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well, i've known this guy for about 2-3 years, and he's one of the sweetest guys i've ever known. i can talk to him about anything, and everything. and if i asked or wanted the world, he would give it to me. he means a lot to me, and i dont want to lose him. im not sure if he likes me, or is just being a good friend. he calls me hun, sweetheart, and his little princess. i know what you're probably thinking, whats the problem, why not just ask him out or something. well heres the problem... i'm sixteen (almost seventeen), and hes, twenty-three. is this right? i dont think my parents would have a problem with it, because they really like him. but im afraid my other friends/relatives will,because of such the difference in age. i really like him, and he's basically what i've been looking for. and i think im in love with him. can you please help me out? (link)
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To big an age gap for now. He can get thrown in jail for dating you at his age. When you're 18 and he is almost 30. That still sounds a little wild. I think if a guy that age can't communicate with someone his own age he definitely has a problem somewhere. Stay away from the guy. I think you will only get hurt...and he can go to jail. He has to know this too, doesn't make him sound so sweet to me. Sorry.
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I've been married for 20 years & never have, and never will cheat on my husband.
A single younger man where I work started flirting with me. He basically expressed his attraction towards me, which was extremely flattering. I let him know right away that I would never cheat on my husband. He seemed to accept this & we have continued to commincate throught our email at work & a couple of coffee breaks.
I have really enjoyed the flattery - I'm 48, he's 37. Once I realized that he really wasn't just trying to get me into bed & truly liked me as a person - I felt great.
He's extremely careered oriented & doesn't have time for a comitted relationship at this point.
I just don't understand why when I started flirting back with him, why he has backed off. I liked the flattery, and am hurt. He started all this.
I simply don't understand why he is reacting this way, I don't need a lecture on why this is unhealthy, I already know from the way I feel. (link)
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He may have backed off knowing you were starting to have a crush on him. He may have only been looking for some innocent flirtation as well. Maybe he started having feelings himself and knew he couldn't do anything about it. I think you could talk to him about it and find out for sure. But, I think the best thing for your marriage would be to just forget about him. You know you still got it girl...go use it on the hubby!
By the way, I don't think you did anything wrong. The potential is there though, ya know? :)
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ok well me and my boyfriend have been goin out now for awhile but he still eyes other girls like we were on the phone and he was like oo shes soo hot I was like wtf?! and i told him i didnt like it but he cared for like two minutes I know he loves me and he tells me so. that just gets me I really dont see him were in seperate grades hes one grader younger hes my age but he started late.but he knows I box and fight and if theres som1 else i'd kill them same with me if I was with som1 else he'd beat the shit out of them and we love each other we play games on the phone and we see each other like on a daily basis like i go over to his house and we hav lots of fun weve known each other for almost three years and idk if we should go further in our realationship I dont want him to just think i'm here for a kissing partner or A booty call help me i'm totally confused
I'm 13 and i'm female(obviously) lol (link)
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All guys do this and probably always will. Yours is like mine. Mine does this too. Be glad he does it when you are around. If he were up to no good he'd be doing it behind your back. Just act like it doesn't bother you...at his age he is probably just trying to get you all worked up about it. Ignore it, or start eyeballin' other guys and give him a taste of his own medicine. :)
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i am a 16/f and i like a 19/m. we've been getting a lot closer lately and i know he likes me but i never gave him a straight answer if i like him. the thing is, i would love to go out with him and stuff, but he is my best friend's ex. they broke up because she cheated on him like five times. i couldn't believe she did that so i took him under my wing to try and cheer him up and we ended up liking each other. my best friend wants him back, but i'm quite sure he won't go back to her either because he's been hurt too many times or he likes me now. i guess what i am asking is, if you were in the same situation, would you risk breaking the friendship for the guy? do you think it would be possible to go out without telling her? (link)
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The thing wrong with this relationship is that you are 16 and he is 19. Until you are 18 he could get in trouble for contributing to the delinquency of a minor. I know it is stupid but it is the law. So, you may want to consider being friends only until you turn 18. If anything happens between you before then, he could very well go to jail. Sorry, stay friends with both.
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well i had upretected sex june 9th and i have very irregular periods so how soon should i take a test? (link)
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I'd wait until your period is about 3 weeks late.
Stress can cause it to magically disappear too so try not to worry to much about it until then.
Okay? Need anything else...stop in and talk. :)
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Well 2 days ago i went over to my boyfriends house of 5 months for about 5 hours! and everything was great till yesterday. He blocked me onine, And i tryed calling his cell phone but he didn't answer but he called me back saying sorry, he was just miserable about a few things and didn't want to talk to anybody. I was okay with it cause i can understand. Well later that night he told me that he was thinking about us all day and i asked him what? and he said that he doesn't feel "sparks" between us anymore! It kinda hurts to hear that after the day before. What can i do to get the "sparks" back? he sent me a text this morning saying that he really loves me and that he is really in love with me and wants to spend his life with me. but theres soo many things going on around him that hes not sure of what to do. But my question is what can i do to get the "sparks" back, and make him feel better? and please don't say anything sexual cause were both not ready for that. ooo and if it helps im 14, and hes 16!! thanks bunches, i'll rate if you can really help me!!! (link)
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"sparks" are either there or they aren't. Not much can be done about that. My bet is that whatever is going on at home is the big problem here. Maybe you need to let him talk out whatever is bothering him and maybe just be there for him. Get to the bottom of what all this stuff "going on around him " is and I think your problem might be solved.
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My girlfriend has lied to me several times... nothing EXTREMELEY serious, but about a lot of little things. I have threatened her with a break up, and she gets very emotional when i mention a break up. Recently she has lied to me again and i broke up with her... She is begging to get back with me and i want to be with her..... what should i do? (link)
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I guess you might try it one more time. You need to tell her though that the slightest lie is going to get her a break up again. Unless you want to live with the lies you will have to stick to it. You have to consider that if she will lie to you about small things, well, whats going to happen when something really serious comes up. Doesn't make her real trustworthy. Have a LONG talk about it, then if you want to try again give it one more shot. :)
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Hello,I'm an over weight girl 13 years old, and I really would like to go out with a guy at my summer camp. But since I'm fat they only see that, and not the true me. I mean I've lost about six teen lbs total this summer. There are girls two - three times my size.... Does any one have a clue how to attract a guy to me, like flirting ideas, or just to get them to notice me???? Please I need tons of help for this????? (link)
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You know, I know a girl who is overweight too. She works on losing (but not real hard), and she doesn't seem to have any trouble with guys.
She has a wonderful sense of humor, she has lots of self confidence and she doesn't let her weight bother her at all. Seems if how she looks doesn't bother her it doesn't bother anyone else either. Shes just got such a great personality that they don't seem to notice shes overweight.
So, that being said just do as has been suggested by almost everyone. Be yourself. Learn to laugh and don't take things to seriously. You want to work on losing weight (doesn't everyone!), just don't let in consume you every thought. Just don't think about it. Go out and do things and talk to people as if it wasn't an issue. I think you may just be surprised. If anyone gives you trouble about it, just ignore them. They aren't good enough to be friends with you anyway. :)
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Im14, and recently my brothers friends have been calling me and asking my brother stuff like how old is ur sis and whats she like and stuff. and i like some of them like i think that they are cute. and my brother has been threatening them and he doesnt have many friends...should i talk to him? or pretend like i dont notice his friends> or what??
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I think you should tell him you don't mind if they ask about you. At least if any of them give you trouble you know your brother will back you up. That's pretty cool, a lot of girls don't have that! He is just being protective. Tell him it doesn't mean anything if they ask HIM about you. He shouldn't get after them. Tell him that your glad he'll be around to help keep the future boyfriends in line though! :)
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Ok, My best friend Ethan and I have been best friends since we met this year, and I would do anything for him. Well, hes going out with this girl, Skylar. I dont mean to name names, but shes a total prep, and she HATES ME. And I'm not very fond of her either. Ever since they have been going out, Ethan is all different. I used to be able to tell him anything, but whenever I say something bad about Skylar on accident, he gets all mad, and I feel like I cant trust him anymore. I want to tell him so badly that Skylar is being a jerk to me and my friends, but he wont listen to me, i'm positive he wont. I feel like I'm not part of his life anymore, I just feel like I'm in the background, and Skylar is always getting her way with everything. I mean, do you ever get that feeling where you know that hes waking up thinking about the totally wrong girl, yet you hope that he finds happiness in his life, even if it means kicking you out of it? well thats how I feel. So here are my questions...
1) How do I tell him how I really feel about him and Skylar without him getting mad?
2) How do I get a more positive attitude out of this?
PLEASE HELP. I rate 5's. And I appreciate all those columnists that take the time to read this real long question =)...
--SKY IS THE LIMIT. (link)
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1) Thing is you probably won't be able to get through to him no matter what you say. He has it bad for her so anything you say is going to make you seem like the one picking on Skylar. Best just not to mention her to him at all. If she is mean to you and the rest of his friends it will come out one day soon and he will see it for himself. I know it will be hard on you but if you want to stay friends you'll just have to play along until he does.
2) I don't know how you get more positive about it. Its hard when you don't like someone. For now she is what he wants so you have to be nice about it until its over. I guess you try to see it as being nice to her for his sake and just do your best to get along until its over. Then, if you like him yourself you jump in there and console him and tell him how you feel. After some time has passed. He won't see you in a good light if you've been bad mouthing her all along, so you need to be polite to her even if you hate it. :)
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My best friend has such a pretty face. She doens't have a great body but whatever. I'm always so jealous of her. Today she was wearing eyeliner for the first time. She was gorgeous! For some reason whenever she looks good I don't tell her...because im jealous. When I look good she tells me. I feel so bad. How can I stop being jealous of her??? (link)
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Tell her she looks good. Ask her to show you how to fix yourself up too! Hey, thats what friends are for! :)
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can you help me get my friend to stop acting like shes all that around other people and she acts her self around me. im a girl and im 11 years old (link)
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Tell her what shes doing. Maybe she doesn't realize it. :)
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My parents and my friend's parents are not getting along at this current moment. ..and well ever since 2 weeks ago, the phone calls have stopped...and I guess I miss talking to her..usually, i would call her constantly..like everyday..and like my mom told me to stop to give her some time to herself..well it's been 2 wks..what more time can she have?? I have too much pride to call over now because it's been too long and it'd be awkward..she only calls me if I call her first..so idk what to do because I wanna talk to her..should I give it up and get over myself or wait for her to call or put my pride down? Thanks (link)
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Call her now. Why should your parents not getting along right now ruin your friendship? Swallow your pride and call her. :)
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ok well my best friend died in a car accident last year and last friday i like, saw him. like a ghost or something, idk. but the weird thing is, i see him all the time now. but only when my best freind whos a guy is around. i was afraid to tell my best friend this, but i did and he said that my friend who died might think hes being replaced by him.. what do you think? am i going totally crazy? (link)
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Nope. Maybe he is approving of your choice. Anything is possible. :)
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i dont want to choose between my friends bc i love them both. i have 2 of the closest friends in the world. if i do something with one of them, the other one will get mad and say "oh well your leaving me out a lot and i feel left out" and all that and then i go over to the other one and hang out with her for like 12 minutes b4 the other one comes over and says "oh well your leaving me out a lot andi feel left out" so i do things like go to the movies with both of them and if i lean over and say something like "this movie is awesome" the other one will be like "YOUR LEAVING ME OUT AGAIN! WHAT ARE YOU SAYING TO HER?" so i talk loud so they both can hear me and boom...."DID YOU SAY SOMETHING TO HER THAT YOU DIDNT TELL ME?" and im like "NO!" so.....this goes on and on and on and on! im tired of it! I love them both to death but they are sooo annoying!!! I always do things with both of them at the same time and they just keep nagging me!! helpppp. (link)
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Get them both together. Sit them down and tell them you are no longer going to play this childish game tell them to Deal with it! If they can't go along with that then tell them tough. You are no longer going to repeat everything a million times just so one feels she isn't missing something. Make sure they both hear you clearly. :)
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ok my BEST guy friend might like me. i'm not sure if he does because his close friend-who is also my close friend-says that he probably does like me.
the reason i don't think he does or that i'm like, pessimistic about it is because we are like, so close as friends that i don't think that we would be anything different.
but the reason why i think he might is because: 1) his/my friend thinks so 2) he called me randomly just to talk (and he usually doesn't do that) 3) he said (while on the phone) 'oh i see ------- (his friend) he's gonna ask me who i'm on the phone with and i'm gonna say a hot girl...cuz its true.' 4) after he said this (and he said it like--seriously) i was like oh i'm sure (me=no self esteem...so i DON'T take compliments well) and he was like 'i love you' and i didn't hear him so i was like what? and he was like 'i love you!'
can you tell me what he might be thinking or feeling...thanx in advance
p.s. sorry for the length (link)
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I think you need to talk to him. You should be best friends with your boyfriend so why not? Ask him how he feels...if you feel the same give it a try. If it feels like your smooching you're brother then go back to friendship only. :)
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I'm having this b-day party on saturday (bowling) and they're will be about 15-16 ppl there. and 2 of my friends HATE each other..i mean HATE...and i love them both to death and i hate choosing between the both of them, i'm afraid that they will start fighting and stuff like that. question is, what do i do if this happens (i've already tried talking to them both) and second question is, how do i choose between the 2? b/c i love hangin out w/ both of them i just can't do it at the same time. thanks in advance! (link)
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You really shouldn't HAVE to do anything. They need to be mature enough to get along in a civil manner during the few times they have to spend together with you. Whichever one can't do that, well, don't ask them again. If one or the other feels they can't behave nicely for a few hours then that person needs to just stay home and not force you to choose. You just enjoy your friends on your birthday and if they can't get along let them fight it out for themselves. Don't waste your time consoling one because the other is treating her bad. Know what I mean. Don't give one special treatment over the other. That's their way of keeping your attention. :)
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okay well i like love my best friend, he means everything to me, but the thing is i dont wanna like him. i mean, he knows i like him, but he doesnt know how much. i like cant ever stop thinking about him, hes everything to me. i would give my life for him. i have a boyfriend right now, but i still love him. how can i get my mind off him? (link)
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Why is it you don't want to like him? I think you need to tell him how you feel. Maybe he feels the same. :)
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Hi im 14 and a female, see there are these really mean group of girls at my school and they ised to be all my really good friends until 8th grade they started acting ;ike they were rea;;y cool and stopped talking to me. i asked them what was wrong and the act like everything is just fine. Then they went behind my back a nd told everybody some rumor about that wasnt true. My mom says there just jealous of me. Is there something wrong with me? What should I do? (link)
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I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all. I think your mom is probably right. If they are going to continue to treat you badly then forget them all together and find some new friends to hang out with. Some of them may even change there minds and start treating you right when they realize you aren't going to put up with their nonsense anymore. :)
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Okay... I'm 16 and theres this guy ive liked since the 8th grade, in 7th grade we were sort of close. Im now in the the 10th grade and Earilier this year i sort of got mad but not @ him i just sort of blamed it on him. This was september and he hasnt talked to me since except once and thats only cause i was dating one of his friends. Hes like one of my best friends and i hate the fact that hes not talking to me how would you get him to talk? I appligied tons of times and he wont except it. What should i do?
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Sit him down and talk to him. You will probably have to go into some detail about the whole situation to get him to understand what happened. Do it. Hope he listens. :)
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