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Rich girls
My best friend is really rich and she always likes to brag about her $3.2 million mansion and how mine is only worth $1.2 million. I never really had a problem with her being so "Oh mine is better than yours" because shes done it with our cars, our clothes, etc. But its beginning to bug me because she wrote me this really long email about how she went to Hollister Co. and bought $3,000 worth of stuff. She began listing it one by one. 37 logo shirts ($721), 7 pairs of capris ($276)...and she listed it all the way to underwear, flip flops, mini skirts, shorts, bathing suits, and fragrance. Is that just a little too much? Because I think so. See my family is rich, but we like to save our money. But her family, blows it all on stuff they dont really need. Her $3,000 wardrobe will be thrown out when spring/summer is over. The email really bothered me...I'm not jealous. I can go to Hollister and spend a lot of $$ too. But, how can I teach her that money is not everything...and tell her she can save money while still looking great in all the latest fashion and styles?
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Watch the movie "Clueless" im pretty sure thats about materialistic wenches too.
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Wow, your friend is a total loser.
Tell her she just blew 3000 dollars on clothes you could have gotten of the same quality at 50% cheaper for everything, pants, skirts, shirts, everythign waaaaay cheaper at kohls.
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Yea..I know, I get people bragging to me all the time.Just say "You're not rich, your parents are!"It's true..Does she use all of her own money that she earned and not money that was just given to her?Tell her, if you're going to brag about stuff you got it's kinda pitiful to be bragging about something you didn't pay for.That will probraly start a fight, but if you get that fed up with her let her know.Eventually she'll get over it, and realize what she's doing
xO LiSa*
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Volunteer at a homeless shelter. No kidding. It will make you grateful for what you have. And encourage her to donate her wardrobe to a thrift store or some needy family who would be happy to have something fairly new on their backs. It would be more fun if you go together, and ask some people about their lives.
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Just don't tell her about what you spend and then tell her you don't want to know what she spends.
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anonymous -
I can understand where her boastfullness could be a problem, but it isn't your place to tell her what to blow her money on. Don't try and change her because most likely you'll end up unsuccessful. If she wants to blow that much money on clothes, let her learn the hard way what the value of a dollar is. If she doesn't, then she doesn't.
As for her boastfullness, if her friendship means a lot to you, just tell her to quit it. Tell her she's giving off a very bad impression. If you, her friend, notices this unacceptable behavior, then think of what strangers may think. She needs to clean up her act and stop bragging about her luxuries. Most likely she's insecure with herself that she has to brag to prove to others how rich and fabulous she is because it brings her the envy of others, which is a big ego boost for her. It's something called modesty, tell her to look into it.
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Oh what a horrible life you must have! I mean seriously, only worth $1.2 million?
All right, here's what you have to do to teach her that money isn't everything:
1.Find out where her driver will be taking her in the Bently or whatever.
2. Get in your Rolls Royce and have your driver cut them off on a back road. Make sure not to damage either of the cars or your mommys will be rather displeased.
3. Once the cars are stopped, go over to her on your Segway and invite her to a mini-tea party while the drivers work out the details of what happened.
4. Halfway between your first scone, unbuckle your $3000 custom made 24kt gold Armani high-heel.
5. Drop the rest of your scone and ask her if she wouldn't mind picking it up.
6. When she looks down at it and begins to call her butler over to pick it up, take your shoe off and beat her in the head with the sharp heel. Continue to beat her mercilessly until she is on the ground bleeding profusely and then yell "IF THIS SHOE WASN'T SO EXPENSIVE MAYBE YOU'D STILL BE ALIVE RIGHT NOW BITCH!"
Then just walk away and you're done. That'll teach her to shop at a lower-upper-class place like Hollister.
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well your both rich ... you do sound like your very jealous of her ... you may not like how she spends her money but that really none of your business ... you must understand you live in a very rich comunity and some people will be very show offy there ... you can tell her however that you dont like they way she shows off her things like that ... the idea about teaching her money isnt everything is a nice idea but it probably wont work because she's learned money is everything .
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How utterly annoying this must get for you. For a very brief time when I was young I new a kid who was just like that. At the time I classified him as a moron and didnt see him anymore. In hindsight I think he actually deserved my pity. His life was so empty that if you removed these "things" or the cold cash there wasnt much left. However, what you are trying to do is very hard indeed. I cant say that I know the best way for you to proceed but you have a choice between the direct approach or the indirect approach. Try asking "Why do you always value everything by its price?" or "Why are you always comparing our stuff?". Alternatively you could try the more subtle approach of changing the subject to quality whenever she brings up price. If she says "I spent 500$ on clothes" you could say "I really like the skirt but those shoes are terrible... I can show you some much nicer ones at this store". I know this isnt much help but the key thing is to make her understand that you sometimes buy cheaper stuff because you choose to not because you have to. Good luck to you whatever you chose.
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Money ins't ever a problem until you don't have any. There are many unfortunate people out there who don't have money to spend on clothes, eating, or shelter for that matter. Ok so she has a $3.2 million dollar mansion and you have a $1.2 million dollar mansion. Be thankful that you even LIVE in a mansion. I don't have a mansion. I don't have all this money to blow on clothes, however, I am healthy. Don't take your health for granted. Be thankful that you are alive, not about the $3000 wardrobe. This is the right way to approach life!!
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It's not really your place to "teach" your friend anything. If she wants to spend all of her money on clothes that she's just going to throw away at the end of the season, that's her choice. The reason she does it is because she likes everyone to see, as well as hear, that she has money. She can't really be too good of a friend to you if all she ever does is compare prices of houses and cars that don't even belong to you. Maybe you should let her in on a little secret, it's not her that has the money... It's her parents.
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Well first you need to tell her that money isnt everything. Then if she doesnt believe you and goes off somewhere and blows $3000 on clothes that she could have spent $400 dollars on then take her to places like American Eagle and Kohls. Their clothes arent that expensive. And if she blows over $500 i am really sorry but their is no hope for her.
~*SAYLOR*~
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