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Depression
This is the second time i have posted this.. maybe someone will remember me from the first time. I am not 16 years old and i would say that i have felt insecure for as long as i can remember but it has worsened over the past year. I dont feel im a "normal" teenager, my mother has even said so a couple times. I dont like to go out, i actually dont like to do anything. I hate the way i look and im very insecure about my body. (actually im insecure about everything about myself) I no that its "normal" for a girl to be insecure about her looks but theres more. I have so much doubt and regret that im drowning in it. For the past couple of months ive been thinking that its possible im depressed, like clinically. Im not suicidal but i feel so sad all the time and spend alot of the time crying and begging God to take away all this pain. So far my prayers have not been answered. I havent told my parents for a number of reasons. I know that i can tell them anything but im scared. Im afraid they wont take me seriously and im embarrased. I also dont want them to feel like its their fault or anything because i do have a pretty good life, which actually causes me to feel really guilty. Im just really scared and its been sooo long that i have felt this way and havent told them i dont want them to be mad and i just dont know what it will be like afterwards. Im also scared to see a doctor but i also really want to stop feeling like this way. Tonight, after having a good cry i thought about telling them again but i dont think i can get through it without crying like a baby. So i decided to write a letter and give it to them but im afraid im not brave enough. I did start the letter though. Please someone tell me what i should do. I mean.. what if im just being dramtic and looking for attention and i tell them and they take me to a doctor and its nothing, i will feel so embarrassed. I dont want people to feel bad for meand if i tell my parents i wont be able to take it back. But i just dont no and im sick of wishing i could run away and start over with a new life. I sick of wanting more. Everyday is just like the one before it and i cant handle it. I feel like im going to fall apart. Ok i think this is long enough.. what im asking of you is that u tell me if u think this is depression or am i just being overly dramatic and also do i tell my parents and if so how.. was the letter a good idea?? PLEASE HELP!!!
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ok wow that was long but i think that you are in depression, you need to get help for that if you want to stop feeling like that. i also think that a letter is a great idea, if you are feeling cautious about saying it straight to their face. just say what u said in this letter and they will understand. i hope i helped, and if the letter thing still doesn't work i can think of another way to help you, just email me (its in my column)
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i think what is causing you to feel this way mostly comes down to your self consciousness. This is the reason why you don't feel like going out and also makes you feel like you don't fit in and therefore leads you to stay closed and become unsociable. Also you need to realise that there really isn't any real reason you are feeling like this and that it's pretty much all in your head and you need to help yourself snap out of it.
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It might be depression. I think a lot is going on right now, and you might be stressed. Maybe you're worried about college and moving out. And sometimes, you might feel saddened by leaving. And that you're going to be split up from friends and family and that you'll be moving on. Don't worry, if it's not suicidal, it might be normal. Sounding from you don't like going anywhere, you're like me, I'm shy about myself and what i do...dont' worry, you're normal. and you'll be just fine! try to get more active, and make some friends and hang out with them at the movies etc. Join a sport or club. When I was 10, i just joined soccer, and since then, it has made me more outgoing. I was so shy when I was 10, i'd be just sitting there, by myself at home, because my family would be out eating. I wasn't ready for the world to see me yet. Maybe the world can see you now. It's okay to feel self concious, everybody does! good luck, and don't forget, relax, it might just be stress :)
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I know just how you feel, I'm going through the same thing. You need to tell your parents. You're parents I'm sure will support you 100%. You can't get through this alone, you need some help. You'll probably need to go to a therapist. Maybe you could go to a guidance conselour at school and ask them to tell your parents, or ask a really close friend to. Or like you said, a letter, or maybe even an e-mail? You're parents will probably understand, and will want to do anything to help you. You can e-mail me at soccerchick62591@aol.com if you need anything!
Hope I helped!
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You need to tell your parent's and get some help.
Teen's get depressed for any number of reasons. You don't have to be suicidal to get help. You don't want to depressed to that extent! So, you really need to tell your parents and make them understand so they get you some help. Okay? Let me know how it goes. :)
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WOW looks like you poured you fellings onto digital question. first of all TELL YOUR PARENTS THEY CARE ABOUT YOU AND YOU SHOULD SEE A DOCTOR!if its nothing atleast you'll be realived.also your parents will not think this is stupid if its affacting your health!(it sounds like it is) also see a counselor. if this advice helps rate me.
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Yes the letter is a very good idea. You dont even have to give it to them personally..leave it on the table for them or something..(ever see riding in cars with boys..that movie with Drew Barymore,she did that letter idea to tell her parents shes pregnent.)
No your not being a drama queen or anything..dont think its nothing..i dont think its notihng because from what you said, it sounds like something to me. I know if i wrote that letter to my parents expressing myself, they would suppport me nd get me the help i need.
im so glad you want to get help..but part of getting help is admitting to a doctor and your parents that your feeling this way.
Dont be ashamed!! a mental illness doesnt mean your insane,dangerous,suicidal, it just means you have a mental illness and theres treatment out there! One of the things that upsets me is when people talk about someone with a mental illness like they are crazy,its their fault, etc..but its not! someone with a mental illness should be treated just like someone with a heart condition..there should be support..but much of society doesnt see this. In health we talked about mental illness and she said that 1 in 4 people will develop a mental illness sometime in their life..and only 1 in 4 people with a mental illness seaks treatment. Dont be embarassed..a mental illness is mostly temporary..so write the letter,get all the feelings out, then you can get started on seeing a physcologyst, and your going to start feeling a lot better!
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Hun, I'm sorry - you need to get help. If you're having a hard time trying to tell your parents, go to the school counselor. I know that sounds dumb, but then they can tell your parents. You could also write them a letter, if you don't want to tell them in person. But you HAVE to tell them. You sound like you are depressed, but don't worry, it can be fixed. You just have to let it happen. Hope I helped and I hope you feel better soon!
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