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I am messed up!
Okay, this is what is up. I was in a relationship with a 46 year old man...I am 20. Is that weird? I can not get him out of my head. We were dating, according to him, this summer, but broke up around September. He occassionally calls and asks if he can see me, etc. and I would really like to, but I don't know...How do I get this man I love out of my head, because right now a relationship is not possible?
Thanks for your answers in advance.
Jenn
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if you think about it... alot of people who marry have a huge gap between their ages. my aunt and uncle are 20 years apart... shes 24 and hes 44. i dont think that really matters... yes it is kind of weird to you or atleast it seems to be. but i think that if there's a connection and feeling with that person, it doesn't matter and shouldn't. hope it helped!
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Well, if it really is not about sex... what exactly does a 46 year old man have in common with a 20 year old woman? Why is a relationship not possible at this time...waiting until he can get the senior discount for Viagra? You can do better and I think somewhere in that young brain of yours, you know it.
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Try to keep yourself occupied. Socializing always helps people get through break-ups. Go out with your friends, meet new people, join a sport, or start a new hobby. Be more involved in work or school.
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I really don't think that asking someone elses opinion on if its weird or not is going to help you forget about him - nor do I think that someone elses opinion on the matter really... well, matters. Its what YOU think about the situation that matters. Do you think its weird for yourself to be in a relationship with a fourty six year old man while your twenty? Do you think that the age difference is more important then the relationship and the love, or do you believe that age is just a number?
I can't tell you how to forget about him and how to not love him - because thats impossible. If you love someone, then you love them. And thats that. But, I can tell you that if you know that right now isn't a good time for you to be in a relationship, then don't answer his calls. Don't go see him. Kill all contact you have with him. If you wan't to get over him and attempt to move on, then you can't hear his voice or see his face. It'll just pull you in deeper, and make it impossible for you to move on.
I think the real question is, do you want to move on? This isn't a matter of forgeting or falling out of love with him, because that won't happen. Its a matter of moving on, and whether or not you want to. And thats a question that I, or anyone else, can not answer for you.
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this is an edit- if hes not then why is he calling you. talk to him more.
theres nothing wrong with loving some one of a diffrent age. you cant help who your attracted to and you shouldnt have to. why is a relationship not possible? if you love him you should embrace him not push him away.
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Um, that's a little creepy. You may also give off the vibe that either you're looking for money or you're desperate. Not implying anything. There are many YOUNG guys out there and you should get out more often and go to clubs or bars if you can. Have your friends introduce you to a guy or something. Tell the 46yr old that it's not gonna work out and that you guys should stay friends.
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