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What do you do when people tell you that you've changed, because i've been involved in alot and i've lost two of my really close friends because of that. What should I do? I don't even think I changed. I'm just being myself =]
xox !MaDiSoN! xox
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The fact of the matter is, we all change. That's what makes life, life. It's a series of events and happenings, endings and beginnnings. Don't feel ashamed if you've grown into a newer, better person. Unfortunately, you can't bring people along for the ride, whether they're your closest friends or not. During my freshman year of high school, I went through one of the worst break ups of my life with the one whom I considered my best friend because our differences got in the way, and those differences turned into conflicts. Because of that, I had to face a lot of things by myself, and because of that, I learned a lot about myself. But I don't feel bad that we're not friends anymore. It was the simple fact that I had to be me and she had to be her. And you shouldn't regret anything either. I regretted losing my best friend and almost tried to be her friend again, but it just won't work because those differences will always be apart of that relationship. Now I find myself with some of the greatest friends I've ever had. So don't stop being who you are because people say you're not, even if that means standing alone.
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ask them what they mean by that and then try to change back to the 'normal' you.
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People go through changes, and drift apart. Especially during the teenage years. Maybe you could ask them if you changed. Or even ask some of your other friends. But just remember to always be yourself. That's the best thing to do; you don't want to be fake. So many teenagers don't know who they are, and if you do know who you are you're lucky.
Hope I helped!
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You may have matured more than they have. They may be more mature than you. Teens are all about changing!
Ask what has changed about you, at least you'll know. If they no longer want to be friends it's their loss.
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Madison -
To tell you the honest truth you did change. Everybody changes; change is inevitable.
If you want to better understand why you lost their friendship, just ask them. Ask them to explain and clarify how you changed, and see if their responses are reasonable. If not, defend yourself. It could all be just a big misunderstanding.
If you value their friendship, talk to them.
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