Hi my names Miren, I'll give you stacks of advice on anything =] I've got an Art&Design diploma and I'm studying a Film Production degree in Staffordshire. I'm also a black belt in Taekwon-Do. I'll try my best to help anybody needing... help.
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18/m I've never had a girlfriend before,
And I've been hangin out with this girl basically twice a week for 2 months, and I really like her, and she likes me (we talked about us a few weeks ago).
But where do we go from here?
Do I ask her out? We've been going to the movies, the park, and some of her active interests, but they weren't really dates, I guess.
We've cuddled a few times, but should I kiss her yet?
Help me out!
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Yes yes! I wish I was in your position, sounds like you have a lovely girl there... you need to kiss her soon, make sure the environment is nice. You will know it's the right time when there is no one about, when you are both comfortable and when your both... kinda sitting in silence, - if you get the thought of kissing her in your head, and it feels awkward to try get yourself to do it, then GO for it, that is the right time... just playfully get closer to her and hug her :) she will hold you back from the sounds of it, and then run your hand through her hair and kiss her.
I hope I helped you out, I wish the for the best for you 2
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So, I'm kind of preceived as a slut. No matter what I do or how long I stay single&&don't flirt with boys I can't really seem to get rid of my reputation. and I've had a crush on a guy for idk 3 months now and he HAD one on me but I think I scared him away. And now we have to go our seperate ways and I won't see him for 2 years. But I'm madly inlove with him. What should I do? (link)
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You 'think' you scared him away, but you don't know for sure... the best thing you can do is simply tell him..
Just call him up and ask him if he wants to hang out or go to your house, and have fun with him... if you are too nervous to ask him out. Then I reckon it would be better to just call him on the phone and chat with him and see how he is doing, and then maybe in a couple days call him again, and see what he's doing later etc etc when you first hang out with him, make it seem obvious you are not a slut, don't flirt over board with him, and leave him wanting more so if his flirting level is 8 then keep your flirting level 7 (I hope you get what I mean) don't let him get a reaction out of you every time (I guess that's what I'm trying to say)
Anyway, make sure he enjoys the time he spends with you, and then call him up again a couple days later and ask him if he wants to go out again and maybe this time you can see if he wants to be with you, just try and kiss him or something, if he kisses you then he obviously kinda likes you so simply ask him straight after you kiss him if he likes you or not.
I hope I helped you x
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My two best friends are fighting and i'm in the middle of it. They want me to choose sides. What should I do? (link)
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Hmm, everyone is saying to not pick sides, but I think that will just annoy your friends even more, they will lose faith in you for not speaking up and they will get annoyed at you.
They will respect you more for being honest. What you should do, is take the points that YOU feel are the best from both arguments and explain it to them personally. It will be better coming from you because they won't have so much tension with you and they will listen, and therefore all 3 of you will be arguing less and listening more. This isn't picking one side, this is settling a dispute.
Speak up, be confident, tell them both what they are doing right and what they are doing wrong, have your say; the main point I'm making is - they are asking for your judgment, so they will listen to you, you are the one with the power to end their argument and have the final say so do it and don't coward out because it's up to you :)
I hope I made things more clear for you =]
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Okay, people told me that I could be pregnant by giving my boyfriend a handjob, and then an hour later I fingered myself like after he was gone. So someone told me I could be pregnant, but I also heard the sperm cells like die or something. Anyway I'm like freaking out. I guess I'm going to buy a pregnancy test, but I'm so embarrased to just go to the store and buy one. (link)
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Don't be worried sweetie, sperm cells can only live up to 4 hours. You can not get pregnant by giving someone a handjob, you can only get pregnant if they cum in you and if their sperm cells come into contact with your vagina.
And honestly don't be embarrassed to buy a pregnancy test, they are there to be bought, people buy them because they are concerned about something serious, it isn't like they ship in the 100 pregnancy tests to go on the shelf and the staff all go "ahh dam 100 tests?! our cheek bones will be shattered by the end of this week from laughing at all the customers!!!" nah that's surreal lmao. The person at the counter, probably doesn't care as much as you think they do, they don't care about you purchasing a pregnancy test and you will never see each other again :)
I'm saying a lot more about buying a test then I am about you being worried your pregnant because I feel like it's more important for you to not be so embarrassed about buying something like that especially for the future.
I hope this helps you feel more confident to buy it. =]
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19/f
My boyfriend doesn't even care about me anymore. I feel like our relationship has run it's course, even though I want it to keep going. I want him to care about me again. How do I get him to care about me again? Or is this just over?
Other people have their ways of coping: Getting back and getting revenge, like seeing other people to make your partner jealous. A lot of people doing things to get attention, which is usually self-destructive, like drugs, drinking or being promiscuous. I don't want to do those things because I'm not stupid. Those aren't even the right things to do and will only drive him away.
I'm going back to college soon and I thought that'd be reason enough for him to see me more, like he should see me as much as he can before I leave.. but sometimes I feel like he'll be glad to get rid of me.
He makes me all these promises that he can't keep. It's funny because HE is the one who offers to see me on his day off, then ends up canceling after I had been waiting for him for three hours. This keeps happening, and stupid me, I always think he's gonna pull through. When we DO see each other, it's like he only does it so I'll shut up.
Every time I call and confront him about this, I pour my heart out and end up getting yelled at. He says, "This is exactly the reason why I don't want to see you. All you do is whine and nag." I feel like he doesn't try to listen. I DO understand that he's tired, but then again, HE is the one who proposes that we go out in the first place and ends up standing me up for one reason or another.
Am I wrong? Is he wrong? I don't even know what to do anymore. All I've learned is that I gave and gave and gave and got spat on in return. It's like I went against the world to be with this guy and ended up with nothing. I feel like banning relationships for a loooong time. (link)
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I'm pretty much going to say what everyone else has said (I think).
Guys like to act like something they're not. When you date a guy, unless you've known them for a long time (which I feel is the best way for you girls) you will be dating a mask. Only after half a year or so will that mask slowly fade out revealing someone a lot lower then you expected.
Who you are with now, is a guy, who clearly isn't in love with you and doesn't care anymore, this is who he is. He doesn't want you as a girlfriend anymore, a relationship to him is too much effort. Unfortunately for you, you get to see through this, and you see a guy who you want to be with - you see what he used to be like, you see his pro's and not his con's, but when you step back and look at it, he's just a guy, nothing too special, treats you nice at times but overall he hurts you and stands you up, and even an average guy could treat you better than that. You don't want to be with him, you want to be with the mask he once wore, but it won't come back again. The reason he is avoiding the questions etc etc, is because I think he is too much of a coward to tell you he doesn't care anymore, he will use you going to college as an excuse to say he isn't your boyfriend anymore. You should get him back hard, and a couple weeks before you go to college, break up with him before he breaks up with you, because you don't deserve him being so selfish.
You will find better guys believe me, but try and get to know them first for a few months before you make commitments to them... and as soon as you start to see them getting lame - remember what I said, it's their mask slipping off, it's when you start seeing who they truly are. If a guy is in love with you, then you will always see the best of them come out.
I hope this helps guide you in the future, =]
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okay, long story kindof short..me and my ex have been off and on for the past 3 years, and on the 3rd year he told me he loved me and thats when i relized i had loved him too but i think i alawys did..and when we finally called ourself a "couple" instead of just dating everything went sour..3 years of just dating of somesort but we werent with other people but when we labled ourselfs a couple..we broke up a month later. and we havent talked for like 9 months and im still in love with him. we did everything togher. serioulsy, every day during summer we would talk on the phone for litterly 5 hrs and just fall asleep. i miss him and i miss everything about him, no matter how many fights we had. i want to know what i should do, all my friends hate him but i cant help how i feel :/ what do i do.. (link)
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If you've been on and off for so long and you've officially broken up and he hasn't even bothered calling you all this time, then it's best that you try and move on, there isn't anything weird about you still thinking about him and still being in love with him it's totally natural because you're obviously really confused and really want to be with him but you're not sure whether it would work or not.
Your emotions are clouding your judgment, I feel like if you got together you would just end up breaking apart again.
However what you need to do is call him see if he wants to hang out shopping or something basic like that because you haven't spoke to him in so long... try not to be affectionate towards him, you will know if he still cares a lot about you because he will show affection towards you and he might tell you how he feels - find out if he's seeing any girls or if he's in a relationship when your out with him, not on the phone (that may seem like you are desperate)
If, when you go out shopping with him, he just acts like a friend, then you will have to start seeing other guys and get over him as best you can. If he starts trying to be close to you and you find out that he still cares, then take it slow, tell him to call you and don't call him, when he calls you to go out again tell him when your _out_ with him for the 2nd time that you still care for him (don't say love unless he says he loves you) and that you want to be back with him but you don't want to keep breaking up over stupid things. Then it's the waiting game, enjoy your relationship while it lasts, if it ends even once more then you know it was never ever meant to be, and that you don't love him, you just have a strong lust for each other..
It's true, if you love them then you would never want to break up, any bad feelings that you have that make you want to break up with them would never ever occur if you really loved them..
I'm hoping that this may guide you a little
xXx
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OK so yesterday i went on a date with blind date. It was really nice...we were supposed to go this party. but didn't know what time is was gonna start. well it was like 7...and the party until 9:30 so we parked near his friend house and waited for him to get home(until 10!) the hole time we were just talking about everything. As if we known each other for ever. Like around 9:45 he asked me if i wanted to be his girlfriend. I couldn't believe it i asked him like 20x if he was 4 real. well i said yes cause i felt really good with him...his friend got home and went inside to take a shower wile we were in his car making out! I feel kinda weird sine i never had a real boyfriend i told him to call me today...but he hasn't. so i don't know if he was being 4 real or not. am i his girl friend or did he just want to get me in the back seat. but its not like he got any...we just made out...idk help (link)
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Yes, you definitely are going out with him, I reckon he likes you quite a bit seeing as he asked you out then and there. I think he didn't call because he might have been busy all day or couldn't find time alone, that or he wasn't sure what to say, he's probably nervous.
My advice would be to not call him to just chat with him unless he calls you, but definitely call him when you want to see him next, for example, if you want to go out with him Wednesday evening, call him on Tuesday to organize it with him so at least you have something to talk about... If he calls you before that then that would be great =]
I hope I helped
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hi, im rly bord n i dno wt 2 do. ne suggestionz?
thx bbz (link)
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Play some online games?
Watch a movie online? www.watch-movies.net =]
Phone a friend?
Watch TV?
Play an instrument?
Go for a walk? or a run? exercise?
Hmm... well hopefully you can do one of the above, my favorite pass time if I get super bored is just sitting back and watching a film on the website I gave you. That, or I play an online game sometimes called Soldat, I'm not sure you would like it though, - you run around with a gun shooting people lol, however it's free to download.
Hopefully I've helped =)
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I need a name for my American Eskimo Dog. My dog is a boy and it is pure white.
What are some good names?
Thanks in advice. =] (link)
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I'll make up some names:
Meski
Kimo
Ski
Kemy
and last but not least,
Dog
lol
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i have been with this one guy (bob) for almost 2 years. and i can honsetly say i do love him. but also like another guy(bill). AT THE SAME TIME! the one that i like i have known for awhile. and everytime i hear he has a new girlfriend i wanna punch her in the face. lmao. i dont know why i get this way. i mean he has his right to like other girls,i know that. but i dont know what to do.
what if i break up with bob because i like bill. and then later on i find out that i was meant to be with bob. but what if i stay with bob and find out that im suppose to be with bill. im so confused and i need seriuos help!
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Well, the main thing is, does bill like you? If Bill doesn't want to be more than friends then you definitely can't get anywhere in that department, and you should stay with bob.
What you should do is, hang out with bill a bit more, and after 2 weeks ask him if he likes you more than a friend, but don't tell him you like him more than a friend... if bill says he does, then you will have to see who you get along with more, bill or bob... if you are still unsure you should cut off both of them (because you are currently with bob, you cant completely cut him off, just simply say your really busy for a week or something like that) at the end of the week see who you miss more, whoever you miss more is the one you should be with.
Now.. if bill says he doesn't like you more than a friend then just shrug it off and just say you were just wondering or tell him "good because I love bob hehe"... it might hurt a little to hear that, but at least it makes things a bit more clear and you should stay with bob.
The reason you get angry at hearing bill has a gf etc etc, is because you are simply jealous and feel affectionate towards him, you just don't want his attention away from you. It's the worst feeling in the world I know, but you just have to take the brunt of it. The best way to get over things like that is to spend more time with bob, but not just hanging out, I mean more sexual and affectionate time with him.
Hope this helps your position. :)
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16/f
well ther is redness on like my upper cheeks like under my eyes. do you know of any good concerlers or founation. i would prefer foundation so my entire face would look flawless.
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Sorry but I'm going to give you a useless answer.
I'm a guy, I don't know what foundation etc you should use, but personally (this is just me btw) I think redness on the upper cheeks looks really really cute =] it reminds me of those cute japanese little anime things with red blush ^_^
that's my 2 cents... I think before you go spending many to buy stuff to fake up your face you should ask a couple guys if you should do it or if it looks cute... (I say ask some other guys cuz i'm not sure whether I am the only one that thinks it's cute)
^_^
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why do people lie? (link)
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People lie because they want what's best for themselves, and more rarely people lie because they want what's best for others. I hope this helped.
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probably not in the right category but do guys find it sexy when a girl has muscle definition?
for example i have muscular quads and calves. and i have a slight outline of a sixpack but im not like ripped or anything. and you dont have to tell me that i should find someone who likes me the way i am because i've already done that and he likes every bit of me but i was just wondering in general do guys think its sexy if girls are muscular. (link)
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I think it might be different with certain people, but I personally feel that girls with muscle definition aren't as attractive. I prefer girls with just a sleek smooth and tender bodies, and I think it's the same for the majority of men.
It also makes the guy feel more dominant over the girl which makes them more attracted to them, perhaps some guys that like being the submissive one in the relationship would be attracted to a girl with muscle definition.
Hope I helped =)
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About two weeks ago I asked a girl out who I was very close with. She said she didn't know yet and that she would like to hang out more first. We have been hanging out ever since almost every day even though we both work and have other responsibilities, we have made time in the day. For the past few days all of our friends have been telling me to ask her out again. I'm not sure what to do. Is the a certain period of time to wait before asking again? Since the first time I asked in kind of an extravagant way should i do something better this time? Is there anything she will do to let me know she's ready now? (link)
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Okay, well you've been "hanging out" since then, and she clearly is interested because you've been hanging out practically every day, otherwise you 2 would've faded out slowly
so, instead of just "hanging" ask her out on a date, but don't tell her it's a date, make it out like your just hanging out again but take her to like.. the cinema or something else romantic - this will definitely boost you up on the "seeing her" category.
If she avoids it, just carry on hanging out normally, and ask her again the following week but change the location, but keep it a romantic venue. If she avoids it again, you've unfortunately fallen into the friend zone, and you will have to keep your distance from her and make her try and contact you all the time..
When you go out on this "date" try getting close to her, and invade her personal space, put your arm around her, be playful etc, and if things seem really comfortable, try lean in a little closer to her and see if you kiss ;)
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I have liked my good guy friend romantically for a good 2 years now, but the problem is, his parents are super strict and have actually arranged a marriage for him. I think he might like me back, but is there really any point in pursuing him? I don't want to get my heart broken...
What should we do? (link)
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Okay, you've had some really wide answers, but i reckon i might have some good advice in this category considering i'm indian.
My family luckily isn't as strict as other families, they might in the future introduce me to some indian girls but they won't force anything on me...
This guys parents, is not YOUR problem, it's his, i'm not sure how he feels about having an arranged marriage though, he might be against it... so this is what you must do....
You have to tell him that you really want to be with him, and to ask him if he would really go through with a marriage without seeing if he wants to be with you too.. he might love you too, whats the harm in that? but the point is, you have to give him a choice because he's the one with strict parents not you, so it's up to him to make a decision not you. With this information he can either put his foot down and tell his parents to back off slightly till he's older so you and him can secretly see if things can work out, or he will just keep in tight with his strict family...
The reason i'm telling you to tell him is because in this day and age youth with strict culture such as this is starting to break apart especially when they aren't living in the same society as their predecessors, so I say you have a chance, but your young, you never know.. your relationship might end anyway in a year or 2, but "it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all"
Consequences: okay, there will be serious consequences to you 2 being in a relationship - let's say you got married... - his parents would kinda ... dis-own him.. not entirely - but they wouldn't talk much of him to his other relatives, they would look down at him for not staying with there culture and for marrying someone not from there culture - they would look down at you as well. They might not want to have anything to do with both of you... I'm not sure how serious this can get because it depends how strict they are, they could grow to just put up with it, or they might even totally cut you 2 both off and never speak to you 2 again. Obviously it won't be this extreme if you were both just dating and you're only 16, but due to the age, be prepared for him to be in a lot of arguments with his parents fighting to keep your relationship.
I hope I helped...
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i really need help i have noooo clue how to even makeout do i start with my mouth open or a normal kiss or what!?!?!? u gotta help me
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sorry for such a late reply, infact you probably won't even read this but what the hey, you basically lean in close, and softly touch ther lips with yours, you will both naturally open your lips slightly after the short peck and your tongues will engage in an open mouth kiss.. makesure you don't open your mouth too much, from experience, i dont enjoy kissing girls wen they have ther mouth wide open - its annoying lmao :P
dont worry, just open your mouth enough to have your tongue in them :P and yout teeth should have just a slight bit of pressure on yours and ther tongue.
hope i helped =]
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I had this boyfriend for 4 years and he dumped me tons of times, then decided we should be friends. After a while, he questioned about getting back together and I said I wanted to. Then bam, he hit me with the news of saying theres another girl and that he can't choose. I told him theres no choice because I'm gone. Did I do the right thing? (link)
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Yes you did the right thing, he was playing you for too long, it took courage to say no like you did - well done for getting yourself out of that mess. There are plenty other guys out there that won't mess you about like he did =]
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15 f
ok well i write my own songs and i dont want to brag but there pretty good. i really want to make a cd. ive seened people who write there own songs like on myspace and they sing it and they make there own background music like guitar and drums and stuff like that playing at the rhythm of the song. i wan to do that too. how do i give my songs music is there any program i can download? help!
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Well at first I thought (reading your question) you already made backing music with your own guitar or something.. but from what you just said, it seems like you havn't made any music :S
Making music (if your new too it) isn't just.. "easy" and especially if your thinking of using a program to do it all, then you need to atleast have some experience.
Well have a go, there isn't any harm in that i'm not here to nag at you just to throw you some advice.
Fruit Loops 5 - this is a good (though quite complex) program, which will aid you in making ANYTHING, yes.. anything.. - download mods for it, for more drum sounds and more synths etc etc, i've even got a piano mod for it, you can make all sounds on it whatever you want, and compile it into a long nice piece of music.
Cubase SX3 - this is a brilliant program (industry standard as well) for recording music, - get a mike and whip out your guitar and record your music, you can set equalizers and do all that what not to make it sound better and ofcourse export it as a .mp3
Those are the 2 programs I use to fool around with music - be patient though, you won't be able to just easily learn how to use them, theres still quite a lot I don't know about them, plus if you want to get deep into it you need a very strong understanding of music and the technology behind what makes a good song.
Anyways.. good luck =D
Oh this is what I like to do, - make the backing on Fruity Loops (drums and synths) - then I export it as a .mp3 and inport into cubase - and then I record guitar on cubase on top of the backing and then record vocals on top of that.. and do all the editing on it all and vwala
have fun =]
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okay i only have a week and a half left to get this guy to admit that he likes me and ask me on a date or something. he is in my class and i really like him and he may like e...idk though. how can i get him to notice me or something!!!!!!!!!!!!!1 (link)
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ha.. you girls should understand you have total power over guys.. really...
just hang around with him a little more, and just act sexy wheneva your with him as if.. everything turns u on =P
get in his personal space a lot more - thats a good way to get a guy to start noticing you. do this by getting close to him physically, you can "accidently" brush past him, hold him or something, or hold is arm and say your checking out his muscle or something like that hehe =P or you can simply hug him a lot more and be playful with him, guys like that.
you can always hang out with him outsdie school - you can get so much closer to him on another level if you do that, just ask him to hang out with like you and maybe 2 other people and just stick by him through the whole day your out and keep giving him signs like going into his personal space and acting sexy etc
if u do hang out with him outside school, makesure your wearing something sexy so that he is like :O
hope i helped =]
remember you have all the power over him
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Is a girl considered a "virgin" is she has had oral or anal sex but not intercorse? (link)
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There is a clear cut line between being a virgin and not being a virgin - once the penis has penetrated the vagina. Only then, are you not a virgin.
It is factual only a few people will say "It depends on.. etc" because they don't understand the facts.. the word virgin comes from biblical times.. the reason it was so amazing that Mary was a virgin and gave birth to Jesus was that you can obviously not have a baby if you are a virgin because you havn't had sex
Now.. if Mary had anal sex and someone somehow thought that it meant she was not a virgin anymore, then im sure a lot of people would be confused at how she was pregnant with Jesus after anal sex rather then being pregnant after being a virgin.
LOL
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