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making new friends
i want to make new friends, but i dont really know how to. You see, it's just kind of weird to go sit at a lunch table that you don't usually sit at, or start talking to people at school that you don't really know. So, my question is, how do you make new friends?
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A good way to make friends is show that you're paying attention to other kids in your class, watch them(not like stalker or anything)and decide who you'd like to be friends with, then just kind of gradually say comments to them like ask for a pencil or offer gum or something.
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Yo.
What i usually try to do is ask my old friends who they have met/ heard about and who they think is nice. I also try to talk to a variety of people, and now i have a HUGE variety of friends, goths, girly-girls, tom-boys and i have a few guy-friends. You dont really have to have the same gender of friends (girls with friends that are girls, boys with boys that are friends; stuff like that) i have alot of friends that are guuys, and i am a girl and im fine with that. Just be yourself.
No one is better qualified ;)
-YOLIV :)
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well what i usually do is stay to myself until people start talking to me. Or ask someone a question. Or for help on a problem. If they seem frustrated or dont wanna help dont worry about it. but if they help you then start talking to them. once you start getting closer to them ask where they sit at lunch. and if u can sit with them. might not seem that easy but it takes time. not everyone makes friends in a second =]
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making new friends is easy! all you hve to do is go sit at a lunch table where there are only a few people there. only go if they dont look like the snobby kind of people. if theyre complete oposites from you (ex: ur a girly girl, they look like sportsy people) then dont go. walk over to an empty seat and ask if you can sit. introduce yourself, and show them you are friendly. keep conversation going, and dont be to pushy. also, dont be shy. confidant people are the funnest people to hang out with. after a while of this if you think you are becoming friends i would ask them if they want to hang out after school. but make sure not to rish it or they will think your pushy.
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I'm assuming that you're in school, right? Join clubs, sports, activities that you like because you're bound to meet someone in there that shares the same interest as you. Just walk in and ask what's going on or something. From there just hang out with the person and you'll easily and soon be introduced to a variety of people. Or in class, just talk to people. You're obviously in the same class. Make comments or ask questions about that class.
At lunch, there HAS to be someone that you sort of know. If you guys went to the same elementry school, that's reason enough to sit with them. Just casually go and sit with them. Say things like "Hey, weren't you in my __grade class?"
Or if oyu see someone from any of your classes, sit with them and say "Hey, aren't you in my __class?" blah blah
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Well I'm not sure what grade your in but I'm a freshmen and I didn't know half of my frosh class so I had my friend introduce me to the kids from the other schoool. Also, since its a new semester new classes and people just talk to those people in your new class. Or if you met someone once ask if they have a sn, myspace, facebook, and then just talk to them there and get to know them better. Lastly try hanging out with a friend who has differnt friends than you so you can be friends with her friends.
Well I hope I helped, and good luck.
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Making new friends is really a lot of fun if you try. First of all kudos for having the guts to do something about making new friends. Some people stay in the corner all their lives. If you don't want to just sit down at a new table try asking someone in your class a question. So like if you see a girl who looks interesting in english class, after class say to her "Man, I do not get the plot of that book." A conversation has started. Also don't aske yes/no questions because they will bring the talking to a screeching halt. Anothre way to meet new friends is to join new clubs. If you think the kids in drama club are confident and outgoing and youy like that join drama club. Also if you join a club or sport you automatically have something to talk about. From their find some common ground. Soo everyone is gonna want you at their lunch table! Hope i helped! <IM me if you want- metgirl517>
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Theres no real way to make friends. I cant give you a magic secret that will instantly make you popular. First of all, know good REAL friendships take a while to develop..they dont happen overnight. Being nice to people is key. If youre sweet, friendly and approachable, people will like you! Dont get stuck in a reputation. For example, Ive learned the hard way talking and gossiping about people will always backfire on you. People WILL tell other people you do it and you will get caught. Also, you'll get the reputation of a gossip queen/bitch and no one wants a friend like that. Its weird but its helpful to sit at a table you wouldnt normallys it at. Chances are, theyre going to be nice about you sitting there and fine with it. Try sticking with people you dont know well in your classes. If you have to work with a partner on something, try to talk to them about what youre working on and then move your way into a more general conversation. "I love this class, what about you?" or something like that. Just be outgoing and confident. And you will have friends. :] good luck!
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