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did i move on too fast?
So heres the scoop.
Me and this kid named Kaleb* had a thing.. we were not techically going out but we hung out and kissed, held hands and wouldnt go and kiss anyone else...
then it all changed.... he asked me out... then 4 hours later said he made a mistake and he only asked me out because he felt pressured into asking me out by his friends and that he was not ready to be in a relationship. So the stupid girl that i am said... well then i think we should just stay friends because obviesly you dont know what you want or when you will want it... and then we got close again.. and the other night i got mad at him and now he says we should take a break from all this and wait till feb. and he will ask me out then.. and i tol dhim straight out, i will not wait forever and if i find someone i like more then i will move on. And now... I think i like someone and me and kaleb just ended "things" 2 days ago and i feell bad because like the saying... just because ive moved on doesnt mean im over you. that explains this... ive moved on, but that doesnt mean im over him.. and i dont know if i moved too fast? or what i should do??? help?? and ideas, advise, suggestions!!!!!!
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The amount of times this sort of thing has happened! :-) Tell Kaleb that you are not over him and that you still have high opinions of him and feelings haven't changed, but that there is another guy that you like as well and that you stand a chance with. Explain to him that although you are not over him you want to take the oppertunity with this other guy because as you said...You can't wait for him forever.
If Kaleb's feelings for you are strong and his intentions are good he will fight for you and ask you out or tell you he wants to be with you...If not, as harsh as it seems you should sieze the moment and be happy...You're not moving too fatst if Kaleb put you on hold!
I hope i have helped!
Good Luck!
Biker_chic
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Kaleb isn't interested in a relationship and you probably shouldn't have gotten mad at him for that. I assuming you guys are teens and all teens have hormones are that going crazy right now.
Apparently he was just looking for someone that he can kiss and stuff without being tied down to one certain person...like friends with benefits sorta.
Until he's very sure that he wants to get into a relationship, you should just stay friends with him. Apologize for being mad at him because that might pressure him into asking you out before he's ready because he doesn't want to lose you as a friend forever. And if you like someone else, go for it. You're not tied down to Kaleb. If you feel guilty about liking someone else, you'll never move on
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Nope. You're right to move on. Kaleb is a child who can't make up his mind for himself. Don't wait for him. Don't count on him. Sometimes likeing someone is not enough. He has to like you too and he has to know it and be able to admit it. So follow your heart elsewhere if there's someone else who could make you happy. Maybe seeing you with someone else will even help poor Kaleb make up his mind about how he really feels and what he wants to do about it.
Sabine
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