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Is it normal to be jealous of other people's good news?
I'm a female in my early twenties. My brother-in-law has a wife, who he married last year. I was jealous of everytime he was in a serious relationship. Now, he's married, I'm even more jealous. Now he's having his second child with his wife, whom I'm not comfortable accepting yet. My husband and I are also planning to have a child as well, but I am not pregnant with my second child yet. Sometimes I hate it when people do better than me. Especially people I don't like. My brother-in-law doesn't really talk to me and his wife I don't really like, yet I have to learn to accept her. Is it normal to be jealous of other people's good news? I'm acting like my brother-in-law is my blood brother, or something. I also came from a small family where I was always put first, and when someone has good news that happens to them, then it's not all about me anymore. Does the way I was raised have something to do with this? I love it best when I was the ONLY daughter-in-law in the family.
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I think it is completley acceptable to be jealous of their having a baby. If I was in your situation I would probably be too. No affence or anything but when I feel that way, I always get a tiny bit angry at myself for being so selfish. A baby is a big deal and having 2 children before anyone else isn't necessarily "doing better" every family along with every person is different and moves at their own pace. Maybe you should tell your husband that you don't accept his brother's wife. Or spend some time and get to know her, it could be that you just aren't used to the change yet. The jealousy is NOT, and I want to make this clear to all the perverts out there, a sign that means you are attracted to your brother-in-law in ANY way! It just means you are looking out for him, because even though not blood related, you are still family. I'm not sure if this is exactly what you are looking for but I hope I helped.
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It is probably because you are used to being the only one. It's just kind of hard for you to share the limelight with the sister in law.
Have you given her a chance? I mean really, she may make a good friend for you. It is something that you will have to learn to deal with so that you don't cause a problem in the family. I'm sure it was the way you were raised, but you don't want that for your kids so try to treat her like a sister, a friend at the very least.
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hey. yes i agree it could be that the way you are raised cause you to be jealous of them but it's okay it's normal...i mean yeah you were always put first and now you are not getting any attention but it doesnt make them better then you either. just because they have their second child doesnt mean you wont have one soon...and think of it this way...if you dont like them then who cares about them...you are great and compare to them there is no competition...you just want to take things slow and give it some time before you get pregnant again...no worries and like what they said they will be jealous of you too...but as for now just because your not pregnant make them be jealous of you in a different field. tis' alright to feel how you are. i hope i helped. Take Care! x3 SweetStar.
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Yeh the way you was raised has something to do with it. Just be happy for your Brother-In-Law and one of these days he will be jealous of you. You just need to calm down and live your life as good as you can you never know... he might be jealous of you right now and nobody knows!!! =)I really hope i helped!
~*SAYLOR*~
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