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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I am like nearly bestfriends with this girl at my school. We hang out at school, and on occasion at her house or mine. But when she is with a huge group of friends I feel left out. Like she is busy talking to her other friends and does not pay attention to me, and her friends that she hangs out with always look at me all weird like I don't belong with the group. And ever since school started she barely talks to me because she is busy with her other friends. Although I do walk up to her and say hi but since she is always with other friends she doesn't talk much to me.
How can I get more attention from her, and get our old friendship back?
Although I would like to be closer friends with her, and hang out more without her losing her other friends. I totally respect her other friends. Also, sometimes I prefer just hanging out with her alone, so how can I get that to happen? She is never available because she is busy hanging out with other friends and I would like to hang out with her as well.
I apoligize for asking so many questions, but please answer as many as you can, and just give polite suggestions and tips, please.
Thank you for your time into reading this.
You need to know one thing: firends drift apart slowly at times and you need to accept that. She's not being a good friend to you if she ignores you and hangs out with a crowd that loathes you.
She is not worth your time and you should just forget about her instead of getting hung up on this situation. She doesn't respect you too much if she thinks that the crowd she hangs out with is better than you.
You need to move on and just ignore her. She's not worth your time at all. Make new friends. Join clubs or school activities as well as outside activities that YOU are interested in. It's a great way to meet people who have the same interest as you =]
Hey,
I'm 15/f and I really want to get more in shape and shed a few pounds, I usually try to run but thats about it. I really would like to do palaites. How would I do that. Can I do it home, do I need a video or something?
And would palaties help me becuase more lean and thinner in the stomach, upper arm, and upper leg area?
Pilates is a great workout. It has many different workouts where it can concentrate on one part of the body or the whole body itself.
If you want to do pilates, I suggest you get a workout video and the materials needed. Now, don't go overboard and psend $239482 on equipment and videos. Get one simple exercise..that is cheap which requires only a few cheap equipments. Try it out for a while...yes, you may dislike it the first week, but try it continuously for 2 weeks. If you don't like it, try another exercise. If you do like it, master that video first and then move a level up.
i recently got two dwarf hamsters, and the female, i think it is a female, which i had for two days, is now hiding in a part of a maze i got for them, she hasn't been exersing much, and i feel she maybe sick. i have already seperated the male from the cage when i first thought that she might be sick or pregnant. she is very hard to coach out of that part of the maze, and when she isn't in there she is laying in her spot in the cage or briefly nawing on some food then back to her spot, this started about4 hours ago. if the symptoms sound like anything that you might reconize
Since you just got her...I think...she may just be scared or nervous right now. Give her peace and quiet to get ajudsted...I know this sounds stupid but just talk to her or aorund her anyway. lol.
If she continues on with this for 2 weeks at the minimum, I suggest you bring her to a vet
Know this though: Hamsters are nocturnal creatures. They mostly wake up and move around 11--3amish? I think...they sleep in the mornings A LOT. Don't bother them at that time. I have a long hair hamster and he's awesome...as long as I don't bother him while he's sleeping. lol.
And make sure you close all the exits to the cage and what not because mine almost escaped by opening a door by himself..now it's ductaped..
ok so i have pretty bad skin ok here it goes
i have like chicken skin on my arms like bumps and some on my legs but mostly my arm and my face is always kinda red and blotchy and i have an oily t-zone and pimples on my chin nose tzone and forehead and i have big pores and blackheads PLEEZ HLP :_(
My dear, I have the sameproblem..to a lesser degree now. And the arm and leg thing doesn't apply to me. Anywhos.
Those acne: NEVER USE WHAT DERMATOLOGISTS PRESCRIBE YOU WHETHER IT'S TO APPLY ON YOUR SKIN OR ORALLY APPLIED. It will hurt you in the long run externally AND internally. I don't suggest using store products even if they are recommended. EVERYONE has different skin types and they will always have different reactions to everything. Say one person loves Clean and Clear and it works for her, then it may just cause irritaion, burning sensation, dry your sking out, and just make your acne worse.
But there is one thing that is definately proven to work: Green tea. Seriously--wash your face twice a day (Cetaphil is rad and awesome. It's really gentle and softens your skin)Once in the morning and once at night. At night, after you wash your face, make green tea (prefebly organic powder green tea with filtered out water--not tap water) and make sure it's at room temp or cooler. After your rinse your face, dunk it in the green tea, or splash it on your face with your hands. Do this everynight---for as long as you wish. It will make the pores smaller and the pimples will go poof after regualr use.
And the redness and such, it's because of the acne and if you popped them, it will leave scars. To even out your skintone, use Aveeno Positively Radiant. Make sure it's oil free when you buy it. But it will help your skin tone smooth out. Drink a lot of liquids..water is the best. Lay off sugar, choco, greasy stuff such as fast food, pizza, fries. Sodas..try not to drink them. For the blackheads, eat a lot of greens or veggies
(I am 16 and female) I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about nine months now.We have dated in the past, but it didn't really work out then. Him and I fight all the time. Barely a day goes by where we do not fight. It's like I am always doing something to make him mad. Sometimes he even gets mad if I am smiling. (He thinks another guy makes me smile) He has never been abusive. It's just that it's always like nothing I do makes him happy. He isn't really sensitive and he blames me for most of the fights. I've tried braking up with him, but he always talks me out of it. I really love him, but I can't help but think I would be alot better without him. He always says I don't talk enough (I'm not a big talker) and that I don't show him that I care. I know I do, but recently I had broken a promise I made to him (I told him I would quit cutting myself) and he didn't even try to help. He was just like "I don't trust you anymore." and got all pissed off. I know I have a problem, but he didn't even try to help at all. It's like he doesn't even care. I really need some help with my relationship.
Break up with him. If you guys can't go a da without quarrling over little things, he's not worth it. He's bringing your mood down by criticizing and blaming oyu for a lot of unreasonable and selfish stuff.
He is going out with you for you and not for a talking buddy. He should know that you care about him if you stayed with him for so long. He, my dear is the one showing no respect or care fo you.
He goes and gets pissed at you for a promise you broke...well he broke it too. He promised to help you yet he didnt. If he truely loves you and wants to be with you, you'd be happy right now. Not being criticized at. You wouldn't be having any doubts at all, yet you're seeking advice. He should've helped you yet he doesnt and gets mad.
He my dear is the one who needs a reality check. The world does NOT revolve around him. He needs to start showing respect and care for you but he seems like he isn't going to anytime soon.
You should break up with him. If he tries to talk you out of it, just set the facts right in front of him. He wasn't there to help you. He criticizes you. He puts you down. He gets mad at you for unreasonable reasons. He doesn't show respect or care for you. Yet he expects so much from you yet nothing makes him happy while you're sitting there taking in all his nonsense. Just make it short. Meet him up. Just say I don't see the point in us going out. I'm breaking up with you and you will not talk me out of it. I'm sick of being pushed around like a worthless piece of junk. I've tried to make this work while you sat there doing nothing about it and blocking everything out.
And just leave. If he does try to talk you out, don't listen to it. Think of how rude he's been to you and how selfish.
I'm giving a speech tomorrow, and it's about "my basketball court" now ive wriiten everything im going to say - EXCEPT the introuction!
which, according to my teacher, is super important!
With that said, here comes my question..
I don't want to say "hey my name is.. and im going to talk about my basketball court" i want a fun way of introducing my speech!
something about the actual game, BASKETBALL, or the basketball court..
I know this is a total challenge for you,
but you're totally a good writer..so thats why im asking.
So thank you - you are truly amazing if you help me with this.
I've been brainstorming but it's not coming to me!
thank you so much :)
for any ideas AT ALL about introducing my speech.
Well, if it was me, I would start of like this:
So many people start off with the trite and overused "Hi my name is..." phrase. But this isn't about me or my life. It's about basketball and the fun of it. When the word basketball is mentioned, a large sum of people will think "Yet another sport. Boring." It is indeed a sport but it's something more than that. It's not about only bouncing the ball and shooting it into hoops. It's much more than that. It's a game where people practice, learn patience, team work, endurance, and compete. Basketball may not seem like much, but it is to a lot of the basketball players. It sounds so small and unimportant, yet it does so much for us. It gives us etermination, helps us relieve stress, and gives us a snese of accomplishment and joy whether we win or lose.
Something like that. I don't know if it's suppose to be serious..or what? lol. Erm if that wasn't what you were looking for, feel free to hit me up with more info and i'll rewrite it. OH yes, you may want to alter some words to fit your personality...=D And good luck =]
PS...if you get nervous...EAT BANANAS!! and protein. Seriously. Eat bananas. They really help calm you down =P
Alright, me and and this chick who used to be my friend are in a quarrel. I havent paid her back for this t-shirt she got me and i didnt give her the money i said i would because i figured i'd have a job by now.. anyways, i also said that she shouldnt say other guys are hot when she has a boyfriend, its wrong and she shouldnt do that, i was just tryin to be a friend but now shes mad and i said that we will never be friends again..and im afraid shes gonna do something because we've fought before and she did some nasty things...(perverted)...
How much can a shirt cost?!?! I've loaned my best friend like $50 dollars at least and he still hasn't paid me back but I don't mind because he's my best friend and I use his money sometimes too. Okay, not a lot but sometimes. But this chic doesn't seem lke a firend to me if she's getting pissy for not being paid back.
And why yes, it is wrong going "OMG HOTNESS" at guys while she has a boyfriend. Just tell her that friendship is not about money and that you'll promise to pay her back. And that you were just trying to look out ofr her. If she thinks that that was bad, then she should really rethink aobut what friendship means and try to look at it form your point of view
ok well i havent seen my friend maggie in almost an entire year (she goes to a different school), and i'm going to get one of those paper things to invite her to my homecoming so we can hang out and stuff and she can meet my friends and when i told my friend alyson she was like well then im not going because you'll have her and i was just like okaayy and i kinda shrugged it off.
then she kept talking about it (alyson) and today she was like "yep im not going to homecoming" and i was like "oh" and she goes "since __ will be hanging out with __ and blank with blank and so on and youre taking maggie so whatever" and i was like "well im not taking her to homecoming with me, shes just coming alone with me, to hang out with us, and its not like i wont talk to my other friends and stuff you know?" and then she suddenly was like "i have to go. bye" and i was all quiet and then i was just like "what the hell?" and shes like i have to go. and i was like "why are you pissed? " and she goes "i'm NOT pissed" and i was like "so why do you have to leave all of a sudden then?" and she goes "cuz." and i was like "fine bye." and she hung up!!!!!!!!!
i have no idea what i did and its really pissing me off because i didnt do anything! and when i said the thing about maggie comnig and i would still hang out with other friends i wasnt even bitching it was just a "hey its nice weather out" kind of tone to my voice so i have no idea. and she was the one who kept talking about homecoming. i just dont see why. if you have any ideas? thanks and sorry its so freaking long! lol
and ps. i dont think it would matter anyway if i did talk to maggie the whole time! i havent seen her in a year and i see alyson every single day at school! gah!!!!
seems like there is jealousy among your friends. Yep. Alyson and Maggie both need to understand your situation from both sides. You havent seen Maggie is a long long time and you want to catch up with her and talk with her. On the other hand you and Alyson will be hanging out together also. I guess they both feel the need to take a 100% of you to feel secure or something. They really need to work out issues if they have any...
But really, both of them are afraid that you're gonna ditch them for the other and they'll be left alone. Do they have AIM or MSN or whatever? Invite both Maggie and Alyson to a chat room and have a discussion. Tell them that you really want to go to the homecoming but not alone since you want your friends to be there. THat they're ruining the fun by being hard headed
i have had sex.. i am only 12... i am scared to go to a docter without my mom finding out or where do i put the pills god i wish i just had them and didnt have to go to the docter... :[.I dont know who to talk to about this kindof stuff because i am the only person whose had sex in my grade.. and i go to a cathloic school so i like cant tell anyone or i will be a slut and no one will like me. i drink wich is bad but i cant help it i am not addicted but i just do for fun. haha but yeah just i need some addvice and someone to talk to.
Hon, you're only 12. You have years to have sex. Why now? You really can't get pills by yourself without a doctor so good luck on that. Don't have sex hon. Would you like to be a 13yr old mom? Or carry STDs? Don't say "That wil lnever happen to me. I'll be extra cautious, use a condom, etc." No. It can happen to anyone--with or without a condom. If you get pregnant with a child--then what? Abortion? It's not as easy as it sounds. You'd be killing an innocent being without giving it a chance to live. Giving birth? You'll recieve damage as well as teh baby--the baby might even die. All those things are very hard on life and what if your mom found out? Could you live for 6 years having lost your mom's trust, not being able to hang out with guys at all, possibly get put into an all girl's school, etc?
Drinking...goodness. Teenagers who drink alcohol under the age 15 are more likely to become an alcoholic. You're at an illegal age to drink. Who is supplying you with these drinks? Do you parents keep them around in the house? Although they may not be intentionally supplying you with these, they can still get arrested if they found out you were drinking. Drinking is a suppresant that works for roughly an hour. It damages your skin, internal organs, gives youbad breath, etc.
I'm not sure but when young girls such as yourself have already had sex, do drugs/smoke/drink will have a high percentage chance where there has been something that happened when you were younger (divorce, abuse, etc)I'm ALWAYS here to talk so just email me at xchoke_on_dead_hopex@yahoo.com or IM me on AIM at r0ck0nl0ser and yes. I have YIM and MSN too
Alright.. so.. my and my boyfriend did it without a condom.. i know a VERY DUMB idea, anyways.. i am absolutely terrified..so is my boyfriend, he is panicing so much.. i have no idea what to do.. i really need some advice...
-Kell
Get a stupid pregnancy test. First Response is good and so if EPT. Take a test once a week for 4 weeks and if they all come out negative, good for you. And if your period is delayed, there is a good chance that it's because you are freakin out so much
ok so as all stories start out, there's this guy, and well he's really cute and he went to my middle school but we didnt have any classes together and now we are freshman in high skewl and i still dont have any classes with him but we do have lunch together. i really want to talk to him or atleast get him to see me. i know a kid who is kinda friends with him and might have his screen name abut i dont want to be like stalkerish, so i was thinking maybe sumtime during lunch i wud go up to him or maybe if i see him in the halls and be like "hey, did u got to landings? (the name of our middle school...) and he's gonna say yes and then im thinking of saying like cool me 2 by the way im anna" but i dont really kno if thats good and i dont want to look like an idiot. any suggestions?
Don't over think it my dear. Just go up to him, say "Hey, what's up?" or something like that. Engage him in a conversation something like "You went to ladings, right?" ...blah blah... "Isn't high school better..like woah?" or osmething like that.
The key is, be yourself. Don't try to mold into a person he wants you to be or anyone for that matter. Before lunch is over, ask him for his sn so you guys can continue on with a conversation..just say "Hey, what's your screen name?" blah blah. And no, you do not have to introduce yourself unless he asks...
HEY WELL I HAVE THIS ONE BOYFRIEND AND ME AND CARLOS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 M0NTHS AND LIKE A WEEK. WEVE BEEN THR0UGH S0 MUCH. iVE ALREADY HAD SEX WiTH HiM. WE WERE B0TH READY. AND 0UR PARENTS N0 AB0UT iT T00. i L0VE HiM S0 MUCH AND HE FEELS THE SAME WAY AB0UT ME T00. BUT THE THiNGS iS MY M0M REALLY THiNKS i DESERVE BETTER THAN HiM AND SHE D0ESNT APPR0VE 0F HiM. iM N0T G0iNG T0 LiSTEN T0 HER. iM N0T ALL0WED T0 TALK T0 HiM 0N THE PH0NE 0R ANYTHiNG AND HE D0ESNT G0 T0 MY SCH00L. S0 0NE DAY i CALLED AND T0LD hIM i C0ULDNT BE WiTH HiM iF iT WAS G)ING T0 BE LiKE THiS AND HE STARTED CRYiNG. iT BR0KE MY HEART. i L0VE HiM S0 MUCH BUT i D0NT KN0W iF i SH0ULD JUST LET iT G0? PLUS HE iS VERRY 0VER PR0TECTiVE.
WHAT SH0ULD i D0??
Honey, please. Delete the caps and get hte right capitalization next time. I hate questions in the forms such as this. And next time please include your age...it really helps out.
Anyways, so you love Carlos and he loves you but your mom is in the way. NO I won't tell you to kill her, run away, etc. And don't. My mom doesn't want me dating guys until basically I'm out of college so it's impossible for me to hang out with my guy friends or my boyfriend[s] because she thinks I'm gonna get pregnant or something. Yes, wack. But anywhos. Write down the pros and cons.
If you continue to se him secretly then the
pro's are: you'll see him.
con's are: you'll be lying to your mom, losing her trust, if she finds out..uh oh.
If you don't see him:
Pros: You won't lose your mom's trust. You don't have anything to hide
Cons: You won't be able to see him. You'll feel guilty
But honey, you've only went out with this guy for 6months and saying "I love you" is a big commitment. Since you're still in school living with your parents, I advise you to respect your mom's wishes and go out for other boys. Having sex was a big no, no, but we can't turn back time. Don't let his crying pull you toward him. If he's over protective (how over protective? You need to explain the level of his protectivness) that's going to tear your relationship with him if you continue to go out with him in the long run.
If you still want to go out with him, here's one tip: Ask your friends to contact him for you. Set up a time to go to the movies with your friends and have them secretly have Carlos come along with them. Or tlak on three way, or such. You're friends and their willingness to help out here is the key. But beware that if you continue to go out with him secretly, several things are bound to happen:
1-Secret relationship never last so you guys might break up in the long run.
2-Carlos being over protective plus a secretive relationhip will rarely work.
3-Your mom will find out and you'll lose her trust completely
So my advice is that you just break it off with him but still remain friends. Go out with other boys and don't let Carlos hold you back.
My best friend has trichotillomania and well not talk to here mom what should I do to help, can I help? I feel like I should have know I just found out. I fell like it is my fault please help us.
please email me answers at bribrixoxo@hotmail.com
I'm sorry for replying so late but I have problems going on in my life and it's just uhg.
Anyways, I just found out what trichotillomania is ...did I spell it right? I don't really understand your question but it seems like you want to help your friend get out of that state?
Could you clarify the question with less spelling and grammar? I don't want to reply with an answer that has nothing to do with your question =/
Thanks very much and again, sorry for the delayed reply
how long do you have to wait to take the pregnancy test for it to work after you have sex? how lnog?
Use First Respond..response? Try a week after. and if it turns negative, try again a week after and do that for at least 4 weeks
Hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and i've been chatting in this christian chatroom called church usa and i've been talking to this really cute guy named clark he sent me his picture over the computer yesterday when we met and the whole time while we were talking in the chatroom I kept smiling and laughing and giggling and i kept typing in smiles and lol ever few minutes and we exchanged emails and asked me to send him a flirty email so i sent him one after I seen his picture i told him he looked pretty cute and he was really sexy and i really thought that what's going on here and while I was talking to him he asked me out of the blue if I had a boyfriend and i said no what's going on here do you think i have feelings for him and does he have feelings for me thanks for all of your help please help me.
Infatuation. I am the same way with a lot of different people I meet online but really, I won't develope feelings for them.
You met this person online. How do you know if he's real or not? He could easily be taking those pictures form another person's site just to lure you in. Just be careful and if you do wish to meet him, have it in a public place iwth a lot of friends around.
But really, a lot of guys ask that for not reason. I mean they could be in a relationship themselves and yet ask that.
I'd say you should slow down your flirting and lower it a bit. Becareful not to give out too much personal infor such as your phone number, address, full name, etc.
i like this guy right i'm a little mad at him though NE way i also met some new friends and one of the girls likes him too and her/my friends trying to hook them up but i like him too and i don't wanna be rude and not let them get with eachother but he doesn't even know her he knows me i have all my classes with him and i really think he likes me too because the way he acts.
what should i do help please.
-KikiJ (15/f)
oh no. boyfriend tension between two girls! ahh.
If you really like this guy enough to not let this other girl not be able to go out with him, you should tell your friends.
Tell you friends that you like this guy and you're feeling jealous that they are trying to hook this stranger up with your crush. And make sure that they don't tell the other girl
OR you just simply ask him out. =]
Well... there is this guy (lets call him Jamie).(sorry if its a little long) He's okay but not the hottest guy I've ever seen. He's smart, funny and he's a good friend of mine. My friend Ashlyn and I always hang out with Jamie, another friend named ryan and a few other boys. That Jamie kid likes me though. We play truth or dare and all sorts of stuff outside. Everytime it's his turn he always picks me. He always smiles at me and follows me around. He flirts like crazy with me. Last night it was his turn for truth or dare, he asked my best friend if I liked him and if I would go out with him and stuf like that. She just said I dont know, because she didnt want to hurt his feeling, afterall he is her cousin. Soo... i think he's going to ask me out like SooN! But I dont want to go out with him. It would be weird. We see each other like everyday after school. What should i do to break it to him gently but still be friends. (oh and make sure there isnt any weird tension going on) Thanks :) Should I say yes? or no? I need help!
Well, it won't be totally normal right after you say no. If you don't want to go out with him, don't.
Just say "I'd really just stay friends. I like you in a firend way and I really value this friendship and I feel that if we do break up in the long run, it will just destroy the valuable friendship."
And reassure him that he has nothing to be emberrased about and the next time you see him, act like NOTHING happened and make it easier for him to just move on
ok so ive been invited to my first bar mitzvah!! yay! here come the bad news. every year i go to halloween horror nights to please my dad because he thinks that i enjoy it but really i hate getting scared. he already reschedualed it because of something that i needed to do the weekend that he planned it but now i really want to go to this bar mitzvah because hes the only kid i know that jewish and i want to go and see all my friends from my old school. the problem is hes more my brothers friend and i just got invited to tag along but still i want to go really badly. i talked to my dad about reschedualling again but no he says i have to choose between halloween horror nights and the bar mizvah but my brother wants to go to halloween horror nights because he loves it and he doesnt want to go to the bar mitzvah but i do and i cant show up without him. so one more thing the guy i like is going to the bar mizvah and i never get to see him anymore because i went to a new school last year. im so confused and extreamly mad at my dad so please help!!! i cant confront my dad u see im a little scared of him sometimes and he tries to hard to impress me and my brother.
Why can't you show up alone? You got invited so just say you came here for you brother. I can see from your dad's point of view too. He rescheduled it already and it would be asking for a lot for him to rescheduel it yet again to fit your schedule. Doesn't Bar Mitzvah occur only once in a life for that person (sorry, I'm not very familiar with this)?
Tell your dad if he won't mind you going to this kid's bar mitzvah for it only happens once in his life and you wish to be there and observe it. And promise that you'll be at the horror night thing next year
Hi,
okay so my boyfriend is 3 years older than me and we've been going out for 4 months. He keeps pushing me into doing things. About 3 or 4 weeks ago he pushed me into having sex and i didnt want to because of pregency and stuff. He made me and all of a sudden i was having sex with him. i keep trying to talk to him telling him that im not ready to have sex and stuff but he wont listen. we used protection but im scared of becoming pregnant. I really need help to talk to him and having him listen to me. please. thanks.
Does he know that what he did could result in as rape? Most people imagine rape as violent and loud and etc but really, it's forcing someone to have sex who doesn't want to.
I don't know if that is really the case for you but I just felt like saying it =P.
If he won't respect you for your privacy and won't listen to you dump him. He might just be wanting to have sex all the time and that is not a good idea. Protection alone can't give youa 100% guarentee that you won't get pregnant. No matter what he says, don't give in. Tell him that if he doesn't start respecting your wishes and privacy, you will break up with him.
Don't feel the need to have a boyfriend or to please him all the time. You've just gotta have your own privacy and space
ok well here's the thing. my friend has totally made some stupid choices recently. I know that shes getting older and im also not her mom. but 14 is too young to be out having sex with people especially considering her past with health issues. god knows what else is going on (drugs? drinking?) I dont' know who to go to for help, my friends have told me things too but I can't take the depression i've developed over this. I knwo this problem is common and people view it differently...but I'm scared for her and have run out of resources.. :(
You should sit down and talk with her and that she's making bad choice that will have serious concequences. Whether she like it or not, she should hold back her urges and think about her thoughts before she puts them into action.
14 is too young to be having sex indeed. Being a 15yr old mom isn't too fun either. Did or does she have a traumatic childhood or something like that because that could steer her into those bad things.
If she won't listen to you, warn her that you will set up a meeting with your counslor at your school to talk about this matter. I mean if she might be doing drugs, she may overdose without knowing it. It's better to lose a friendship then the friend.