Hello my name is Sarah and my friends always tell me i give good advice so i figured i would give this a try. i hope i can help some people but if you dont like my advice i am sorry but i will try to help the best i can. =]
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i'm 13 and i'm only 5'1. i'm very self-conscious about my height so i measure myself everyday. why is it that when i wake up i'd grow half to a full inch from the night before when i measured but at the end of the day i'd measure myself again and it said that i shrunk again? this happens almost every morning, when will i stop increasing an inch and then losing an inch by the end of the day? how can i prevent it? thank u (link)
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you cant prevent it.
but i dont know why you are so self conscious. 5'1" is almost average.
i am 14 and i am 4'11".
be happy.
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(17, f)This summer I am going to babysit my ten-year-old cousin, because she doesn't want to go to the local daycare. She lives far away, not so far away that I can't do the job, but far away enough that I only usually see her twice a year. My problem is that I can't stop thinking of her as a little kid. That's just how it is my mind, for some reason. I want to treat her like she's more mature, but still somebody I am responsible for. How would I do that? (link)
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Well my cousin is 6 years older than me and when ever she had to baby sit me (when i was younger) she would do my hair and makeup. i loved it because i felt older and so did my cousin because she just liked to do hair and makeup. but you may not like doing stuff like that.
if her mom lets you maybe some days you can go get ice cream or go to the mall and just buy her something small like earrings? she will love you for it and going to the mall is usually fun.
or just sit and watch movies some days. or go swimming. (if you both know how.._
hope that helps
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My brother died 2 weeks ago and I really don't know what to do. I lived with him because my mom died 3 years ago and my dad used to beat and rape me. He was more like a father than a brother to me and I really don't know what to do. I've been staying with my friend until I get a foster family and she is always asking me if I'm ok and I'm really not. I don't know what to do with myself. I even tried drugs and I've been drinking a lot. I just want to kill myself and I'm so scared of what's going to happen next. I love him soo much and he was pretty much all that I had and now he's gone. I haven't even cried because I just can't, does that mean that there's something wrong with me? Why can't I just cry like normal people do when something happens to them? I really think that I'm a horrible because I can't even cry for my own brother. Please help me (link)
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I feel so bad. But there is NOTHING wrong with you. when i am really upset i find it hard to cry. and you must be extremely sad. maybe one day when it hits you or something just gets to you, you will cry. if you dont that is okay. you still feel sad. not crying doesn't mean anything.
another thing though. please dont turn to drugs or alcohol because that just hurts you in the long run. if you ever get the urge to drink or use drugs try to think of someway to stop you like would your brother be happy if he knew you did that.
if you are a religious person you can pray to your brother and do other things like that.
i hope day by day things get a little easier for you but remember nothing is wrong with you
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ok some dayz my boyfriend acts like he wants me around but then some other dayz he doesnt act like he wants me around! and i always want to be around him! and he only really wants to be out or around me at night! he's perverted at night! lol its true and i dont know what to do! i am confused he is the shy type and i am the only girl that he is not shy around and i am 14 and i am a girl (link)
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You're 14. you are already having problems. and he only seems to want you to do perverted things. which isn't a funny thing. find someone worth your time and dump this loser.
hope this helps.
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what are some bands that aren't well known? like rock or metal bands. like how TBS used to be. but know a lot of people know who they are. know any good ones?thanks. (link)
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well i like TBS and here are some other bands i listen to:
brand new, fall out boy, something corporate, dashboard confessionals
then some people like:
matchbox romance, the used....
i know thats not much but i hope thay helps!
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the hair on my legs grows back so fast. ill shave with a brand new razor then the next day hair is back. how do i keep hair away for a long time.
ill rate!! (link)
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Well if you are not scared you could wax them...
but if you dont wanna do that i would recommend Veet razorless and then putting Jergens lotion on (try certains ones that say they reduce shaving).
then if your house is cool enough wear pants to bed because im pretty sure that when pants rub against your legs hair grows slower.
hope that helps!
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My friends birthday is tomarrow and i have no idea what to get her! shes not into makeup or anything like that...shes more of a tomboy....i have no idea what to get for her...shes 15....we dont really hang out alot so i wouldnt know stuff that she likes!! could somebody please help me? thanks (link)
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Hmmm lets see...ask a mutual friend and i dont know how much you wanna spend but most people like:
-movies
-music
-money
-gift cards
-scrapbook with pictures
-candy
-clothes (like a shirt)
-key chains
does she have any hobbies? like does she play a sport? if so you could get her something sport related...
i hope i helped!
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My friends and I are trying to get this one boy from my classical music class to start to appreciate rock music and rap music, pop music etc. He isn't responding to most of it and is giving answers to rap music like, "You don't know what he's saying!!" Is there an easy way to introduce him to this type of music? (link)
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umm i dont think you are going to like this but you cant make someone like a type of music. its like trying to make someone like a type of food they hate. i hate rap and i dont think anyone can change that. and cant you try to understand WHY he doesnt appriciate it? they can't play instruments AND they don't sing. classical music (although i dont like it) seems like it should appreciated more than rap because it takes more talent
sorry if thats not the answer you looking for but yeah
Rememberxforever
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I have a friend that has been drinking and stuff. I've told her not to but i know she doesn't care. And now everybody is all like yeah i drink a lot and i've gotten drunk and smoked that. It seems like everybody smokes and drinks! it's crazy we're all still young! I don't do that kind of stuff and I feel weird like ppl think it's no big deal drinking and i say it's wrong and they think i'm weird. I'm so confused! does everybody do the drugs? i'm not going to start doing them but should i still speak up and say they're wrong? (link)
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well i dont know how old you are but i am 14 and none of my good friends or i do drugs or drink. it is a HORRIBLE waste of time and doesn't do anything good for you. and YES SPEAK UP. if they dont listen i would recommend trying to get to know other people who are straight egde (dont do drugs). However, i do hope these people listen to you because you could be saving their lives.
Best of luck!
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Let me start off by saying that I am a cutter. I have a lot of other issues too. Like self-esteem issues, people issues, trust issues. Those are just the few I have. You know who I am. I just felt like leaving one on your site. :)
Well, a couple of my friends are getting frustrated with me and my cutting and other issues. Some of them don't understand that I really can't control it. One of my friends used to cut, but now he is so full of himself. He never likes to talk about it, but I noticed his scars. He is the one that is getting so mad at me. He thinks that one day I can just wake up and be like "I don't feel depressed anymore." I don't understand why he is being like this. I try to talk to him about it, but he just gets aggrivated with me, and he starts telling me I am weak because I cut. And he tells me that the only person who can change me is me. And I know that. I'm trying my best to stop. But when the feelings come back, he just doesn't seem to understand. It's like he is mocking me.
For example, I wouldn't let him read a note that my friend Briana, and I were writing to each other. And he assumed that it was about my urge to cut. So he said "Why? Is it because you oh-so want to cut?!" And he said it in a voice like he was truely annoyed at me. Like when you are immitating something stupid someone said. That is how he said that to me. I just kind of blew it off. But I am thinking about it right now. I'm not sure what I can do to make him realize that it is not easy for me. He doesn't know how difficult it is for me to be like him, to have confidence. I asked him how he did it, and he said he didn't know.
I know I need to let go of things. But what else is there I can do? And what could I do about him to make it so that he understands that I can't just wake up one day and be perfect?
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Well if he is rude (personally) i would be rude back. if he said something i would be like "look i am your friend but if you dont want to help me with this i would appriciated it you didnt!"
some people just dont understand cutting. but you say he has cut before. i think you should ask him about it. dont attack him if you are in a fight but calmly ask him sometime. because if he cut, i would think he would be a little nicer.
if he is constantly rude he can't be that good of a friend.
cutting is a serious problem and i wish you the best of luck!
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I am a mother of four and none of my children will eat vegetables or fruit. The oldest is 13 and the youngest 7. I fed them vegetables and fruit in baby food as yound children, but they just don't like it now. I was the same as a child and so I didn't push them. However, while they're not unhealthy, I'd like them to start eating at least a bit more healthily, what with all this stuff going around about overweight kids and cholestrol, etc etc etc. So, my question is: does anyone have any recipies or ideas to make fruit and vegetables tasty and fun?
Also, my thirteen-year-old just got braces and can't eat anything hard for a few days, so I was wondering if it would be safe for to eat baby food? I know it has nothing added to it but I was just wondering if it was OK for a 13 year old to eat that and only that (obviously with drinks, and different varieties of the food) for three or four days?
Also, my friend has suggested using baby food or vegetable pureè as pasta sauces. Do you think this would work?
Thanks,
-Mum-To-Four (link)
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Well i am 14 and i am quite the picky eater but for fruits and vegetables here is what i would do:
-drink fruit juices
-peanut butter and banana sandwiches
-celery and peanut butter
-baby carrots and ranch dip
-blueberry mini muffins
-and watermelon (i dont know anyone who doesn't like watermelon)
-peach/banana/blueberry with chocolate chip pancakes.
i hope that helps!
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I have heard that you should try and reduce the amount of calories you eat gradually (like, one week go from 2000 to 1800, and then the next go to 1600, instead of going from 2000 to 1000) to encourage the body to burn fat and not protein from muscle. Is this true? (link)
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Yeah its true your body can't handle a change that major....plus i am pretty sure it will mess up your metabolism.
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How old do you think you should be when you lose your virginity? (link)
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Well i am really young but i think you should maybe be 18 youngest. i know a few people who have lost their virginty and they regret it alot. like i said though i dont think age determines it i think it is the people and i personally think they should actually love each other...plus you dont wanna rumors about you if you are still in high school...........=\
hope that helps.
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Hello im caroline! I'm 14 years of age and i have really bad acne! I keep picking it and it just wont go away its so ugly and annoying how do i get rid of it! All the boys say i have a fanny rash on my face :S or spot the dog how do i make it go away! please help!!
Caroline 14 (link)
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okay most teenagers have acne but if it is REALLY bad ask you parents if you can see a dermatologist.
if it's not that bad heres what i would recommend:
-wash your faces twice a day (once in the morning and once at night)
-use products with no oil like clean and clear or nutragena (spelling?)
- dont touch your face with your hands. your fingers have oils on them and make acne worse
- use a a cover up that wont clog your pores if your face gets really red
it will go away when you get olderthough =]
hope that helps!
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Hey! I got my teacher this awesome gift for the end of the year, and I want to make it from the whole class. I spent $25 on it, and I want everyone in te class to pay $1 to 'chip in'. Our teacher is rarely absent, and she never leaves the room. how can I distract her in order to get the $$$? (link)
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you could tell them at lunch?
or IM and email everyone.
or call 3 people and tell them to call 3 people and so on until the whole class knows.
hope that helps.
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Is it true that you can loose calories by chewing gum? I heard it today, and it makes sense because you are chewing and not eating, and I've heard that it can help you loose weight while cooking so you don't eat, so what's the deal? (link)
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well you do burn calories but it doesnt add up to much (especially if you have really sugary gum)
and you can loose weight while cooking if you chew gum because it confuses your body and thinks you have had a meal if you chew gum for a long time. but its not healthy at all.
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Hi, let me start by saying I'm young. 13f and my best friend died. Her brother was hurt really bad and i feel like it was my fault, cuz they were on their way to pic me up when a drunk driver ran into them. My friend died instantly and her brother is expected to die in the next seven-twelve days. I want to say something to him, but I don't know what and if I don't hurry, it might be too late. You can e-mail me at prettymoonbug@hotmail.com (link)
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i am very sorry about your best friend. but it is NOT your fault. i would say you should defiantely talk to her brother and tell him how you feel and tell him how much you loved her and how much you will miss her and just let him know you care. if you and he are religious you could tell him he will see his sister and heaven and tell him to say something to her for you. if you are not religious just tell him anything you need to get off your chest.
once again i am sorry for your loss but if it means anything to you i know what its like to lose someone close to you. my mom died in a car accident when i was 3. and i know its not the same because its ALWAYS different but i just want you to know you are not alone. if you are grieving alot i would recommend counseling. i went to counseling and other people do to.
i hope things in your life get better but remember it wasn't your fault. feel free to IM me
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wow, I don't really know what category to put this under, so I guess it works under friendship.. kinda. Anyway, I started cutting, I don't know why but I did. I don't want to, but it's really addicting.. 0.o so it's hard for me to stop. Only on of my friends knows and I just met him and I like him alot.. he cuts to, so I feel conferdable talking to him about this.. he doesn't do it so much anymore but I wonder if he is worried about me, I know my step brother is.. he knows to. Well he doesn't really know he just thinks I do it and he knows that I have a BiG possibatly of doing it.
When I look at my scares.. I cry, and I think 'is this really who I am?? is this really me??' cause I don't seem like this kinda girl who would do this.. I am real caring and nice and funny.. so I don't get it.. how do I stop.. do you have anything to tell me about what I wrote? just anything, please.. I wana stop.
--Thanks.--
--I rate all 5s-- (link)
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i dont personally cut but i have a friend who does. she said it is an addiction just like smoking. to stop you just to have a lot of self control. remember cutting doesnt take away the pain it just transfers it from emotional pain to physical pain. i think you should talk to an adult that you are comfortable with (i.e: your mom,dad,aunt,cousins,grandparents,etc.)
if you continue cutting you may need therapy. which isn't a bad thing. i know plenty of people who have gone to therapy.
always remember you are never alone and by cutting yourself you are not only hurting yourself but also the people who care about you (that sounds really corny but it is true)
i hope that helps. feel free to IM me.
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i just tried out for solos and i didnt make it. all of my friends think im really good and all but someother people made who really werent that good. my teacher wasnts me to try out next year with a different song. im a saprano and i need some good songs that i could sing. thx (link)
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well i am a saprano also and i sang christina aguilera (spelling?) and i got the solo =].
you can also do some evanesence songs like "my immortal" or celine dion "because you loved me" has a REALLY high note in it and if you have that range your teacher should be impressed.
hope that helps.
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Is it true that chewing bubble-gum will help your ears to pop? (link)
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yep. that and swallowing. and pinching your nose (with you mouth closed) and try to blow out.
all 3 work. people you ride planes and/or scuba dive have to do one of those 3.
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