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this really isn't a confusing drama story, it's just long. please read!
alright here it goes. i've been hooking up with this guy for about a month, and a few weeks ago he asked me out and i said yes. i immediately regretted it. i don't know why, maybe i'm afraid of commitment (probably not because i'm only 15) but i feel like i'm using him for experience. don't get me wrong, i do like him, just sometimes i get so many doubts about him that i get this sinking feeling, feeling like i did the wrong thing by going out with him, like i'm in too deep now to get out of it. the main problem is that i feel like i'm using him for experience and i feel like sometimes i have to force myself to like him, when other times i truly do like him and i feel like i would never break up with him. what do i do?? should i wait it out a little longer, just till the end of the school year? i change my mind so much about him that i feel like i'm gonna make the wrong decision by breaking up with him if i do..and he's been hurt so much in the past that i don't want to be his next girlfriend to hurt him. please help :(
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your not using him your going with the flow your not going to hurt him if you do the carma thing treat him how you want to be treated you know and just talk to him more youll see if you like him because some fall slower than others and you dont need to commit at all as long as your doing that karma thing so just give him a chance
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Since you haven't really been together that long, give it a set amout of time to see if you really do want to continue the relationship. Until the end of the school year would work. If you experience more times when you feel like you want to break up with him than times when you truly want to be with him.. chances are it's time to say goodbye.
I think the problem comes from the fact that you hooked up before you dated. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with that, but you probably aren't used to thinking of him as anything more than someone to hook up with occasionally. If you don't want it to be anything more than a casual hookup, don't lead him on.
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You seem to have a lot of doubts about your choice so it may just be a good idea to sit down and have a hard think about what it is YOU want.
In relationships everyone gets hurt and even though he may have been hurt a lot in the past I can guarantee it's no where close to the last of it. That's just how relationships work I'm afraid so don't force yourself to stay with him just because you don't want to hurt him. He will be hurt either way but the longer you leave it the harder it will get on you and the more it will hurt him.
You should have a hard think about what you want since you can't really force yourself to love someone (it just doesn't work that way). If you decide you want to end this then do it sooner rather than later.
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You should't stay with him by only using him. Don't do it. And if your gonna break up with him, do it now. Don't wait beacause if you do, it's only gonna be harder on the both of you.
I hope you make the right decison and good luck.
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