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I need advice
I've been married for 20 years & never have, and never will cheat on my husband.
A single younger man where I work started flirting with me. He basically expressed his attraction towards me, which was extremely flattering. I let him know right away that I would never cheat on my husband. He seemed to accept this & we have continued to commincate throught our email at work & a couple of coffee breaks.
I have really enjoyed the flattery - I'm 48, he's 37. Once I realized that he really wasn't just trying to get me into bed & truly liked me as a person - I felt great.
He's extremely careered oriented & doesn't have time for a comitted relationship at this point.
I just don't understand why when I started flirting back with him, why he has backed off. I liked the flattery, and am hurt. He started all this.
I simply don't understand why he is reacting this way, I don't need a lecture on why this is unhealthy, I already know from the way I feel.
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He may have backed off knowing you were starting to have a crush on him. He may have only been looking for some innocent flirtation as well. Maybe he started having feelings himself and knew he couldn't do anything about it. I think you could talk to him about it and find out for sure. But, I think the best thing for your marriage would be to just forget about him. You know you still got it girl...go use it on the hubby!
By the way, I don't think you did anything wrong. The potential is there though, ya know? :)
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he backed off when you flirted with him because he got what he wanted from you which is attention ... after he gets what he wants he doesnt want it anymore ... its like playing hard to get .. once you give in they dont want it anymore because they see that they can get it when ever they want .It may have also been a thrill to flirt with a woman who is married and older that him and he has moved on and so should you .
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try flirting with your husband... it'll be even more enjoyable than flirting with some guy at work.
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well for this answer, you gotta decide. Do you know that your hasband really cares about you, or do you feel more safe and happy with this other man. once you have chosen the one, go for it, oh and when you started flirting with this man, he probaly got a bit awkard since you did tell him you wont ever cheat on your husband. P.S- Cheating is never the answer and if you do start to consider cheating remember you will probaly lose both of the guy's instead of the one.
-GOOD LUCK :D
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After he found out you were married and would never cheat on your husband he was probably wondering why you flirted back when he flirted with you. Hes probably just confused- so you may want to tell him how glad you are that you can still have a friendship with him- he may start to feel less confused!
<3 Maddie.. hope that helped!
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I think that when he 1st started to flirt with you, he didn't know you were married, but once he knew and saw that you were flirting with him, he might've been wondering why you were flirting with him, since you said you'd never cheat on your husband. He doesn't want to be involved with a possible affair. He's probably confused. Just be happy being friends, it seems like he really respects you. Good luck! Hope I helped!
♥ Erin
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