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i'm moving next year and i'll just be starting highschool. i don't know what i'm going to do because i made a whole bunch of friends here and it's going to suck. i'm not good at making friends. on the first day of school everyone is going to have friends and i won't. :(
how could i make friends?
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You have no idea how lucky you are that you are moving before high school starts! most people don't really talk to their middle school friends in high school anyway. I moved in the middle of my sophomore year and that REALLY SUCKED. as a freshman, a lot of people don't know anyone so you'll have a fresh start with everyone else. try meeting someone from that school on myspace of facebook if you can. that's what i did and it worked out. if that's not an option, just go with it. be friendly and you will make friends. trust me, all freshmen are scared they wont make new friends so just remember that. if you need anything else, lemme know. <3
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That sucks that you're moving, but as for making friends: Join some activities that you like and you'll meet people that like the same things as you. Try and talk to the people you have classes with because you'll be seeing them everyday and they probably want to make friends just as much as you do. Everyone goes through this ordeal of going from middle school to highschool and trying to make friends, so you're not going to be the only one that is going to have trouble making them. But if you put yourself out there, you're a bound to make atleast a couple of good friends, if not more. =]
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last summer.... i moved countries not schools. my friends were all over the globe and i was put in this new weired environment with potheads and the craziest types of people. the first day was sooo wacky i had no idea who was who or where was i. or what was funny and cool and what wasn't. i was stalled a year because my language requirements weren't up to par.
lets just say that the first day was going to be the most dreadful day of my new life. i didn't have any of my "cool" clothe (my luggages were lost :( ) didn't knw th language and had no idea what kids my age in this new culture wer like....
i wore the weirdest looking outfit i could combine. had nice perfume. wore one of my mum's diamond necklace and went to school. now i am an artist but i don't act that way usually. but i decided to exaggerate it and walk through those doors looking as confidant and normal as ever. smiling at everyone and even greeting the teachers i've meat when i first came to register. by lunch. my glowing attitude attracted, jude* and eliana*. two years later my two best friends (and just recently jude* my bf) :)
so i guess what i am saying is that if you have the attitude and the spirit it doesn't matter if you make friends the first day or the first period. you're good vibe will attract people in no time. just make sure you act confident (avoid clumsiness, saying something you don't mean or that would sound dumb (think) and make sure you smile and look people in the eye when you pass by)
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I was in your position after my sophomore year in high school. I lived in Texas my entire life, was friends with the same people for years & was completely devastated when I found out I'd be moving to another state & starting a new school. It was actually the end of the world for me because, like you, I didn't make friends that easily - atleast not when I knew absolutely no one to begin with. I think my first week @ the new high school was depressing because I expected people to come to me befriend me (like I would do to new people at my other school.) But that didn't exactly work @ the new school I was at (being that it was a snobbier area than where I was from.) So after my first week of sitting alone @ lunch, I went over to someone who was also sitting by herself & asked her if she was new to the school as well. Luckily, she was & we began sitting together @ lunch everyday for the entire year. Because I was willing to go to someone myself, I made a new friend. You can't expect people to come to you (although, it's great when it happens!) But as nerve wrecking it is to walk up to someone, it's really not that bad. You can start off by making small talk with someone in some of your classes. Ask them questions, give them sincere compliments. Once the conversation develops - tell them you just moved & this is your first year @ that school. Then ask them if it'd be okay if they showed you around & if it'd be okay to sit with them @ lunch. I know it may seem kind of awkward for you, but it's not a big deal. I highly doubt anyone is willing to turn down a new friend. & if they are, then they aren't worth being friends with anyway - so it all works out. If you really want to make friends, you'll have to make a little effort. Eventually, it won't be so bad if you meet a couple people because those people will end up introducing you to others. Just stick in there, be confident, be yourself & you'll do alright! Trust me! :)
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You'll make friends just like anyone just starting high school does. You'll be at this school with lots of kids who haven't ever seen each other before, so you're not the only one that doesn't have TONS of friends. I'm a senior that will be graduating in May. Take it from me, the way to meet new people and to make friends is to get involved in activities and to actually talk to the people around you. If you never talk to anyone and never get involved, you'll be very lonely. Try out some school clubs or something. Anything that puts you in the same place as other people your age.
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in high school
you make new friends anyways
you don't talk to
all the people you knew before.
maybe like 3 people
if theyre your really good friends.
but making friends is easy
just talk to people that
have the same interests as you.
compliment people
and then just start a conversation
hope it helps && good luck <33
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All you have to do is just create small talk with them...try asking them where a certain class is or asking them where the cafiteria is at lunch. And if you dont make friends the first day, then dont worry, there are more things that are important, like grades. You could also join a club or organization for your school.
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i had the same problem last year. it is actually a great experience. like if you want to change who you are, then it is a fresh start. when i moved i was super shy and i didnt talk that much to people. all i can say is be open to new things. be involved in the school (to meet new people) like clubs, sports, ect... if you dont do sports then just introduce yourself to the people you think you would like to be friends with. people aren't going to treat you like you are crazy if you go up to them and say hey my name is "what ever your name is" and i moved here from "where ever you moved" they will ask you questions and the next thing you know you will be starting a new friendship. so i hope everything goes great and all. good luck
oh and remember to have fun. hope i helped
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It doesn't have to suck at all. This new school and new home might be even better than what you left. If you walk into school thinking the situation will suck and you'll have difficulty making friends that's exactly what will happen. Why? it's your attitude that will against you because you've taken a defeated stance before seeing what unfolds for you.
While you might not make friends on the first day when the teachers introduce you ell them where you are from and add with a laugh "If anyone needs a friend just ask." This shows you are friendly and open to people.
My other recommendation would be to talk to your parents about this and plan a party for when you are settled in the new house.
Then on the first day of school let the teacher introduce you and you can pipe in with btw I'm having a party at my house and would like you to all come so I can get to know you all.
Making friends here will be no ore harder than it was anywhre else. Be yourself, hold your head high and be friendsly. Introduce yourself to people you feel attracted to as well so they don't all have to come to you first. They're just as nervous about you as you are about them.
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Im not that good at making friends either.
I've never moved but when I was about 10 I lost every friend I ever had, and I had to either gain them back, or make new ones. I made new ones.
Just be yourself, be outgoing, funny, and nice. Don't ever be someone your not though. Meet a nice person who will show you arround, or meet someone else that is new. :)
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I know how hard it is to move & have to make new friends, but it's not all that hard. If you put yourself out there & are really outgoing, you should have no problem. It seems hard because you're shy or quiet, but just open up, and be yourself. And remember, if someone doesn't like you the way you are, then they're not good enough to be your friend.
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