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bestfriend
Ok so I'm gonna keep this short and simple.. I'm in love with my bestfriend and everytime I see her I fall more and more in love with her. She don't like me back. I'm a very emotional person so it hurts that I can't be with her like that. I have stopped talking to her to get over her. But she and I dont wanna lose our friendship. How do I get over her and be her friend?
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Getting over her will take time so this you will have to persevere with but if you dont wana lose her as a friend then you should still talk to her as normal only you could maybe focus on setting her up with her crush as this is what I did an it worked a treat
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it is not a simple problem. getting over someone it is not something you decide and something that can change from one day to another. but if you try to understand that its imposible to have some kind of relationship with her, it could simplify the problem.
try watching other girls, looking for someone who could love you back the way you like.
also, as she is your bf, think about ruining your friendship if this relation ship does not work as you wish.
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it wont be hard to get over her. i have a best friend to who i think likes me. but we are still friends. dont worry about it too much. just try to find someone else to keep on your mind. theres someone for everyone out there! so dont get all worked up over one girl. there are plenty more.
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Try to find someone else that will make YOU happy. She will realize that she didnt see what a cool guy you are. Just keep on being friends because losing your friendship is the worst thing that could happen. If she doesnt want you back as a friend or a boyfriend, than she is stuck up and doenst appriciate you.
Hope it helps,
gossipgirl234
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try hanging out with other girls that might like you. you don't have to go around rubbing it all up in her face that you made new friends. maybe you two can start talking a little more and hanging out a little less. (yes confusing, but it may work.)
i wish i could give you further advice. but thats the best i could do :)
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alright well the way i see it, you have a couple options:
either try to impress her and try to get her to fall for you, then tell her you like her when you think she likes you, [or just tell her whenever you want to]
ORRR
you could just stop looking at her in a romantic/lovely way. like only think of her as a friend.. and a friend ONLY. whenever you're with her, keep it friendly and remember how much you want to not like her.
but personally, i think you should tell her how you feel and maybe give it a shot! by giving it a shot, i mean maybe you two could go out =] since you're best friends, you must have alot in common, so i don't see why it wouldn't work =]
well sorry if this wasn't much of a help, but i tried! good luck! ♥
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Okay I had this happen before.Lets make his name David. Okay well anyways I liked David alot and he was my best friend and everytime I hanged out with him I would fall in love with him even more and im and a emotional person too. So I thought he didn't like me back. Untill I told him I liked him and me and him still where friends untill he asked me out. Okay,Well I don't like you can fall out of love this easy. With you seeing her all the time its gonna kill you inside so if I where you I would talk to her about She will listen and understand. And maybe once you tell her and its off your chest maybe she will start having feelings for you, you never no but i hope everything works out.
hope i helped some
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This has happened to me before. Maybe not as bad, but he was my best guy friend. Just keep telling your self that she is your best friend and you don't want to lose that. right?
-MelissA
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I'm assuming you're a guy, right? Well, finding a friend is a hard thing to do, especially with the opposite gender. She saw you as someone she could hang out with and just be herself around without having them hit on her.
Question yourself with this. Would you rather go out with her and have an awkward and short relationship (along with this will come a very awkward friendship afterwards and it won't be as strong as before) and be another one of her ex's OR would you rather be the best friend she'll always remember and keep dear to her heart?
We're all teenagers and our hormones are crazy right now. Don't make a stupid mistake by asking her out right now. Wait it out because you'll realize a friendship is much better and stronger than a short relationship.
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You are in quite a special little predicament here. I can't keep it short and simple as you have. :)
I wonder, have you told her how you feel to come to the conclusion that she doesn't like you in that way? I am going to assume so...
I always tell people to get over someone is to steer clear of them until they get their emotions under control.
However, your situation is different because she is your best friend. I worry that if you stop talking to her, she may think you are mad at her and don't want to be friends anymore. I suggest that if you want to stay away from her until you find yourself, you need to tell her why (if you haven't already). Otherwise, it could be damaging to your friendship.
You are best friends, and best friends should be able to be honest and upfront with each other.
She doesn't want to hurt you, but she has the right to what is in her own best interest. As do you.
I will tell you from personal experience (and I know I'm not the only one who could), that it is a big no-no to date your best friend. If you break up, the friendship is never the same, if it even exists anymore. The old saying is that the quickest way to loose a friend is to date them.
The only way I know you can get over this and be her friend, is to accept reality. Respect her feelings and what she wants in life. Be in love with this wonderful friendship you are so privileged to have, not the friend. Don't let your emotions come between said friendship- it is never worth it.
I promise this won't be an easy task for you. This is one of the many hard things you have to in life that really sucks. Doing what is for the best is never easy. It will take time, patience, and pain as well, but it won't take your heart.
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Hmm well thats a tuffy but I kinda had the same probably with my friend but he'd always come to me for girl advice and stuff and I'd help him cause I didn't want him to be unhappy..but anyways since I've met him he's had 3 or 4 girlfriends and each of them i thought he really cared about but turnes out he did. And I realized that our friendship will always last thought his girlfriends and my boyfriends and even thought we don't kiss or anything were still really good friends. So I don't know if that help at all but if you were her boyfriend that may only last a year or less? But being her best friend and always there for her, tha'll last forever.
Hope I helps ya
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