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theres this guy, my boyfriend. sometimes i feel like i like him and other times i feel like i dont. he is crazy over me. i feel like i want to dump him but i dont want him to be upset. (this guy also gave me chocolate 4 no reason and we have been going out for about 3 weeks) i need help!!!!! il give 5's and feedback to the first 4 good answers i get! PLZ HELP!!!!
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this happened to me once too. and i cried when i tried to tell him that it was over and it took 2 dang hours but i did it and i felt so much better after it was done. you jus have to be honest and nice about it. dont lie it only makes it worse.
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well you can't go out with someone just because you don't want to hurt them. he does seem nice and like a good catch. maybe you shoudl just talk with him about it.
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It sounds like you aren't ready to be tied down to just one guy yet. Which is perfectly normal.
Tell him you want to be friends and you even want to go out now and then but that you are not ready for a long term relationship.
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It's ok! s go through things like this all the time! Just think of it this way... You can stay with him and keep feeling the way you do now, or break up with him! Would you still think the same about him if you broke up with him? Or would you want him more than now? Just think of those questions before you do anything you MAY regret! If breaking up with him is the thing YOU feel is best, I hope you do and don't just stay with him for him!
*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*
-*Marissa*-
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You need to do some soul searching. Take a step back and look at your relationship. Are you with him only because he's "crazy about you"? or are you with him because you truly like him? Forget about chocolate and presents. If you genuinely like him, then don't dump him. But if you're only with him because you don't want to hurt his feelings and/or you have your eye on someone else, it's time to end this relationship. If that's the case, do it soon. Don't lead him on for any longer.
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uh oh he gave you chocolate?? its almost like your married now!!
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i know how you feel. my boyfriend of almost 4 months is the same way. and at just a few weeks he was the same way yours is. Yea there are times now i feel as if i dont want to be with him and there are times i do want to be with him but all in all i truely love him and you just have to do what your heart tells you to do. Its not his fault that he cares so much for you. He cant help the way he feels. just be open with him about it and i promise things will work out. they did for me and i have been with him since. Hope i helped.
MarksBaby
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Here is my suggestion. To truly find out if he likes you, send in a spy. Have one of your really good girlfriends to go in and ask him stuff about you. Do this when you are not around, because if he sees you around, he'll know what you are up to. Next, try talking with him when your friends nor his friends are around. You can really tell the true character of a person when their "friends" aren't around. He may seem nuts, but is he putting on a show for his boys? So he gave you chocolate?...so what? take the chocolate to your friends and share it... it was free right? Don't be weirded out by stuff like that. When you get older and wiser, you'll welcome the chocolates and the flowers. Stay strong and work on finding out his "true" motives.
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If you really don't want him to be upset, do it ASAP. The longer you wait, the harder it will be and more complicated things will get. Just get some alone time, like on the weekend, and explain to him your feelings aren't true anymore, you both should start seeing different people, and it's time for the both of you to move on. The next time you get a boyfriend, just think about if you really DO like him before accepting him. That'll prevent any future heartbreaks. Hope it works out.
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Okay i have been in the same situation, heres what you need to do:
If this guy has a nice personality then that is probably the reason you think you like him. Cause when i was going out with this boy he was ugly but i liked him for his personality except he was perverted that is why i dumped him.
If you like him for his personality go with him but if he is perverted i would dump him but i am going to leave that decision up to you just dont dump him cuz he's ugly stay with him if you really love him. Send feedback maybe i can help u a bit more!
~*SAYLOR*~
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