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jeolous friendship
My best friend has such a pretty face. She doens't have a great body but whatever. I'm always so jealous of her. Today she was wearing eyeliner for the first time. She was gorgeous! For some reason whenever she looks good I don't tell her...because im jealous. When I look good she tells me. I feel so bad. How can I stop being jealous of her???
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well everyone is beautiful in their own way. i know that sounds cheezy but its true. just tell her shes looks pretty or wutever. it culd turn out she might feel the same way about you. just be a good friend to her and soon the jealously thing will fade away. hope i helped
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you dont have to be jealous of her. you can't take her face so you cant really change anything. tell her that she looks nice so at least you are being polite. you can always try to make yourself look better but a face is something you're born with, be proud of the one you have!
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Tell her she looks good. Ask her to show you how to fix yourself up too! Hey, thats what friends are for! :)
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♥ hey babe..
Its natural to get jelous but you need to work on your self essteem. Dont compare yourself to her because its not fair for both of you. Just think of all the thngs you like about yourself and stop thinking about what she has and you dont. Be nice to her! she compliments you so compliment her! It iwll make her feel good and i bet your gorgous so dont worry about it. Be honest..if you think she looks cute then tell her..she tells you! xoxo_Lauren
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I think that everyone gets jealous in that way. But you shouldnt compare yourself to her. Your prob. totally gorgous but just have a diff. look than her. To stop being jealous I think you just need to relize that everyone looks diff.. Shes prob. gets jealous of your looks too. And if she doesnt have a great body and you do, i bet she gets really jealous of how awesome your body is. Just realize that you are totally beautiful and that your friend gets jealous of you too.
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Well there are a TON of pretty girls in the world! But you dont have to be jealous of her cuz shes your really good friend and she wouldnt never use her looks against you! and if you liked a guy you could talk to her and im SURE she wouldnt use her looks to get him! im sure your wicked pretty too! if you want some make-up tips, I have SOO many! just drop somethin in my inbox and i'll get back to you real soon!You should tell that shes pretty because EVERYONE loves feeling secure about themselves!
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Well,
for one thing, you need to know that you're pretty too. You're just as pretty as she is! You need that self-esteem goin', gurl! Stop telling yourself you think someone else is prettier than you. That's why you're jealous. I'm always jealous of someone I'm not: like... Jennifer Lopez. She has a great body, beautiful face, and millions of dollars. I give it up because I know that I'm not her and I have to deal with who I am and what I look like. This may help you but it may not. I tried my best and that's what I would do. Don't tell yourself these things! Tell yourself that no matter what, you're always going to be you and you don't have to change your whole self to look or feel any better. You're still going to be you when you wake up in the morning and when you go to bed at night! It's O.K, though. I don't think I'm pretty but my friends think I am!
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Well, don't feel that bad; there are a lot of people that feel like this. Jealously is such a natural and common emotion for teens to feel in relationships. I think first off, it's great that you think highly of your friend and are aware of the fact that you are a bit jealous. At least you're not in denial. But, what it sounds like to me is that before you can totally stop being jealous of her and be able to express the good things to her, YOU need to find more SELF CONFIDENCE! It sounds to me like it's not too high. I know we often don't see ourselves as pretty as we really are, because that just how it is, but you really need to focus on you. Treat yourself to a YOU day. What I mean by that is: Get a manicure and pedicure, get a new outfit, get some new makeup, try a new look, do your hair differently; just mix it up! It's summer so you have plenty of time to mess around. After you do some of this stuff you will feel refreshed and feel good about yourself. After this, try talking to your friend and tell her how you are feeling. Chances are, she's probably felt the same way at some point or another so she will be able to relate. I'm sure then she'll shower you with compliments and it will help you to realize how great you really are. Be proud of who you are. And don't let yourself think she is just telling you nice things to be nice. Next time your friend gives you a nice comment, say 2 in return to her. And the next time YOU put yourself down, say 2 positive things about yourself in it's place. I know it's weird, but it'll work. In the mean time, just focus on you and embrace that. :)
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