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Girl's mom died
A senior girl in my first period's mom passed away on Friday. She wont be coming to school for the rest of the week because of the tragic situation. My teacher was to get a "sympathy card" and get my whole class to sign it saying how sorry they are and all that. I, along with a few other people in the class, don't think it'll be a good idea. WE said so in class today and our teacher just responded with, "Lauren need to know we care about her."
We don't think it's a good idea because she would be just coming back from a whole week at home with her family grieving and she doesn't need all this pity from us. When our teacher told us what happened, all you could hear around the class room was "Oh that sucks, I can't believe she's finishing her senior year without her mom, Prom is going to suck for her, etc." I know those kind of things are going to end up in the card.
At the end of class, we just decide that we weren't going to sign the card but do y'all think there's a way to stop the whole thing?
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I think she would be more hurt if she recived no sympathy from her peers. It's common curtisy to send your regrets when someone dies. It seems kind of heartless not to show any support. Sign the card, and tell her you care. That is not pity! Even better, take a collection and send the family flowers.
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Explain this to your teacher. If he/she still goes on with it don't try anymore. But what you should do is give her some empathy (sp?). It helps more than sympathy (sp?). What you need to do is have someone who has been through this or something like this to talk to her or write her a letter or something. Talking face to face would be best. Just sitting and talking to this person would help her. Find someone in your class that has lost someone close to them. Have them talk to her for a while or send her an e-mail, letter,ect. This will make her feel better than the card. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Why would you? I think it's a great idea. You don't have to save it until she comes back. The teacher will probably send it to her at home.
You don't want her to come back thinking none of you cared. How rude that would be. Get one, sign it, send it to her AND her family. I'm sure she will like it that you were all thinking of her.
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when it gets around to you rip it up and throw it away. or volenteer to take it to her and then accidentally misplace it and tell your teacher she loved it.
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I understand what you are saying, but it would make her feel better if she knew that your class was being sympathetic and trying to make her feel better. I would just sign the card and drop it. Maybe you could ask your teacher to remind people not to say things like "It's sad your not finishing your senior year with your mom; Prom will suck for you" or whatever. Your classmate will feel better knowing she has an entire class that has her back. Good luck and I hope I gave you a new way to look at things.
-Caydee
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I think u might be right but if you don't give a card show her what you wanted to say in it by doing not saying show that you care for her and you there for her.
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I don't think you should try to stop it. Let them do what they want, and when/if you sign the card, say something more sincere than "Too bad you can't go to prom". Then let her know personally that you truly sympathize. I know you think she doesn't need pity, but she does need to know that the people around her atleast care a little bit.
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I don't think you should stop the whole thing, becasue this girl does need support at this hard time in her life. Giving her a card is not going to bring her mom back or take away any pain, but it lets her know that people are thinking about her and she's not alone at this hard time.
If however, you choose not to sign it, there is nothing wrong with that. I can understand your reasoning, so it is your choice & no one is forcing you to sign it.
Remember, this girl may not feel better or even like the card, but deep down she will recognize that people are taking the time to care.
I hope this advice was okay!
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