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spring break
i don't know if this is the right category, but i'm 15 - and i have a boyfriend. we've been together for almost a year now, and in november - his mom asked if i would like to join them on their spring break in colorado. my parents have been going along with it for the past 4 months, they haven't exactly said yes .. but they haven't totally declined it either. today, my mom said that she was leaning more towards no because "i'm only 15 and she doesn't think it's sending the right message .. staying with my boyfriend for a week" i TOTALLY understand their concern, but WHY didn't she tell me this earlier? my boyfriend and i have been talking about this since i first found out in october! we were SO excited! my parents said that i had to get all a's and b's .. and progress reports just came out .. guess what - i have all a's and b's! what can i do to prove to them that i am responsible enough to go with him? PLEASE HELP!
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If I were you, I'd tell my mom that you and your boyfriend would be with his parents the entire time you were in Colorado. If she doesn't like the idea of you staying in the same room as him, offer to pay the cost of a seperate hotel room. You could even ask his mom to talk to your mom about the trip and everything that will go on while you're in Colorado.
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well i am going through a similiar situation, my boyfriend's family wants to bring me along to their family reunion this summer and my parents are still thinking about it. here is what you can do, sit down with them, show your parents you've done what they wanted on your progress report. if you do chores around the house show that you're trying your best. if you aren't a virgin and hiding that, in front of your parents dress conservative like. don't be to lustful..hehe..maybe if you keep talking to them about your grades and what they want, it'll help you. and try and get on their good-side once in a while too.and try to get your boyfriend's family and your's together, like a small get-together (BBQ maybe) so they can feel comfortable around them.
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EDIT: Gee. Thanks for rating me a 1 for not telling you what you wanted to hear. Guess some people can't handle the truth. Don't you know that ratings abuse is against the rules here?
I would venture to say that she didn't say no earlier because she wanted to think long and hard about it before giving you an answer. That is a HUGE decision for them to make. They are deciding as to weather or not sending their 15 year old daughter to Colorado with her boyfriend and family for a week is something they are comfortable with.
Yah, at 15, my parents wouldn't have had to think about it before giving me a firm no on that one...
Honestly, she is right in her concern. She is right that it wouldn't be sending the right message. You said they never said yes or no- that means it was a debate up in the air. Their final decision is that it isn't the best thing to do.
I don't think you should start begging or pleading your case. That doesn't prove responsibility. Responsibility is saying, "Ok, I respect your decision. Maybe we can work out something different next time."
Next time, wait for your parents to make a firm decision before you start getting excited and making plans. It saves you all this trouble in the long run.
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Tell your mom that you totally understand her concern, but she can completely trust you. Tell her that you've never done anything to break her trust with her. You've gotten good grades and worked really hard to show that you're responsible. Tell her that your boyfriends parents will be with you guys the whole time, it's not like you're gonna have your own hotel room. Just remind her that you're trustworthy and reposible enough to not go around and be crazy. Tell her that you're going to be on your best behavior, you're not gonna be going crazy, because you're gonna be with your boyfriend's parents anyway. Just remind her that you're trustworthy and responsible enough to go on the trip. Good luck, and hopefully your parents will let you go! Have fun<3
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If your boyfriend's parents are going, have them talk to your parents so they know that you're safe and everything is going to be okay. :]
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