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Hey, i NEED help. i really like this guy. but he has a girlfriend. but he made a move on me. i dont know what to do. i think i do have feelings for him. but i dont know what to do. Should I tell him how i feel? or should i just be close friends??????
Thanks...* (link)
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If he has a girlfriend then he shouldn't be putting the moves on you. You can do what you want of course but who is he gonna be putting the moves on while you are dating him? Doesn't sound like someone you could trust very far. Maybe stay friends. :)
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Ok, there's this girl I like who doesn't like me, until I can get her to like me, I don't want to be with any other girls. Unfortunately, during Dungeons and Dragons at camp today (please, no nerd cracks), there was this girl who I think was trying to get me to like her. For example, my character died, and she was like "It's okay. You and I are the only not-mean people here." Also, I never see her talk to any other guys in the group, putting aside group discussions, like marching order and etc. Is she trying to pick me up? She goes to my school also, unfortunately that other girl also goes to my school. I really could care less about this new girl, but I really think she's trying to get me to like her. What do I do, and how do I tell her that there's someone else? What if I'm wrong about her? I'm really confused, and please, none of those smart alek answers, I rate ones for people who tell me "just bang her" or anything equally unhelpful or smart alekey.
-Dakmor (link)
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If you like her any at all you can be friends with her. I do think that if the other girl don't like you maybe moving on is the answer. But, doesn't have to with this girl. Doesn't hurt to be friends though because you never know. She just might make a great friend. I don't think just talking to you means she is trying to pick you up. She is probably just being friendly. No need to even mention a girlfriend, if she doesn't like you she really isn't one though. :)
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I have some questions about mostly everyhting that has to do with pleasuring your partner. I'm a virgin and unexperienced. Okay here goes...
Once you get on birth control or take the pill or whatever, is it possible for your parents to find out eventually?
Can your gyno tell if you're on the pill or birth control?
What are whipped cream & strawberries used for; like where do you place them and stuff?
How can you get rid of the odor down there? Are guys actually enjoying the smell of it? And if possible, is there anything you can eat/drink to make the smell/taste better?
What are the best type of condomns? Most effective?
Thanks in advance. (link)
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1) If you tell them. It doesn't change anything about you so they wouldn't notice.
2)Again, only if you mention it. which you should. You can't get birth control pills without first seeing a gyno and getting an exam anyway so that's a moot point.
3)use your imagination. can put them anywhere you like!
4) Take a shower. Will always have an odor but ya, for some reason they think its great. No, don't think eating habits has much to do with it.
5) Don't think there is much difference in condom types. Just use one...and be careful :)
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Is there a way to knwo if your cherry is popped? I am very active in sports and have been for over 6 years but i don't remeber randomly bleeding or feeling a pain down there liek a tear. I'm active with my boyfriend but not having sex... i just want to knwo if theres and easy way to know or if you just have to wait and find out (link)
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Only by a doctors exam. It doesn't always bleed and it doesn't hurt enough that you would notice anyway. Internal exam by doctor is only sure way to find out...but in the long run its not that important. :)
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i went to the doctor to find out if i was pregnant and the nurse came in before hand to ask if i wanted to be or not and i of corce said no and the lady left the room to get the results and then came back to tell me that i wasnt. but that if i didnt start soon to try the test again because i could get a positive later on. i've heard that doctors can tell you that your not so that when you finally do find out its to late to have an abortion. is that true? and does it sound like that's what was going on in this situation? (link)
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A doctor would not give you false information about a test. That would be a crime. If you just had a urine pregnancy test then it is the same as a home test. If you want to spend the money on a blood test...its more accurate. If you don't have your period do a test as suggested. I really doubt your doctors nurse was lying to you. :)
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well see iv only kissed one girl before in a truth or dare game and she kissed me back and all but it was only a peck on the lips and im afraid becuase i always wanted to have sex but like im a little nervous now but only for like making out and the girl another time was dared to give me a handjob (yes we are physco) and i couldnt get a boner i tried for a really long time but i couldnt like does anyone know any things that can help me with kissing and is it because im nervous that i cant get a boner...i didnt think i was nervous but i might of been..sorry if its confusing
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Kissing isn't a problem just practice once you find the right girl.
As for the boner thing...can't believe I wrote that! Were you in front of all these other game players at the time? Can't say I like those kind of games but trying to do something like that with an audience would be pretty intimidating. Even if you were in another room you'd know they knew what you were up to. I think it was most likely nerves. Don't worry, that is a perfectly normal response in that situation. :)
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i've counted up the days after my peirod and i think my boyfriend and i missed my ovulation days by a few days everytime. the last time we had sex and i could have been ovulation would have been on the 2nd of this month. and i took a test yesterday that came up negative. do you think i'll have a positive result later on? or should it have showed up by now? (link)
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I think you are playing with fire if that is the only birth control you are using. That is so unreliable it isn't even funny. Condoms and contraceptive foam can be bought at walmart or a drugstore. Please use one of them if you don't want to get pregnant. I do think you should retest if you don't get your period when expected. :)
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ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?
a part of me says
"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."
then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"
any input? (link)
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I think you wait until you feel it is right for you, and it is with someone that you truly have very deep feeling for. If you end up marrying that guy great. I have nothing against premarital sex so long as it isn't something you do just to try to keep a guy, trap a guy, or something you do with just every guy you meet! You will decide what to do when the time is right. There are good things about waiting but it doesn't make you a bad person if you don't. :)
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My fiancee wants to have sex, and the bad thing is, IM SCARED OF SEX. I am almost positive my hymen is intact, because I don't masturbate, im a virgin,and I detest tampons. Any suggestions?? And since I know were getting married in August, don't tell me to wait, because he's talking about sex on our wedding night, and since I've already told him Im scared, he still wants it, wich I don't blame him, were both virgins, we both dont have diseases of any kind, and after all, IT IS OUR WEDDING NIGHT, so its not furnication (since were both Christians) so please help me, because I'm scared of the blood and the pain. Btw, is it true that when you pee after sex it hurts? My mother said it hurts the first couple times you have sex, and that you bleed, and it hurts, and it burns when you pee for weeks. Is any of this true? Plz help me. (link)
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Oh my, why would your mom tell you that? It is not true.
The blood is not a large amount. It may hurt a little the first time but it isn't a major pain or anything. It isn't a constant hurt either its more like a little twinge and then it stops. Nothing to worry about. The next time you have sex...even if it is the same day it won't hurt. I suppose there are rare cases of someone having an extra tough hymen that may hurt worse but it would be very rare. The only time it hurts to pee is if you have a urinary tract infection or something like that. Sex does not make it hurt to pee. Go out and have a nice dinner, have sex and don't worry about it anymore. I hate to say get it over with but, after the first time your fears will go away. Sounds like you have been hearing horror stories...they effectively kept you from having sex up until now but they are untrue. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. :)
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theres a pool party coming up in about 2 weeks i was wondering if there were any cellulite removing excersizes or creams that would work quickly! or atleast minimize it, I only have a LITTLE under my butt, im not fat or anything, its just embarrassing!! please help me! (link)
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unfortunately there is nothing you can do about cellulite. Creams don't work so don't waste your money. Exercise may help firm you up some but it doesn't go away completely. Sorry, sure wish it would. :)
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It was my week to feed the dog and I totally forgot because I got so caught up on going to a a carnival thing where "famous" people were going. I kept getting out of the house with my friends looking for good clothes and stuff like that, you know getting ready. So I TOTALLY forgot about the dog and left the poor thing with no food. I know it was my fault but I didnt want to get grounded from going so I blamed it on my brother. I told my mom that we switched weeks and we didnt. My brother will not talk to me because hes grounded for the rest of the month since the dog is sick. And it really sucks because its summer! Well I want to tell my mom that it was really my week but I dont know if I should. I am driving myself INSANE over this. Please helppp!!
Britt (link)
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Yes you should. Confession is good for the soul ya know! It really is unfair to your brother. You did a wrong thing and now you need to tell mom it was your fault and take your punishment. It sucks to be grounded in the summer but, trust me you WILL feel better having done it.
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Ok so on Friday i am going to my freinds house for a "movie night" we're going to paly volleyball outside earlier and then later we're going to watch hide and seek. well no big deal. she invited 4 guys and 3 girls (shes the 4th girl). well its kinda like a paired off thing. she invited couples. except for me. she invited this guy. i kind of like him i guess. same with him. he told my freind he kind of likes me. well i dont know i thnk it's goign to br really weird. because all the other people are goign ot be with their girl/boyfreind and then there will be me and this guy. i like him and all but i dont know i think it will be weird.and im kind of worried that he's gonna like try something, because thats just the the kind of guy he is...so i guess i dont know what to do.
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You go and have fun. You don't have to do any more than watch a movie and get to know the guy. Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. Let him no in no uncertain terms that you don't make out with a guy you just met. You'll do alright. Just go and have fun. :)
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sigh, why does life suck so much? Literally, i've been backstabbed and bullied on when i was a kid in grade school, first year university now... I still can't learn to trust and am so paranoid around people. Um, i'm in a situation where I hate relationships, how troublesome they are, where I feel like I want to be with some girls but the feeling of being crushed... again ...prevents that so I stay alone, and remain alone just considering people as friends and being close. Sure it's a blast but the whole thing drives me insane. I don't know, like a lot of the girls i've actually had some feeling for, before it develops I always push them away, finding how who they like or encouraging them when they think they've found someone (if they're a good person) :/ ... though I laugh, smile, and joke about these things, I really don't want them to go and it always drives me insane. This is killing me so much and not to mention my friendship with a few people is failing horribly. Again I feel betrayed and destroyed, I just got backstabbed again which just KILLS. Yeah well what to do, how can I learn to trust again? This feeling is so heavy on my heart it makes me suffocate and kills me to the point I find myself shaking my head and going crazy. (link)
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I have a permanent quote on my column you'd probably like!
There is no easy way to learn to trust people. If you've been hurt...makes it even harder. You have to try though. You can't just assume that every girl out there is waiting to hurt you. They aren't. Concentrate on being really good friends with them first. That way you can get a feel for the type of person they really are. Don't go out on a big long date, try going out for coffee or soda first. Little mini dates until you find someone who you really want to try a more serious relationship with. Do lunch instead of dinner. You may get hurt again in the future but its a risk everybody takes. Just try, try again. Hope you find someone soon, good luck! :)
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I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!! (link)
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Just politely tell her you have other plans and are unable to make it. You don't have to tell her your plans or elaborate any. Sooner or later she might take the hint. :)
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I have a little brother who is 6 years old. His name is Denis. I love him and all, but.. he's a weirdo. He's overweight.. he's only 6 and hes 114 lbs. I dont know how to tell him he's overweight without hurting his feelings. It's kind of cute though.. I call him my little oompa loompa. Hehe. Well, please give me much advice. Thanks much!
-Cynthia (link)
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He should probably see a doctor. He might have a medical problem that is causing him to gain weight. However, this is more of a problem for your parents to deal with. Telling a 6 year old that he is overweight is just going to go right over his head. He is to young to understand the whole thing. One thing you can do is make sure you don't bring him pop or candy all the time. Maybe play some games that get him some exercise.
Make him play outside instead of watching a lot of TV. :)
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ok i wrote before about my mums friend and everything how he wanted me to stay at his house and stuff well now he said to my mum if only he was 20 years younger he would go out with me. My mum got very angry at him and shouted at him for saying this! To be honest with you i don't know what to think. He keeps telling my mum i am so lovely,he asks me to come to his house and stay there. He is in his 30s and i am 17! and recently he has been phoneing my mum more since he met me! is he a pedo? i don't know what to do i am becoming quite scared of him.please advice me. Thanx (link)
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He sounds like someone to keep away from to me. If mom continues to see him let her know how you feel. Tell her you would appreciate a warning if he is going to come to your house so you can arrange to be away. If he so much as touches you call the cops. Don't EVEN let this weirdo sweet talk you. And never, under any circumstances be alone with him.
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Not long ago i came on here for advice between my boyfriend and another guy i really liked and decided to make a go of trying to spice things up.We went out clubbing together and had the night of our lives and soon forgot about this other guy i like.A week later me and my friend got together had a few drinks and decided to have a few more at the local.The other guy was there and as i was plastered, bought him a drink i owed him and danced and chatted with him all night.He invited me and my mate to his house for a few more drinks but my mate left at 3am leaving us 2 alone and then we had a drunkin kiss and ended up sleeping together.Im now meeting up with him and we have so much in common including partners.Now im confused coz i like this other guy but i love my boyfriend. (link)
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If you LOVE your boyfriend and LIKE the other guy you have the answer already. Even though you love your boyfriend this other guy has the ability to push your buttons. The only way to save your relationship with the boyfriend is to stay clear away from the other guy. You are asking for trouble if you don't because your boyfriend will eventually find out and you loose that relationship. You need to decide whether or not you care if that happens. :)
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..alright so this has been bugging me forever, and i cant really ask my friends this question because they are going to support me of course but here it goes. In the past, i've had really cruddy relationships with guys. I've been in relationship where i've been used & gotten really hurt from it. But recently i meet this new boy. The one thing that completely seperates him from the rest of the boys i've had interest in is that he's not all bout getting in the pants. I meet him thru a friend at the movies, and there was sparks.. so the next night he came over. && meet my family. They all adored him. And like we didnt even do nething. He didnt like have the urge to leave the family and be alone, which i totally liked because no parents were home & we could have easily gotten away with "gettin with eachother" the next night.. he came over and we layed on my couch and cuddled. And nothing happened. And we were alone. No one was home. He didnt even try anything. The next day he came over. We just made out and i called him a tease because he always tickled me by my pants line and never went down. && thats just what im used to.. boy just goin straight in. Soo when he didnt i was like wow, even tho i wanted him to. So the next day he came over again, and we were all aloneeee for about 4 hours. We didnt do anything til the last hour, and he asked me why i called him a tease, and i explained. And then he ended up fingering me. Because i wanted it. And i was all happy with it or wateva. Then lator i realized, wow maybe i relaly fucked this up. because he wasnt like that, and i provoked him to be. I told him how i felt and he felt bad and said that he wudnt do it ever again and thought i didnt mind. Not to mention while he was doing it he kept asking if i was okay with it. And i said yeha, cuz i was. And hes been over every night after that.. for the past 3 nights and he hasnt tried it again. Do you think he likes me, or just wants to "get iwht me" HELPPP please..sorry sooo longg.. but i will rate 5's for sure! (link)
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I think if that was all he was after he would have been like all the other clowns you've dated. Seems like he may actually care what you think! You also seem to be able to talk to each other about things which is oh, so important. I think you have a keeper here. Good luck :)
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Ok I'm 13/f and I have a crush on someone. I never have in my entire life. I refuse to tell anyone because I feel really guilty and I'm worried people will make fun of me because everyone thinks I'm a nerd. I should be focusing on getting into the Honor Choir and straight A's, not boys! Is it a bad thing? It would be really cool if someone can give me some info! thx (link)
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You know those who make fun of someone for the things they like (boys included) are pretty much all lacking in the brains department. You can keep it to yourself if you want to but, just don't pay attention to what others may say. Now or in the future.
At 13 it is very normal to have crushes. It is certainly nothing to feel guilty or bad about. Yeah, once in awhile it will be a major distraction but it is perfectly normal.:)
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im not sure what i should do, a few weeks ago my bf stayed at his mates house who is 39. my bf is 16. his mate let my bf smoke a LOT of weed and he was so drunk he couldnt controll himself.(this has happened a few times whilst stayin at this guys house) my bf has now told me that he is goind to move in with this guy, trouble is it is about 45 mins away from where i live and im afraid i wont get 2 see him anymore. i have spoken 2 my bf and he has just said that he wont do anything stupid but i just dont wanna lose him... any1 got any advice? please? thank you lucee xXx (link)
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He says he isn't gonna do anything stupid but then again he has been hasn't he? Might want to point that out to him. Where are the parents of this boy who would allow him to move in with a 39 year old guy in the first place?
If he moves 45 minutes away it will be hard to see him often. Will you even be going to the same school? It could work out if you both try. But, you both have to seriously work on it. I'm afraid if he gets under the influence of this older friend he may not try as hard as you'd like him to. I think you may be thinking the same thing. If he does move you can only hope he tires of the party atmosphere soon. If not then it doesn't look good. Encourage him to stay home as much as possible. :)
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