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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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My friend Lisa recently broke up with her boyfriend, Kent. He told her he loved her, etc, and she believed him. Sounds cliche, but with a twist: they didn't sleep together. She still crys most of the time when we mention him. I've known him longer than I've known her. She was telling me that he made her feel inferior (he didn't try, he's just so perfect) and I told her that I never asked him out because I felt he was too good for me. She suggested I ask him to the next girl's choice dance and offered to be in my group and fix my hair. Does this sound like a trap to anyone?
She may be just trying to be in the group to get next to Kent..but hey, I'm not Lisa and I can't assume or speak for her.
Just ask her straight out if she's just trying to get close to Kent. Tell her that you don't have a problem with that and if she wants to, she can just say yes instead of trying to be devious. If you don't want to throw this assumption at her, than tell her straight out that you don't think that it's a good idea because she is denying her feelings by telling you to ask him out, etc. And if she is persistant and keeps on declining your idea, than go to the assumption because she's trying to get with Kent by using you
ok well my boyfriend was over 2day and i had a sip of alcohol and he got pissed and he wouldnt talk 2 me. He is really concerned because his family has problems with alcohol and he is sXe for all of you who know wat that is. He was i dunno he was like dissapointed and well i hurt him like his feelings like he told me I hurt him and now i feel wicked bad. I promised him and myself that i wont ever have any more alcohol and well im scared. If you were me wat would you do?
Okay, I'm sXe and it stands for straight edge. It's a movement started by Minor Threat and the general idea of it is to not drink, smoke, and do drugs. Having a family that is alcoholic pretty much sucks and it's great that he won't let himself get caught in the family and screw up by becoming an alcoholic. It's probably a sensative area to him to see someone he likes developing a chance of becoming an alcoholic. Maybe he thinks that he may lose someone he likes to alcohol.
If I were you, I'd apologize and tell him that you don't want to be like his family and become alcoholic. Tell him you didn't know much about sXe and didn't think much of it when you took that sip. Just reassure him that you're really sorry and that you will never drink again.
i want to make new friends, but i dont really know how to. You see, it's just kind of weird to go sit at a lunch table that you don't usually sit at, or start talking to people at school that you don't really know. So, my question is, how do you make new friends?
I'm assuming that you're in school, right? Join clubs, sports, activities that you like because you're bound to meet someone in there that shares the same interest as you. Just walk in and ask what's going on or something. From there just hang out with the person and you'll easily and soon be introduced to a variety of people. Or in class, just talk to people. You're obviously in the same class. Make comments or ask questions about that class.
At lunch, there HAS to be someone that you sort of know. If you guys went to the same elementry school, that's reason enough to sit with them. Just casually go and sit with them. Say things like "Hey, weren't you in my __grade class?"
Or if oyu see someone from any of your classes, sit with them and say "Hey, aren't you in my __class?" blah blah
Do You Know Any Good Sites With Information About Alcohol Effects and just general information about it? i need to ace my health projectt.
http://alcoholism.about.com/od/effect/The_Effects_of_Alcohol_and_Drugs.htm
just go to google and google: effects of alcohol
alcohol effects
etc.
Okay I'm about to ramble so get ready...
My problem, what is it? I'm not sure. I think I have more than one but i'll tell you all the symptoms now.
I feel it's extremly neccesairy to be happy at all times...for myself? No. So that I don't get others sad. I feel like its my job to keep people happy. Well...at times. At others I think it should be all about me getting attention and pity and being depressed. At those timees I feel the world has to be about me.
The thing is I feel as if it's 2 of me. I...I doubt im have some split personality disorder but I just feel...maybe? Like whenI look at things I wrote...emails notes ect sometimes I tell myself "you didnt write that...it wasnt you". Now obviously I know it was but...I just don't remember it and I feel I wouldnt have wrote it like that.
Now not remembering it is another problem...I have terrible memory...not like occasional "Where did I put my keys" but like I can almost never remember where most of my stuff is what I didi with is ect but I feel thats because im always daydreaming. I always feel out of it not realising the world. Thats what I blame short term memory on. But my long term memory is terrible also. Well...chosen memories.
I can remember a bunch of times I cried at school...I can remember feeling guilty after being a jerk and saying something stupid in class. But I can't remember my first best friend or anything happy. If I can I have to try reaaaaaaaly hard and most of the time im pretty sure I "remember" them because we got them on tape and watched them recently. And when I remember stuff its from a thrid person view...is that normal? I'm not too sure. I doubt my sanity all the time then reasure myself but I dont know...
I'm very strange when it comes to social situations...I can sing in front of 100's of people and not be shy at all but when it comes to asking a teacher for a homework I lost it terrifies me. I hate school do to this. I am very unorganised and the daydreaming doesnt help. It's not that im afraid of the people themselves its just if I say something stupid and they give me that look...that "You're kidding right?" look it just burn a hole in me ...it shatters me to peices...I know its stupid but it does.
So I hang around with alot of girls but barely any guys...yet i've only had one girlfriend my whole life...I dunno...I feel lonely because of that though...I feel like I need someone to love me but I think thats the "wants attention" side...
Well if you survived that...tell me...what do you think is wrong? What should I do...what?
P.S. I am a very confused 15 year old boy
I'm a little confused but I think you may have a lot of times where you are afraid of what people are gonna think about you. You don't want to be judged and just hang low while trying to make everyone happy. I think that you should learn to accept that if people are judgemental about you in a negative way, they're not worth your time crying over.
And while you're making everyone happy, you want someone to make you happy and you feel like you're giving all the time instead of receiving. And those are the times where you want to withdraw a little and try to make all the attention focused on you.
As for the memory thing, Charles, my friend, is worse and he's 15 too. He sometimes forgets where he's going...in school. And don't worry. I forget too. But not as badly. Like I would put something down and 2minutes later, I'd be wondering where I put down that huge, heavy bag. Haha.
Tell me if I'm wrong with my understanding of your rambling Haha. IM me if you want
Ok so I'm gonna keep this short and simple.. I'm in love with my bestfriend and everytime I see her I fall more and more in love with her. She don't like me back. I'm a very emotional person so it hurts that I can't be with her like that. I have stopped talking to her to get over her. But she and I dont wanna lose our friendship. How do I get over her and be her friend?
I'm assuming you're a guy, right? Well, finding a friend is a hard thing to do, especially with the opposite gender. She saw you as someone she could hang out with and just be herself around without having them hit on her.
Question yourself with this. Would you rather go out with her and have an awkward and short relationship (along with this will come a very awkward friendship afterwards and it won't be as strong as before) and be another one of her ex's OR would you rather be the best friend she'll always remember and keep dear to her heart?
We're all teenagers and our hormones are crazy right now. Don't make a stupid mistake by asking her out right now. Wait it out because you'll realize a friendship is much better and stronger than a short relationship.
well its the same as the title lol. My question is If you have masturbated in the past does that mean that your hymen is no longer intact?
Most likely not.
my mum keeps calling me names .and every time i try to do something she yells ar me help me plz
Calling you names like in a bad way or an embaressing way>?
If it's an embarassing nickname like honey buns (I don't know..just came to my mind the first thing) Then tell her that you're a little too old for those nick names and you prefer to be called by your real name.
If it's bad/abusive kinda of way...yes that is a form of abuse..mental/emotional/verbal abuse. Tell your mom that you don't appriciate being treated like that and talk to your counslor about it.
so me and my boyfriend have had sex twice. the first time we did it i don't think he broke/tore the hymen even though it hurt really bad, basically i kept pushing him off me on reflex. anyway, the second time was yesterday and it also hurt really bad but i still don't know if he tore the hymen, it still hurt and i understand it will hurt the first few times but how do i make sure he fully "popped my cherry"?(i got tired of using the words broke/tore)
You're not a virgin. It doesn't matter if your hymen got torn or not. You had a sexual intercourse with someone and that's that.
Does anyone know any good rock love songs? like in love songs?
I'm trying to find a song for me and my boyfriend. thank youu
Well, this songs not really rock nor is it for a boy and a girl relationship. It's Not Gonna Get Us by tATu. Hehe.
Demolition Lovers--My Chemical Romance!!!!
Think About You--Guns n Roses
?I'd Do Anything--Simple Plan?
Have You Ever Needed Someone So Bad--Def Leppard
Until The Day I Die--Story of the Year
I'm not gonna list anymore because thye're kind of dark. But have you notcied that modern rock bands write about heartbreaks and not love songs?
I'm 15, and my little sis is turning 13 in like twelve days, on the ninteenth of january. what type of party can she throw in 12 days? she doesnt know whether to just go see a movie with her close buds or do a big thing at our house.. shes been asking me for ideas, but honestly I dont know what she'd want to do. it cant cost "too much" money, and for the movies, should she pay for her friend's tickets or not, because like.. its her birthday so maybe she should pay?? i dunno! or have any other ideas? bowling? shopping? etc.. please not too costly. like give me the full plan and stuff from your idea and i'll see how it goes with her. thankyou!
Okay, for my 13th birthday...I went to the movies with 4 of my friends. (Paid for 2 large popcorns, drinks and tickets) Came home and played games like DDR/board games. Danced like morons to music. Had a sleepover and in the morning had a water balloon fight. Hehe.
But it was all trite and kind of boring.
I think she should just invite 2-4 friends instead of having a big crowd because that is always disastrous for someone/some people in one way or another. Invite them, order pizza and rent a movie they can watch. Go shopping (her friends will have to bring their own money) and hmmm I'd sujest go to the ice skating rink or something if it's cold enough. But if it isnt, well, sleepover Haha.
So heres the scoop.
Me and this kid named Kaleb* had a thing.. we were not techically going out but we hung out and kissed, held hands and wouldnt go and kiss anyone else...
then it all changed.... he asked me out... then 4 hours later said he made a mistake and he only asked me out because he felt pressured into asking me out by his friends and that he was not ready to be in a relationship. So the stupid girl that i am said... well then i think we should just stay friends because obviesly you dont know what you want or when you will want it... and then we got close again.. and the other night i got mad at him and now he says we should take a break from all this and wait till feb. and he will ask me out then.. and i tol dhim straight out, i will not wait forever and if i find someone i like more then i will move on. And now... I think i like someone and me and kaleb just ended "things" 2 days ago and i feell bad because like the saying... just because ive moved on doesnt mean im over you. that explains this... ive moved on, but that doesnt mean im over him.. and i dont know if i moved too fast? or what i should do??? help?? and ideas, advise, suggestions!!!!!!
Kaleb isn't interested in a relationship and you probably shouldn't have gotten mad at him for that. I assuming you guys are teens and all teens have hormones are that going crazy right now.
Apparently he was just looking for someone that he can kiss and stuff without being tied down to one certain person...like friends with benefits sorta.
Until he's very sure that he wants to get into a relationship, you should just stay friends with him. Apologize for being mad at him because that might pressure him into asking you out before he's ready because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend forever. And if you like someone else, go for it. You're not tied down to Kaleb. If you feel guilty about liking someone else, you'll never move on
why did they cancel shows like hamtaro (on Cartoonnetwork), just for kicks (on Nick), and Made (on MTV)? I liked all three, and I dont get why they cancelled them... if they still show it... well thats weird, cuz I havent seen them in the TV guide thingy recently. except for made, but they havent made (no pun intended) new episodes.
Well, it could be because they weren't making enough money, it was getting dull, they ouldn't recruit enough people, it wasn't popular enough to compete with all the new shows.
well i met this new guy lets say his name is tyler. well hes veryy outgoing and not shy at all. Well thing is i tend to get shy or just sound really stupid when i try to talk to them. He doesnt like shy girls he likes them outgoing, naughty type girls but still a lady ya know.. On the phone its like whatever to me i can carry on a conversation but once its face to face i tend to freeze or get shy. my question is how can i stop being so shy around boys? or any1 in general Thanks soo much!!
♥ katie
I'm going to make this wild guess and say you have friends...am I right? Haha. Anywhos, just see him as your friend. What would you talk to your friends about? Just talk about random things. One thing that never fails is to turn all the focus on him. Get to know him while having him get to know you. Have him talk about himself.
With Charles, we talk about nerdy stuff like books or politics. With Stephen I talk about religion, society, government. I tend to be a deep thinker along with my friends. If he's a deep thinker, talk about that.
If he isnt, talk about music, friends, crazy things he did or you did. School, etc. The possibilities are endless. Especially if you treat him as you would treat your firends...just don't start with the femal anatomy XD
15/f
Hello, recently I have had major problems with my friends and I have really only been hanging out with my mom. We have fun and all, but is this healthy? She seems to be the only person I can count on who actually likes me for who I am.
Thanks! =)
It's great that you can talk to your mom and hang out with her and enjoy it. I wish I could but I can't so enjoy it while it's there instead of blowing it off for friends you won't be able to count on. It's really hard to find a friend that is true ... we'd be lucky if we all had even one.
But secluding yourself too much from kids your own age could have so bad effects on you. So while spending time with your mom, still make time where you can hang out with people your own age.
my friend lets call her "S"
well she gets mad at me for likeing guys that she dosnt approve of and my last boyfriend dumped me because of what "S" said to him i felt like i was falling in loved with him but "s" messed up every thing
should i still be her friend even though she messed up whati had with him
So, I had a friend like that. And I'm not going to say "Don't let guys get in the way of friendship." Because from my experience, she's probably not looking out for you. She may just be controlling or jealous or likes the guy you like and is trying to get you to back off of him.
The next time she gets mad at you, point out that its you're life, it's your decisions, and she has no right to get mad at you if you do something in YOUR life that SHE doesn't like.
i have this friend lets call her "L" for now.All my friends and I think she is bi-sexual but i don't know what i should do.Basically on new years i invited her over to hang out and she kept touching, playing with my hair,tickling me,laying on me(so i moved and she did it again),jumping on me, and always looking other girls, and she is always checking out me and my other 2 friends saying oh my gosh! your butt is so small and stuff.So, i don't know do u think she is bisexual because she has a boyfriend so she cant be a lezbian.What should i do? Should i ask her? If I do though she will deffinetly take that offensively because she is like that.I have a boyfriend so i know i am not like her.
I should give you a trite answer of "Talk to her about it" to make my life easier but my life's already complicated so why bother.
And yes, it will be very hurtful to L if you ask if she's bi especially when she's not.
She can be just rreally friendly and outgoing like that and outspoken not really caring what others think. She may be a real extrovert.
I'm guessing oyu guys are teens...maybe she's just confused about her orientation right now and she's acting out to see if she's bi, les, or straight.
Just give her time and she'll eventually stop or continue on. If she seems as if she's not going to stop anytime soon, ask her in a joking way. I don't know how but you can think of it. But personally, I'd make a fake sn, say you got her sn from myspace, chat room or wherever and you thought she was cool. And pretend like you're bi and see how she responds to that. If you can't tell, ask her...as this total random chick around her age...heh
I read somewhere that you will start getting discharge one year before you have your period. well ive been getting whitish to clear discharge in my underwear for the past 3-4 years, and i still dont have my period. i have spotted twice before, about a year apart. the last time was last year. i have pubic hair (sorry i know this is all kinda gross, but these are all symptoms of getting your period soon) and my breasts are still developing, and i grew a lot taller. so why havent i gotten my period?
i am athletic to the extremes (i'm on a swim team), i'm 15, and my mom got hers at age 13. each year my doctor has predicted my period, but it never happens. she has never bothered to examen me down there.
should i be worried? i want to get my period eventually, like i wanna have kids in the future. i heard about this disease where you never get your period and cant give birth.
any advice, comments, or feedback in general would be very much appreciated!!!! thanks!!
Chill my dear. Plus you don't want your period..you really don't. It's just uhg. All the cramps and having to go to the bathroom every 4 hours and the blood part. Ew. Yes.
You don't have anything to worry about right now. Being athletic delays when you get your period. So that's why you probably haven't gotten it yet.
I am scared as hell when talking to the opposite sex...I believe I am inferior...
I wish to know anything that might help me be a more effective communicator...to help me gain confidence to get a relationship...
Okay, first you need to breath...and chillax. Haha. Just pretend as if this person was the same gender as you. Act around them as you would with your friends...just don't get to girly/boyish.
Get to know this person before trying to persue a relationship. girls/guys like people with confidence so if you can't talk to the opposite sex, it's not going to help with persuing a relationship. Just know that. No one's going to judge you at first glance. Let them get to know you as you get to know them...and oh yes one mroe thing
"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" by Eleanor Roosevelt
Hello
Well it just always seems like when I meet a new boy I have a crush on him and I don't get it I can't really tell if its true or just my stupid slef wanted a boyfriend so I tell myself like him you can get him like him! Err I don't know I'm confused so I don't know if its a real crush or just a "fake crush"?!
Well, I guessing you're a teen and teens are always boy crazy/horny. Heh, in your case, boy crazy. A lot of use tend to think that a guy likes us for the stupidest things that guys do with other friends.
You just need to chill and not scare the boy off with your 5min crush. Just get to know them as friends first and decide if you really like them or not...and if you do, you need to decide if you like them as a friend or a bf.
Ask yourself this. Would you make out with him or just hug him? If you said yes to the first one, you like him like a bf. If you said yes to the second one, you just want to be friends.