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Friend Died
Hi, let me start by saying I'm young. 13f and my best friend died. Her brother was hurt really bad and i feel like it was my fault, cuz they were on their way to pic me up when a drunk driver ran into them. My friend died instantly and her brother is expected to die in the next seven-twelve days. I want to say something to him, but I don't know what and if I don't hurry, it might be too late. You can e-mail me at prettymoonbug@hotmail.com
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To start, it is not your fault. It is a horrible thing and the DRUNK DRIVER should feel horrible, not you. I would tell him WHATEVER you have on your chest. Totally spill. And remember that miracles DO happen, and hopefully they can help him. If you need ANYTHING, do not hesitate to message me. Hope I've Helped ♥
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First off it is not your fault. The best thing do may just be to go and sit with him in his hospital room. Just sitting and being with him may make him feel better. Possibly talk about his life and what new was going on (before the accident). At some point in the conversation just tell him you are sorry if this is your fault. Then change the subject. Try to stay away from the crash. But being with him will just make you feel better. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck
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Naa, its not your fault you called them and at the time you called them it was the same time that a drunk driver would pass by the intersection they went through and got them killled
You're just unlucky.
Actually its in no way your fault.
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i am very sorry about your best friend. but it is NOT your fault. i would say you should defiantely talk to her brother and tell him how you feel and tell him how much you loved her and how much you will miss her and just let him know you care. if you and he are religious you could tell him he will see his sister and heaven and tell him to say something to her for you. if you are not religious just tell him anything you need to get off your chest.
once again i am sorry for your loss but if it means anything to you i know what its like to lose someone close to you. my mom died in a car accident when i was 3. and i know its not the same because its ALWAYS different but i just want you to know you are not alone. if you are grieving alot i would recommend counseling. i went to counseling and other people do to.
i hope things in your life get better but remember it wasn't your fault. feel free to IM me
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Aww, sweetie. I'm so sorry about your loss. Your friend is in a great place. My dog is playing with her. It isn't your fault. Don't blame yourself for something another person did. Even if she was picking you up, it isn't your fault. Do you think it's your fault that the driver go drunk and drove? NO!
Losing someone you love is very tragic. I lost someone I loved dearly to a car accident. It may seem harsh, but everyone's life needs to end sometime. Sometimes it's painful, sometiems it's of old age. It may not seem like it, but God has his reasons for His ways of ending lives.
About her brother, you need to say something to him. If you don't, he'll be gone and you'll regret it. You can't change your mind when it's too late. Tell yim you love him ( brotherly) and that everything will be ok. Say something to let him know he'll be remembered.
Anyway, I am very sorry about your loss. Hang in there, Sweetie. You can still talk to your friend. She'll always be with you. If you would like to talk more, drop a message in my Inbox.
Morgan
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sorry t0 hear ab0ut that. it`s n0t y0ur fault. 0ne 0f my friends died t0o. it`s a h0rrible feeling. just say s0mething t0 him. it may be t0o late. ♥
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Sorry to hear about your loss. It really wasn't your fault so don't blame yourself.The fault lies in the drunk driver.
You just go and see him and be with him.What to say will come to you when you get there.
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It's not your fault. It is the drunk driver's fault and in no possible way your fault. How could you have known there was a drunk driver? You can't blame yourself.
I don't know what to tell you to say to him. I'm sorry that I can't help you there. Just say what you really mean in your heart.
~Hope that helped~
~K~
~Need anything else, just leave a question in my inbox~
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wow. im really sorry. if i were you, i would definatly say something to him right away. im also sorry that you feel like its your fault, even though it isnt. it would be if that drunk driver were you. but it wasnt, so get out there and tell your best friend's brother what you have to say. hope i helped, and im really sorry!
~*ana*~
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OMG im sooo sorry but you cant blame yourself its not your falt and i think you should speek from your heart and you should say somthing to him im really sorry and i hope i helped
*Sam*
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You should not blame yourself it was jus the wrong time when it happened and i think you should say when he leaves that he will be in a better place and he would not want you to be sad and feeling like it your falt.
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I'm very sorry :(
While I understand that you might blame yourself, please don't. This is not your fault. If anyone is responsible, it's the person who decided to drive while they were intoxicated. It's an unfortunate, tragic accident. Such things happen in life. Again, I'm really sorry. But try to recognize the situation for what it is. An accident.
If you feel like you should talk to him, then do. You might continue to feel guilty, or regret not doing so in the future. As for what to say...All I can tell you is to say what is on your mind. Everything. Get it all out. Don't hold back, you don't want to regret what you DIDN'T say in the future.
I do not know you, and I don't know if you believe in a higher power, but my thoughts and prayers are with you. And I wish you and your friend's family the very best. Please feel free to leave a message for me in my inbox if you need someone to listen.
Until then...Blessings.
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ok.. I think you should speak from the heart..and do it asap because if he dies, you will forever regret that you didnt sit by his bedside and talk to him. Maybe recall a memory..or just pray for him..tell him God will watch over you..anything you feel..hold his hand..do something though. And im sorry i couldnt email you..my email is down.
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