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since drinkging red bull makes your heart race really fast...would that be counted as excercising? (link)
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No it isn't exercise. It isn't good either.
See a doctor and stop drinking it until you
do.
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My back is so sore what should i do? (link)
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See a doctor. You don't say why it might be
sore but if you are in pain, see your doctor
before doing anything to try and fix it
yourself.
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i love horses but its impossible for me to get one, do you have any advice for how i might be able to get one? (link)
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Well A lot of people have horses that
have never had a riding lesson or need
to board them. It depends on where you
live.
If you lived on a farm or out in the
country with a little land to have a
horse on it would be perfect. You don't
want a horse that someone else has to take
care of.
So, if you live in a city right now,
maybe you could get a job helping
to take care of other peoples horses
until you are old enough to have your
dream place complete with horses.
Horses can get pretty expensive to
keep. So you have to be able to
afford them. :)
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19/f
My boyfriend doesn't even care about me anymore. I feel like our relationship has run it's course, even though I want it to keep going. I want him to care about me again. How do I get him to care about me again? Or is this just over?
Other people have their ways of coping: Getting back and getting revenge, like seeing other people to make your partner jealous. A lot of people doing things to get attention, which is usually self-destructive, like drugs, drinking or being promiscuous. I don't want to do those things because I'm not stupid. Those aren't even the right things to do and will only drive him away.
I'm going back to college soon and I thought that'd be reason enough for him to see me more, like he should see me as much as he can before I leave.. but sometimes I feel like he'll be glad to get rid of me.
He makes me all these promises that he can't keep. It's funny because HE is the one who offers to see me on his day off, then ends up canceling after I had been waiting for him for three hours. This keeps happening, and stupid me, I always think he's gonna pull through. When we DO see each other, it's like he only does it so I'll shut up.
Every time I call and confront him about this, I pour my heart out and end up getting yelled at. He says, "This is exactly the reason why I don't want to see you. All you do is whine and nag." I feel like he doesn't try to listen. I DO understand that he's tired, but then again, HE is the one who proposes that we go out in the first place and ends up standing me up for one reason or another.
Am I wrong? Is he wrong? I don't even know what to do anymore. All I've learned is that I gave and gave and gave and got spat on in return. It's like I went against the world to be with this guy and ended up with nothing. I feel like banning relationships for a loooong time. (link)
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I really think its time for you
to move on. I hate to say that
but you've put in a lot of effort
and gotten nowhere. Promises don't
mean a thing if you don't back
them up with action.
It will take some time, but you
have a whole college full of guys
to help you get over this one. I
know that makes it sound so simple
and you will have some bad days.
I really don't see a future for
you with this guy, and thats what
its really all about.
Good luck. :)
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So I got fired from a job I loved.
I've never been more humiliated in my life.
And I am beyond traumatized.
How am I supposed to handle this?! (link)
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Don't dwell on the being fired part.
Just get out there and find something new.
I know it can be an awful feeling but
you will probably find something even
better. Don't put it off because if you
do it will be harder to find something.
People are let go everyday from jobs.
The economy being what it is it will
probably get even worse. You aren't
the first or probably the last person
who will be fired from a job. Don't
let it get you down. :)
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my mom grounded me for having sex...im 16...wtf...i can do what i want, im almost an adult...sex doesnt have to be about love...how can i make my mom get me out of the house, i want to continue having sex and doing fun shit while i still can...*jer* (link)
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Do you have a job?
Can you afford to raise a child on your own?
Do you have insurance?
Can you afford to pay for treatment of STD's,
especially AIDS which takes high dollar meds
just to make life tolerable?
Yeah, having sex for the fun of it
can really get expensive. My guess is mom
doesn't want to foot the bill for your good
time. So you aren't going to get off grounding.
Act like an adult and take your punishment
without an attitude. :)
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i'm a 16 yr. old alcoholic...
i don't want to be this way anymore. (link)
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You have taken the first step admitting
it to yourself. Now you need to tell a
parent.
Alateen is a good place to go for
help. It is like AA but is for teens to
go and meet with other teens with alcohol
problems. your local phone book should
have a number for you to call about
meeting times. If there isn't one then
AA is your next best bet.
Here is a toll free number that can also give
you information....
The National Drug and Alcohol Treatment Referral Routing Service provides a toll-free telephone number, 1-800-662-HELP (4357), offering various resource information. Through this service you can speak directly to a representative concerning alcohol and other drugs, request printed material on alcohol or other drugs, or obtain local substance abuse treatment referral information in your State.
Best of luck to you. :)
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Male, 25
My girlfriend keeps trying to push me into sexual things I'm not comfortable with. When I say no, she asks what kind of guy I am and such.
How do I get her to respect my decisions and not end up fighting as a result about it? (link)
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Have you tried turning it around on her?
Asked her What kind of girl is she?
I hate to say it but if she doesn't
respect you and what you feel and
believe, she may be the wrong gal
for you.
Sit her down and discuss how you
feel about things. If after that
she continues to try and push,
you might want to re-evaluate the
relationship.
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okay, long story kindof short..me and my ex have been off and on for the past 3 years, and on the 3rd year he told me he loved me and thats when i relized i had loved him too but i think i alawys did..and when we finally called ourself a "couple" instead of just dating everything went sour..3 years of just dating of somesort but we werent with other people but when we labled ourselfs a couple..we broke up a month later. and we havent talked for like 9 months and im still in love with him. we did everything togher. serioulsy, every day during summer we would talk on the phone for litterly 5 hrs and just fall asleep. i miss him and i miss everything about him, no matter how many fights we had. i want to know what i should do, all my friends hate him but i cant help how i feel :/ what do i do.. (link)
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I think if you can't make it work after
3 years you need to move on. Hard as it
will be to do, you need to seriously
start looking for other guys to have
fun with. As much as you like him,
some relationships were just meant to
be friends only. Thats ok, good friends
can be very hard to come by.
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how can you give advice if you're not open-minded? i see a lot of answers on this site saying negative things towards certain religions and sexual orientations. and lots of labeling (preps, emos, etc).
i think that if you're going to try to help someone, you need to accept what they have to say and answer respectfully. am i the only one who feels this way? (link)
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Everyone should be respectful and not rude
in the way they answer. If you feel someone
is a problem please file an abuse report.
All are taken very seriously.
That being said, when you have a group of
people you get lots of different opinions.
Not all will be exactly what you've asked
for. There are some who just tell people
what they want to hear because ratings
are more important to them than giving
good advice. Others just want to give
a smart ass answer like this is a big
joke. File reports. They don't last long
when you do. :)
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female, 16
i have been diagnosed with depression and take 30mg of prozac once a day.
i'm strongly under the impression that it is fueled by emotional abuse from my family (father, mother, sister), but i don't know how to say anything about it or do anything about it. i don't feel safe and i sure as !$#@ don't feel happy.
forgive me for not really being able to provide very much of a background story... i really don't know what to do, i feel very stuck.. (link)
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Please do not stop taking your med.
If it isn't helping you then tell
your doctor.
I don't know when you were diagnosed
or for how long you have been taking
your med. Some take a while to work.
Some stop working after a while and
require a dosage or med change. Please
consult your doctor. :)
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female
hi its unhappychik and me nd my bf are goin bak out (we went out 4 yrz ago)and it seems like things r goin well until he told me that he wanted 2 hav sex wit me,i kinda want 2 but im worried about wat will happen.idk i really wanna buy a purity ring...not jus 4 him but bcuz i dont wanna lose it 2 the wrong person at mii age.im not sayin after i get it nd hav sex its not gonna b the wrong person(hopefully not)but hey wat do i do?
ps-duz any1 kno where i can get 1 frum?
~unhappychik~ (link)
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FYI...
I have talked to this user about the use
of text typing and misspelled words. Please
answer the question she has asked without
giving her grief about it.
No need to file any more abuse reports. :)
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I didn't tell my cousin anything about my sexuality so i don't know how my cousin knew i was sleeping with other girls until the other day when she told me she knew about my lifestyle but she wouldn't tell me how she knew she said the only thing that matters is that she did know and not how she found out but she asked me if i was confused about my orienation but iam to scared to tell her the truth i don't know if she knows the whole truth like me being bisexual so i don't want to tell her and then her be threw with me becouse me and my cousin are really close i tell her everything and she seems to understand but i don't know if she'll understand my orientation or not i just don't want my cousin to stop talking to me if i do tell her becuse i don't know if i'll be able to survive it what should i do? (link)
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Politely tell your cousin that you
don't care to discuss your sex life.
Its a private thing.
I'm guessing she is wanting to help
you. Give you someone to talk to
about it, but its really nobody
else's business.
Someone else is giving her the info.
Don't mess around with people who know her.
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Alright, I am about 5'2 , and I weigh over 150. Yes I know I need to lose weight. But here is my question,
- I have a treadmill, and I was wondering If I ran about an hour everyday on it, would I lose weight ?
- I'm looking to lose all of it in my legs & stomach.
- I DON'T eat healthy. I don't like salads or most healthy food, so don't tell me to eat healthy.
- Sits up never seem to work for me. But I do them probably three times a week.
- Please help me here. I don't have enough money to go buy a new machine to work out with, and cardio I could try but I don't think I will enjoy it.
Please answer all of my questions. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Well I'm not an expert but will do my
best.
Yes you should lose wight being on a treadmill
for an hour. Don't start with running though.
Try walking for a while. You don't really
burn that many more calories running. So walk.
Walk faster once you don't tire out any more.
Sit a book or magazine up so you can read.
Listen to music or watch TV. Keep it from being boring.
You can't lose weight in just certain areas.
You will lose weight everywhere. Don't worry.
You will look great. It will be easier to
do leg lifts or toning exercise once you
take off some weight.
Ok I won't tell you to eat healthy! Just
eat smaller portions and don't pig out.
Especially fatty foods or sweets.
3 times a week should be fine for sit ups.
They will get easier as you lose weight
and will help tone stomach muscles.
Cardio is easy. Put on some music and
practice some dance moves. Basically
just keep moving! dancing is an excellent
cardio exercise. I personally like
Richard Simmons Sweating to the oldies
tapes. Might be able to find them in CD
form. They are fun and the music is great!
But you don't need them. Make up your own
dances and have fun!
Good luck.
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im underage. if i were carrying a bottle of alcohol in my car, but it WASN'T open, and i got pulled over just say at a road block of something, and they found it, could i be in any kind of trouble? i've heard that if it's not open, they cant do anything about it.
im in Georgia if it makes a difference. (link)
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The laws are a bit sneaky. Best to
keep it in your trunk and out of the
passenger area of your car.
Even 1 can of beer could be considered
an open container. The can may not be
open, but the box it came in is...even
if you don't have the box. :)
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i get really oily skin, is there any home remedies that could make it better? I have bought som products but is there anything else i can do? Because once it gets oily, it is just attracted to dirt and i end up with pimples all over my nose (link)
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Here is a great article that has
some good tips.
http://www.mothernature.com/library/bookshelf/books/47/102.cfm
The search I used had a lot of
interesting sites. Here is the
search I used if you'd like to
read more.
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Ok... Here's my problem. It's probably one of the more stupid questions on the site but here it goes. My parents and I get along for the most part, but my whole life I've grown up in a very ultra liberal open-minded union house hold. But the problem is I'm starting to question the beliefs I've grown up on. For example; The Patriot Act, parts of it I agree with like scanning people's e-mails for potential hazardous situations that could occur. Or even the whole death penalty issue... I'm so scared to open up to my parents on an issue like this. Like if I told them I was a lesbian; which I'm not, they would probably be more okay with that then to hear I could possibly be turning more moderate. Like there's things I agree and disagree with on both sides. But it's like there always talking politics and I feel like I'm lying to myself and to them saying that I completely agree with them. Like my dad has even said that the only way I could rebel is to become a republican, but I'm not questioning things because of that... How should I approach this situation? Please help me. Any advice you guys could give me I would be so greatful for. (link)
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Oh don't be afraid to open up and
talk to them about things! You will
argue politics but you will learn
so much and so will they.
You are going to have your own opinions.
They will want you to have your own,
even if they debate you on the issues.
If they enjoy discussing politics. They
will have fun. Don't be afraid. Speak up
and give them your opinions! :)
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Hi, I am 21 and I am 6 months pregnant with my second child, my first born she is turning one this month. The baby I am pregnant with now is a boy and he was un-planned. I have recently been having the feelings of sharp pains in my stomach some what like contractions, but they aren't consistent. I have not gone to the doctor because I am on vacation, but Im wondering if I should so see one or not.? Has anyone else had these? Also my baby bump is a lot smaller than with my last child, I dont look 6 months but more like 4. Why is this? Could there be something wrong with my baby? Also I wondered if stress could be putting a strain on my pregnancy because I just divorced both of my kids daddy in May, now we are going through a custody battle with the oldest, he knows Im pregnant but insists that it is not his because he thinks I cheated on him which I never did.....Could the stress of everything Im going through now be stressing my body out to go through early labor?Sorry Its long Im just a little concerned. (link)
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You really do need to see a doctor.
It may be nothing at all, but don't
take that chance.
I'm sure stress isn't doing you any good.
It may have nothing to do with what is
going on with the baby. Mention it to
your doctor anyway. Its something he/she
needs to know to give you the best possible
care.
Be aware that braxton hicks contractions
start early in pregnancy. It could be
you are feeling those. Still see your
doctor, find out for sure. You certainly
don't need further stress brought on by
worry about your baby.
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Is there anything that my fiance and i can do to make sex less painful. I am very worried that it will hurt. Any advice would be great thank you (link)
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The first thing you need to do is
stop worrying! I know that is easier
said than done sometimes. Being tense
though may make it hurt. Be relaxed
and be aroused, don't rush it, take
your time and be ready.
For most women it doesn't hurt.
Hymens are a lot of time already
broken or torn from tampon use,
or just being a physically active
person. Unless your hymen is thick
and hard to tear, you may feel no
pain at all. Even an intact hymen
is not that painful. It happens,
its over it does not linger.
So, just try to relax. Use some
lubricant (found at walmart or
any store like it) to be on the
safe side. Communicate with your
finance. You'll do just fine. :)
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I am a black female 30 years old. Im in a interacial relationship black/indian me and my boyfriend have been very much in love untill recently when we made a off color joke that was not intened to offend me but it did. He felt like I shouldnt have reacted the way I did to his joke and if I understood him I would have known that he was just joking. Lately I have been talking about marriage and he feels we dont understand eachother after our misunderstanding. I really want to marry this guy but Iam afraid of wasting my time. We are good friends,never had any major problems. He cant even think of marrying me because he feels like something isnt right about our relationship but cant pin point what it is. I believe he loves me but for some reason feel like he is trying to avoid marriage what do you think. Should I get to know him better and stop talking about marriage we are both in our 30's not getting any younger. (link)
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If he feels you don't understand him
then that is probably what has him
backing off of marriage.
We all have to learn to laugh at
ourselves. I know some off color
jokes are really bad and I do
understand how they could be taken
as his cutting you down. I'm sure
he didn't mean it that way.
OK let me put it this way.
He felt comfortable enough with you
to tell you an off color joke.
Believing you knew him well enough
to KNOW he was joking.
You didn't take the joke well
which shocked him because he felt
you would know it was a joke.
Now he feels he doesn't know you
at all. So he is really unsure if
it is going to work out. What if
he slips and says something else
offensive not meaning to? Hes
probably wondering if he can live
with someone he has to think twice
about what he says to.
Thats where he probably is.
You really need to have a serious
discussion about where your relationship
is going. If you are both willing to work
on it then you do that. If he thinks
this is something he can't get over,
then move on. No use wasting time.
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