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Christmas.
So, for Christmas I had every intention of buying my boyfriend of five months an iPOD shuffle. [The new one, the one with the clip.] I pawned my alto saxophone, and got $150 for it. I gave my parents half of the money that I had gotten. So I had $75 left, and had an extra $35 to spend. I bought the shuffle for $80 and I had $30 left over. So, I wanted to get him the FEAR computer game. Which is $30. I have enough money for it, but my sister & mom are getting mad because they don't think I should be spending that much money on him.
He bought me a $70 pearl necklace and is buying me more, we made our price range $110. Everytime I ask them to take me to the store to buy it, we'll get into a huge argument about spending too much money, but I want to buy it for him. What can I say to defend myself?
Thanks mucho.
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well, it is really sweet that you want to buy him so much stuf to make him happy...
but have you ever thought that maby HE cant afford to get you so much stuf back?
and it IS human nature to feel akward when someone gets you more expencive things than you get them.
you shouldnt have to give away your owne things to get him stuff... it is your money, but i can see why your fimly would be so concerned...
i can see that you want to buy the stuff for him, but arent you taking it a little extream? save some of that money for his birthday or something.
maby you should buy yourself a little something as an award for being able to give so much to other people
hope i helped
luv emi:)
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your family can get as mad as they want if they think you are spending 'too much' on his gift, but when it comes down to it- its YOUR money.
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If your parents have no problem letting you accept a $70 necklace from your boyfriend in addition to whatever else he got you, they should have no problem with letting you spend half that amount on him. You should tell them this because it's a good point. If you earned the $30 that you want to spend on the video game, you should be able to spend it because it was YOU that earned it. I don't know how old you are, but depending on your age, a $110 price limit could be a lot of money for you and your boyfriend. $30 isn't really all that much for a video game to begin with. Ask your parents to take you to the store and show you what they want you to pick out instead of the video game. Maybe they actually have a decent idea.
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say what you said here. if he is spending that much on you it's fair. and if they dont agree calmly tell them it's your money and you can do what you want with it.
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I don't think it's too much. I spent about $200 on my boyfriend of 6 months.
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I somewhat agree that thats a lot to be spending on him, but if you really like this guy and think it's serious, then just explain to your family that it's a sacrifice you are willing to make and that this relationship is really important to you. try to make them understand that it is your money and you are in a mature relationship now. goodluck
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