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wait..dont wait?
ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?
a part of me says
"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."
then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"
any input?
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You need to hold on listening to that second part. Just because you have sex with only one person in your life, its not bad, its actually great when you have had only one person. It doesn't make you less desirable or any of that, lots of teenage girls and guys go through their lives having sex, and when they get older, they probably end up regreting it because there will be a lot of different people. But, when you have your life and special moments devoted to one person, you are way more comfortable and luckier than somebody whose spent there lives as a minor having sex with a guy they hardly know. Trust me, you may think that sex after marriage will feel like a long wait and pointless, but it won't be. People always tell you to have sex when you're ready, but thats not good advice, because when you're young, you always think that you're ready. But no teenager is ever ready. I hope that second part of you comes around and takes over, it will save you.
-TheTeenGirl
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Ok it really is your choice but it sounds like you want my opinion so ill give it to you..Ok like you're period you're ready to have sex when you're body is, you can just feel it..you're body might be ready but it doesn't mean you have to do it! I'm not setting an age limit of when ill have sex but im pretty sure im not gonna be a virgin on my wedding night...honestly i think it would be better for me to have sex before im married because on you're wedding night everyone expects to have blow the roof off sex...but if you're still a virgin its gonna hurt so0o0 it might be good for the guy but what about the girl and im sorry but i want my wedding to be perfect including under the sheets!! that is totally my opinion just so you can see what i think about it, it is still up 2 you what you want to do..o ya its not lik you'll be labeled a slut if u didnt wait helloo its the 21st century l0l!! hope i helped x0x *caitie*
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wait...
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wait untill you get married. i mean even if your husband isnt a virgin...then that means he problably regreats doing it with another girl besides you. do you really want to go through with the rest of your life regreating that moment? i think not. i hope you dont. ♥ leah
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If your questioning it what-so-ever... you aren't ready. Wait til there are no questions
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If your not ready now then don't do it. If you don't want to wait till marriage don't. Do it when you find someone right and <u>you</u> feel it's the right time.
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well, i know exactly how you feel only im a guy. I want my wife to be a virgin, but it most likely wont happen. now, the best thing for you to do probably is to wait till you meet the right person. i mean you dont necessarily have to be married, but if you sure, 100% sure, what difference does it make to be married. i mean i wan to be a virgin for my wife, because i know how much it would mean to me if she was. the choice is up to you. if you need to talk im here, just ask
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Yes, I'm waiting till after marriage.
- You get to avoid all the risks of pregnancy and diseases of sex. There is NO 100% guarantee that you are safe from any risks other than by not having sex. You may know this already, but if you get HIV/AIDS you can NOT be cured from it. Many people with it suffer horribly and die young. You can't exactly "cure" yourself of being pregnant either. If you have a baby before you are stable and have someone dependable by your side, the baby will be your responsibility for LIFE, which will ruin your education, your future, and you won't get to have sex once you're too occupied with a baby. And even if you got an abortion, you will still always have the memory of killing your baby just because you were irresponsible. If you got genital herpes, your sex life in the future will be affected. You can't have sex when you have painful herpes on your genitals can you?
- If you save it for marriage, you wouldn't have to take birth controls in the meantime. Birth controls are not natural. Maybe you're okay with it, but I don't feel comfortable with it. Plus, they don't even give you "full blown birth control" before you're actually an adult because they'd be horrible on your body! They just regulate your period.
- If you save it for marriage, it shows you have respect for yourself and self discipline.
- Also, you are saving it for your spouse...so it's special. Wouldn't you like to give your virginity to the sweetie you're going to marry?
- Just because people think you're in love now doesn't mean it will last forever. I don't think you'd want to have lost your virginity to your ex when you think about it.
- And even if you're not having sex because you "love" someone, but because you just have crazy hormones, is this really what you want to do? Just have sex with anyone because you're horny?
- How will you be able to tell if people love you for you or if they are just using you or staying with you for sex?
- It's kind of nasty to know the person you're going to marry has already banged other people...
- When you marry someone, it should be the person you really LOVE, right? So that would be the perfect person to have sex with. Sex could be the one special thing ONLY you and your husband can share.
- It's true you may gain more sexual knowledge and experience by sleeping around with others, but why can't you and your spouse learn together? If sex in a marriage sucks, you can always learn how to get better together. And if a marriage falls apart just because of sex, it wasn't all that great to begin with.
No one said you had to listen to me, I'm just hoping my advice will help guide you. And even if it doesn't, at least you will be able to see different perspectives of things.
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That's a very personal choice. If you're not ready to have sex right now, then wait until you're ready. When you're ready, you will know. It may be next year, it may be on your wedding night. Don't be in a rush for sex. Most of the time these young guys are only interested in their pleasure so it won't be much fun for you anyway. Take the time to find the right guy, one that truly loves you and you want to be with forever.
Very few guys are still virgins when they marry but it's still something special if the woman is. I know. It's the double standard. My biggest regret in life is that I gave my virginity to the wrong guy and couldn't give it to my husband.
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I think you wait until you feel it is right for you, and it is with someone that you truly have very deep feeling for. If you end up marrying that guy great. I have nothing against premarital sex so long as it isn't something you do just to try to keep a guy, trap a guy, or something you do with just every guy you meet! You will decide what to do when the time is right. There are good things about waiting but it doesn't make you a bad person if you don't. :)
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i think you are right sometimes i be thinking the same thing like one part of me says
"having sex seems fun and interesting and i get curious"
"the other side says i wanna be pure when i get married to my husband i want him to know i was only his and he is my first that will be speacial cause you doing it witht th one you love"
when it all comes down i choose to wait till i get married cause when i do it the first time i wanna be able to say i did it with the love of my life"
your girl
Boricuachik
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sex..it's an evil but yet great three letter word. it's soley your personal choice whether or not you wait. follow your heart!
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I think it's when ever you feel ready. Doesn't matter if you are married, or in a long-term relationship. If you love the person and you feel like you want to have sex and you are comfortable with it, go for it. Just follow your heart.
♥ Krissy
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Wait untill marriage, because sex would be more special with a husband, your parents most likely would want you to wait, you don't want to embarras yourself getting birth control or condoms, there is a risk of having a baby, it HURTS, it is better if you only have sex with 1 guy, and I personally think its morally correct to wait untill marriage.
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