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I am having a party in two weeks because its the end of the school year. I have this one friend who I just met this year. I really like her and I want to invite her to my party. The only problem is that some of my friends dont like her. They think she is annoying. I really want her at my party but I dont want to upset my friends either. Some of my friends said they wont come if she is there. I really want my new friend there but I also want my other friends to have a good time and come. What should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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You know what? You just can't please everyone so don't even try. It is your party. You invite everyone YOU want to be there. Anyone has a problem with it...well, they don't have to come. If they miss the best party ever its all their own fault! Invite your new friend, the others can practice good manners or get lost. :)
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ok i have some acne. not a lot but some. and my friend will sometimes make fun of it. i dont think she realizes it, but she still does it. then when i ask her not to say it she just goes, "gosh i was just kidding!" now this girl is flat chested, and if i ever make a joke about that she completely refuses to talk to me for like a day. today something happened and i apologized to her 3 times but she wont forgive me! ive known this girl since second grade and i really dont want to lose a friend. help please!
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I don't think you will. All will be well by monday most likely. You need to make a deal with her. She doesn't talk about your acne...ever, and you don't talk about her boobs (or lack there of). Good luck :)
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15/f something tragic happened to someone who is friends with a good friend of mine, a 15 year old male, who told me about it. well, my good friend was really bummed and about to cry, it was really bad what happened. anyways, it felt right at the moment, so i gave him a hug, and he held me so tight and it felt really good, it made me feel safe and secure. i really wanted to kiss him, but i didnt. i dont know if it was because of what happened, or if it is because i like him but dont know it that i felt this way today. the thing is, he is my ex and tried to get me back and i said i thought we would be better off as just friends. but i'm not sure if thats how i feel anymore... what do you guys think? (link)
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I think you need to talk with him. Maybe go out and see if feelings are still there. :)
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My friend is moving away.... and my other friend was gonna have a party for her but i didnt no it was gonna be a surprise so i kinda told her... now all of my friends are mad at me and no one wants to be my friend! i was gonna go to this party but 4 of the girls who are mad at me will be there so now im not going i dont even wanna go to school on monday bc everyone will be mean to me and i have no friends bc none of them wanna talk to me or anything and i dont no wat to do to make them be my friends again! (link)
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Go to the party. Don't miss out on wishing your friend well just because a few girls are mad at you. The party isn't for them. You made an honest mistake, if they are true friends it will all be over by the time the party is through. Go and have a good time. If you want to apologize again in front of the crowd at party, though it isn't necessary. :)
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Sometimes I feel like the guys our age are so immature. I can honestly say I'm not the prettiest girl in my school, but is that really all that counts nowadays? Some of the girls that the guys I know go out with are dimwits who can't tell the difference between 1 and 2 and still the guys fall for them because they have looks. Sometimes I feel like working for the grades just aren't worth it even though I know they are. What do you think? (link)
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I don't know how old you are but yes, boys can be really superficial at a young age. They do tend to go for the model types until they are old enough to realize there is more to a relationship than being seen with a beautiful girl. To be fair girls sometimes do it to. So while looks may be what they are after now, they will grow up. When they do they will want someone who can at least hold an intelligent conversation. :)
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Ok, so lets call the girl Alicia....
Alicia was getting on my nerves alot. I felt like she thought she was better than be and was ignoring me so I decided to take action. I really regret this now, but I decided to take action. I wrote a mean e*mail to her saying how she was ignoring me and how she didnt match sometimes. There were no curse words and no name-calling, but she got really mad at me. She printed out the email and showed to atleast 10 of my friends. Some people turned against me calling me mean, which was true! I said sorry by leaving e*mails and messages and I even made this card by cutting out letters and pictures from magazines for her but from gossip, i heard she doesnt want to be my friend at all. I miss her alot, and I try my best to be nice and all, but I really wish I didnt send they e*mail. What should I do to try to be her friend again but not seem too clingy and obsessed? Please help.
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All you can do is apologize. Which you have done. Don't pressure her or bug her anymore. If she wants to continue the friendship she knows where to find you. :)
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i am 23 and 11 weeks pregnant , I work but have loadsa dept , my mum is giving me 3 weeks to get out of her house as she does not agree with the pregnancy . what am I going to do , the father is in no position to help me , i do not want to give up my work as I have been there for 5 years.
but I am going to have no where to live please help (link)
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Contact social services and seek some help. They should be able to do something for you to keep you friom falling further into debt. It is not a permenant fix but may help you get on your feet. :)
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I have a concern that eats at me. I cannot just put this to the side and not say anything any longer. The problem lies with my mother-in-law. I do care about her deeply and am very hurt by what has been going on.
Here's the background of myself, I have been married for 5 years now, we have a 4 year old and just had a new baby in Februrary. My husband is the oldest of 3 sons from his family. The middle brother just got married in February- this brother picked our due date to get married (which is another story). As the parents of the bride and groom, my in-laws were expected to pay for the rehearsal dinner...which they did...this was in excess of $700.00. Plus she bought a new dress for the wedding and bought the new bride and groom a wedding gift - this is all understandable. What is not understandable is my husband and I had a baby shower at the beginning of February, 3 weeks before due date/wedding. The mother-in-law did buy the cake (which was very sweet) for the shower however, never bought the baby a gift. She keeps saying she will buy something but doesn't. My birthday was also in February, she never bought me a gift, not even a card. We have the baby and she still has yet to buy the baby anything. My husband's birthday (her own son) was in March - no present - no card - nothing for him either. Now her younger son had his 21st birthday in April and she bought him a really nice gift. In the 5 years that my husband and I have been married, we have been over maybe 2 times a year (other than Thanksgiving & Christmas) to eat. Now the son that just got married in February and his new wife are over there for dinner at least 2 times a week. She did have us over approximately 3 weeks ago for dinner but she stressed to us that she may not be able to have us over because she may not have the money. Again this week she mentioned she would like to have us over "if she has the money" (we have offered to even buy the groceries - she has declined). We do not eat more than the average person.
I am extremely hurt that 1. she can afford a 700 rehearsal dinner and a gift for the bride and groom but can't afford even a $10.00 outfit for her new grandbaby 2. She can afford to buy her youngest son a birthday present but can't afford to buy her oldest son a birthday present (my husband) 3. Can afford to have the new bride and groom over for dinner a couple times a week but has a financial problem when it comes to inviting us over for dinner.
We have no weird time schedules; we are not picky - I will even help clean up after dinner (unlike the new wife). My daughter is well behaved.
On her behalf they are not financially set*(which makes this more frustrating that they can stretch their money for others but not for us). Another thing I can think of is that they are not much of cooks so she may be helping them out in this aspect. But if this is the case, it's not fair because my husband and I could have used help in the beginning of our marriage as well. The new bride and groom do not go to school but my husband and I were in our senior years in college when we got married and Lord knows we struggled, especially financially - we could have used some help too.
I do know she loves me, especially her own son. I do know she does not like the new wife very much. I just don't understand and am extremely hurt, I can't stress how hurt I am from this because I do care about her so much. Please advise what to do. Should I say something to her or any other suggestions. It's just not fair
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Don't say anything. Just forget it. Presents are not that important. Maybe they aren't inviting the younger son over, maybe they just show up. I don't think not getting the new baby a gift is a manditory thing. Perhaps she forgot over time. I think you should not dwell on these unimportant things. If it bothers your husband he can say something to her about it. You though should not. :)
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Okay I bought my mom a card for mOthers day and i want to write something special in it but i dont know what to write! Does any one have any opinions? Thanks ill rate high! (link)
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Just tell her how you feel about her. She'll like it no matter what you say! :)
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My mom and I have been fighting for two weeks about this. Ive been a competative cheerleader for 5 years but Im sick of it now! She wants me to try-out for my middle school team but I dont want to, we've tried talkin it out, but It always ends up in fighting. She listen to me when i say its my choice not to cheer anymore and I seriously dont like it! Whut should I do? (link)
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If you don't want to do it I don't feel you should be made to do it. Maybe your mom needs to get her own life and stop trying to live through you. :)
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Me and my boyfriend kissed for the first time a while back, and now he keeps wanting to do it every day. I'm afraid if we keep kissing every day, we'll soon grow bored of it and move of to sex. I don't want to take things too fast. So what should I do? (link)
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It's good that you are thinking about it. I think that since you are you shouldn't worry much about it going further than you are prepared to go. Kissing isn't something that you'll get bored with...just talk a little now and then so you don't get chapped lips. :)
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I used to wish my bf would take our relationship more seriously. I wished he weren't so prude. Well, I finally worked up the courage to kiss him one day. But now he's so different. After we kissed he said it wasn't as awkward and now all he wants to do is talk romantic, hold me, kiss me, etc. I miss the times when we were more like friends. I feel like we're going too fast (since we're only 13). I don't know what to do and if I talk to him, he might get mad or something. Got any advice for me please?
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I don't think he will get mad if you talk to him about it. If he does then you don't want him anyway. So, I think you should talk to him before he wants to take it further than your prepared for. You got his hormones kicked into high now! :)
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My boyfreiend abuses me!!! I mean like he doesn't mean to but like we will be messing around and he'll grab my hand to hard and I get brusies, and I dont bruse easily!! I tell him it hurts but I know he doesnt mean to!! help!! (link)
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If you tell someone that something hurts and they continue to do it...they mean it. Get rid of him before it gets worse. I think you know this or you wouldn't have asked.:)
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Do you think it's possible to find your soulmate at 12? When I was 12 I got my first bf and we're still together. (I'm 14.) We've been through a lot together and I feel really close to him. But I don't know if that's just because he's the only person I've ever been with, or if my feelings are real. I can't imagine us not being together. He's my best friend. So... Do you thinkit's possible he's my soulmate or am I too young and am being fooled? (link)
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your 12 year old soul mate perhaps, probably not the one that lasts a lifetime. Who knows though. Only time will tell. :)
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Me and this boy are really serious. We have been talking for like3-4 months.But this other guy asked me to the dance and then we started to talk cuz i kinda said yea since the first boy doesnt go to my school.Then he asked me to come outside and we were walkin around all day.Then he fingered me like 4 times,. But i feel really guilty cuz i love the other boy.What do I do? IS this cheating? Do i tell the other dude. (link)
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No I don't think it's cheating since you aren't technically "dating" the serious guy. I would be cautious about the one you went to the dance with however. Since you were pretty easy with him, sorry but true, he will probably be going out with you for only one thing. Don't jump right to that sort of thing, make them at least be seriously dating you first.
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Well I knew this guy for three years. His name is Joe and I went to school with him for 2 years and we were just friends and now he goes to a different school and we chat online everyday and our bond has gotten stronger. We meet up sometimes.We joke around a lot. He's always saying I owe him a hug. Recently I saw him and when we were talking he asked me if he looked good and I told him he was hott. And he told me I looked cute.. THe next day he told me that someone was telling him that I had a crush on him and so I said yes a little. So now Im confused what do I do do I wait or what should I ask him? (link)
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I think things are getting there so i'd wait a little longer and see what happens. Is he of driving age where you would be able to see each other often? I think he will ask you out sooner or later. If he doesn't, then ask him. :)
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i'm 14/f a freshman & have been going out with this guy for about 2 weeks now, but we have liked eachother for much longer. well. hes moving to another state this summer and i doubt i'll see him again afterwards. long distance relationships wont work for either of us so what i'm wondering is, should we continue going out or break up. i like him so much and i couldnt imagine not being with him for the last month and a half or so before he leaves, but at the same time, i'm worried that its going to just be harder on both of us when he leaves if we keep going out. plus, theres this girl & him and her hooked up before we were going out. i think that hes going to want to "see" her one last time before he leaves and maybe mess around with her since he might never see her again. i dont know what to do it just seems like a lose/lose situation. (link)
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I see no reason why you can't still see each other as friends if nothing else. You will still be able to write and stuff. If you really like him I see no reason to break it off early when you could be spending time with each other. It is already going to be hard when he leaves anyway. :)
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Hey, me and this girl were starting to talk one day, and shes kinda hott and shes complaing that no one will ask her out but like shes more higer on the popularity thing, and people r also saying that if i go out with her i will become more cool. we are kinda good friends, and every time were aroung eachother we like smile and stuff... so i was wondering if it would be to aukward.
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oh forget that popularity thing! I think you need to ask her out. Might be a little awkward if she says no but hey, maybe her telling you that no one asks her out was a hint. I thik you need to go for it! :)
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Ok so ive really liked a female friend of mine for a while now (im 18/m), but shes had a boyfriend for about the past 6 months, and ive all but given up on pursuing her. she has a friend thats pretty cute and seems really nice that im thinking of asking out at some point down the line but heres the thing, im worried it might destroy what litle chance i have with my friend if her and her bf ever break up. so onto my question in readers digest form, do girls have a problem with dating a guy thats dated one of their best friends? (link)
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I don't know why they would have. If you dump the friend just to date her THAT may cause a problem. If you date the friend (and don't fall for her) you will know ahead of times when things are looking shakey between your friend and her current flame. If you think a break up is coming then stop dating her friend so a little time will pass before you ask your friend out. Of course you might just fall for her friend and then the problem will be solved. Hey, stranger things have happened! Good luck. :)
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance! (link)
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I don't know if he'll ever be comfortable with the fact that your going to prom with another guy. It's an unusual situation because its more of a date than just hanging out with some guy friends or going out with several of them as a group. I do understand that you don't see it that way, but I can also understand his feelings about it.
As far as getting him to stop hating all of them goes. Do you ever all get together...him included? Maybe if he got to know them one at a time he would be able to become friends with some of them.
I really doubt he will get over the prom thing until it is over and done with. I think maybe he is trying not to be jealous, but maybe is a little. Like I said earlier, going to prom is kind of a date thing.
I'm sure I wasn't a lot of help, I do hope it all works out for you though. Give him some extra attention and try not to hold it against him. :)
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