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I'm in love.
okay, long story kindof short..me and my ex have been off and on for the past 3 years, and on the 3rd year he told me he loved me and thats when i relized i had loved him too but i think i alawys did..and when we finally called ourself a "couple" instead of just dating everything went sour..3 years of just dating of somesort but we werent with other people but when we labled ourselfs a couple..we broke up a month later. and we havent talked for like 9 months and im still in love with him. we did everything togher. serioulsy, every day during summer we would talk on the phone for litterly 5 hrs and just fall asleep. i miss him and i miss everything about him, no matter how many fights we had. i want to know what i should do, all my friends hate him but i cant help how i feel :/ what do i do..
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If you've been on and off for so long and you've officially broken up and he hasn't even bothered calling you all this time, then it's best that you try and move on, there isn't anything weird about you still thinking about him and still being in love with him it's totally natural because you're obviously really confused and really want to be with him but you're not sure whether it would work or not.
Your emotions are clouding your judgment, I feel like if you got together you would just end up breaking apart again.
However what you need to do is call him see if he wants to hang out shopping or something basic like that because you haven't spoke to him in so long... try not to be affectionate towards him, you will know if he still cares a lot about you because he will show affection towards you and he might tell you how he feels - find out if he's seeing any girls or if he's in a relationship when your out with him, not on the phone (that may seem like you are desperate)
If, when you go out shopping with him, he just acts like a friend, then you will have to start seeing other guys and get over him as best you can. If he starts trying to be close to you and you find out that he still cares, then take it slow, tell him to call you and don't call him, when he calls you to go out again tell him when your _out_ with him for the 2nd time that you still care for him (don't say love unless he says he loves you) and that you want to be back with him but you don't want to keep breaking up over stupid things. Then it's the waiting game, enjoy your relationship while it lasts, if it ends even once more then you know it was never ever meant to be, and that you don't love him, you just have a strong lust for each other..
It's true, if you love them then you would never want to break up, any bad feelings that you have that make you want to break up with them would never ever occur if you really loved them..
I'm hoping that this may guide you a little
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I think if you can't make it work after
3 years you need to move on. Hard as it
will be to do, you need to seriously
start looking for other guys to have
fun with. As much as you like him,
some relationships were just meant to
be friends only. Thats ok, good friends
can be very hard to come by.
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Firstly sorry about what happened,
I think what you shud do is find out if hes with someone still and if nt then ask him out to lunch and tell him its just as friends then over the course of the night if you feel comfortable enough then tell him how you feel and if you dnt then at least your friends again and you never no you may work up to aomething more!!
on the friends front theyre nt the ones that have to kiss him or the ones who hav to b in a relationship with him so its your choice not theirs!!
good luk !!
hope i helped!!
dxxxxxxx
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