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My friend won't get away from drugs!
I have a friend who is heavily into drugs. She isn't doing it to have fun, she is doing it to escape problems in her life. She has had a very difficult life, so it isn't like an emo thing. I am too close to her to help her. I have been through this with her many times. My question is, what can I do to try and get her away from all of the drugs without making her mad at me. Also if there is anything you could suggest, where I could help her, it would be much appreciated. Thank you all so much in advance. This problem has really got me down.
~Nokomis~
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Like you said she is having a difficult life there really isent all much you can do or say, tell her parents she might get mad but its better than having a dead friend.
Lovley.
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I would tell her the results drugs can do to your body and that they arnt away to escape problems. tell her to go to a guidance counseler to talk about her problems than giving herself a chance to death.
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Extreme problems need extreme measures. You may have to make her mad to get her to do something. She will not change unless she wants a different life. The best you can do is show her the different life without drugs. You may have to threaten to not be her friend. I would recommend talking to a counselor for further help. Sometimes tough love is the only love in this situation.
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You need to get with an adult who can get her into treatment. Yea, she'll be mad at you. Better for her to be mad than dead though, right?
She will get over it once she has her life straightened out.
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Drugs is an addiction you cant get her away from them. But i know a cousin of my sisters boy friend that went to a party and got really bad hooked on drugs and they took her to counciling it worked too. Luckily she hasnt started them back! So all you need to do is talk to your friend tell her that drugs can kill her that she needs to stop taking them and just keep on talking to her and eventually she will give up on them!
hope i helped
~*SAYLOR*~
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You SERIOUSLY need to tell someone! She may appear mad if you tell someone, but if she were a REAL friend she'll thank you eventually. Hope this helps!!
~Alyssa
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am too close to her to help her that is impossible you need to save her life ! take it up with an adult! your best friend is killing herself! it is ither fighting or going to her funeral wishing you would have helped! you can decide fopr yourself but i would tell sum1!
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*I think that if you just tell her very calmly that you're worried about her and you don't want her getting hurt than she won't freak out. I would tell her that you would want her coming to YOU instead of any to take her problems to! Tell her that you're there for her any time she needs you and you support her in anything she does EXCEPT ! If she needs to talk to someone maybe suggest talking to someone that can help or sort her problems in a healthier way!
*!*I HoPe I HeLpEd*!*
-*Marissa*-
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I feel for you. I have had friends who have abused drugs. It would always upset me to watch them do it, or hear about it, because i knew they were stronger than that.
If your friend is going through a rough time, she needs you more than ever. Pull her aside and say "I'm worried about you. I don't want you to get hurt. We should talk about this."
She may not want to talk about it right away. That's perfectly normal. But don't ignore her. Remind her occasionally that you belive that she can settle her problems in other ways, and that you're always there if she needs to talk. She'll come around.
But if she doesnt seem to want to talk at all, or if she becomes hostile towards you, or you see a big change in her additude, it's time to get some help. Talk to a parent, a teacher, a counseler or whatever. You could potentially save your friend's life. This is an important subject. Just keep in mind that your friend needs you more than ever now during this hard period in her life.
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Sometimes if you really care for some1 you have to get her mad at you if u can save her. Tell her how much you care about her and tell her she cant run away from her problems you have to face them. Life can be scary but you have to be brave.
word life
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Ok first of all, how old is your friend? Many of my friends do drugs also. I've even tried them several times (the hard ones also). What kind of drugs is she into? The reason I ask, is because if it is marijuana (I'm not saying that pot is ok), but she is at less risk then if she were on coke or crystal meth. Many of the reasons why kids start taking drugs is because they want to fit in. But after they try it, they see that drugs actually DO make you feel good. My suggestion is that you should pick up a phone book and just look in the yellowpages. There are so many "help" facilities that you can turn to. You may need to interviene (despite the fact that you are very close friends). Sometimes the strongest love is "tough love". Your friend may not like any of this, and she will give you a hard time about it (so expect it), but when she sobers up, she'll realize just how much of a friend you really are. Stop the problem now, and she will thank you for the rest of your lives.
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