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I recently got a job at a grocery store. I need shoes. The shirt is blue, and then we wear black pants or khaki. Any ideas? It can't be clogs or high heals, and it must be white or brown. I'm a sixteen year old girl, by the way. Pictures would be great, as well as where I could get them. Thanks :) (link)
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Just get some tennis shoes. Make sure they don't hurt your feet when you're walking on them, so walk around the store a few times before you commit to any certain pair.
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ok i do not smoke but I was wondering what you guys thought about the smoking bans. Not in bars or restaurants but the ones that affect the outside of buildings such as colleges and universities. (link)
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I go to a college where these bans have just recently been enforced. I see no problem with them because it is kind of gross to smell everyone's smoke right outside of the door. I am a smoker and I don't mind stepping away from the door, but there need to be ashtrays for the smokers to use. Otherwise, people will litter the ground with cigarette butts and that looks really sloppy.
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im thinking about getting a tatoo..
i have a scar from when i got my appendix taken out,
and i want to KIND OF cover it..i only want something small, that i will like for a while..
so far ive thought of:
-a small star on each side
-kind of a magic wand-ish thing?
something small (not like a lizard, or anything "bulky") any ideas??
Thanks:)
PS just curiosity..but if i wanted to get a tatoo removed..how would they do that?
would it hurt?
cost?
leave scars? (link)
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Tattoo removal is very expensive and very painful. You should not commit to getting any tattoo unless you are 100% sure you want it on your body for the rest of your life. Wait to get it until you know for sure what you want.
Just think of something that is meaningful to you. Once you have an idea, the people at the tattoo place will draw up anything you want them to.
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do you know any websites that show pictures of tattoos? i tried googling it but couldn't find anything really good. preferably foot, hip, and back of the neck tattoos. thanks! (link)
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Check out the websites of tattoo parlors that you know of. Some post pictures of the work they've done on the past and which person did them.
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how many times can you go tanning at the same place in a day? (link)
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You are only allowed to go ONCE in a 24 hour period. The tanning salon is not legally allowed to let you tan again before the 24 hour mark has passed.
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How far is a mile in blocks? Like 5 blocks? I don't really know how far things are but can you give me about roughly how many blocks I'd have to run for a mile on the street? (link)
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A mile is twelve blocks.
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i really really want to lose weight, particularly from my face. i want to have a skinny face where you can see your cheekbones and if you don't smile you still look pretty and not fat. but giving up food is not an option. trust me, i've tried everything. i cannot give up junk food. i cannot give up pigging out or eating when i'm bored. what can i do exercise-wise to combat this? i already play tennis every day after school but that's about all the exercise i get. would walking help? please help! i really want to be able to wear a small again. right now i'm a large. (link)
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You aren't going to be able to get "skinny" if you continue to pig out on junk food and eat whenever you're bored. Excercising AND pigging out basicly cancel each other out. All that accomplishes is maintaining your current weight. Try limiting yourself to a certain number of "snacks" each day and see if that helps.
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i got caught with a drug and now all i want to do is put it all behind me. i never want to do it again but its hard because some of my friends still do it. i need distractions or something. how do i keep myself away from drugs? (link)
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This situation really sucks, and you obviously know this or you wouldn't be asking for help. Right now, you have to decide if staying clean is more important than being around your current friends. It sounds as if you don't want the trouble that comes with doing drugs and your friends have decided that they still wish to continue with it. You need to find some friends that DON'T do drugs! I'm not saying "never see your friends again", but you DO need to associate yourself with people who will help you stay strong when you feel like you want to go back to that again. Not everyone does it. Start going places and doing things with people who don't use drugs. Trust me, it's hard now, but it gets A LOT easier as time goes on.
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i was bored so i went to a cchat room hwere you can talk 2 random people and i met this guy whos 16 and i told him i was 15 and im really 13,and i like him,and i don't think he will talk to me if i tell him.and i lied about the fact that i have big boobs(i have boobs but they arent HUGE) lol so should i tell him or just let him think im 15? (link)
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If you met this guy in some random chat room, what are the chances that you'll ever actually talk to him again? I would just let this go. If you never talk to him again, who is this white lie actually hurting? Pretty much no one. Just let him think you're 15. It's really not that big of a deal.
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which is better target or walmart for bras?
im a 30 A right now. ha. and um i was thinking victorias secret but not sure if i would fit..
thing is i want something supportive and padded to make me look bigger.
i have only ONE bra that i was everynight (because its the ONLY one i like) and so i really really really need some new ones.
any more advice about this tell =]
thanks. (link)
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Target and Wal-Mart bras are both really affordable, so either store would be a good place to go. I like the selection at Target moreso than Wal-Mart and I also like the fact that they carry better brands (in my mind). Victoria's Secret has AMAZING bras, but you'll also pay about $40 per bra, as opposed to the $15 or 20 that you would pay at Target or Wal-Mart. For right now, I would reccomend that you steer away from Victoria's Secret because of the cost. If you're still growing, you'll be throwing money down the drain when the bras don't fit in a few months.
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i'm moving next year and i'll just be starting highschool. i don't know what i'm going to do because i made a whole bunch of friends here and it's going to suck. i'm not good at making friends. on the first day of school everyone is going to have friends and i won't. :(
how could i make friends? (link)
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You'll make friends just like anyone just starting high school does. You'll be at this school with lots of kids who haven't ever seen each other before, so you're not the only one that doesn't have TONS of friends. I'm a senior that will be graduating in May. Take it from me, the way to meet new people and to make friends is to get involved in activities and to actually talk to the people around you. If you never talk to anyone and never get involved, you'll be very lonely. Try out some school clubs or something. Anything that puts you in the same place as other people your age.
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My best friend's dad did something that really offended me, and we've normally gotten along really well. I wrote him a letter to try to express my feelings. Should i send it? or let it go? If yes, can you suggest any changes?
Here it is:
Mr. ****,
I feel the need to express my feelings over the incident yesterday. I value my friendship with Sascha very much, and the relationship I have with her parents is obviously a big part of that. Frankly, the way you communicated your displeasure over me failing to call you back really offended me.
I have done my best over the course of Sascha’s and my friendship to maintain a good relationship with you and Mrs. ****, and I feel that I have done a pretty good job of doing so. For example, when Sascha sprinted out of your house the first time and ran up and down the bike path, she had called me. I talked her to her, made sure she was okay, and let her vent a little to get her emotions out and allow her to begin calming down. Immediately after that, knowing how worried you and Mrs. **** must be, I called your home, and spoke with Mrs. ****. I let her know where Sascha was, that she was okay, and that she planned on coming home soon. Another time, even though many teenagers would feel very intimidated talking to an adult myself included, I put aside my fear and came to you asking if there was anything you thought I could do to help Sascha through the difficult point she came to in her life. I wanted your take on the situation, so I could help Sascha without doing anything that would either offend you or cause you be reluctant to trust me with your daughter. I definitely do not take this trust for granted. When you trusted me to take Sascha to a party whose host you had never met or talked to, everything I said about the persons attending the party and how the party would run checked out when you came to pick her up. It was very safe and fun. I believe that these cases and many more throughout the course of our friendship have really shown that I have taken special care to maintain a good relationship with both you and Mrs. ****, and that I really do have your daughter’s best interest at heart.
When Sascha ran to me again a little less than a week ago, I handled the situation in the best manner that I could. You have to realize that I was in a very tricky situation—do I go against my best friend and call her parents or do I support her and give her a way to let out all of her emotions? Most teenagers would have chosen their friend, and completely disregarded the parents completely. Though I did choose to console Sascha, I did not disregard the fact that you and Mrs. **** would be very worried about her. Calling you right away would have seemed like betrayal in Sascha’s eyes, so I did what I felt was the next best thing. I called my mom, let her know that Sascha would be over, and that she needed to vent for a while. If you or Mrs. **** needed to know where she was, I believed that you would eventually call my mother, which you did, and then find out what you needed to know. Yes, I could have asked my mom to tell you where Sascha was, but just as before, this would seem like betrayal. I did not answer when either of you called because Sascha asked me not to specifically for the same reasons. I was planning on calling both you back as soon as Sascha had calmed down. However, my mom informed me that Mrs. **** had called her and that she had let her know exactly where Sascha was. The reason I had been planning to call before was to assuage your worry, and as that had already been done, I did not see any reason to call back as it might cause Sascha to feel that I was not “on her side,” if even just a little bit. She needed support, and I gave it to her.
Though I did not call in the heat of the situation, I knew it would be important to talk to either you or Mrs. **** about the circumstance so that I could explain my actions and clear the air of any misconceptions. I did this the morning after, thinking that it would give everyone a chance to cool down. I talked to Mrs. ****, brought up what had happened, apologized for not picking up the phone, and explained my reasons for doing so. She seemed to understand completely and explained that I should not feel like I need to put myself in those uncomfortable situations. Then we both hung up the phone. In my mind, the whole fiasco had been resolved, and I had felt good as I had handled it in the best way I knew how. To me marriage is a complete partnership. If I talk to one member, they will share it with the other. If the other member still needs clarification or something of that nature, I feel that they will take it upon themselves to speak to me about it.
Because it has been clear that I really do do my best in every single situation I have been put in throughout Sascha’s and my friendship, I feel extremely offended in the way you expressed your feelings. You made it seem as though me not calling you back was a serious conscious error on my behalf, when obviously my past actions show that I do everything in my power to not disappoint either you or Mrs. ****. You made an extremely big deal of a mistake I wasn’t even aware I made, and completely demeaned my very very hard efforts to make this ordeal end on a good note. As opposed to calling me right away and letting me know that although in most cases calling one member in a marriage would be fine, you would like to be called back as well, you let me sit for a couple of days thinking everything had worked out and then decided to shell shock me. I feel this was completely uncalled for. For one, I am just a kid. I’m still learning the right way to do everything. I understand making such a big deal out of something if I had made the same error before. However, this was my first offense. Presenting it nicely would have been more than enough. As I’ve said before, I have a good track record, and I feel that with that I deserve to be treated with respect.
I’m extremely sorry if anything I’ve said in this letter insulted or offended you in any way. It was not meant to do so. I only wanted to express my feelings so that our whole families could maintain the good relations we have kept in the past.
Sincerely,
******* (link)
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Honestly, I don't think you should send this letter. It is important to be on good terms with your friends' parents, you could accomplish more by talking to Sascha's dad face to face. Say something like... "Mr.****, I'm sorry about the misunderstanding we had the other day. You have my word that it won't happen again."
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17/f, and a Junior in high school.
This year for the junior prom, I'd really love to learn how to make a dress out of silver duct tape, just to have some fun with the whole experience. My date is a good male friend of mine, and we both think showing up in silver tape to prom would be amazing and a lot of fun.
So, my question is- is there any site or any guide I can follow on how exactly to make a dress like this? I mean I know the tape sticks to itself and not to your body, but I need to figure out how to get it to fit right and the like.
Also, if you have any suggestions as far as accessories go- things I can use for a corsage/buittoneire combo or something, I'd love to hear it. Any other suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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A friend of mine has made several duct tape dresses, so hopefully these ideas will be helpful to you.
What she does is get an inexpensive dress that is bigger than the size she would normally wear. The duct tape on the dress will make it smaller. She covers the entire dress with duct tape and then does whatever design she wants with tape of another color. You can order every color imaginable off of the Duct Tape website.
You could even go to a place like Goodwill or Salvation Army to find a dress to cover with tape. You can cut it in whatever way you want to get the desired look... and it's really inexpensive. Just make sure you have it drycleaned if you get it from a place like that. You never know who had it before you and if it was clean when it was brought in.
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It's really gross but I have like really dry skin on the back of my ear! One time I rubbed the back of my ear and like when I looked at my hands there was white stuff(skin) on it and then when i removed it my hands smelled so gross and bad! is this normal? what can i do? (link)
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This sounds like a possible infection. That's a very good possibility if you have pierced ears. Without seeing it, it's hard to say. I reccomend that you get it checked out by a doctor or at least show it to a parent.
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I have a friend who is a girl and she wears a "promise" ring from her boyfriend on her right ring finger. So I figured that a ring on the right ring finger meant that a girl was taken. Now I have another girl that I like but we're only friends now. She wears a ring in the same place and has been for the 3 months i've known her. Today I find out she doesn't even have a boyfriend! What is the ring for? Why would somebody wear a ring to purposely take themselves off the market if you'll excuse my analogy? And for future reference, what is the significance of girls wearing rings? Thanks (link)
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A promise ring is different from an ordinary, every day ring because the promise ring is given to a girl by her boyfriend when they intend to eventually get married. A promise ring WOULD advertise that she's no longer "on the market", but it's perfectly acceptable for girls to wear rings just because they like them.
As for the significance of rings.. things like promise rings, engagement rings, and wedding rings are all used to show that the woman is committed to someone. Other types of rings are worn mainly for fashion puposes.
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this really isn't a confusing drama story, it's just long. please read!
alright here it goes. i've been hooking up with this guy for about a month, and a few weeks ago he asked me out and i said yes. i immediately regretted it. i don't know why, maybe i'm afraid of commitment (probably not because i'm only 15) but i feel like i'm using him for experience. don't get me wrong, i do like him, just sometimes i get so many doubts about him that i get this sinking feeling, feeling like i did the wrong thing by going out with him, like i'm in too deep now to get out of it. the main problem is that i feel like i'm using him for experience and i feel like sometimes i have to force myself to like him, when other times i truly do like him and i feel like i would never break up with him. what do i do?? should i wait it out a little longer, just till the end of the school year? i change my mind so much about him that i feel like i'm gonna make the wrong decision by breaking up with him if i do..and he's been hurt so much in the past that i don't want to be his next girlfriend to hurt him. please help :( (link)
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Since you haven't really been together that long, give it a set amout of time to see if you really do want to continue the relationship. Until the end of the school year would work. If you experience more times when you feel like you want to break up with him than times when you truly want to be with him.. chances are it's time to say goodbye.
I think the problem comes from the fact that you hooked up before you dated. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but you probably aren't used to thinking of him as anything more than someone to hook up with occasionally. If you don't want it to be anything more than a casual hookup, don't lead him on.
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i don't know if this is the right category, but i'm 15 - and i have a boyfriend. we've been together for almost a year now, and in november - his mom asked if i would like to join them on their spring break in colorado. my parents have been going along with it for the past 4 months, they haven't exactly said yes .. but they haven't totally declined it either. today, my mom said that she was leaning more towards no because "i'm only 15 and she doesn't think it's sending the right message .. staying with my boyfriend for a week" i TOTALLY understand their concern, but WHY didn't she tell me this earlier? my boyfriend and i have been talking about this since i first found out in october! we were SO excited! my parents said that i had to get all a's and b's .. and progress reports just came out .. guess what - i have all a's and b's! what can i do to prove to them that i am responsible enough to go with him? PLEASE HELP! (link)
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If I were you, I'd tell my mom that you and your boyfriend would be with his parents the entire time you were in Colorado. If she doesn't like the idea of you staying in the same room as him, offer to pay the cost of a seperate hotel room. You could even ask his mom to talk to your mom about the trip and everything that will go on while you're in Colorado.
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i feel weird, not really sick, just weird. i have only been eating 2 regular meals and 1 meal of snacks or something. today i only had 2 meals though. could that be why?? i felt really hungry and got a headache, but i feel some what dizzy and out of it. even when i was eating i felt sick, but im feeling a bit better. is it from not eating, or can it be something else??
thanks!! (link)
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The reason you felt sick and dizzy was because your blood sugar was too low. When you start feeling like that, you need to eat. You'll pass out if your sugars get too low.
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So, for Christmas I had every intention of buying my boyfriend of five months an iPOD shuffle. [The new one, the one with the clip.] I pawned my alto saxophone, and got $150 for it. I gave my parents half of the money that I had gotten. So I had $75 left, and had an extra $35 to spend. I bought the shuffle for $80 and I had $30 left over. So, I wanted to get him the FEAR computer game. Which is $30. I have enough money for it, but my sister & mom are getting mad because they don't think I should be spending that much money on him.
He bought me a $70 pearl necklace and is buying me more, we made our price range $110. Everytime I ask them to take me to the store to buy it, we'll get into a huge argument about spending too much money, but I want to buy it for him. What can I say to defend myself?
Thanks mucho.
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If your parents have no problem letting you accept a $70 necklace from your boyfriend in addition to whatever else he got you, they should have no problem with letting you spend half that amount on him. You should tell them this because it's a good point. If you earned the $30 that you want to spend on the video game, you should be able to spend it because it was YOU that earned it. I don't know how old you are, but depending on your age, a $110 price limit could be a lot of money for you and your boyfriend. $30 isn't really all that much for a video game to begin with. Ask your parents to take you to the store and show you what they want you to pick out instead of the video game. Maybe they actually have a decent idea.
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in like a week or so i'm getting 2 teeth pulled in the back of my mouth. im scared shit because i don't know what to expect. when i'm under the anethesia will i feel any pain? will i feel pain after it's done? is there any way that the anethesia will wear off while they are pulling my teeth out? WHAT IF I DONT WAKE UP FROM THE ANATHESIA??
im sooooo scared i need to know these answers. if you had teeth pulled out tell me EVERYTHING. (link)
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You don't need to worry about not waking up from the anesthesia. The oral surgeon won't give you a huge dose of it; he will give you just enough to put you under for the short time it will take to pull the two teeth. You will not wake up until the anesthesia wears off and you will not wake up during the middle of the proceedure because the people preforming the surgery have had years of experience giving anesthesia and you will wake up shortly after it has been done. You probably won't remember coming anything after the anesthesia wears off. After the proceedure, you'll be in a recovery room until you're able to walk well enough to get in a car. You won't be able to drive yourself home, so someone else will be there with you. If the dentist prescribes any medicine to you, make sure you take it when scheduled. It will help you heal faster.
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