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HEY WELL I HAVE THIS ONE BOYFRIEND AND ME AND CARLOS HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 M0NTHS AND LIKE A WEEK. WEVE BEEN THR0UGH S0 MUCH. iVE ALREADY HAD SEX WiTH HiM. WE WERE B0TH READY. AND 0UR PARENTS N0 AB0UT iT T00. i L0VE HiM S0 MUCH AND HE FEELS THE SAME WAY AB0UT ME T00. BUT THE THiNGS iS MY M0M REALLY THiNKS i DESERVE BETTER THAN HiM AND SHE D0ESNT APPR0VE 0F HiM. iM N0T G0iNG T0 LiSTEN T0 HER. iM N0T ALL0WED T0 TALK T0 HiM 0N THE PH0NE 0R ANYTHiNG AND HE D0ESNT G0 T0 MY SCH00L. S0 0NE DAY i CALLED AND T0LD hIM i C0ULDNT BE WiTH HiM iF iT WAS G)ING T0 BE LiKE THiS AND HE STARTED CRYiNG. iT BR0KE MY HEART. i L0VE HiM S0 MUCH BUT i D0NT KN0W iF i SH0ULD JUST LET iT G0? PLUS HE iS VERRY 0VER PR0TECTiVE.
WHAT SH0ULD i D0??
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Honey, please. Delete the caps and get hte right capitalization next time. I hate questions in the forms such as this. And next time please include your age...it really helps out.
Anyways, so you love Carlos and he loves you but your mom is in the way. NO I won't tell you to kill her, run away, etc. And don't. My mom doesn't want me dating guys until basically I'm out of college so it's impossible for me to hang out with my guy friends or my boyfriend[s] because she thinks I'm gonna get pregnant or something. Yes, wack. But anywhos. Write down the pros and cons.
If you continue to se him secretly then the
pro's are: you'll see him.
con's are: you'll be lying to your mom, losing her trust, if she finds out..uh oh.
If you don't see him:
Pros: You won't lose your mom's trust. You don't have anything to hide
Cons: You won't be able to see him. You'll feel guilty
But honey, you've only went out with this guy for 6months and saying "I love you" is a big commitment. Since you're still in school living with your parents, I advise you to respect your mom's wishes and go out for other boys. Having sex was a big no, no, but we can't turn back time. Don't let his crying pull you toward him. If he's over protective (how over protective? You need to explain the level of his protectivness) that's going to tear your relationship with him if you continue to go out with him in the long run.
If you still want to go out with him, here's one tip: Ask your friends to contact him for you. Set up a time to go to the movies with your friends and have them secretly have Carlos come along with them. Or tlak on three way, or such. You're friends and their willingness to help out here is the key. But beware that if you continue to go out with him secretly, several things are bound to happen:
1-Secret relationship never last so you guys might break up in the long run.
2-Carlos being over protective plus a secretive relationhip will rarely work.
3-Your mom will find out and you'll lose her trust completely
So my advice is that you just break it off with him but still remain friends. Go out with other boys and don't let Carlos hold you back.
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well maybe your parents have a reason not to like him but who knows. i don't really know enough about your family and this guy to really say one side is wrong. it also depends on how old you are.get back to me with some more info and i will try to help. <3
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You should not write in all caps, it is considered rather rude and it's painful to read. It is also agianst the rules of the site.
If this were asked to the pool it would be immediately deleted and you would be asked to re-write it normally. Because you sent it to me personally I'll make that request: Re-write this question kindly and I'll gladly answer it.
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