My name is Melanie, and I'm 14 years old. I live in MA. I love to play soccer, and have been playing since I was little. I like to play other sports as well. I love hanging out with my friends, of course.
Lately I've been going through a lot of crap so I wanted to make one of these, so I could help other people if they needed it. Some people may not like my advice, but I can't please everyone. I'll try to help you as much as I can. If you'd like to talk to me on IM for some reason, my s/n is lostxinside87. My e-mail is SoccerChick62591@aol.com if you want to e-mail me, if you do, make sure you put advice in the subject, otherwise it will be deleted.
P.S feedback is always welcomed =). And thanks for those of you who give me awesome feedback, it's greatly appreciated, and I'm glad I helped!
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E-mail: SoccerChick62591@aol.com
Gender: Female
Location: MA
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Age: 13
AIM: Lostxinside87
Member Since: March 13, 2005
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I am trying to plan a great slumber party for me and my friend but I need some help on finding some great slumber party activities like pillow fights,chick movies,and etc.
I will rate very high for great ideas!!! (link)
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I haven't looked at any answers below, so sorry if some are repetitive..
-"Girl talk"
-Kareoke [or just dancing around, listening to music]
-Games
-Truth or dare
-Prank phone calls
-Sneak out.. if you want to
-Pig out on food
-If you have any siblings, you can sneak up to their room and do something to them [at my
friends sleepover we painted her brothers nails when he was sleeping!]
-Make-overs; paint nails; facials
Hope I helped! And I hope you have fun at your sleepover!
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MY FRIEND IS ON DRUGS NOW HE TOTALLY RELYS ON IT he thinks its impossible to get off it he does pot and alcohol and HE CUTS HIMSELF HOW CAN I HELP HIM?! (link)
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You really need to tell someone, like and older, responsible adult. Your parents, his parents, police, your guidance counselor, whoever. But they'd know what to do with him, for the time being. He should go into a rehab center. Maybe you could try to find one for him..
You can IM me anytime if you need anything at lostxinside87!
Hope I helped!
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I'm getting a physical soon and I want to know what they do. Because last time I got one (about 2 years ago) the doctor made me take my clothes off. Are all physicals like that or do they just check your eyes, hearing, breathing, stuff like that? I rate 5's (link)
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This is what I need to do at my physicals..
-Get my eyes checked [reading of one of those charts, and then they look at it with a light]
-Get weighed, and they measure my height.
-Get my ears checked.
-Get my spine checked.
-They check my blood pressure.
-They check my heart beat.
I think that's about it. I need to take off my clothes, but I put a gown thing on. I think some doctors are different..
You can IM me anytime at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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How exactly is being anorexic bad for you? People has said that if you're anorexic your body loses all these nutrients but what are the actual like 'symptoms' you get if you're anorexic. Besides dizzyness and fatigue.
Thanks I'll rate 5 for any decent answers! (link)
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Well, here's a site that has a self-evaluation test:
http://www.teengrowth.com/index.cfm?action=info_article&ID_article=1366&category=health&catdesc=Health&subdesc=Nutrition
Anorexia is a very serious disease, and it kills some people. It's very hard to understand, and it's very misunderstood. It's a mental thing.
Here are some symotoms:
-Distorted Body Image
-Intense fear of gaining weight
-Feelings of guilt after eating
-Is already thin and weight is still dropping
-Cessation of a period for three consecutive cycles
-Counts every calorie and fat gram that is eaten
-Paleness, dizziness, or fainting spells
-Intense, dramatic mood swings
-Excessively and compulsively exercises
-Complaints of being cold
-Hair loss
-A high need for control
-Wearing loose clothing
-Exhaustion and Fatigue
-Hiding food in napkins, under beds, in drawers, etc.
-Abuse of laxatives, diet pills, or diuretics
-Very poor self-esteem
-Never eats around others
Some Telling Signs that Anorexia May Be in Progress
-The individual is constantly complaining about being "fat," "obese" or "huge."
-The individual is very preoccupied with weight, counting calories and fat grams, and dieting.
-The individual is drained and has little energy.
-The individual has begun wearing extremely loose fitting clothing.
-The individual comes up with new found excuses not to eat such as, "I already ate and I have an upset stomach."
-The individual is extremely defensive about his/her weight.
-The individual is often cold.
-The individual often cooks or bakes food for other people, but refuses to eat the food themselves.
-The individual has started growing fine facial and body hair-a type of fur (lanugo).
-The individual is extremely irritable and has dramatic mood swings.
-The individual tends to isolate in social situations or avoid social gathering.
-The individual consumes a lot of non-caloric foods such as diet soda, gum, etc.
-The individual's hair is falling out and/or becoming extremely dry and brittle.
-The individual often withdraws from touching others.
-The individual avoids restaurants and eating in front of others.
-The individual's complexion has become pale and his/her skin is extremely dry.
-When the individual looks in the mirror, his/her reflection is like a "funhouse" mirror. (Distorted)
-Meal times have become extremely ritualistic- e.g. the individual will insist on eating in the same bowl, he/she will cut their food into tiny pieces, he/she will not let the articles of food on the plate touch one another, he/she will keep on moving food around the plate to make it appear as if something has been eaten, etc.
-The individual uses excessive laxatives, diuretics, or diet pills to control weight.
Feel free to IM me anytime at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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I didn't know what to put this under but anyways. Lately I can't sleep at night I just lay there in bed for like 3 hours before I can even sleep at all. Does anyone know what's wrong or how to make me sleep? (link)
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That'd been happening to me too! I'd talk to your mom. Maybe she can get you some simply sleep or something [they're supposed to help you skeep]. Try not to think about sleeping, like "I'm never gonna get to sleep tonight!". And try not to think about anything, just relax. Some people do yoga, and that helps. Others have warm milk. I've never tried either, however.
Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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I heard that you get more color when you're sun tanning while it's cloudy outside. I've searched all over the internet and can't find out if this is true or not. If anyone knows if this is true please tell me! I'll rate high. Thanks in advance!
P.S. Always use sunscreen! (link)
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I'm not positive, but I think you get just as good as a tan in cloudy whether and sunny weather!
Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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ok so im going to be hosting a pool party..so of course i cant just not swim..! im also expecting my period the day of the party..i never use tampons so i dont think they will work the first time.. i hear they hurt and are tricky to use the first few times. what am i to do? any way to delay my period? im desperate enough to try stressing myself out on purpose because i hear stress delays it..what else can i do? should i try using the tampon? last month my period didnt come until like 10pm...will it come on the same time (10pm) this month?
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Well, there are a few things you can do, it depends on when your period comes though. If it comes a little earlier, you can wear tampons then so you've had experience before your pool party. Last year my first time wearing a tampon was at a pool party, and everything was fine for me, but I can't promise you it'll be the same way for you. You can always not swim, or maybe swim for a little bit with a tampon in and then go to the bathroom to check if you need to change it or whatever. Hopefully you'll get your period late so you can swim without worrying or anything!
Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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hii well i dont play ANY sports at all, and i know that i need extracuricular activites for college, though. i want to be in clubs, but my friends are in clubs that are boring, and im really shy around people i dont know. do you have any tips for what to do about clubs, or anything else that could help with extracuricular activites? thankss! (link)
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There's so many things you could do! It depends on A) what you like, or B) what your school has. Here are a few things.
-Soccer
-Basketball
-Baseball / or softball
-Tennis
-Hockey
-Math Club
-Science Club
-Quiz Team
-Track / Cross Country
-Admissions Team
-Maybe you could do some work for charity
Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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ok i asked about the pool party im throwing..well i guess now i have to talk to my mom about getting tampons. how should i go about this? me and my mom are close, but i really never talk to her about my period. (link)
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There's really not much you can do, other than asking her. You can say something like "Hey, mom, you know how my pool party is coming up? Well, I'm on my period, do you think you could buy some tampons?" or maybe "Mom, the pool party is coming up, and I'm on my period, I don't know what to do." You can always try e-mailing her, or writing her a note as well.
Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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o0o0o0kkk well my best friend.. i get the feeling she doesn't like me and I REALLY WANT TO CHANGE WUTEVER IM DOIN WRONG but the thing is i dont no wut im doin! wut should i do to help our frendship here???
i rate high!
*~!desperate for help!~*
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Honestly, the only thing you can do is to talk to her. Maybe you could ask her how she feels, does she think your friendship is as great as it's always been? Does she not like something about you that you can fix? Just try to work out whatever you feel is wrong with her! Feel free to IM me at lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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ok well, i'm 5'5 and 103. i feel skinny, but at the same time i want to lose weight! it's very frustrating. my friends tell me i'm so skinny and stuff, but i really just want to lose weigh- not much, just like a few pounds. another concern is being anorexic. i'm not and i definitely dont want to be! basically iam wondering if i should try to lose weight.. like would it be unhealthy? and how should i go about doing this? thank you (link)
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Honestly, you are DO NOT need to lose weight. It would be unhealthy if you lost weight, and it might become obsessive and you could become anorexic. You view yourself differently than others, which is why you may not feel you're skinny. Feel free to IM me on lostxinside87 if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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i just turned 14 and in janurary or feburary i got my first period. now its april and i havent had it since, i know irreguar periods are normal but for this long?!?! (link)
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Yes, they're usually irregular between your first 1-3 years.
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What do you think about these baby names:
Mattilynn Nicole
Jake Ryan
Zachary Daniel
Rylee Elizabeth
Twin girls :
Ashlynn
Joshlynn (link)
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I think they're cute! They're not too common either! And the way you spelt them is so unique! My two favorites are: Mattilynn Nicole, and Jake Ryan.
Hopr I helped!
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Im feeling sorda guilty....
There are 14 girls trying out for cheerleading and 12 make it, i know i am going to make it because some of the girls who are doing it cant to crap, anyways i feel like its more handed to me then me working for it... Should i feel guilty? I mean i feel realy bad....
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I don't think you should feel guilty. You worked hard to get where you are. Some people are better than things at others, and you obviously are better than them at cheerleading. They'll find the right thing for themselves eventually. You should be proud of yourself! Be proud how well you're doing!
Hope I helped!
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What's a good thing to bake?! (link)
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Well, it depends on what you like. Cookies are always fun to bake, for me atleast lol. Maybe brownies, muffins, bread (i.e banana).
Hope I helped!
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heey does anyone know any quote websites? (link)
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http://www.quotemania.2ya.com/
http://www.preciouscreationz.cjb.net/
http://www.luaquotes.com/
http://www.fallingfast.cjb.net/
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im about 3 stone overweight (roughly 48lbs)
i eat healthily i just snack way too much.
i really want to loose the weight because in september im starting collage and i want like a new begging in life or w/e.
i am really determined to do this...
i am not very good at keeping to a diet and not snacking.
i do excersise a bit... walkin
i need sum tips and advice on healthy eating i can actually stick to and how to loose weight quickly
thanks a bunch
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Well I don't know if this'll help you, but I'll try..
Instead of snacking on junk foods, snack on fruits, or something healthy.
Join a gym. Or do some workouts at your house, like tae boe (sp? =\), or just some crunches or something. Www.toneteen.com might help you out.
Try jogging instead of walking, or try walking at a faster pace.
Cut down your portions at meal time.
Hope I helped!
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im really not comfortable with my body and i wanna try a diet..but i eat way too much and people always tell me how im not fat but they dunno that i suck it in all the time. This summer i wanna have a hot body and i dunno what to do! Does anybody know of any workouts that'll help me loose some pounds on my stomach?..thanks (link)
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I don't mean to go off subject, but just remember to lose weight healthfully, and watch you're weight and make sure you don't lose too much. You should trust what people tell you. Most of all, you should try boosting your esteem on your self image.
Anyways, there's no problem if you want to tone your body for the summer! Try www.toneteen.com
Try jogging everyday. Start off little, and gradually increase your speed & or distance. Try eating more healthfully, and less portions when you have your meals.
Hope I helped!
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This is the second time i have posted this.. maybe someone will remember me from the first time. I am not 16 years old and i would say that i have felt insecure for as long as i can remember but it has worsened over the past year. I dont feel im a "normal" teenager, my mother has even said so a couple times. I dont like to go out, i actually dont like to do anything. I hate the way i look and im very insecure about my body. (actually im insecure about everything about myself) I no that its "normal" for a girl to be insecure about her looks but theres more. I have so much doubt and regret that im drowning in it. For the past couple of months ive been thinking that its possible im depressed, like clinically. Im not suicidal but i feel so sad all the time and spend alot of the time crying and begging God to take away all this pain. So far my prayers have not been answered. I havent told my parents for a number of reasons. I know that i can tell them anything but im scared. Im afraid they wont take me seriously and im embarrased. I also dont want them to feel like its their fault or anything because i do have a pretty good life, which actually causes me to feel really guilty. Im just really scared and its been sooo long that i have felt this way and havent told them i dont want them to be mad and i just dont know what it will be like afterwards. Im also scared to see a doctor but i also really want to stop feeling like this way. Tonight, after having a good cry i thought about telling them again but i dont think i can get through it without crying like a baby. So i decided to write a letter and give it to them but im afraid im not brave enough. I did start the letter though. Please someone tell me what i should do. I mean.. what if im just being dramtic and looking for attention and i tell them and they take me to a doctor and its nothing, i will feel so embarrassed. I dont want people to feel bad for meand if i tell my parents i wont be able to take it back. But i just dont no and im sick of wishing i could run away and start over with a new life. I sick of wanting more. Everyday is just like the one before it and i cant handle it. I feel like im going to fall apart. Ok i think this is long enough.. what im asking of you is that u tell me if u think this is depression or am i just being overly dramatic and also do i tell my parents and if so how.. was the letter a good idea?? PLEASE HELP!!! (link)
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I know just how you feel, I'm going through the same thing. You need to tell your parents. You're parents I'm sure will support you 100%. You can't get through this alone, you need some help. You'll probably need to go to a therapist. Maybe you could go to a guidance conselour at school and ask them to tell your parents, or ask a really close friend to. Or like you said, a letter, or maybe even an e-mail? You're parents will probably understand, and will want to do anything to help you. You can e-mail me at soccerchick62591@aol.com if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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my name is danielle i am only 15 but i have a drug addicition i been to 3 rehabs since i was 13 and i just started back on weed and coke my friend is trying other drugs adn my friend says there really good and will take away my depression. i know i shouldnt do them but i am sooo confused on what i should do to stop my drug addiciton, what should i do for my self?
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Honestly, I'm not too sure. However, I do know that you should NOT do drugs. But I definately give you credit for trying to get help! Drugs don't take away your depression, the best thing to do for depression is to go to a counselor. If you go to your doctor ask them to give you a list of good counselors near you. Try chewing gum all the time instead of doing drugs. I've never had a situation like this, but I hope I helped!
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