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Someone told him i liked him and so i had a friend go ask him if he likes me and he said he hates me. I still like him and the girl who told him is my friend. What do i do?


13/f

one thing for sure is to get over him because if he said that to your friend you must feel humilated but you like him to much to let go anyhows you cant let a guy make you look bad just show him that you dont care about him and that he is not important cause who knows just maybe your friend can be lying to but you cant let a guy do you wrong like that so just be strong and dont let him bring you down and also find out if your friend is saying the truth

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my parents are soooooo sheltered all my friends are out every night partying (not drinking or anything bad just having some fun) but my parents all they want me to do is spend time with the family. its not that they dont trust me but they "miss me" when im out with my friends. im sorry they dont like when im gone but its ruining my social life. they dont let me go ANYWHERE!!!!!!! ill ask to go to the mall and they so now we are going out for a family meal or we are going to visit grandma. being with your family is good but i NEVER have a girls night out. im down to like no friends because everytime they ask me to hang out my parents wont let me because they cant share me. my friends dont spend anytime at home they are always out doing stuff and its the complete opposite. i havent had a friend over in years and i think ive had 2 sleepovers that werent family in my whole life. its just retarted. they arnt overprotective they just thing its too much work to drive me around and they will miss me if im gone. they are wasting my teenage years i wanna hang out with my friends but my parents always say now and theres no argueing with them. im spilling my heart out right now because im crying because my friend asked me to go golfing tonight but my parents complained they were tired and now they wont take me. my social life is ruined because of them. i have no fun. 30 years from now ill think about my teenage years and have no memories exept being with my family 24/7 and spending friday and saturday nights with my grandparents. my friends are out every night without me having a blast and nobody has any inside jokes or memories with me because i never hang out with them since my parents dont want to share me with anyone else. family is important but i see too much of them and never leave this house i wanna effing punch one of them. i swear if they say no to me one more time i will burst. ive hung out with my friends like maybe four times in 14 years. my whole life. i just dont get it. i want my parents to let me be out with my friends everynight and im sick of my family wasting and controlling my teenage years. how can i let them know that its time to loosen up and let me have some fun?

wow thats crazy im 16 and i thought i had it bad my parents never use to let me go out to parties and stuff and use to get so mad and argue with them and slam the door than they told me maybe if i get my act together i will go out with my friends i started doing the right stuff and going out and now that i hang out with my friends its not that fun sometimes it gets boring my point is to wait your time it will come you mad young talk to the closes person in your house may and tell them how you feel our talk to your mom this is not good for you i rememder i got so depress and end up trying to kill myself thats when my mom noticed i needed space dont do the same thiong i did cause you wil regret it just like me but tell them my story and tell them you dont want that to happen to you and take advantage of your life even if its boring try to make the best of it
hope i helped

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I do not think my parents are in love, and it makes me so sad. I think they would be better off divorced and happy, but I know that the only reason they stay together is for the their children.

I am so upset! I cannot stand it anymore.

Any advice?

talk to them about it your probaly right or can be wrong

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Argh i hate my brother so much!! everyday he reminds me more and more of my dad..its so crazy.
My mum and dad split up, my dads not a very nice man, he disowned me so i consider him dead.
But now, it's just me, my mum, and my brother and he's acting like he owns the place. It's so annoying, just to get back at me...he'll reboot the whole computer so i lose all my pictures...my songs..and my coursework :|
I hate him so much i am actually considering taking off leaving a note for my mum telling him i can't live in the same house as him ?
what should i do ?


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the only way you can get along with your brother is to foregive your dad for disowning you , you dont have to go up to him and tell him that you foregive him but just foregive and foreget in your heart,i kno its hard to let the pass go but you have to so you can recieve your future and think about the present it really does help foregiveing and foregetting i never thought it would help until one day i tryed it.remember your not the only one that feels bad about the situation about your dad your brother does to so instead of being so bitter and angry at him open up to him so he can open up to you he is probably so mean to you cause he wants to take his anger out remember this you only live once and when you die you cant go back so enjoy life love your brother live happy n in peace cause if your brother dies one day how will you feel that you never said to him goodbye and all you can remember is how both of ya argued nothngs perfect n thats wat makes us beautiful,your brother not perfect so instead of judgein why not try something new and help him change

hope i helped

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Ok here's my situation! Sorry if its long!

Ok so my boyfriend and I have been together 18 months this month! I'm 18 and he's 20! I live with my grandparents and my Nan is strict! She has this thing where were only allowed to see each other on the weekend but since I have turned 18 (May this year) things have slowly started to turn and i'm allowed to see him throughout the week but I always have a curfew.. which sometimes doesn't bother me!

She doesn't know that I sleep at his house nearly every weekend, she thinks I stay at a friends house. I lost my virginity to my boyfriend, everything was and still is perfect.

Because my Nan is strict we do everything to spend every second together! I know it sounds like high school love but we really love each other.

The thing is its nearly time for our sport season to start again.. My trainings are on Monday and Wednesday nights and his are on Tuesday and Thursday nights and our games are on Saturday afternoons! But my boyfriend has to travel every second weekend to play his sport and because mine is on the same day we can't always give up our sports and let our teams down to see each other. He leaves really early in the morning and gets back late at night.

We also work during the day, I work from 9 til 5 and he works from 6am til 3 in the afternoon. So during the day is out!

I guess i'm just scared of us growing apart if we weren't to have anytime together anymore! I'm probably just being stupid but it's just how I feel.

I have spoken to him about it and he understands but then he said he wont play his sport this year.. I told him not to be like that, I don't expect him to give up his sport for me! That's just out of the question!

I just don't know what to do! We love each other so much, I was a bit insecure and had a few issues with school and home before I met him and I feel like I can just be myself when i'm around him! I love him and his company and his family and we just have so much fun when were together. I can't stand to let anything come between us!

I know that if we love each other as much as we say we do nothing will come between us but how do you stay as close to someone if you hardly get to see them anymore? I don't want him to grow apart from me!

Thanks so much for your help :)

tru love never falls apart.ok what you did was wrong doing things behind your granparents and your nan because they give you there trust and you took advantage of them but anyways goin to the subject sometimes in love you have to do scrafices it may be seeing each other less or your bf quitting is sport but if you think anout it if hes willin to do the scracfice to give up his sports for you i think distance wont make ya apart.you should think are you insecure of him cheating on you cause you dont see him alot and know wat hes doin or is it really wat you say, its hard sometimes to go threw this sitiuations but sometimes with love and trust you can overcome anything .also remember if ya brake up it was meant to happen n eventually you can avoid braking up but you cant avoid whats meant to be think of this as a test and then if ya pass this ya was really meant to be
hope i helped a lil

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i just got asked out by this really tall guy. like really tall. i dont kno if i like him, but n e ways.. im gunna c.
so, about kissing. iv never kissed anyone let alone someone so much taller than me. what do i do?

its going to be werid but most important before you kiss him make sure you are comfortable with him and let him kno that you never kissed a guy before so that when you kiss him you feel confident and comfortable and if this dont help you just follow what he does and try to play it off lol

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i think i like this guy but i dont know, how are you sure if u like something?
13/f
ill rate. thanks

the onlt way you know if you like a guy is if you think about him a lot and when he talks to you , you get real happy or if hes with a grl you get real jealous and when you dont see him you kind of get sad, hope my answer helps you

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I still really really like my ex grilfriend from the beginning of summer and i havent stopped liking her since. Well i was thinking next time i go over her house and im with her and maybe 2 other people, is if i bring one of those ipod radio setups where you hook up the ipod and play it in the radio. Because me and her have a song from when we used to go out which she is still in love with so i was thinking why dont you turn on channel so and so, and then ill have the song playing on my ipod while it gets sent to the radio and i wont let her know i set it all up?? hows that?

But i also have to find a way to get bak over her house again. Thats a whole different story...

that so cute she will like that but make sure she dont have a boyfriend or is talkin to some one because you dont want to feel dum but you should definetly do it

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what do i do if i love a bo and he like me back but he left to another school and he usto make front of you and he told your friend that he love you and you got his number but afraid he might say the wrong things what do i do?

you have to face your fears and it dont really matter if he tells you the wrong things cause he dont go to your same school so you wont feel bad

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Hey, i NEED help. i really like this guy. but he has a girlfriend. but he made a move on me. i dont know what to do. i think i do have feelings for him. but i dont know what to do. Should I tell him how i feel? or should i just be close friends??????

Thanks...*

what ever you do do not be his gf while he has one cause u wouldnt like to get played anyways tell him how you feel if he feel the same way he will leave his girl 4 u

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i am almost 14 and i weigh 140 pounds i am 5'4 and i need a way to loose weight. i am not good at stay to a diet so i need something easy that i could find around the house
it is summer and i need help fast!!!!! i rate

just hwork out do crunhes and push ups i am 15 and only weight 98 pounds guess what i live with it because not everybody has the same body and sometimes i try to gain weight my self try not to think about it to much cause than you get depress and wanna eat more i do that sometimes be proud of your body i am i got tried of trying to gain weight and i earned how to live with it
wishing you the best
ur girl Boricuachik

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Ever since I was a little kid, for some reason, no one respected me. From 3rd-8th grade people made fun of me non stop. My 3rd and 5th grade teachers hated me, and many of my 7th and 8th grade teachers hated me too. From 9th-11th grade, people made fun of me "just kidding around" whenever I am with my friends they don't treat me with respect. The only real friend I have right now is my sister, and tonight for some reason she didn't want to hang out with me tonight, but she did want to hang out with her other friend. That is the last straw. I really don't know what to do. I am so lonely, and I am such a nice person! I have never had a boyfriend and I just feel like my childhood is being flushed down the drain. Due to people constantly making fun of me, I have ABSOLUTELY no confidence to go out and meet new people. I just don't know what to do anymore, I can't go on like this. I need to be a normal 17 year old girl. Can someone help?

you are a normal girl some teenage girls go throught that and some dont you need to stand up for yourself you need to respect yourself so that they can respect you i am sure you are a nice girl but sometimes in this kind of situation you need to put your foot down not everybody thinks the same and you need to let them know you need tothink postive go out there and find someone you have feelings for "treasure life like its your last day""life is borrowed you can lose it any day" go out have fun and who cares what people think i have some friends that make fun of me playing around and i do the samething to them. live your life to the fullest

ur girl
Boricuachik

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Hello Everyone, I need some serious help. Skool is starying real soon and I have micro braids in now. When I take them out I don't want to get a perm right away because I am in a wedding like 3 weeks after skool. Anyone knows a nice hairstlye to get till the wedding for skool, I will rate everyone high. Thanks

you should go to the salon and explain to them that you want a hairstyle but not a perm

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ok i know im not ready to have sex NOW but i dont know if i want to wait until marriage either..i mean what do you guys think?

a part of me says

"hey who knows if your husband will even be a virgin..then its kind of pointless that you waited..and besides if you wait until your married, thats the only guy your going to have sex with .."

then again anothher part of me says "sex would be more special if you waited to have it with your husband"

any input?

i think you are right sometimes i be thinking the same thing like one part of me says
"having sex seems fun and interesting and i get curious"
"the other side says i wanna be pure when i get married to my husband i want him to know i was only his and he is my first that will be speacial cause you doing it witht th one you love"
when it all comes down i choose to wait till i get married cause when i do it the first time i wanna be able to say i did it with the love of my life"
your girl
Boricuachik

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I have long blonde hair and i usually just wear my hair down or in a messy bun. but over the summer, i wanna try something different. are there any hair style suggestions that you guys could give me?
thanks! ill rate good!

uou know you could get a clip and clip it up or do a pony tail and crul it up with the curly iron you have bangs

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Ok so on Friday i am going to my freinds house for a "movie night" we're going to paly volleyball outside earlier and then later we're going to watch hide and seek. well no big deal. she invited 4 guys and 3 girls (shes the 4th girl). well its kinda like a paired off thing. she invited couples. except for me. she invited this guy. i kind of like him i guess. same with him. he told my freind he kind of likes me. well i dont know i thnk it's goign to br really weird. because all the other people are goign ot be with their girl/boyfreind and then there will be me and this guy. i like him and all but i dont know i think it will be weird.and im kind of worried that he's gonna like try something, because thats just the the kind of guy he is...so i guess i dont know what to do.
((14/f))

i know how you feel you thinkk he is going to try and talk to you aor touch you and i bet youcant stop thinking about it just go with the flow dont stress it too much because if nothing does happes you probably going to feel disapointed cause you thought something was gonna happen just keep it real and you probably get him nervous just chill dont stress anything you to young to be stressing

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