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heyy ii really need someone to help me in this situation. please i rate high =) ..
ok well my boyfriend and i have gone out like once or twice b4 and were going out as of now again and the first 2 times i broke up wit him for the same reasons being 1) he acts all different around me and its like its not the person that i actually like in him 2) he choses like his friends over me for example we`ll be talking on the phone and hes like ''my friends calling i gotta go love yah bye'' *hangs up* its like yeah i love yah 2 .. talking to the dial tone. and im just soo stuck.. i mean 2day he came over and ofcorse he just had to bring over one of his friends.. and this is one of the problems tha way he acts when hes around his friends compared to me.. and like his friend wanted him & i to make out and stuff and thats just not something that my bf would do right away in a relationship and stuff so he started acting like lets do it type of thing when thats really not like him.. idk and like he tells me im beautiful like only when his friends are around i mean is he just trying to get something from me, im soo confused. do i believe him or not? .. and im always tempted to break up wit him but the past 2 times i broke uhp wit him i regreted it .. and soo yeah im really just stuck..and i just wanna move on in life.. i dont know what to do .. anyone have any sugguestions between break up or just like any other ideas? please help!! (link)
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I would be finding myself someone who treated me as if I was his number one priority. Friends are good to have and shouldn't be ignored but, you should be number one. The decision is yours :)
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I'm 16 and I have recently gotten mixed up in the dating scene again. I've been staying single for a few months to try and sort out my priorities so that the next time I decide to start dating again I will end up with a guy that will treat me right. Well that day has come but its certainly not as easy as I thought it would be thats for sure! One guy I've known since I was a little kid, my mom knows his parents and she likes the idea of me dating him. Plus we've liked eachother for over two years and have both are single now. We've talked on the phone alot and hung out almost every other day. We've kissed and we have so much in common and he is really sweet. But some things about him I'm unsure of. I don't trust him that easily because some things he says seem like lines and he hasn't ever brought up the subject of us dating or anything so I'm not sure if he just wants to mess around, cuz I'm not up for that. The other guy I've met a few days ago. He just recently moved here and the minute our eyes met we clicked. We have alot of things in common, his parents already met me and love me, my mom knows about him and is willing to give him a chance, and we've already talked of dating and he's all up for it and so now it is my desicion. And there lies the problem. I like both guys and I have major chemistry with both. My mom wouldn't mind me dating either and now I'm stuck in a tricky situation. The first guy is from my school and I really want to give him a chance cuz I like him and if I turn him down and date the other guy he might feel played. And visa versa. Please help me. My heart is torn between these two guys and I have no idea which way to go!
~Hopelessly Torn Apart (link)
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Why don't you just wait and go out with the first one who asks? You don't have to make it a steady thing if things don't work out...just don't go out with him again. :)
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Hey Everyone! Well I went to a party in New York City a couple of weeks back and met an amazing looking guy. We hooked up at the party and really enjoyed our time spent together. After the party we promised to keep in touch and i gave him my number, and he called me the next day. He decided to come visit me in Jersey with a couple of his friends later that week. While we were talking he told me that he was 20 and i'm only 15(meaning im illegal). He was a little surprised by our age difference since i definently look a lot older than i appear to be. After meeting him @ my house I had to leave for residential camp for a week in order to be a C.I.T(Counseler in Training) While I was gone we talked on the phone and found out that we had a lot in common such as: Our birthdays are on the same day>How strange is that! As soon as I got home I went on his Profile to check out what he'd been up to. I found out that he'd been writing a lot of comments to different grls saying that they were "Hott" and "Thumbs up." I'm a very jealous person and I hate having to share my guy with anyone. Even though were not together "officially" I really have feelings for him~ The problem is our age difference and the fact that sometimes he doesn't call me to see how i am because he's busy clubbing and doing god knows what. My ? is do i get over this guy or should i do something to make him understand how i feel?? I'd really like advice about what I should do. Pleae comment and advice away. Xo THanks!! (link)
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You definitely get over the guy. A man of 20 doesn't have time for a high school girl...or shouldn't anyway. I don't mean to sound like I'm getting on your case about it but do you WANT him to go to jail? Just forget him and find someone closer to your age. You will only end up heartbroken if you pursue the 20 year old. :)
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okayy this may not seem like a big problem to some people but for me it is. Well ever since september 3rd i have liked this kid luke and for a little bit he liked me but now he doesnt and i still liek him but now two more boys came in the picture. I can go out with one of the two other boys but i will feel so weird cause i still like luke but i know he will never go out with me again and even if i didnt like luke i wouldnt know who to chose with the other two guys. One guy is really sweet and hes liked me for a while but the other one is the same way only hes kinda.. well lets just say he likes sex but he has also liked me for a while and ive gone out with him twice before.. so im really confused right now if you have any ideas on what i could do please answer me (link)
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Why not give the one you haven't already dated a try. If it doesn't work out then you can go out with the other. Give up on Luke for the moment because if he doesn't like you it is wasting your time. :)
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(**names are changed**) ok so my bestest guy friend, *mike* told me that he liked my friend *mary*. now you see, i like mike...a lot-and i always have. ...and he doesn't know. so when mike told me he likes mary...i just pretended i was all cool with it and i was like 'OH MY GOD!!! do you want me to talk to her for you?' and all this other stuff. so i talked to mary for him and found out that she likes 4 other people. and i told him and he was all pissed about it. so then finally my other friend *tom* convinced mike to tell mary that he likes her. and when mike told her, she said "you know that martha (thats me) likes you right?...i can't do that to her, she's my friend" and what not. but mike didn't believe her when she said that i liked him. so then there was a build up of a lot of things...and i was just like "mary, you don't know how bad i want to tell mike that i like him...but at the same time, i don't." and she convinced me to really tell him. so i did...and now everything is really awkward. which i hate b/c like everytime something big like this happens, usually we're so cool about it and like, i can't look at him or anything. and i really want to talk to him about how i feel, b/c we are such good friends and we're so open...but this is such a touchy topic...that like i don't know if i should talk to him and risk looking like an idiot, or just wait till this all blows over...
sorry this was so long...advice on what to do? help/comments, anything! (link)
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Since he already knows and all that I really think you need to talk to him and see what he thinks about it. Tell him its no big deal if he doesn't feel the same. You would just really like to know.
If you don't want to do that, then just wait it out. It will be awkward for awhile. Try to treat him as you did before and it will blow over eventually. :)
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Well there's a boy-we're both on the same tennis team. We're friends, we've never hung out outside of tennis, mainly because he dated my old bestfriend as a freshman, then again a couple of months ago *sophmore year*. By "old bestfriend" I mean we were BeSt friends in middle school but high school came along and we grew apart. I'll sit with her at lunch and comment on her xanga but that's as far as it goes now-a-days. Recently, these two broke up *again* and it was his fault. He started acting wierd or something like that. The problem is, I really like this kid! Since like 8th grade. Before him and her went out my friends told me to 'go for it' but of course I didn't but now after this break-up i don't know if i should. I didn't 'go for it' i think because i was kind of scared? It would've been my first boyfriend..Not to mention we're on the same tennis team. I'd really appreciate advice on if i should 'go for it'. Should I wait? Drop it? Help!
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I'd wait long enough for him to get over the ex. Then I see no reason why you shouldn't "go for it". :)
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Why do people like romantic themes in stories? It's not that I don't, I'm just curious, what do people find attractive about love stories? (link)
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Because most have the endings we all like. Everything turns out perfect.
There are also storys like Science Fiction and that type of story that may not necessarily appeal to the ladies if there wasn't a romantic theme thrown in. :)
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ok well my real dad died in 2003 (im 14/F)but my parents were already divorced and i was living with my moms boyfriend (mark) he was also divorced and had one child named jaquelyn whos turning 13 soon. well now iv been with mark for about 6 or 7 years but jaquelyn gets jealous when im around him and i know its her dad and she never gets time alone with him because she lives with her mom and me and my older sister are always around but its not fair, how come i cant have my dad? but now marks gonna be off work for a couple of days for two weeks and my mom told me that jaquelyn is going to want to hang out with him so what should i do? i want to hang out with him and what am i supposed to do.. sit in my room while they have fun? my older sister doesnt really care and she says i should just stay away but i cant.. i love mark and i want to hang out with him too. what should i do? (link)
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It is only natural that she would be jealous of you and your sister. You get to see Mark 24/7 and she gets to see him...maybe on some weekends. Now think about how that would make you feel. You are also jealous of her so it just makes the situation worse. One of you needs to grow up here and start acting more mature and understanding.
First you need to discuss this with Mark. He can probably be of help to you. You need to start treating his daughter more like another sister, if not like a friend. He needs to plan activities that include you both AND those that just include his daughter. She does deserve to have alone time with him so she can get to know him. Like it or not SHE is his natural daughter. You are just a bonus, but you know him better than his own daughter does because you get to see him all the time. Tell Mark what you feel and then make sure his daughter gets some time with him alone. Let him know what you are doing...he will be proud of you for it. :)
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ok so today my dad invoted me and my bro to go the the batting cages. I went for fun and plus i love baseball. SO i was doing awesome on hitting the baseball and everything but my dad never even payed attention to me. Then he was like why dont you try the softball. and i didnt want to but he made me anyways. But it serioucly screwed up my baseball hitting and i sucked at softball and he was encouraging me there. But like i said he never watched my hitting the baseballs... he was totally ignoreing it. Is he one of those dads that thinks girls cant do sertain sports? i mean i hate softball... but its like he doesnt give me a chance and theres no way im a girly girl... plz help!! sorry that its so long.. (link)
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He encouraged you at softball because softball is what girls play when they play baseball. So, softball is the one you need to learn to hit. He wasn't being mean he was being helpful. If you want to play ball....practice the softball! :)
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I think I’m suffering from depression. And my relationship with my family is going down hill. I feel like I’m such a burden and I feel like something is seriously wrong with me. I want to tell my parents but it’s just so hard to tell them how I’m feeling. I’m 17 and I love my parents very much but I can’t live with them and get the help I need. I'm not sure if I should tell them or just let things go on the way they are and be miserable? (link)
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By all means say something. Maybe they are wondering why you have been acting the way You've probably been acting. Could be they just don't know what to do about it. A trip to your family doctor is all you need to get you started feeling better. :)
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ur a 5 star wow and also i rate ok so im a dark tanned 14 year old girl so next year im going to high skool and i want my hait to look good my hair now is like a light brown almost red with carmel highlights and i want to dye my hair black and to highlights near my ears so when i put my hait up in a pony tail it shows and i was woundering wut color i should do them i want it to reflect my personality and im a crazy person random so those are the colors
purple
blond
blue
and any fun color
oh hot pink :) thx (link)
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I think if you are dying your hair black blond highlights would have a more dramatic affect...or maybe white. However if you want wild, hot pink might be kind of cool. :)
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ok my boyfriend lives like 25 minutes away from me and goes to a diff. high school. We started going out about 2 weeks ago. At first he was like "omg i love you" now its just "heyy." he still says i love you and all that..but i just dont get the same excitmentt i used to get from him when we talk. He dosnt text me as much as he did before and everynight he calls and says he'll call me the next day and ends up calling me at like 11 at night. Since he lives a little while from me we cant hang out like any usual ppl would like all the time, and that makes it even harder. But i do try a bunch to get him to go places and see if he can hang out but i dont feel like hes even trying..and no i didnt give anything up easy if thats what ur thinking..all we have done is makeout. I thought he was my perfect guy at first i really did. I thought i might even be in love..but then he started being liek this liek 3 days ago..and i thought i should give him some time..but i dont wanna keep this relationship ggoing if its not gunna happen..sorry its so long..helpp (link)
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Not to make excuses for the guy but it is summer and he may be out until 11 every night. It could be the reason for the late calls and drop off in texting you. I think you should ask him why the change.
The distance isn't really that far. It is close enough that he could go to school functions with you and all that. I think you should talk to him before writing the whole thing off. Make your decision after that. :)
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There's someone, someone I love. We were so perfect, but if there's something he doesnt like about me, he'll confront me on it after we have broken up. We were "friends" everytime after we broke up, except this time. It's gotten so bad. He cusses me out on everything, and leads me to believe that he wants to get back together. I want him really bad again, and I keep falling for him, really hard too. It's crazy and mixed up. Everything is so weird and my relationship is way too long to explain, but from that what should I do? (link)
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He cusses you and treats you bad yet you still want this guy? I think you need to look around and find someone who respects you a bit more than this guy seems to. :)
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omg i like him a lot! i just wanna ask him out! okay well lets start from the beginning-this kid moved to town and i hung out with him cuz he lived across the st from my best friend..and we talked and laughed and joked and flirted and i told him i liked him but he said he was confused cuz he liked a girl from where he used to live but then he told me he would possibly go out with me in the future? do i believe that or is that something hes saying so he doesnt have to put me down and be mean and i jsut wanna ask him out but i dont want him to just be like no! what do i say to him to let him know that i like him a lot and i care for him and i wanna be his girlfriend!! (link)
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You have to wait until he is no longer dating the girl from where he used to live. Long distance romance usually doesn't last, especially if there is someone close by. I think you will have a chance with him you'll just have to give it some time. Ask about his girlfriend. Be friendly about it and everything. That way you have a heads up on how things are going. When it ends then you can ask him out. :)
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Are romantic fantasies a bad thing? In the 6th grade, (I'm going to 7th I just turned 13 in late may.) kids were "going out." I thought it was silly and immature, (and absolutely hilarious to watch) especially because they took their relationships so seriously and thought they were "in love". But the worst part of it is that I (in my most private of thoughts) sometimes get romantic fantasies that are equally if not more ridiculous! And I acually enjoy them. I try to avoid them because they're so ludicrous, but I can't. omg I'm soooooooooooo embarassed. Am I equally as silly as them? Am I judging them unfairly? Is this normal for 13-year-old? It would be really nice if someone could give me some info!!!
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♥ Anneliese ♥ (link)
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All your romantic fantasies are perfectly normal. You are not silly at all. :)
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i just found out my bf is gay! i don't have anything against gays but i mean... it's my BOYFRIEND! what should i tell him and how should i react. this is really hard for me!
please help!
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Find a new boyfriend. If he is gay he will never be more than a good friend. If he is BI there is to much disease out there to get serious with him. Not to mention that lifestyle is probably not for you. Just be friends. :)
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Hi. My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. Before we started dating we were best friends for 3 years. I don't feel like he is making enough of a effort to display his feelings for me. He never really says that much stuff to me. I know he likes me, though. What does this mean? (link)
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Could be he is so comfortable around you he just doesn't feel like he needs to say much. He may assume you know how he feels. In a nice way let him know that you need to actually hear it from him now and then. :)
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this guy i met a while ago who lives like 30mins away from me really liked me. like alot. he told me he loved me and stuff. we were always texting, IMing, talking on the phone 24/7. we live 30mins away and cant drive yet. but we happen to be going camping with are families the same exact days. last time we went we hooked up. and weve been so excited to see eachother again. last nite he tells me he likes someone from his area. and that he didnt wanna hook up with me at camping. and on his myspace he took pix of us down. and changed his blog that used to say he loves me to he loves nichole now. i havent talked to him since =[. im really upset cause he totally lead me on. and now i have to see him monday for a week..help? (link)
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No reason you can't be friends if you really like the guy. Relationships change all the time and you never know what might happen in the future. Try not to let the fact he has a girlfriend bother you to much (hard I know). Its only natural to have someone close at hand. Once he can drive 30 min. will be nothing. :)
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ok, well i really care about someone and have strong feelings for them. I feel like I don't want anyone in the world but him. We dont really talk much, alls i can say to him is "hi" and he'll say "hi" back. He knows i like him but he doesnt like me. I really want to talk to him, but i'm scared mostly of what he'll say back. what should i do? (link)
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I think you should just go ahead and talk to him about it if you want to. You're already expecting the worse but even if its true he doesn't like you, hearing it may help you move on. :)
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ohkay i have been friends with this guy for a longg time like since i was in 3rd grade. (im in 7th now) i was in love with him ni 3rd 4th and 5th grade and we went out (lol) but then we broke up. after that i never had feelings for him but we were just really good bestfriends. now it is summer 05 and we hang out constantly (as friends) but im having feelings for him and i dont know what to do.. please help i rate 5 all the time!
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Do you have any idea whether or not he feels the same? Might be worth it to have a talk with him and find out. Its been a couple of years he may have feelings for you now too. :)
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