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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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should i kill myself everybodys beeen saying im ugly im okay looking but some people think im pretty and i have alot of friends but i hate it read this from bottem to top see 5 people said that
your mom gave me drugs when she was pregnet. yes you are WAY UGLY dont thinkg our not
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 10:00 PM
ya right you need to quit lying okay nand im not ugly and you r and my mom dident do drugs she is perfect okay and look at youu asshole god
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:57 PM
ok i eat a shit load and its not my fault my parents aren't fat. thats why you are and thats why your so ugly with a fat nose because your mom did drungs when she was pregnet with your dumbass. i like the fact you think im ugly because i wouldn't want a mistake face like yours
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:54 PM
thank you atleast im not anerexic and im not skinny and a fucking ugly asshole
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:53 PM
hahaha you make me laugh you are really stupid and need to get an education then talk to me. read the shit you have said to me it makes no sense. your ugly and dumb..
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:51 PM
hellllllllllllllll no mostly everybody does thin ku r ugly
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:51 PM
shit i know im nt ugly. thats why your stil trying to talk to me because im hot.
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:49 PM
you r a ugly skinny freack that loves yourself to much u r a ugly freacking jerk
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:48 PM
ok i can put my five inch think penis in your damn nose. That makes you ugly and i hope your friends think im ugly i wouldn't want the rep. of ugly people liking me
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:46 PM
omg you know what now there is 2 more peopel that said that you r not hott okay and im not ugly okay and you need to quit being a asshole
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:44 PM
because your ugly trying to someone of better class like myself
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:36 PM
why?
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From: Trent
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:35 PM
nothing. your weird...
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From: ♥Amber
Date: Dec 27 2006 9:32 PM
hey whats up
see what im talking about
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" Eleanor Roosevelt said that and it's very true. I'm not going to lie to you and say that all blame is on this one boy/girl (whicever one you are form up there). But you took part in insulting him/her just as he/she insulted you. It may be true that he/you started it but you let him/her carry on with it by replying with more insults.
You should just ignore him/her.
There is no reason to kill yourself over such little things. If you do, you're just showing that he/she won. You should just completely ignor all this, not insult the other, and come out on the top. Stop insulting each other like morons and stop wasting time by doing pointless things. Don't kill yourself because that is just stupid and being overdramatic. No one can say what you are without you letting them. You are you and what other people think about you doesn't matter.
when you go to the dentist, can they tell you smoke? will their be nikoten in my gums?
Well, if you smoke incessantly then your teeth might be a little yellow and they can probably smell the smoke breath thing
my dog, she keeps shaking! im so worrieddd
She may just be cold or nervous. Just keep her warm, put her clothes on. if she does, put her on a heating pad and if the shaking doesnnt stop by tomorrow, take her to a vet or something
my boyfriend of 5 months is rather nosy. ive never been the type of person to share my problems with the world, i just keep that stuff to myself. ive told him this. however if im having a bad night or something he'll keep on and on and on asking me whats wrong until i tell him. i know its just because he cares, but even if i say "id rather not say" or something, he gives me the whole "but you can tell me anything" or "you promised you wouldnt keep stuff from me". same with if i start laughing about something randomly [i do that often cuz i think about funny stuff] or anything like that. basically just anything thats in my head that i dont wanna spill. i realize that its not really a big deal to tell him, but if i dont he gets mad/upset at me for it, and im finally getting to the point where i dont let people walk all over me anymore, but i feel like when i give in and tell him whatever i dont want to, im just letting it happen again. advice please? 16.f
Well,he just cares about you a lot and you should just tell him what you're laughing at even if it's really stupid or not funny at all. If you're having a bad day and don't want to tell him, tell him that this is really personal and you don't feel comfortable sharing it with ANYONE. He's going to understand that he has to give you some space for privacy too so if it gets worse, just tell him that you want to keep some things to yourself and you don't appriciate it when he tries to plow through every part of your life
my period normally lasts 2 or 3 days. now, all of a sudden it's lasted around 7 and is really heavy. also, i'm getting HORRIBLE cramps to the point where i dont even want to stand up. my periods are also really irregular but ive had my period since i was 11 and im 13 now. can anyone tell me if this is a problem that i need to see a doctor for or anything? and anyway to make me feel better?
PLEASEEE help!!!
Well irregular period means irregular dates (when it comes and how long it lasts) and how heavy it is. Sometimes it would be normal then heavy then really really light and so don't worry.
Take Midol or Advils to help with the cramps. Put heating pads on them and just relax and wear loose clothing.
Also if you're bleeding incessantly..like a lot and oyu feel dizzy for too much blood going out with you, go see a doctor and see what you can do about it. One solution is to go on birth control but it has really horrible side effects
Okay,so it's another one of those 'internet friends' kinda things.
I was just wondering if there's any sure fire way to know if someone's real over the internet? I've known the person I'm talking to for nearly two years, and I ended up talking to them first, as in I emailed her about something off of a different website. (Sims)
I've talked to her on the phone before, but I'm not sure what to think.
So is there any way I'd be able to find out if this person's real or not (I've tried white pages, can't use that since she's too young).
Thanks for any help. =)
One way is to use a webcam. I know that someone I talked with online for over a year always got on their cam mostly to show his unique dish he just made..which I must say were..interesting. Haha anywhos. Ask her to get a cam although that's kinda hard. Pictures are somewhat reliable. I mean she could just take them off the net but it's hard to find pictures with the same consistency if she is required to send a lot of them.
Best things:
Webcams
See her in person
Haha but webcams are somewhat expensive and her parents are uptight, then it'd be hard to obtain one
I'm 16/f and My height is 5'3 and i'm 160.. that's a problem. What can I do to lose weight. Special plans that work. ect. Thanks
You should be around 115lbs so aim for that weight and nothing lower. You should never skip meals or overwork yourself...anywhos
Eat healty food. Lay off of choco, candy, carbs, peanut butter, mayo, etc. Try to avoid fast food such as burgers, tacos, pizzas, etc. Switch from sodas to water and one cup of milk each day. Don't say "Oh this has 300 calories" (referring to junk food such as ice cream..) "I'll just eat this as a meal" You should eat five times a day. Breakfast, lunch, and dinner (Eat well proportioned foods and eat veggies! Don't gobble it down. It takes at least 20min to trigger the "I'm full" sensation in your brain. Eat with a smaller plate and fill that up instead of a huge dinner plate. You'll still see the full plate and feel like you ate a lot.) Eat 2 small snacks in between meals. Make sure it's small like an apple or carrots. Brush your teeth right away after meals so you won't have the urge to eat more (toothpaste and food..ew) Turn off the kitchen lights after 8PM so you won't be tempted to get some food.
As for exercise, you should fit in at least 30-60min of it every other day or everyday. It takes 30min (average) for your body to use up the glucose floating around in your body. Then it starts to break down the glycogen --I think tha'ts what its called. Haha. Anywhos, just walk around your neighborhood, do pilates, go to the gym with your friends, play basketball, football, whatever for fun.
Hey Y'all!! :]]
I'm a girl and sometimes I get turned on by other girls. Does this make me a lesbian?? I dont want to have a relationship with them though. And I get crushes on guys, not girls. What do ya think?
It doesn't make you lesbian. You're probably a teenager, yes? It's your hormons acting up and you just want to explor all possiblities. So I wouldn't be going aorund saying "OMG IM LEZ/BI"
Just chill. By thinking "Am I lez" you're making believe that you you're turned on by girls whenin reality you don't. If you don't wanna go out with girls..well that's a key factor in determining if you're lez/bi or not.
Okay, this is what is up. I was in a relationship with a 46 year old man...I am 20. Is that weird? I can not get him out of my head. We were dating, according to him, this summer, but broke up around September. He occassionally calls and asks if he can see me, etc. and I would really like to, but I don't know...How do I get this man I love out of my head, because right now a relationship is not possible?
Thanks for your answers in advance.
Jenn
Um, that's a little creepy. You may also give off the vibe that either you're looking for money or you're desperate. Not implying anything. There are many YOUNG guys out there and you should get out more often and go to clubs or bars if you can. Have your friends introduce you to a guy or something. Tell the 46yr old that it's not gonna work out and that you guys should stay friends.
why do guys think lesbian action is so hot? why do they get turned on when girls touch each other and stuff? yet im a girl and i think its gross when guys touch each other/makeout.. i dont get it
They're guys. They just do because they see one hot girl then another one and better yet they're making out with each other..haha.
You may not be into the whole same gender sexual activity thing so don't worry.
Is it normal for a 12.5 year old in 7th grade that is 5'0 to weigh 104 pounds? P.S. This is not about me, this is actually about my sister because I'm concerned about her. She might not seem overweight, but she looks kind of chubby in the stomach area and such. If so, what are some excercises to lose this babyfat? Thanks!
She's in the average range of area for weight. she should weight about 100lbs.
You can take walks with her around the neighborhood, bring her out for laser tag. Do pilates, yoga, go to the gym just for fun but never say "You need to lose some weight" or something up front like that.
ive none my best friend since 1st grade and im now in 10th...a few years ago she would constantly tell people lies for attention all the tim...then she moved away with her mom and her moms b/f.when she came home she had told everyone he raped her..we knew he hit her but we werent sure about this.after she said he rapped her she admitted that he didnt.just a few days ago she said he did. ok my first question is why does she keep chaning her story? i honestly belive he didnt rape her because weve talked about sex before and she says things like im so afraid what it will feel like the first time. i dont want to bring it up with her because everytime i do she always goes he rapped me why dont you belive me!?! what should i do to start getting the truth out of her? please help thanks!
She may just be doing that for attention or it amy be the truth. The reason she may be changing her story is that if it's true, she's afraid her bf is going to go beserk on her or mahybe she feels ashamed of it.
The only way you can get it out of her is to go to a counslor. She's going to say no probably but if she does the counslor will attack her with "Why did you say such horrible things" question type of thing. Maybe go to the counslor yourself..by yourself and say "This girl that I know says.." don't mention your friends name though,
I'm so confused. I have a guy friend whom I have known for like 3-4 months. We talk on AIM every single day. We talk at school. Everything was going great until I asked him out. I really really like him and I care about him a lot. He says that he's not interested in a gf and he says that he makes relationships hell. I'm willing to try and make it work. In science, two girls sit next to him [seating chart]. He talks to them and they always laugh at his jokes. Don't get me wrong, I laugh at his jokes too. But whenever he talks to me he's like really shy or something. It's weird. He like posted 'merry christmas' comments with some other funny things on the two girls myspaces, but he didn't post anything on mine. Why can't he just admit his feelings for me? His friend, Halee, says that he always brings up our conversations on aim when he talks to her. She thinks that he really likes me, but he says that he doesn't think of me that way.
I gave him a shirt as an xmas present the day that we got out for winter break. You could tell that he really appreciated the shirt, even Halee said so. He said that he's gonna wear it the day that we come back from winter break. He sent me this on myspace:
" Hey I really have to say 'Thank you'! You have been so damn nice to me and have been a positive inlfusence on me. I really hope to be as good as a person as you some day but I dout that will happen. Thanks most of all. If I could ever repay you I would but I dont think I will ever be able to do. Thanks you alot. The reason I didnt really talk to you to much today was because I felt bad about you carring about me so much and I actually got nervous (But that happens alot anyway when I do anything). I didnt have words to tell you how much I apprisciated everything you've done for me. "
Does he like me? And is he too shy to admit it?
Okay, my dear, you can't simply force or assume that someone likes you in a gf way just on your observations. Everyone is different and there is not one way to reveal what he feels for someone unless he says so himself.
He may like the girls in science--in a gf way--but he wants to keep you as a good friend. You may have just stepped into the friend zone. I say just keep a good friendship with him and don't go on something your friend said.
He likes you in a friend way and accept that and move on.
Okay I really like this boy I've liked him for quite awhile. I want him to know how I feel too. But I just don't know how. Okay first things first I am not telling him face to face! Okay are these some signs if he likes me? He stares at me alot, he talks in a group of friends and when I walk by then look back start saying oh look to him, and he's everywhere I am.
What are some ways to get him to notice me more?
Thanks a bunch!
What good is an advice if it's always sugar coated. So I'm going to have to ssay that when you say he stares at you..a lot, he may just be looking at something else or someone else behind you. But he may as well be looking at you too.
Just be friendly to him and ask for is sn/email/# and talk to him with whatever method you can get from him. Say hi to him when you see him at school and just talk to him =]
I just got a laptop and it's fine and I can use it and all that. My problem is that when I first used it, the icon in the bar on the lower right hand side of the screen that shows internet connection/wireless connection was showing up. However, today (and yesterday when I restarted it) the icon is not showing up. It's not a huge problem, but it's kind of irritating to not be able to see when the internet is connected/how strong the wireless connection is. Does anyone know how to get these icons to show up again?
I'm not sure but this probably would work. Click Start button on the task bar, go to programs, and open the wireless file...if you know what I mean. Like go to Programs and click the button that represents your wireless file... that's probably going to work.
help im 10 and my bf wants to have sex with me!
i dont want to but he does he says we're ready
weve been going out for a year and he says its times
hes 11
HELP
Um, DUMP HIM.
There is easily a chance of you getting pregnant and that's a bad thing. He's just really horny and if you give him consent to take away your virginity, then...wow that's just horrible. You're only 10 and he's only 11. Unless you guys want to be parents or what not, go ahead. If you do have sex with him, it's going to be spread around in school. He can't keep his mouth shut over such an "achievement"
You guys are still young and it's just weird to be going out with someone for a year and think you're ready to have sex with him. Just dump him. He's not worth getting stressed over.
17/m I liked this girl for really long (several years) and just recently I admited my feelings for her (card on christmas gift). But she pretty much said no.It was quite annoying cuz she said she liked me earlier on, and then decided that it wouldnt work because we are too good of friends. now i have been trying to put her in a friend zone of my brain as opposed to where she is now. and seeing her....does not help at all. we went to the movies with friends and the entire time she was laughing and whispering with my other guy friend, who i think also likes her and it bothered me throughout the entire movie. my friend who sat next to me told me that it was pretty obvious to her why i was fidgeting so much. i need advice on how to move on from this crush, it's so hard! please help!
Friend zone. Such a cruel place to be especially when you like the person. Just think of it this way:
If you do indeed go out with her, then, well forget about the friendship because it's going to be so awkward to remain friends after you guys break up (hey, it's bound to happen sooner or later)
If you don't, you'll have a good friend for life and instead of ending up in the section where you're yet another one of her ex's, you'll be in her lovely friend zone and will be envied by people who do like her.
So I say just be friends with her. Don't get into little arguments over her. Go out to parties and what not and meet new people. Socialize with other girls. There's bound to be someone there that you'll like much more than this girl. So stop lingering over something that is less valuable than a friendship you have with her!
I need some good date ideas that aren't totally expensive. I was thinking bowling and dinner, anything under 70 bucks a date - cause thats as much as I can afford right now..... I know, I'm cheap - but I'm getting a job soon, so that wont be too much of an issue soon enough.
First things first: not all dates have to be luxurious with a lot of money spent. It just needs to be kept interesting and fun.
If you and this date have a pass to an amusement park, go there! It's awesome. Movies are a little boring but you should suggest you guys watch a scary movie (hint hint ;D seriously)
Go to the ice skating rink since it's cold now.
Go to a park and have a nice picnic--with homemade food if you can.
ok so i'm 15, lez, and there's this girl at my school who's also bi, or maybe gay and she's a junior, but is only like a year and a half older than me. she's experienced and is currently with a senior. The thing is, they've only been going out a couple weeks, the girl she's dating is a senior who is not pretty or interesting or anything, and i'm pretty sure she's just going out with her to get back at her ex. Anyways, i like her soooo much! i've never been with a girl, but she's the only thing i think about! unfortunately she's a year and a half older than me! sometimes i feel like she likes me, but we're just kind of mutual friends, we have a class together and talk once in a while but have never hung out alone or anything. Well anyways i'm just wondering whether i should tell her? or not. and if so, should i wait till i get back to school in january or should i tell her on im or something this week. My best friend is also friends with her, so what should i do? I guess these are my options:
1. tell her myself over break
2. tell her when we get back to school
3. see if my friend can talk to her and maybe hint that i like her
4. not tell her at all and try to forget about this because i have no chance with her
5. or not tell her just flirt and stuff- and if you think this is the best option, give me some tips please
*alot of people said aske her to hang out-that's not really an option, it would be way awkward, we both have our own friends
** one more question- when we are around other people and pass each other in the hall, we might talk for a second or smile a little, but if i ever just pass her we always kind of stare deep into each others eyes. do you think she will realize i like her if i keep doing this? or should a give her a flirty smile or something??
thanks i rate high
Well, think of this...she is TAKEN. Even though you may think this senior is dull and ugly, this girl you like might not so you can't judge on stuff and accuse of a horrible thing such as using someone to get back at an ex.
Since you have a friend that is good friends with this girl, have your friend call this girl over along with you and few other friend to have like a little get together or something like that.
Don't have your friend tell this girl that you like her because she can take it as a joke or something.
So tell her over break to break the awkwardness that might happen if you tell her at school. Tell her that you like her ASAP so over break she can sort things out and calm down from it a little bit. Then have your friend invvite her, you and some other ppl for a little get togheter
i had sex for the first time today
it was hard for him to get it in for a while cause im pretty tight i guess
he got it in and it was okay
but we didnt do it for long
after i realised i bled all over my bed
more then i thought i would
it was horrible
but i covered it up well!
is this normal?
its like quite a few hours later and im still bleeding a little bit
is this okay?!?!?!!
Yes, it's fine. Some people even bleed for a day. If it doesn't stop by Saturday night, go to a clinic