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i am a 16/f and i like a 19/m. we've been getting a lot closer lately and i know he likes me but i never gave him a straight answer if i like him. the thing is, i would love to go out with him and stuff, but he is my best friend's ex. they broke up because she cheated on him like five times. i couldn't believe she did that so i took him under my wing to try and cheer him up and we ended up liking each other. my best friend wants him back, but i'm quite sure he won't go back to her either because he's been hurt too many times or he likes me now. i guess what i am asking is, if you were in the same situation, would you risk breaking the friendship for the guy? do you think it would be possible to go out without telling her?
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The thing wrong with this relationship is that you are 16 and he is 19. Until you are 18 he could get in trouble for contributing to the delinquency of a minor. I know it is stupid but it is the law. So, you may want to consider being friends only until you turn 18. If anything happens between you before then, he could very well go to jail. Sorry, stay friends with both.
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hey honey. well this is def one of the touqhest situations. this is qoinq to be hard for you either way.. but honestly if i was in this situation i would forqet the quy & stick with your best friend. i learned that the hard way, i was with a quy i was totally in love with... but then he started chosinq my friends.. he told me that i wasnt aloud to hanq around with my bestfriend anymore. i was totally crushed but, i was crazy about this quy so i just had to do whatever he wanted or i wasnt happy because he wasnt. so i just blew her off everytime & he told her that i hated her & a bunch of other bullshit liek that. well, it was horrible losinq her as a friend, espically qoinq with MONTHS without her.. finally it took me 11 months to realize i deserve better & that friends are wayy more important than some stupid controllinq boyfriend. think about it, i doubt your qoinq to qet married to this quy anyways. hes a little too old for you, nothinq wronq with that thouqh. but.. most of the times, relationships liek that with an older quy.. dont work out. i learned that also. even thouqh she has cheated on him before.. doesnt mean that she honestly meant too. it may seem liek it.. but this is your bestfriend were talkinq about. dont ever chose a quy over your bestfriend.. thats a horrible decision. espically if you know for a fact that she still has feelinqs for him. ♥
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Most of the time when people have secret lil relationships they always come out eventually anyways or people get suspicious if your around them alot or doing alot of things together.. i think you should try talkin to this friend of your about being with him.. but i'd get with him before actually talking to her.. i mean seriously she cant really say anything she's hurt this guy and apparently there isnt some real strong feelings there if she kept doing that to him.. just give it time before actually bringing it up to her and good luck.. ♥ Dez
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jus tell her and if she gets mas then screw her she'll eventually forgive u and plus the worst she could do is date him after u 2 broke up
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i think you should risk your friendship becasue you really like this guy and she had lost her chance with this guy..and i also think that you should tell her...she can't possibly get that mad if she was your bff (she would understand. another thing is that i think you should tell him that you like him before he gets feelings for another girl.
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Honey Lemme tell yooh this from my personal experience going out with your best friends ex is W-R-O-N-G!No matter how bad she treated him she prolly really likez him deep down inside of her maybe she feels unwanted by him and that probably why she cheats on him.OH! and dont go outwith him just incase your friend likes him and asking her if its ok to go out with him will piss her of....Dont do that either.And if you do go out with him you'll feel a truckload of guiltiness I did once and I ended up breaking up w/ the guy....Yes it's possible to go out with him without her knowing.......But its HARD!,VERY HARD! because...Yooh cant be seen in public with him...you cant tell anyone even ur other friends because they might tell your bff and eventually yooh and the boy will be torn apart because of trying to hide a secret relationship...and it will give yooh both a easy way to cheat on each other...yooh dont necessarily have to listen to me but do whats right...
-HOPE I HELPED!:)
x3-Janee'
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You should tell her because she is your bestfriend and guys will come and go but friends will always be there just tell her that you and him have been hanging out and that he sorta likes you and you would like to see what happens. yeah she might be mad at first but real friends will see how happy he makes you and will let it go. if she cared about this boy alot then she would want him to be happy even if it is with her bestfriend. I hope things work out. just be honest with your friend you would want her to be honest with you.. Rate me
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In my honest opinion i do not think that keeping a relationship with your friends ex a secret is the best thing to do. If your friend finds that you have lied to her she will be deeply hurt as you would if this was the other way around, My advice to you is there is plenty more fish in the sea who you do not have to take under your wing seems like this guy has a lot of growing up to do. Remember this saying relationships can come and go, true friends are there for a lifetime. So is this worth losing a good true friend over.
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