone. And from then on, she started acting really weird. I'm gonna tell you the things that she did, but they're not gonna be in order lol. Well, for one, we were at Epcot and playing in the fountain like 4-year-olds, but hey it was fun lol. She kept picking me up and trying to get on top of me. And then, long after we dried off, she had wet spots on her boobs. So disgusting. On the bus ride home, I'm like, trying to sleep, and every time I look, she's watching me. Then later, I woke up later that night and her butt was pressed against mine and if I'm not mistaken, it was moving up and down. Then on the monorail, she has all this room, but is like, on top of me. So I move over, and she moves closer, and that kept happening. Just a lot of that kind of stuff. So me and my new friends Kelly and Molly and my other friend Amber ditched her at Magic Kingdom, and yeah, we're not talking (not that I care). But now, I'm just really freaked out. I told my friends, and we thought about it for awhile, and a lot of stuff she told us before was all starting to make sense and we really think she's bi or a lesbian. So what should I do? I don't really want to be her friend anymore, and I'm just really freaked out. I could probably say more, but I don't want this to be too long, so if you want more details, IM me on x HappyBunni16 x. Sorry so long, but I'm really scared.
P.S. I have nothing against lesbians, just when they hit on me and my friends. (link)
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not giving you space doesn't make her a lesbian.You should have just said I need more space.
Am I mistaken or isn't that what friends do..Hang around each other a lot?
You say you had fun in the fountain so? And do lesbians boobs stay wet longer? I asked one for you she said LOL what boobs! No help at all but I somehow doubt it.
She was watching you while you were trying to sleep. Another so what. She probably thought you were acting pretty strange by then.
Her butt touched you in her sleep....people have no control over that sorry, maybe your butt's the one who touched hers in YOUR sleep. And people do tend to snuggle up in their sleep you were warm, normal so far.
Then you make new friends and start ragging on her, probably just so the new friends would give you the time of day. Oops who's the bad guy now?
Sorry, with very little evidence you have just sentenced your former friend to teasing, ridicule, gossip , you name it.
Adults who are homosexual sometimes have trouble dealing with all the crap they are dealt.Can you imagine what your former friend is going to go through? She probably isn't even a lesbian! Kids can be so cruel!
You ask what you're supposed to do. It's real hard not to tell you!
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Me and my best friend Ashlee are REALLY close but lately shes been really into guys. I mean, I am just not the way she is ..I mean were 13 but I guess Im kind of prude. Well, one night Ashlee got invited to a party with my other 2 friends Lindsay and Courtney. A few other people in my circle of friends (And I) didnt get invited. But, I didnt think much of it and I didnt care at all. Then, the other day, I was on the phone with my friend Alex (Shes one person who didnt get invited either) and Alex told me that Courtney, who was at the party, told her that the party wasnt really a party. It was just a few guys and Ashlee, Lindsay, and Courtney. Courtney said they played spin the Bottle and Ashlee (Who had never kissed anyone before) made out with 4 guys at the party! The worst part was that she didnt even tell me. I dont know what to do! I told Alex (Swore on my life, basically) NOT to say anything about what Ashlee did (especially to Ashlee) because she would know Courtney told Alex and Alex told me! Im so depressed! what do i do? (link)
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Why are you depressed? You didn't do anything.
Don't say anything. Ashlee acted inappropriatley (the others there probably did too).But, it's not your problem.
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This boy asked me out the other day for this friday. I really, really like him. But the thing is, I'm afraid I might say something. I don't want to give away his name...he's actually "famous" or w/e (my dad's a prop manager for the show he's on).
So we're supposed to go out this friday and its going to be hard. I know he's a normal guy...and so far I've treated him normal, when I see him for like 2 minutes at a time... and thats just on the set. Whats it going to be like out in the public with other girls everywhere?? And what do we talk about? Should I bring up the fact that he's on tv? That my friends want to meet him? IDK!!!!
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Doesn't matter who he is or what he does just be youorself. Don't act any diffrent than you did before he asked you out.
Other girl's may want to have his attention but, you are the one he asked out. Just deal with them as nicely as you can...he can't be rude to them after all, his career depends on fans.
As for what to talk about....anything! Acting isn't the only thing he does. Ask about school, friends etc...If you have a question about his job, it's okay to ask. Just don't let it dominate your conversation.
I'm sure your freinds would like to meet him.If things go really well, they will have a chance one day. Let him relax and get to know you before you introduce him to everyone else.
Have a good time :)
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I was just wondering..... Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 4 months now and i know that may not seem like a long time but i really and truely love him. And it may sound weird but i feel like god is telling me that he is the one i am supposed to spend my life with. Can he be the one? Is it true that i can find someone in my junior year of high school? (link)
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It's possible. You really need to know what he's like over the long haul though.You have a lot of changes to go through in life yet and sometimes people go in opposite directions. Just keep that in mind before you rush into anything :)
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my dad is always so mean and curses alot he is an alchoholic what can i do to make him be a normal dad? (link)
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I'm really sorry that your dad is an alcoholic.
I'm also sorry that there just isn't anything you can do to make him stop and be normal.
Have you ever heard of alateen? You can get some very usful information there that will help you deal with your dad's problem.
www.al-anon.org/alateen.html
If for some reason that doesn't get you there, just punch alateen into your search engine. Go check it out! :)
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