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Brother and Dad ? Birds of a feather ?
Argh i hate my brother so much!! everyday he reminds me more and more of my dad..its so crazy.
My mum and dad split up, my dads not a very nice man, he disowned me so i consider him dead.
But now, it's just me, my mum, and my brother and he's acting like he owns the place. It's so annoying, just to get back at me...he'll reboot the whole computer so i lose all my pictures...my songs..and my coursework :|
I hate him so much i am actually considering taking off leaving a note for my mum telling him i can't live in the same house as him ?
what should i do ?
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the only way you can get along with your brother is to foregive your dad for disowning you , you dont have to go up to him and tell him that you foregive him but just foregive and foreget in your heart,i kno its hard to let the pass go but you have to so you can recieve your future and think about the present it really does help foregiveing and foregetting i never thought it would help until one day i tryed it.remember your not the only one that feels bad about the situation about your dad your brother does to so instead of being so bitter and angry at him open up to him so he can open up to you he is probably so mean to you cause he wants to take his anger out remember this you only live once and when you die you cant go back so enjoy life love your brother live happy n in peace cause if your brother dies one day how will you feel that you never said to him goodbye and all you can remember is how both of ya argued nothngs perfect n thats wat makes us beautiful,your brother not perfect so instead of judgein why not try something new and help him change
hope i helped
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i know exactly how you feel. My best advice is to be nice to him. Trust me, i know how hard it is. Just be polite, don't let him take advantage of you or anything. Treat him as though he were a person you barely knew. be distant.
also, plan ahead. Think like he would, and make back up plans to help when he does something cruel or mean. For example, with the computer thing, save everything to a jump drive or something. Just think faster than him, and prevent problems before they happen. Not only will you keep from being inconvienced, it'll also drive your brother insane.
I have an older brother thats the same way. I just don't let him get to me, and don't show weakness.
good luck! :-)
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well first of all, realize. he's your brother, he's going to be developing some of the same genes as your father, just like you have some parts of your father in you, and your mother. and so your brother is going to too.
but also, he probably feels he needs to be the man of the house. he's the protector now, the strong one, and he probably felt he had to take all the responsibility inside the house. which is perfectly common for sons to do whenever the father ups and leaves the home and leaves them by theirselves.
he may not realize he's doing this stuff and being this rude to you. have you tried talking to him about it? if you haven't, tried. let him know everything he's doing to you and how it's making you angry, and see if he tries to improve the situation.
if you've already tried taking it up with him and nothing worked, i would have a serious conversation about it with your mother and try and get her to resolvve this issue wether she's telling him to calm down or what.
other than that, the most i can tell you to do for now is just stay out of his way and leave him be. you can't get angry at him if you don't talk to him, look at him, or anything.
if you're really not able to stand it, if you have grandparents or some other kind of relative living near you and you and them both are willing to live with eachother, maybe talk with your mother about living with them cause you honestly just can't stand living with your brother any longer.
i hope i helped.
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