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At what age do teenagers usually get past basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually?What I mean is...when do they start to form their own opinions,have some idea of what they want out of life,and just generally gain a more adult outlook?
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No one can wake up one morning and decide they are a grownup.Things in this world dont work like that. It has to be a gradual change over a period of time, which fluctuates from person to person. Depending on what people go through in their lives, determains how fast they will grow up, and begin thinking on more of an intellectual standard. I am a believer of that they start making their own decisions once they can vote, and are married. I say when they vote because the outcome of an election is on their shoulders, and they have to make the most educated decision. I believe that they also get their own opinions when they are married because lets face it- every married couple has different beliefs, and sometimes fight according to their beliefs, standards, and what they believe it right or wrong. They have their own opinions, because they are faced with opposition within their household. I think that DN's age range is perfect. I would say between 25-maybe 32, is when they start thinking more intellectually.
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in 7th grade, when i was 13 - 14 years old, i began not caring so much about the lesser things in life. i think you are wrong about people following fashions, because although people may wear abercrombie & such, they might just like wearing it for themselves, not cause everyone else wears it to be cool... & it also depends on the teenager. i'm not sure what i want to be when i grow up yet, but i do know that i have my own opinions about everything and don't just go along with what everyone else says or thinks.
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funny enough this stage has just hit me. right well basically the wya it hit me for the rest of my life thing is that i want to achieve good goals in life and earn a decent paycheck but i realised that i have to wor for the qualifications basically i failed everything then realised this. this gave me a kick up the arse and tarted making me want to learn and plan my future etc.. you cant just wait for the teen to realise something has to show them. im 15 by the way i hope this helped.
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i think its when they want to be known as an individual and start to become interested in standing out and stuff.
unfortunately, some teens never get to that point.
some will always be babied by other people, but might break out of the shell when they notice everyone is telling them something different.
i hope i actually answered this.
but on a side note: i'm a teenager too.
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Really so many people are different. I'm 15 and i still have so much growing up to do. But I do try to think to my best ability. Some kids my age are just living off of their parents and not thinkin' yet. Me...I would like to say that I do think on my own. I try to give outlooks on life that are believable and arrangable. I still am a goof-off at times, but I know when to be serious. And as for what I want out of life...that part I haven't completely mastered. I do know things I want to do in life before I die. Things like help children in Africa and work for an organization that gives to the needy. That may not be what you are looking for, but those are my two most concerned thoughts when it comes to my life and other lives. What I really want in life is to be happy most of the time. I'm not sure if that is really looking beyond everything and examining things, but if you think about it that can be a way of teenagers expressing their true feelings. Also I have a lot of friends who still have not comprehended the whole be-serious when you are suppose to and be-fun when you are suppose to. My friends get those really confused. Being mature means you know when enough is enough and too much is too much. I feel like I understand those, but my friends don't always. So you see, it really depends on how you have been brought up and other related characters. I hope I answered your question.
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Probably mid 20's. Seriously. My average age of friends is probably 21, and we're still rather immature. Are we on the same level as someone who is 15? No, not at all. I wouldn't consider any of us adults though.
Hell, some people in their 30's still haven't figured out how to be mature.
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im 13, and im not going to lie, im still very immature. im more mature than kids my age yes, but if you put me in an adult situation i wouldnt make it. maturing is when you can handle adult situations, if someone says "im grown up" their not really, or if you get in stupid fights over everytihng and let friendships die from it, you know your not mature, it depends on the person. i disagree with what other people said about parents, nothing to do with parents, your parents raise you yes, and they help you become the person you are yes, but they dont walk up to you one day and go, your mature, no it has really nothing to do witht the parents if you ask me, were all immature at times, you know getting drunk becuase of a heartbreak is pretty immature theres better ways to handle things you know? well, i have a strong outlook on things like this and i could go on for a while. but jsut becusae i have a strong outlook on lets say politics (i knwo this insnt politics its an example) well jsut becuase i have a strong outlook doesnt mean im mature, well i hope this helped <3
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It varies.Everyone is different.
I think when parents give their teenagers responsiblitlty, they begin to think more intellectually and sensible because they know they've gained trust from their parents and its hard to get i back.Being with other cultures,friends and at school helps them give their own opnions.Socializing with other people helps make them think about situations and when given the chance to work in groups and school, ideas grow and conifidence grow too.
Teenagers begin to grow up, become intellectual give their own opnions in their own time, it depends what and who they are growing up with and what the parent provides them with ie : love,trust, responsisbilty.
Some teenagers already come from big-opnionted-loud families so thinking for yourself comes natuarlly.
Quite random but media, celebs and magazines too.
Seeing what they have and what celebrities are achiveing makes them think wow...I'd love to work as or... wow that dress is amazing.
But genearlly opnions are not formed when you're just a teenager. your opnions are with you in your mind even when your 6 or seven its just being that bit older you feel confident and ready to TALK about your opnions and not keep it to yourself.Teenagers do get to the stage of expressing what they feel and their opnions because even when they get all hormonal and angry and lash out, and they have arguements, theyy express their feelings and onpinons then.
I know that I'd like to become a maybe something in performing arts -> i though about this and that is what i want out of my life, and because my hobby is performing arts, it sticks to you and what colours you love, hobbies you love stick to you ect and then goes on mixed with your ambitions, giving you what you want out of life anf your opnions.
Sounds stupid but i know what names i'd like to give my kids and the job I'd like, and I have thought about this not simply because my brain told me to but my bacckgrounds and my magazines, my sister gave me the influence of what names I'd like because she's thought of it too.
We can gain more of an adult outlook when we are given trust,honesty and are asked opnions and most of all being treated like an adult NOT A KID and I think thats good and bad treating us like kids sometimes because yes it is fustrating but it lets have that "opnio" outburst.sorry if i am talking a load of gibberish!
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It depends on the type of situations they go through and the experience they get. For me, 15/f, I gained it quite early at around 14 because of my struggles in life. I've learnt to cope on my own and handle my finances. Others gain it later in life because they are sheltered by their parents and have no experience in the real world.
So I think that's something the person(teen) has to know for themself.
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I am an intelligent person who has always been able to think for myself. always. I do buy some fashions, but only becuase I like them- not because everyone else buys them. I won't buy it if I don't like it.
I realized completely what I wanted to get out of life when I first turned 14, and I've always had a more adult outlook on things since I could talk, but I completed that around 13.
I'm not your average small-minded teenage girl who only cares about her nails.
But I'm the only person I know who is like that.
Most of the people in my area (50-year-olds included) are shallow and can't think for themselves.
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I'm 14 and going into 10th grade. i think that everyone matures differently. i matured some what when i was in 8th grade and even more when i was in 9th grade. this has to do with the way i've been raised and the hard ships i've faced. last year i started to cut, got caught, got in trouble and i learned from it. i haven't done that since. then issues with my mother about my friends taught me that i should pick friends wisely. i recently got in trouble for drinking, i learned that it can wait till i'm 21. i also got into a lot of verbal fights with people but i learned that they are pointless. but yet for most kids in my high school, they are not really that mature. they all drink or do drugs. and the drama in my school could make your head spin. so to ask what age. it really depends on the person, their expierences how they handle them, and how they were raised. for most kids, i think it might hit them late senior year of the summer after their senior year. because they realize they don't have it easy anymore and they need to grow up and make a living for themselves. no more help from mommy and daddy. and a lot of them get scared from it. me personally, i buy most of the stuff i own because i really don't like having people buy stuff for me or give me money. i'm only 14 but i already know i'm going to be a pharmacist and go to albany college of pharmacy. i also know that school is very hard because my oldest brother goes there, but i want it more than anything and i'm going to work for it to the best i can. maturity is just a word. and people throw it around like they do love. people can say they are mature, but how do you really know? for all you know about me, i could have made up this entire then thus making my entire answer false. it's all a matter of background on a person.
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I'm 13, and there are maybe two or three matured people in my grade(me being one of them.) I'm honestly not the type that whines that "yes they are mature." The one thing I really hate about adults, is that they think "haha. they think they're mature, but they're definitely not. they're only (insert age)." I don't think age effects it(except if you're like 8). You're maturity level, and how fast you mature is based on your life experiences, and how your parents raise you. My parens have always raised me to form my own opinions. I have mine. They have theirs. I'm for gays, and my mom's not. She doesn't yell at me for that, and I don't yell at her for that. We respect eachothers opinions on things like that. Also, based on my family's profession, I've been seeing and UNDERSTANDING the "real world" since I was 10. Honestly, at that time, maturity didn't seem that great for me. And sometimes I wish I was a bit like all the other kids having fun. Sometimes I wish for my "chlid-like innocence" back, but a lot of the time it feels good to know that you're not like some other people who act so immaturely and different from you.
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i think it depends on the person
some teenagers have brilliant opinions
and some 50 year olds dont
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I'd say on average, around 18 or 19, by college. It's all about peer pressure, really. In middle school and high school, teenagers have just discovered that they aren't little children any more and are still pretty inexperienced. IT'S ALL ABOUT PROVING THAT YOU'RE OLDER. Guys are only interested girls who look sexually mature because they're sick of being around little girls their whole life and they want to grow up. This need to prove that they're "older" influences everything about the way we think.......we want to wear sexy clothes in order to look older, we want to date older guys because we want to be older.....with all the pressure to be older, lots of teenagers can't form their own opinions because they're worried that other kids will make fun of them. And truly, it does hurt to be tormented in school. I know all about it. It lowers your self-esteem greatly.
By college, you don't need to prove that you're older.....you're already an young adult. And people are already too busy planning their own futures to have time to make fun of people. In college, there's no "crowd" that you have to follow in order to be "cool", it's all about YOU and YOUR future. There's not as much sense of a "togetherness" in a college class as there is in a high school class.
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I would say 14-15. Because they are going to high school and they have a little more freedom so they need to make their own choices and they come a little more independant.
Jess<3
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Never. Is an adult outlook really thinking for yourself? We are all consumer whores. We are all told what to think by someone. Usually, the media, comercials, subliminal advertising. We buy overpriced clothes, overpriced cars, and let supposed smart people tells us what are the right and wrong ways to be. We conform to societies norms, that isn't thinking for yourself. We follow laws, that is not thinking for yourself. We go on websites like this and ask for people to tell up what to think. So reading your question as a whole, never. But, if I strip out all the intermediate stuff and read "when do teenagers get a more adult outlook" it really depends. Some will actually get it at 13-14 as people are saying, though definitely not most. That really only happens through hardships. Some will gain it at about age 19, when they hit college, which is a lot like the real world. Still, others will keep partying until age 24, get out of college, get a real job, and finally realize what the world is like, after having been in it for a while. But of course you also have to realize that it isn't an instant change, its a general growth, its not like on the 24th birthday, a person wakes up and is an adult.
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it is impossible to give a specific age, it varies for everyone. some teens mature faster than others, while some take longer. also, teens will often mature in a certain area, but not in others.
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Opinions are more like answers to questions. Granted the "big" questions don't really have clear answers, and just because you believe your answer to be true... It doesn't necessarily make you right and anyone else wrong. That's why it's called an opinion.
So... You can't really form an opinion-your answer-until you've asked yourself the question first.
When do I think the average human being starts to ask themself the questions that will lead to the answers that shape who they are? Because all people are different, I don't believe there is a specific age or even a specific age range.
Usually, I believe, there must me a specific situation or event that triggers a person to start asking questions. For some this "trigger event" occurs early in life, for others it occurs later. For example... My first trigger event occurred when I was around 16 or 17. At that time I had decided to become heavily involved with the church... But as I learned more about the religion that I claimed to believe... The more conflicted I felt. I started asking myself lots of questions. Questions about God, the Bible, tolerance, good and evil, etc. It was when I started to ask myself these questions about religion that so many more questions about people, the world, and life popped up.
I would say that I was capable of independent thought and formulating my own opinion by the age of eighteen. I didn't have my answers then... But I was determined to find them. By myself and for myself.
For me... The situation that lead to independence was becoming aware of all the evil that existed in one religious institution. For others it can be an abusive parent, losing someone they love at a tender age... And so many others. Some of these occur for some people at early ages, while for others these events do not occur until later in life. One event that triggers indepence for some people IS indepence... Graduating from college, starting a career, and moving out of their parents' house. They can experience conflict because now they realize that perhaps their career choice wasn't a very good career choice... Simply because they hate their job. Or perhaps shock because they have now been plunged into the "real" world.
Bottom line: I don't believe there is a certain age. Everyone's different, everyone moves at their own pace.
I would like to mention... Moving slowly is not a "bad" thing. Maybe if we didn't try to move so fast, we'd enjoy the "where we're at in life" a lot more... And not look back on our childhood as "the good old days." So... Whoever you are, and for whatever reason you ask... Don't rush. Life happens soon enough. ;)
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The sad part is that there are some people that never get out of that. You might even know a few.
That doesn't usually come until mid to late twenty's. By that time, they realize that shows they saw on MTV or other places weren't as "real" as they claimed to be. There really are taxes to pay, jobs to attend to, people to look after, etc. After a few reality shocks, unfortunately some in the form of a loss whether it be a prized possession, job, or even somebody they know, is when some people come to realize that life doesn't always cut you some slack.
I think that the more things people are exposed to, the broader their mindset is and the more personal experience they posses to form their own opinions. When somebody learns to unplug themselves from the sitcoms, reality shows, celebrity gossip, slanted media, and biased reports, then that forces them to think for themselves and decide what world events are important. If all I heard about on the news every single day was the war over in Iraq, then that would lead me to believe that it is very important and that nothing else was.
It comes to everyone at a different age, but I won't limit it to twenties because there are some who have done much better in their teens. That is one of the reasons why I think most girls are doomed to fail in her relationships if she aims for or only dates older guys because 'they are older and that means more mature'. Total garbage. If they base that on the idea that since guys their age are immature, so therefore older guys are better, then that was their first relationship mistake.
You learn to think for yourself when you stop caring what others think of you. Lets take this example. John just started high school, but he's having no luck with the ladies...in fact, they all laugh at him and think he's weird and they never talk to him. He's not a star athlete and doesn't have the face of a model. So his four years at high school are limited to him just because he never went outside of the girls in his high school. Thirty years down the road he's married, has a job, and kids of his own. In the long run, did the opinion of those girls John knew in high school matter at all? Absolutely not. Wanting to be your own person, define yourself, and not let anybody you know change you or make you feel inferior for doing so is the first step to maturity. I really don't see too many adults getting upset or worrying about what clothes they wear or what others think of them anymore.
Don't get the wrong idea though, because this comes to everyone (hopefully) at a different point in their life. Sometimes the earlier, the better, when it comes to deciding what they want out of life. For the most part, everyone wants the best they can get out of life...they just don't know what that is. For some people, that might mean following the crowd and doing stupid things to see if that makes them happy. It usually doesn't, not later on anyways.
Everyone needs to be exposed to the ups and downs of life. They need to visit a poorer neighborhood, maybe meet some kids who aren't as fortunate as them, people who have health problems and would give up anything to be healthy and take full advantages of opportunities they have. Fortunately, people do realize all this, come to think for themselves, and have a more realistic viewpoint on life. It doesn't come easy. To those who are kept in a shell and don't experience different events, meet different people and visit different places, it might be more difficult as they become older to make the change. Most of us who are fortunate enough to have a roof over our heads and meals to eat everyday without having to work, don't always appreciate that. The realization that all of those things don't happen without work and sacrifice is usually what leads to a different outlook on life, hopefully a better one. Sorry for rambling, hope thats what you were looking for.
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depends on the person. everyones different. its not like everyone all of a sudden, goes hey, im gonna start being my own person. its takes awhile, for some to push away from crowds, and be themselves. I have some friends, who realized who they were when they were 13. I know some people, who are 18 and still don't realize it.
ooh and, i don't think that any teenager, should try to become more adult like. your only a kid once, and you learn things, and become more responsible, by making mistakes, and learning from them. if you know any teenager, that tries to act way too old. tell them to stop, because once your old you never get younger.
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I think it's around the same time you realize that you're not invincible, and that your life is the esult of choices you make.
Some people get this at age ten. On the other hand, some people are in their late twenties, still don't have a clue, and can't make their own macaroni and cheese & cold cereal.
Usually, I'd say that you know what you want to do with your life after high school, or you at least have a general idea. College/enterning workforce years, you decide what's best for you.
Gaining an adult outlook, though, takes life experiences, in my opinion. I realized that life is a fragile thing (and that I wasn't going to live forever & I wasn't invincible anymore) when two people close to me attempted suicide- and only one on her own free will.
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Everyone is different. I'd say the average is at the end of freshman year in highschool or towards the beginning of sophomore year.
However, I started during the end of my 8th grade year. I know some people who are 18 and still don't have it yet.
just cause teens buy fashions, it doesn't mean they don't think for themselves. There are teens who happen to be deep thinking and like fashionable clothes. For example, you could possibly tend to think for yourself and conform to other social standards such as looking someone in the eye when talking to them or chewing with your mouth closed.
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I think after they are done with high school. They are not exposed to peer pressure anymore, and they loose that school anthem of what's cool and what's not. They don't have to worry about those things anymore. They are also exposed to the reality of life, and for the most part, they are on their own. To survive on their own, they realize they need to think beyond fashion, the cool factor, and all those things that don't allow you to think for yourself.
I am 16 by the way.
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I would have to say sometime around after college but there are exceptions. Some are "thinkers" and constantly try to figure out what their opinion is from the time they hit 9th grade. Then there are the people in their mid-30s that still need to get a clue. Just because they are parents or college grads doesn't mean really know everything. I could go on and on about this but I think everyone else covered most of what I was going to say. <3
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I think all teenagers are certainly capable of having an adult outlook on life. They are all capable of being mature and deciding what they want out of life. But do they? No. Should they? It depends.
Any sane teenager should try to stay as young and ignorant as possible. Some don't because they feel like they have to prove themselves. Some don't because they want to sound smart even though they aren't. A lot of teenagers try to seem as grown-up as possible. They think that just because they've have a few rough times in life they know everything. When they hit the real world, however, they realize they had no idea.
This realization, that everything they thought life was about was wrong, is when they are officially an adult.
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i'm 15, and i honestly agree with dangernerd. even though i feel that i am mature for my age, i'm still not an adult. i would say sometime around the 20s. i know a lot of people who are in high school or college and have no idea what they want to do with their life. they don't even know what they'll be doing tomorrow. and they follow the crowd. of course, i can't exclude myself from this. there are different levels of maturity, i think... high school, which is where you are mature enough to handle a car and maybe a part time job, but your parents still pay your bills. then there is college, where you are living by yourself and surviving off of ramen noodles. you can get by, but it's not an awesome lifestyle. and then after college, you become an adult and you have to adapt to a life where your mom isn't going to be there to buy you things or tuck you in at night. as far as forming your own opinion goes... it depends. sure, we all have opinions, but many times an opinion is formed after somebody else tells us what to think. that's why it makes me angry that people talk about lowering the voting age to 16. at 16, you are still listening to everything your parents say as far as politics go. you really don't know what you believe, though you say you do. i know that i say i do, but i would be lying if i said that it's not influenced by my parents. but as far as the adult outlook goes, it really depends. last summer i went to australia for 3 weeks with like 40 other students, and i didn't see my parents for that amount of time. in that time i learned to take care of my own crap because other people weren't going to do it for me. i think that the process starts in college because you're out of your comfort zone and you have to deal with a lot more.
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Take a look around this site.
Almost immediately I guarantee that you will find a 13-year-old girl who claims to have been through 'so much' in her life. The same girl is then likely to then go on to give terrible advice that shows how immature her outlook really is. No, I'm not saying that all teenage girls are stupid (that would be foolish, being one myself) but in general, they're not as adult as, well, adults.
At the same time, I've seen a fair few people in their 20's here who are no better than those 13-year-old girls. Are they mature? Do they have an 'adult' outlook? Probably not.
Without sounding bigheaded, I've always been told I'm mature for my age and so are the majority of my friends. We're only 15, but we have our own, well thought out opinions on more than just abortion - I'm constantly arguing with a guy I know about politics, as nerdy as it sounds - and we're definitely not stupid. No, of course we're not adults, but there is a big difference between thinking like one and being one. It's not just us who are like that either, I've met people my age on here and in the real world who are probably more mature than plenty of adults you see on the news.
Does that mean that I'm not selfish and stupid sometimes, don't argue with my parents and know how to pay taxes? Of course not, but there are plenty of adults who don't either.
As much as I respect DangerNerd and know that he is older and wiser than me, I don't think that it's possible to pinpoint an exact age like that. You don't have to be young to care about fashions, there are adults who buy them or base their entire careers on it and do incredibly well, sure, some of them are unintelligent and immature, but you find people like that everywhere. It isn't to do with them following what the media says, because everyone does that in one way or another - whether we like that or not.
There are children all over the world who are forced to grow up and gain an adult outlook to look after their siblings and sometimes the rest of their family too. They probably have a whole lot more experience on what it's like to be an adult than a lot of the ones we know.
So when do we gain a more adult outlook? There is no right or wrong age. On average, it's later rather than sooner (although teenagers, of course, know it all) but we can't generalise. It's all based on your experience of the world, how you've been brought up by your parents, taught by your teachers, what you do with your life and how you do it.
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There's certainly no set age. A person can mature as early as twelve and as late as 30, but it's all about their environment and life experience. It varies.
Then again, I'm 14 myself, so perhaps I wouldn't know.
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It definitely varies. By the time i was thirteen i knew what college i was going to, where i was going to live, how i was going to live, and when i wanted to get married. But some people mature at different levels, some teens are scared about what will happen so they try not to think about it. So i would say any age between 13 and 19 and im sorry i cant give a specific answer but thats just how it is. Everyone is different and maturity levels differ.
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well im 14 and i personally know im mature. However there are PLENTY of people in my school that are far from that. Theres a different age for everyone and personally i think that the people that attend my school are not going to mature anytime soon, im looking at 24-25 when they realize that they have screwed up. Or when they turn 17 and see that there pregnant. I would estimate that the average teenager matures when they are 18-20.
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i dont know about other teenagers but i think that at some point in your life you come to a realization of all that is important and all that is not. this year ive changed dramatically and i can see everything that my parents once told me as being true. i remember thinking "oh my parents suck because they wont let me do stuff....i hate my life.....the world sucks." there was a long period in this year where i was depressed, on the verge of suicide. but then i realized that i had been living my whole life trapped behind a mask that i put up so that i could "fit in". i used to try to be like the so called "popular" girls that dressed a certain way and acted a certain way. i never realyl knew who i was i and i never really fit in anywhere. but one person in my life, my best friend, hurt me so bad that i thought i was gonna die (the whole teenage heartbreak thing). but somehow i learned that i needed to escape from my shell, i needed to break free and become me. once i understood that the only person in the world who could make me happy is me and me alone, i became a new person. now i dont need anyone to tell me how i should dress. i dont need anyone to make me happy. my whole outlook on life has been altered. i know that i am a very strong person and as long as i never lose hope then i will always win in life. i am happy now, for the first time in my life i know what it means to be happy and all i want is to help others reach this state of understanding that i have reached.
there is no age. there is no time. each person has a different journey. you have to lose something important in order to gain happiness. that is what happiness means: it means to be so unshakable that no matter how hard life gets you always get up and become even stronger. and one more thing. HAVE FUN !!! life is a terrible thing to waste. you have so much more to live and to see and to become. whatever struggle you are facing at this time will be only a single struggle in a sea of ups and downs. go out, make friends, hang out, dance, act crazy...it doesnt matter what anyone thinks! live life without fear, and live life with hope that it will all be for the best in the end.
im 14 years old by the way.
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Im 14 almost 15 and I have my opinion on alot of things. I really enjoy serious conversations with my older family members. It just depends I guess. Im not the most educated in polictics but I think alot of kids go off what they hear their parents say. I think that the age can vary from 13- after highschool.
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I loved DN's answer, just to let you know. I agree with a lot of what he said but I also think it varies on the person.
On this website I can name one person who was extremely mature for as long as I've been here (since she was 13 or 14) and that is RainbowCherrie. She is an amazing columnist and seems to me (although I don't know her in real life) very smart and the type of person who knows what she wants out of life. I could be wrong though.
I myself think I have already made it to about 3/4ths of the level you're referring to. I didn't start to mature until I came to this site. I actually had a few columnists here tell me (in nicer words) to grow up, stop typing like an idiot, and try to mature a bit. For some reason, I listened.
I have learned to type in complete sentences, use proper grammar, and spell as best as I can.
I have a lot of ideas of what I want out of life. I have known what I wanted to do (career wise) since the age of about 8. My mind is currently in a fog. I am now stuck between hree career choices, each differing in many ways. Teacher, therapist, lawyer. Weird, huh?
I have decided that I want to live my life as best as I can. To do as much as I can before I die. I have decided that I want to face my fears even though when I get the chance most of the time I back out. I know that I want to let the people I care about know that I care about them because you never know when that chance will leave you.
I think that when your young it takes something big to happen in your life to make you get that outlook. I've had a few people close to me either move far away to where I lost touch with them for years. I've had people very close to me pass away unexpectedly. I think that is what has given me such an intense outlook on my life and they was I treat other people. I believe strongly in karma and that if you do good by other people then somewhere and somehow something good will happen to you. Not in the greedy sense, but in the you deserve this sense of things. I also believe that if you were a horrible person all your life that unless you change for the better your life isn't going to go so well.
I consider myself to have an adult perspective on a lot of things. I also consider myself to be an immature 16 year old at sometimes. If someone makes me mad I'll talk really loudly on purpose so they can hear me just to try and get a rise out of them. I'm 16, I should know better, I do know better, but what can I say, I haven't grown up all the way yet?
Like I said, I'm about 3/4ths of the way. I know when I'm doing wrong (most of the time). I know the difference between right and wrong (except when it truly is difficult to determine). There are a lot of variables to include when deciding if somebody had the basic levels of thought and begin thinking more intellectually.
I think I do that for the most part. But like I said, I still have a few immature qualities. I'm also still a kid (for the most part) and want to just have fun. I don't want to grow up all the way yet. I still have the idea in my head that adults can't have much fun. (Even though truly I know they can). That I want to live to the fullest while I still have the chance, before I decide I'm too old to accomplish something.
I know in my heart that you never really are too old to do something you love - no matter what it is. A friend of mine told me to remember that the impossible is really saying I'm possible. I love that quote, I don't know if he found it or made it up, but I love it.
I know you probably wanted some kind of straight up answer. Or that you didn't want to me to analyze myself in a way to prove to you how people differ and ages differ when it comes to how "adult-like" you are.
Trust me, I know adults in their mid 40's who don't seem to have quite "grown up" yet.
Anyway, I hope that my long answer hasn't bored you and has given you on perspective of my mindset (wow, I'm not even sure if that would make sense to you. It does to me, but my mind can be a jumbled mess on occasion).
Anyway, I really like this question. It made me really think. I like that. I've had a hard time with that lately and it felt good to actually hear a deep question and try and answer the question the way it was meant to be answered. Although I may not have done what I think and hope that I did. Again, I'm probably confusing you so I'll just shut up now. =D
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I'm 16 and I found that I started to think more maturely when life came at me fast. I learned that life wasn't going to change for you just because you wanted it to & it wasn't going to wait for you to get used to it. You have no say in what goes on & you need to live with it. It didn't take me long to learn that.
But everyone is different. It can take kids YEARS to grow up & learn what's truly right & wrong but it can take others much shorter time lengths than that. It can take many people up until adulthood to figure it out. Some people figure it out when they're young. It all depends on the person, what's been going on in their lives & what they think.
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I am going to say about 26.
No, not kidding. The people who answered before me said things like 13-14... yet there are an ocean of those people here who have yet to have an original thought.
They buy whatever they are told is fashionable, and would never think for themselves in that respect.
If they go through college right off (big mistake in my opinion) then they should be out and done by about 22-23. This will leave them 3 or four years to NOT get the job they studied for, realize the whole college idea was a bad one because they didn't know what they wanted to do yet... then, and only then, do people start to question the "normal" way of life.
So my answer is somewhere between 25 and 26. :-)
You can do better sooner, but you have to get off the train that leads to that route.
Some people NEVER grow a sense of self and learn to think independently. They may be the majority judging by what we see around us today.
Some people have trauma early in life, and figure things out way earlier than they should.
It is a pity most kids are in such a hurry to give up their childhood, and think sex is the best way to hurry that along. What a waste of childhood. :-(
I better stop, I could write about this all day. :-)
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well im a teen myself so i would probably say 16 or 17 which is where they usually start to become more mature and start to follow there own paths of life not the path that someone else has created for them they will learn how to take control of bad situations and how to be responsible .
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I think that, that happens whenever they go to high school. Probably around 13 or 14. Generally, whenever kids go to high school, they feel a sense of maturity and they're open to a lot more stuff. When they get to high school they'll start focusing more on school and then they'll start thinking about college and what they want to gain out of their lives. :]
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