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Question Posted Monday April 18 2005, 3:29 pm

Let me start off by saying that I am a cutter. I have a lot of other issues too. Like self-esteem issues, people issues, trust issues. Those are just the few I have. You know who I am. I just felt like leaving one on your site. :)

Well, a couple of my friends are getting frustrated with me and my cutting and other issues. Some of them don't understand that I really can't control it. One of my friends used to cut, but now he is so full of himself. He never likes to talk about it, but I noticed his scars. He is the one that is getting so mad at me. He thinks that one day I can just wake up and be like "I don't feel depressed anymore." I don't understand why he is being like this. I try to talk to him about it, but he just gets aggrivated with me, and he starts telling me I am weak because I cut. And he tells me that the only person who can change me is me. And I know that. I'm trying my best to stop. But when the feelings come back, he just doesn't seem to understand. It's like he is mocking me.

For example, I wouldn't let him read a note that my friend Briana, and I were writing to each other. And he assumed that it was about my urge to cut. So he said "Why? Is it because you oh-so want to cut?!" And he said it in a voice like he was truely annoyed at me. Like when you are immitating something stupid someone said. That is how he said that to me. I just kind of blew it off. But I am thinking about it right now. I'm not sure what I can do to make him realize that it is not easy for me. He doesn't know how difficult it is for me to be like him, to have confidence. I asked him how he did it, and he said he didn't know.

I know I need to let go of things. But what else is there I can do? And what could I do about him to make it so that he understands that I can't just wake up one day and be perfect?

<3 You Sawah


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rememberxforever answered Friday April 22 2005, 9:30 am:
Well if he is rude (personally) i would be rude back. if he said something i would be like "look i am your friend but if you dont want to help me with this i would appriciated it you didnt!"

some people just dont understand cutting. but you say he has cut before. i think you should ask him about it. dont attack him if you are in a fight but calmly ask him sometime. because if he cut, i would think he would be a little nicer.

if he is constantly rude he can't be that good of a friend.

cutting is a serious problem and i wish you the best of luck!

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