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HELP! Love Triangle and not sure who to pick!
I'm 16 and I have recently gotten mixed up in the dating scene again. I've been staying single for a few months to try and sort out my priorities so that the next time I decide to start dating again I will end up with a guy that will treat me right. Well that day has come but its certainly not as easy as I thought it would be thats for sure! One guy I've known since I was a little kid, my mom knows his parents and she likes the idea of me dating him. Plus we've liked eachother for over two years and have both are single now. We've talked on the phone alot and hung out almost every other day. We've kissed and we have so much in common and he is really sweet. But some things about him I'm unsure of. I don't trust him that easily because some things he says seem like lines and he hasn't ever brought up the subject of us dating or anything so I'm not sure if he just wants to mess around, cuz I'm not up for that. The other guy I've met a few days ago. He just recently moved here and the minute our eyes met we clicked. We have alot of things in common, his parents already met me and love me, my mom knows about him and is willing to give him a chance, and we've already talked of dating and he's all up for it and so now it is my desicion. And there lies the problem. I like both guys and I have major chemistry with both. My mom wouldn't mind me dating either and now I'm stuck in a tricky situation. The first guy is from my school and I really want to give him a chance cuz I like him and if I turn him down and date the other guy he might feel played. And visa versa. Please help me. My heart is torn between these two guys and I have no idea which way to go!
~Hopelessly Torn Apart
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Dear Hopelessly Torn Apart:
Are you familiar with the story of “The Phantom of the Opera”? Well if you haven’t the main charter, Christen has a similar the dilemma you are having. Christen must choose, Go with the one she has known for while and cared for a long time [Ralph], or the one who came into her life when she needed him [the Phantom]. In the story, her two lovers’ true characters come out. She then chooses the one she felt most comfortable with. Why did I tell you this? Because I’ll give you what she did to make her final dissension.
–First; she waited, during the time she was torn, she gave much though who was the one she really loved. –Second; she observed them, she saw what they BOTH did, during that time. –Third; she stilled cared for both of them, but in different ways (on as a lover, & one as a dear friend).
You may use any of theses as you wish to find your answer. Keep in mind though some variables will be involve. Those variables may effect the outcome. You must be the judge in deciding your decision. You must consider the personality of each of them. (Keep in mind one of them may be hurt no matter what you choose.)
I hope this helps, so I leave you with this; True love comes with Time.
Please let me know if I helped in someway. And also if you further question drop a line.
Best of Luck
~Teen Guru~
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Why don't you just wait and go out with the first one who asks? You don't have to make it a steady thing if things don't work out...just don't go out with him again. :)
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hey.sup? Well I honestly do think that you've been put into a really tricky situation. I think that instead of waiting for the 1st guy to bring up the dating topic maybe you should ask him if he's looking 4 a serious relationship.If he replies with a no, than you don't need the 1st guy anyway. If he says he wants a serious relationship than you should debate which 1 you want to date. Honestly since they both seem like they have good personalities I would go on looks next/ which 1 looks better?? because even though you might tell yourself that looks don't matter you know that deep down inside they do~ The 1st guy seems like he has the benefit of the doubt because you've known him 4 4ever and he attends your school so its easy access to see eachother. Than again the 2nd guy seems more interesting because you don't know anything about him so you guys can spend a lot of time *getting to know eachother* lol. Know that you know what I think its up 2 u to decide..goodluck xo.
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I would personally go with the guy who is open to dating (the 2nd), he has made an effort while the other guy just expects you to still be there! now rememeber this is my personal choice but its completely up to you! youve made up a pro and con list so basiclly all you have left to do is decide, good luck ♥
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i would first date the one with the clicky eyes..go with him first, cause with the other one, if your familie's are close you don't want it to be a bad break-up and it be okward for the rest of your life. they might feel played but..just let the other one know that you like them but...you think you can something better than a fling.
lemme know how it goes
all the best
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