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I injured my foot last month , or more , & I went to the doctors , & they said its a sprain & it will be better in 3 weeks .. Its been well over a month now , & it still hurts , & Idk what to do .
Go back to see a doctor. If the first doctor you saw was your family doctor this time see an orthopedist or a sports medicine doctor. The family doctor is trained to take care of normal everyday problems. For problems that need more care the doctor should refer you to a specialist. In your case that specialist is an orthopedist or sports specialist doctor.
How to make my boobs big
Short answer is you can't. Those products you see advertised do not work. They may have a temporary effect but what you have or what you will have when puberty stops is what you are meant to have.
When you are 21 and puberty for most everyone has finished you can talk to a plastic surgeon about breast enhancement. I do not recommend this type of surgery unless you are willing to pay upwards of $20K or more for the surgery. Anything less gets you the type of surgery that in any type of revealing clothing screams fake boobs.
They will be bigger but they will not look natural. You can have both if you have the money. This type of surgery is not covered by insurance as it is considered non-essential cosmetic surgery.
My BF fingered me many times in this month. Can this lead to delay in periods?? If yes, for how many days??
Can fingering delay a period? Short answer is not by itself.
The stress of concern you have over being fingered that it may cause your period to be delayed; or the stress of believing you can get pregnant from fingering can cause a period to be delayed. It is the stress factor and nothing else. You can be stressed out from school work
or studying for a test. When you get older it could be all sorts of other stresses that can cause delayed periods. Stress in and un itself is the biggest cause of missed periods.
Now for a fact. You CANNOT GET PREGNANT FROM FINGERING. Now there is a chance that if there were some sperm cells on the finger doing the fingering that pregnancy might happen.
Statistically speaking the chances of that happening are so remote it is almost impossible.
If your concern is you are pregnant? Then take a home pregnancy test. If you are over 14 you can purchase on without parental permission. Follow the package directions as to when and how to take the test. If you're concerned mom will find the test kit keep it in your purse until it is time to test. Take the test; repackage the kit and put it back in your purse and dispose of it away from home. If you have not had unprotected sexual intercourse and your only sexual contact has been fingering the test will be negative.
Its sunday night and my mom found out I cut and says I can't do my modeling fashion show if they not gone by wednesday because I have fittings and the lady wouldn't let me model with marks all over me. Anyway I wanted to know how to get the cuts to go away by then? I've tried lemon juice. Any other sugeestions?
I don't think your mom really meant what she said. Mom is probably upset and confused about what to do. Most parents do not understand why a child will do this to themselves. Even though you try to hide the cutting scars you know you will be caught. The cutting is a cry for help. It is unfortunate that some parents do not realize this they think it is just an act of rebellion, it is not. Dial 911 or go to the nearest fire or police station and ask for help. They are safe havens for children.
In any case you can get help without her. dial 911 the next time you feel like cutting help will be sent to you. Mon cannot stop you or keep emergency responders from checking you out and taking you to a hospital for help.
There is no way to make any scar go away. Once you get a scar it is there for life. What Plastic Surgeons do is reduce the scars, which is another way of saying they hide them by moving them into a crease in your skin. What they are doing is actually making another scar in a place that isn't seen as easily as the one(s)you have and moving the scar you have into the hidden place. It may or may not be possible to do that with every scar.
I have two suggestions for you.
First: you need to stop cutting. Cutting is a coping mechanism brought on by stress or the need to relieve stress and the depression stress can cause. Try this instead of cutting. Find a big rubber band and let it hang loosely from your wrist. When you need to cut snap the rubber band against your wrist. Most people who cut find this a good alternative while they work to overcome the need to cut. Best of all you do not have to run and hide to do so. You can snap the rubber band when and where you need to.
Second: You need to find out why you cut. Yes it is a coping mechanism usually to cope with stress or depression and sometimes both. This takes the help of a professional person. A clinical psychologist is the best person to turn to.
The psychologist can help you find what triggers the need and find ways to overcome or eliminate the problem. The therapist is someone regardless of your age you can tell everything and anything to knowing it stays between you and the therapist. I would suggest you find a young female therapist to talk to as you will probably be more comfortable with a young female. What matters most is the confidentiality of your therapy. Nothing gets back to your parents that is said in therapy.
When your therapist speaks with your parents it is to tell them what they need to do to help you with whatever is found to be the root cause of why you need to cut. There are ways for them to do this without actually telling them what you talk about in therapy. Without violating your confidence.
My suggestion is you try what I suggested with the rubber band. Ask mom or dad to contact their EAP program at work for a referral to a Clinical Psychologist for you to see.
Most EAP programs will allow a certain amount of visits without cost to your parents. If the psychologist feels additional visit are needed he or she will work with your parents to get more from either the EAP program or their employee health plan.
I know this for certain; mom yelling at you will only cause you to cut more. TO overcome this problem requires a professionals help so talk to mom or dad.
I am 16 years old and I dated this guy for almost a year. We broke up last November, got back together in January, and broke up in February. There's something about him that I can't let go so I keep going back to him. I had him over yesterday and we were alone so we were kissing and one thing led to another and we ended up naked. We decided to have sex so he put his erect penis in my vagina for about a minute before taking it out and we did other stuff instead. I'm really worried because that's when I was most fertile. He didn't cum in me but I'm worried about his precum. Should I take plan b? should i be fine? I have soccer scholarships on the line I can't get pregnant I'm really worried please HELP!
This comes under the heading of: When in doubt do what has to be done for your own protection so yes take the I-Pill.
As a 16 year old you have the right to seek birth control medication from your doctor without parental permission or knowledge. This right is given to you under a Federal Law known as HIPPA. In this law is a section that gives young people medical confidentiality over their reproductive systems when they turn 14 years of age.
This means that when it comes to your reproductive system; no one, not mom or dad can have any access to medical information concerning your reproductive system medical information. Your doctors cannot talk to your parents about any visit you may have or any treatment you receive that is for or includes your reproductive system.
If your school system, as ours does, requires all students to have a physical before the start of the school year. IF your doctor includes a pelvic exam in your physical, mom cannot be in the exam room and mom cannot know the results of the physical without your written consent to the doctor to release this information.
Your reproductive system is now entirely your responsibility. Congress wrote this in to the law not to give young people license to have sex. They did so that in the event there is a problem that you would not talk to a parent about. This law allows you to go to any doctor of your choosing to have the problem cared for. This includes abortion rights. You can't be forced to have one or stopped from having one by your parents.
This also means you can ask for and receive birth control medication and your doctor must prescribe it and the pharmacist must dispense it. No one can see your medical records concerning you reproductive health without your written permission. To release this information without your permission means who ever did so faces 5 years in prison and a $5,000fine.
I am about to be 19 years old and I lost my virginity when I was 15. I Did not bleed ever during sex ever but it just happened to me while i was getting fingered by my boyfriend. He asked if I was a virgin even though this wasnt the 1st time we did this so I dont know what he meant. He said it was maybe normal and maybe popped my cherry cause I was too tight. I was also a bit intoxicated. No pain, and went away after I cleaned myself up. What could this be? :(
Lets set the record straight about just what the Hymen is: It is a thin membrane that stretches across the opening of the vagina. It generally has a circular or oval shaped opening through which menstrual fluid can flow out.
In many instances a female can be fingered through this opening and not break this membrane. This membrane can become dislodged from things like horse back riding, bike riding, gymnastics and falling.
If the Hymen is still intact when having first sexual intercourse it will be ruptured. This generally causes a sharp pain when it is ruptured and some bleeding. It does not stretch to accommodate the penis. Some women using a tampon may rupture their Hymen and not know it.
As to your question: Most likely your boyfriend either cut you internally with his nail or a callouses or he rubbed you raw to the point you bled. IF you have had intercourse, unless your partners penis was extremely thin, your Hymen was broken. If you felt no pain then you were one of the lucky ones or you had lost you Hyman to one of the many other ways a Hymen can become dislodged.
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Been looking at holidaying in Britain for say 5 days. Really fancy a caravan, mobile home type holiday. However, i dont drive so is there anywhere for relatively cheap accommodation like this where its easy to get too if you done drive.
I dont have kids ill be on my own, just want a few days away maybe do a bit of sightseeing shopping etc and somewhere where i can just chill in the evenings with a book.
Any ideas?
I've been to Britain and Scotland and found I did not need to rent a car. The transportation system there and in most of Europe is much better than here in the States. My wife and I were able to get to all the tourists spots by using either the Tube, their subway, while in London or the Rail system for the rest of the trip. You can purchase tube and rail passes good for unlimited travel prior to leaving.
This leaves only finding accommodations. Like here you will find the accommodations there to run from high to low. One good value is British Airways tour packages which includes a nice hotel in London or just outside of London for the low cost hotels and motels.
I would suggest you seek help from a good travel agent. They are paid by the hotels and the airlines so they cost you nothing. We used an American Express travel agent and had a wonderful Holiday well within our travel budget. The agent also suggested some things to do in the evening that we had not known about which became the highlight of our trip.
My advice: Set your budget figure for travel and accommodations, then go see a good travel agent and let them book and prepay you reservations. Buy rail and tube passes for travel within London and Great Britain. If you travel up to Scotland you need not travel back to London to return home. You can leave from Edinburgh or Glasgow. Given that you are looking at a 5 day stay this saves you a day of travel and the Edinburgh Castle is worth seeing if you can make the time.
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Does anyone know of any real health risks invovled with taking the mini pill. I am no longer in a relationship but still take it as it has stopped my menstral cycle but have read various web sites some saying that there is no added chance of getting certain cancers particularly breast cancer others say it is a slightly higher risk. Luckily i have only ever taken the pill since march this year so have not been on it for long, Thanks
I did some quick research on the mini-pill. None of the articles I looked at said anything about a higher risk of cancer by taking this pill. It is my understanding, which is by no means absolute, that oral contraceptives in general does raise the possibility of certain cancers in women.
Since none of the articles I looked at raised the question of a higher risk of cancer? I would suggest that this be a question you raise with your GYN. It is a good question to ask and to find out if this pill has a higher risk than any of the other medications available for birth control.
I am including a link to one of the articles I believe you should look at. It has information I believe you need to know about under the heading of risks which also should be discussed with your doctor. One of the risks listed is that 1 to 13 women in 100 will get pregnant while using this pill during the first year of use. This is much higher than other medications. It was also noted that there is a higher risk of these pregnancies being ectopic.
An ectopic pregnancy is more risky than certain cancers. I would think these risks might be something you would want to discuss with your doctor.
http://www.babycenter.com/0_birth-control-pills-the-minipill-progestin-only-pills_1472113.bc
I think it's asthma , but I'm seeing a doctor this week. I thought I'd ask you guys before seeing a doctor about this.
About me: I smoke heavily sometimes, I DO NOT inhale the smoke, and I stay for months without any smoke or anything, my breath underwater "sucks" sorry for the word if I'm not allowed to use such language on this board. I can only stay for less than 15seconds holding my breath, I face problems breathing every once in a week.
Any thoughts?
High fives to all like always
-Thank You
First: None of us are doctors so it would be wrong for any of us to even think to suggest what your problem might be.
Second: There is not enough information here to even suggest what the problem might be even if we were inclined to make a suggestion.
Third: and most important is you are doing the right thing by going to see a doctor. Only your doctor can make a diagnoses which will be based on the results of an examination, any testing that need be done and the doctors knowledge of your personal physiology.
Breathing problems are scary though they are not a reason to jump to a conclusion you have a terminal disease either.
Just so you know most people cannot hold their breath for very long. Fifteen seconds is a lifetime to some people. For those people who can hold their breath for longer periods it is because they have learned how to do so. It requires practice and the ability to slow down your entire body functions, such as heart rate and other functions.
Having a breathing problem once a week makes my very uneducated guess go along with yours that it may be some type of asthma or other type of bronchial spasm.
There is also one other type of breathing problem which is not a breathing problem at all. It could be, given it only happens once a week, that you are having an anxiety attack of some sort not unusual for your age. During these attacks you are actually getting to much oxygen. Breathing into a paper bag restores proper balance and you breath normally again.
Make sure to tell the doctor what is happening to you when these breathing problems occur. When these attacks happen and if they last for any amount of time.
When these attacks happen and if the last for any amount of time you can and should call 911. The EMTS and paramedics that will respond to help you will be able to restore your normal breathing.
As a now retired fire department first responder medical help is what we do today. We would rather you call us than not call us. You do not have to be an adult to call you just have to be having a problem you can't handle such as a breathing problem. If mom and dad are not home to help you then we are there to help you. Just pick up the phone and call. Help will be sent. In my area that help will be the Fire department engine company closest to you, and ambulance from the closest available station and a police officer for your protection. Everyone sent is being sent to help you.
If you need help then you call 911. You will not get in trouble for calling even if they find your problem is not serious.
I am a 21 year old female, and I'm having a really hard time reaching orgasm without using vibration.
I know it's possible. Which brings up a second part to this question as well that I'm actually really embarrassed to explain.... I'm a total freak in bed. I LOVE having sex - ANY kind of sex. And I'm really enthusiastic about it too; I arch my back, I moan and breathe strongly (I don't scream at the top of my lungs, or anything), and any act I perform I put my all into it. I genuinely enjoy pleasing a guy and myself, except, I can't please myself. Not truly. Unless I use vibration. So could it be that I'm defective, or because I feel like I don't have the right person to be the one to do it? Because I feel like I'm never on an equal playing field with who I sleep with. I say what I want from him, but he's either intimidated or just can't do it. Don't get me wrong, making love is great but I find it so much more sexy to be thrown around and fucked like a dirty whore. If I find someone who feels the same way about sex could I possibly orgasm? The best way to try and explain it is that I can only do so much on my part. And do you think I should go for older guys in hopes that they know what they're doing? Like 10 or maybe even 15 years older? I just feel like I have this inner vixen that has yet to truly be let out and maybe that's why I haven't been able to orgasm. Like maybe if I find the right guy to tap into it and bring it out I won't have this problem anymore. I want to handle and be handled. Dominate and be dominated. But I seem to freak guys out with how sexual I become. Either all of that applies, or I'm just not able to orgasm.
So: Am I "defective"? What are some ways to try and orgasm? Or should I find someone older, more experienced and compatible with my style of sex, and be willing to do what pleases me to see if that might work?
One would think that having good sex would be as natural as rolling out of bed. Unfortunately it is not. First we have to know our own bodies. Second we have to be willing to tell our partners what we want that goes for both the man and the women. Neither partner can read the others mind so how can you tell what turns the other on if you/they don't speak up. Problem is we are fearful of making the other inadequate or a think they are a poor lover.
As for the first part. There are about 20% of women who will never orgasm for what men consider normal lovemaking. By that I mean strictly vaginal stimulation, where the guy sticks a couple of fingers in her and goes to town on her. The reason is that these women are more clitoral in nature. They need their clitoris stimulated to get excited. The other 80% of women need only minimal clitoral stimulation and mostly fingering which is how the male has learned to make love. Which is mostly by watching porn or reading porn.
There are sexual positions for women who are more clitoral in nature that allow for more clitoral contact while having intercourse allowing them to have an orgasm.
The fact that the vibrations from a vibrator get you off tells me this may very well be the case with you. Yes, you may very well also like being treated, as you say, like a whore. I think some of the positions you like when being treated like a whore actually stimulate your clitoris more. Doggy style can stimulate your G-spot which also affects you clitoris.
Do this. Take your vibrator and only vibrate your clitoris. If you have a orgasm from just stimulating your clitoris then I believe that is your problem. You're not defective at all. You just need to show your partner how best to stimulate you. Find sex positions that allow for more clitoral stimulations and a little longer foreplay for you will go a long way to a better sex life.
Nothing says that being tossed around the bedroom or being treated like a whore isn't something you should stop doing if you like it. It should not be the only way you can have successful lovemaking. There will be times when you will want to just be made love to and those times should be successful too.
If you want an older lover that is up to you. I don't think you will need one if I am correct and the problem is as I believe. Once you teach your partner to please you the problem should be solved. If your partner is hurt by the fact that you need to teach him, then find a new partner for he is not respectful of you or your needs.
Sex is something we learn and we should be open to our partners individual needs and desires. As long as the desires won't hurt you or hurt them, or either partner find them so outside the realm then their is nothing weird or wrong about them. As long as you both consent to try something then it is right for you.
Good luck.
I love theater . I live in New York and im young though im 14 but i want to know where are some good schools for a college where i could study theater and performing arts further even if its not as prestigious of a school as Juilliard or the manhattan school of music ^.^ ideas?(:
The two school you mentioned are two of the best schools in the country. They also have the smallest acceptance for enrolment.
Given the fact that you are 14 and most likely just starting high school I am going to suggest the following something you can start to do this summer.
You say you live in New York, hopefully close enough to the city that you can take advantage of the pre-college programs both schools offer. At 14 you are in the middle of the age groups for the admission to the program. The program is a full day on Saturday and runs from September to May.
If you do not live close enough then they can advise you of what courses to take in high school or what programs near you that will prepare you for entrance to their schools. So give them a call.
I'm not sure if you can still make this falls admission or not. Though nothing ventured nothing gained. While talking to them you can find out about other schools who may caterer more to exactly what you're looking for. You can also find out when to apply for next falls admission to the pre-college program.
If these two schools are the schools you really want then trying to get into the pre-college program is something you must try. I would think they would first choose from those students coming from their pre-college program that have demonstrated the needed qualifications for enrolment in their college program.
Just put the two school names into a search engine and you will get returned all the information you need to contact the school. I used yahoo to find them.
His name isnt jason but im gonna call him that Jason came here from Ecuador and i wanna know are immigrants allowed to get married? :/
This all depends on the type of immigrant he is or the type of visa he has.
If he is here on a student visa he may be allowed to marry but he may have to leave the country when his visa is up. This all depends on what country he is from and whether immigration believes he is not marrying you just to get to stay in this country.
If he is a resident alien, with a green card. Then he has almost all the same rights and privileges that you do. There may be some extra paperwork involved, something the clerk of the courts would be able to tell you when you file for your license. Other than paperwork there should be no problem.
If he is in the country illegally, filing for a marriage license could cause his arrest and deportation. One reason of course is it is wrong to be here illegally even if he was brought here as a child by his parents. Second he could be arrested for trying to marry a U S citizen to gain legal status. This too is unlawful and you could be charged as well if found complicit.
I know these answer we have given you are not the ones you want to hear. The best advice I or any of us can give you is. If you two really want to marry he needs to first straighten out his immigration status. You need to find a good immigration lawyer. You can call your local Bar Association for a recommendation. Remember that conversations with a lawyer are confidential so you can speak freely with the lawyer without fear.
There are no guarantees that legal status will be gained for your boyfriend by the lawyer. Much depends on how he came to this country. It will also be expensive but without a lawyer it is almost impossible at the moment to gain a green card which is what he needs.
I want a laptop that I can download music on & burn to CD, have Microsoft word & powerpoint for school, games & built in security & under $1,000. What laptop has these features?
I have had excellent service with Dell Computers. I like them for several reason. First I can pretty much configure them as I want and still stay in the price range of the ready to go models at the big box stores.
Go online and see what Dell has ready to go in what they show as pre-configured. They build each computer to order but the configurations they show and price are standards. You can also modify their standard builds, just follow their options in build it yourself.
One time I needed a far from standard computer for a project. I worked with one of their specialists and we were able to build what I needed for about half the price I was being quoted by local build specialists.
Given the popularity of Tablets today I believe you will find the laptop you're looking for at a price far below what your willing to pay. In fact for what you're willing to pay you can upgrade almost everything on one of their laptops and still be close to what you're willing to pay. just go to dell.com.
well im female/19.
Me and my ex boyfriend are still in contact were still friends, and well we have them conversations where we always talk about the past, like we bring up memories and our sexual experiences together..
we've spoke about us having sex again, he was the last guy i had sex with to be honest.. and well we both want to do it would it be wrong? cause inside it's something i really want to do and i would o it over and over again, like i know it would be just sex but since he's my ex we both know what we like, and I have that feeling that by us having sex feelings would be there he once said it himself..
I don't think it is right for any of us to say if you should have sex with your ex or not. Sex is a very personal thing something you need to decide for yourself.
What I will say, based on your last sentence, is if you build a relationship built on sex alone you are building a relationship on quicksand. There needs to be more to a relationship[ then good sex. At some point you will find the need to talk to each other and find you have nothing in common or that your ideals are opposite. This may be the reason you are no longer in a relationship together.
In short I think what I'm saying is that getting back together because you're horny is probably not the best of reasons. Just my thoughts on the matter.
Blue spots , seven blue spots on my legs and 2 on my hands. I did NOT hit them or injur or fall myself on'em !
Any ideas?
High fives to everyone
Thank You-
Whoever said this to you has absolutely no idea what the heck they are talking about. None of us are doctors so it is impossible for us to make a diagnoses. Only a doctor who can see and feel or do proper testing can make a proper diagnoses. You cannot tell by looking or by color.
As a parent I will tell you that spots on your hands, legs or anyplace else on your body can be very normal. You can't make a diagnoses of what something is by looking at it. A doctor would have to look at it and determine if testing is required to see if it is something abnormal or if it is just a spot or a common rash.
My advice is to let mom or dad look at the spots. I'm fairly certain they will tell you they are nothing to be concerned with. IF you are really upset by them go see your family doctor who am also certain with put you at ease over them. Tee worst case scenario I could foresee is your family doctor sending you to a dermatologist for treatment of some type of dermatitis.
Ever since my period ended (started July 22), I've been having the weirdest symptoms. I did have unprotected sex with my husband. But it was only a few days after my period ended in the "safe zone", cycle day 7. I don't ovulate until next week (or so they say - 30 day cycles). But I've been having ovary pains, very light cramping, no discharge! (which is bizarre for me), headaches, slight stomach aches, armpit pain, and sore breasts. I feel like my hormones are out of wack. Could unprotected sex cause this? I don't know what else it would be. I don't get my period until Aug 19.
Yes, unprotected sex does cause hormonal changes. It is called being pregnant. Your symptoms; Ovary pain, light cramping, some discharge and sore breasts are all symptoms of pregnancy. You need to see your GYN to make sure this is a normal pregnancy and not an ectopic one.
Most of your symptoms are normal pregnancy symptoms. It is the armpit pain that is possibly abnormal. I'm not a doctor I cannot say for sure. All I did was some quick facts checking and that is one symptom that popped out at me.
I don't wish to scare you but if you are pregnant and it is an ectopic pregnancy it is a life threatening condition. You need to see your GYN ASAP and have your pregnancy confirmed and to see if it is a normal pregnancy.
Just for the record. Most women, about 80%, ovulate in the middle two weeks of their cycle. Just where in that two week cycle is different for every women. Seven days into a 21 day cycle could be you were into your ovulation window. Given that sperm live 3 days you may be pregnant.
Take a home test if you want. I really believe you need to schedule an appointment with your GYN ASAP. Tell the appointment secretary you may have an ectopic pregnancy. This will get you an immediate appointment.
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Okay i will be going into college in 2 years, and i Really want to study for a field agent, but my boyfriend doesn't agree with me. He wants me to have a job where i can spend some time with him, and our future kids. He says i need to find a job where i'm going to have time for him, and be able to spend time with the kids, not a job that i will probably never be home, or always have to travel places and blah, blah, blah. We are planning to get married and have children, but anyways. I really want to become a field agent, and i don't know if i should look for another career to satisfy him, what should i do, i don't want him feeling sad ???. : /
Thanks very much-
Statistically speaking your current boyfriend at 16 years of age will not be your boyfriend once the two of you go off to college. That is simply the facts of life.
Statistics aside for the moment. If you were to compromise your goals in life to satisfy anyone not just your boyfriend. It could also be to satisfy your parents, you will probably feel unfulfilled in life and that will lead to hard feelings later in life.
I know a gentleman who wanted to be a doctor, his parents thought he should be an engineer so he could take over his fathers business some day. He became an engineer and when his father retired he sold the business, went back to school at the ripe old age of 50 to become a doctor. He became a doctor and practiced well into his late 80's.
He said he followed his teachings rather than his heart or to disappoint his parents. He was miserable as an engineer even though he was good at it. Is this what you would want for you. To settle for a second best career just because your current boyfriend wants to keep you home barefoot and pregnant?
You can always change careers down the road if your life goals change. Maybe in 10 or 15 years staying home barefoot and pregnant is what you want from life. You would have tried and hopefully been successful at being a field agent. With the proper education for that career you can transition to one that will allow you to stay home.
Never compromise your goals to satisfy someone else's needs for you. Your current boyfriend by making this type of demand on you now is showing every possibility that when he gets older he will be very controlling.
You don't need or want someone who is going to try and control every aspect of your life. You are getting a picture today of what life with him will be like in the future. My advice is you reevaluate your relationship with him. Controllers never change. You may wish to find someone who will value you as a person and respect you as a women. This is a man who will value the time you have for him and will be waiting for you when you come home.
My husband and I haven't been separated very long but our marriage was over along time ago we stayed together for the kids. Didn't even sleep in the same room for over a year. I moved over 12 hours away. Long story short I am in love with my ex. My sons father. Every time I see him I get butterflies we talk so good together every thing seems so perfect when we talk. I'm not sure how he feels though. He gives kind of mixed feelings. I have known him for 7 years.
There is very little to work with in what you have written.
What I will say is; it is possible to love someone, as you do, but impossible to live with them as man and wife or even as just lovers. This may just be the case with you and your Ex.
The only way I know of to find out is to talk to each other and I mean truly talk to each other. You may need to talk with a marriage counselor present to be an unbiased third person to help you sort through some issues.
The type of discussions you need to have are sole searching ones. You need to look for what caused you marriage to fail in the first place. What caused one of you to leave the marital bed. Right now I cannot truly say you are in love or just miss being married, which is another of the possibilities.
If you want to give marriage with your ex another chance. This is assuming he is wanting the same thing, then you need to find what caused the marriage to fail in the first place or it is very possible it will fail again.
As I said in the beginning I know several couples who truly love each other. They have a great sex life and can have a great social life. They just cannot live under the same roof without fighting constantly. It is the fighting that causes them great pain and harms their love for each other.
A therapist can explain this better than I can. This may or may not be the problem in your marriage. My only advice is before you and your husband start living together again, if he is willing. You need to find out what is broken in your relationship and see if it is fixable.
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22/f I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and there's the very real possibility that we will be engaged within the next 1-3 years. His cousin is 24/f and engaged currently. We are all very close friends, and went out for a double date last night. During dinner she jokingly brought up the subject of me and my boyfriend getting engaged in the near future, then more seriously brought up how she has this prenotion that she will be picking out my ring with my boyfriend. She is a good friend to me, but she gets very jealous over rings, constantly comparing others in his family to her own. I know she would pick out something lesser than hers, and besides that I would prefer it if my boyfriend picks it out himself without her opinion, considering I want to wear something that HE absolutely loves. It's not about the ring size to me, but the thought of her influencing my boyfriend so that I can be another comparison really bothers me for some reason. Is it pushy for me to ask him to (when the time comes) pick one out on his own? Or to go with someone from my family instead? Maybe I am over thinking this? Thanks.
While you may be overthinking the situation or problem, if you want to call it that, at this time. I also think its is appropriate to say something to your boyfriend about how you fell. I agree this is a gift from him to you, a token of his love and affection for you; one that signifies he wants to make a lifetime commitment with you.
I believe if you two are talking about getting married then it is appropriate for you to tell him how you feel about an engagement ring. You should say to him, I would love any ring you give me as long as it is something you chose on your own. Something you love for it signifies your love foe me. Size and shape is not what is important it is the significance of what the ring signifies that is important to me.
I hope this helps you. I'm somewhat of a romantic at heart.