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Me and my best friend Ashlee are REALLY close but lately shes been really into guys. I mean, I am just not the way she is ..I mean were 13 but I guess Im kind of prude. Well, one night Ashlee got invited to a party with my other 2 friends Lindsay and Courtney. A few other people in my circle of friends (And I) didnt get invited. But, I didnt think much of it and I didnt care at all. Then, the other day, I was on the phone with my friend Alex (Shes one person who didnt get invited either) and Alex told me that Courtney, who was at the party, told her that the party wasnt really a party. It was just a few guys and Ashlee, Lindsay, and Courtney. Courtney said they played spin the Bottle and Ashlee (Who had never kissed anyone before) made out with 4 guys at the party! The worst part was that she didnt even tell me. I dont know what to do! I told Alex (Swore on my life, basically) NOT to say anything about what Ashlee did (especially to Ashlee) because she would know Courtney told Alex and Alex told me! Im so depressed! what do i do?
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Did you ask her how the party went? And what they did at the party? When your best friend is boy crazy, I know, it's the worst thing in the world. My best friend has a boyfriend now, and we're not that close anymore, and it's the most horrible thing that's ever happened in my life.
Don't let her slip away though, because that would be horrible. Friends don't always tell eachother things because they're afraid of their reaction. When and if she tells you, don't freak out, because that could cause problems. You'll understand if you get boy crazy, although you may not, I haven't yet.
Good luck!
♥ Summer
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I think the main reason you are depressed is because you didnt get invited to the non-party! Just go on with your life, trust me you didnt miss anything. Just go along with it and when Ashlee feels like telling you she will!
~*SAYLOR*~
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Why are you depressed? You didn't do anything.
Don't say anything. Ashlee acted inappropriatley (the others there probably did too).But, it's not your problem.
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I know what you're feeling and going through. Basically you need to confront her and tell Alex that you are going to confront it because you want to know what went on in her head when she was making out with 4 different guys. And whether it would bring some of you apart or not, your two close best friends are ganging up together, and you need to fix that. But I am very proud of you for not going to that party and being a prude and admitting to it like its not bad, because at your age, those girls who aren't considered prude are out either having sex and getting pregnant, or doing drugs and throwing their lives away. Being 13 years old and at parties looks horrible, and depressing. And I know this has to be depressing for you to hear that, and then to hear that she doesn't want you to know, to be honest, she is probably afraid of your reaction towards her. But at this age, you're suppose to be just curious about making out and having sex and being a prude. I know what you're feeling because I had a friend who left me for all of that stuff. Parties, drugs, sex. And now, I am on a better path, and soon shes going to wish she would have stayed with me, just as Ashlee will wish with you if she leaves.
-TheTeenGirl
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You're growing up. It's 110% natural to become interested in boys.
Things like this are going to happen. You're going to have a friend who may be a little bit "loose". You can't help it. It's just the way that person is. I have a couple of friends like that. I used to scold them for their behavior. But then i realized "Hey, its none of MY business. It's her reputation, not mine."
It's as simple as that. Ignore it. If you don't feel comfortable with the way your friend is now, spend some time away from her and make new friends. But don't push her away completely. You guys are growing up. No need to end a friendship over that.
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its funny that this depresses you. but its really cool that your best friends name is spelled the same way as mine cause i dont see that a lot. now wouldnt that be cool if your name was jean or bree. yea btw id help you out but i dont feel like it.. your friend is growing up. either live with it or forget it. try talking to her about it, you cant keep things from eachother if your bestfriends.
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It's pretty normal for girls to get WAY into guys at age 13. It'll pass and she won't be so into them in a year or so.
You should talk to Ashlee about your feelings or else you're never goin to feel any better. Maybe Ashlee thought that you wouldn't be interested to hear about her experience at the so-called-party. Just talk to her about her actions and the way you feel about them. I know you feel like you can't let your friends down, but you really should talk to Ashlee and tell your friends that you're going to. Just tell them your story and ask them to try to understand. I hope things will get better for you.
-Caydee
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It's ok...everu goes through both of the stages you have in here! (being prude and being into guys!) It's gonna happen! Don't get upset with your friend because she didn't tell you! Maybe she knew that you havn't really done a lot of stuff with guys, as well as it being her first time too! If the whole guy thing is bothering you, don't worry it's going on with me as well too! Just tell her that you're afraid and you don't want her getting hurt! Or maybe just ask her if she had a good time at the part and what they did! Eventually she'll open up when she feels compfortable! I'm sure she's not trying to hide it from you, maybe she just doesn't it spreading around at school!
*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd!*!*
-*Marissa*-
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to start off with, her being SO into guys, is just a stage. and you being prude that is okay. and with the whole thing about the girl didn't tell you.. dont freak out. you said you were a little prude so maybe she doesn't want you to think badly about her. or maybe sence you haven't m/o with anyone (or so i got from reading this) she doesn't think she can connect to you. so maybe you should talk to her. .and be like. so how was the part? who was there? what did ya'll do.. but dont be all like.. i know what you did. lol. just make it casual.. and maybe she will open up. and if she doesn't that is okay. she will soon. but dont think of her as a bad friend, cuz she isn't.
hope i helped
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