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Don't want to go
I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!!
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Hey, well I would just tell her your mom made other plans without asking you, I use it all the time...It works like a charm.
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Sometimes it hurts more if you don't say anything... If you wait too long and she finds out maybe from someone else she is going to be more hurt. Just tell her in a forward honest way, she might still be hurt but as I said not to tell hurts more!!
Good luck! x
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Well there are many things you can do but in my case i would talk to her about it. you should confront her. Maybe you should act like how she is to you and see how she reacts. if she confronts you about how ur being mean then say thats how you are to me. and maybe she doesnt relize how she is mean. just talk to her
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Just politely tell her you have other plans and are unable to make it. You don't have to tell her your plans or elaborate any. Sooner or later she might take the hint. :)
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Tell her you have something you want to talk about, without bringing up the birthday party. Tell her that you feel that she comes across as mean and controlling (if you don't think she intends to be, make sure you tell her that), and how. Maybe she doesn't even realize it, or it could just be a missunderstanding.
If you can't come to any resolution in either direction, tell her you aren't sure you want to go, and you'll let her know later. In which case, think about it, decide, and let her know later. If it turns out that you still want to be friends, then act as such. If you decide that you really don't want to be friends with her anymore, tell her you can't make it, and she will likely understand the rest.
If done right, her feelings either won't be hurt, or if they are, she will understand. Just don't be confrontational about it.
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If you really don't want to go, just tell her you won't be able to make it that day.
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tell her the way you feel about her controling behavior. if you don't tell her shes doing something wrong then she won't stop doing it because she doesnt know you don't like it. so let her know how you feel and if she still doesnt stop drop her as as friend because obviously she doesn't want to be friends anyway if all she does is be mean
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Well its going to be har trying to tell her woth out huting her feelings.You just have to be honest with her and hope everything goes ok.
Hope I helped
MD_GIRL101
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Tell her how you feel about her being mean and controlling. Tell her you don't feel comfortable around her when she acts like that. Maybe she does that, but just doesn't know it because you don't stick up for yourself as much as you need to torwards her. After you tell her, thing should get somewhat better, but if they stay the same or get worst, you should end your friendship.
♥ Megan
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There is no way not 2 hurt her. If you fill as if you don't want to be her friend anymore, just tell her. It'll hurt her more if you string her along.
*~Alexia~*
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Just tell her you can't attend, because you have previously made other plans which CAN NOT be cancelled. That's a perfectly acceptable RSVP... and you DO have plans anyways......
I'd go with that.
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Well, maybe she changed of the 3 months you havnt tlaked to her, I would go for a few hours amd makeup and excuse for the rest, id stay like 4 hours tops? It wouldnt hurt just to check it out, and maybe after the few hours you'd find out your having a good tiem an want to stay!
Goodluck and Hope i Helped
♥ Alex
what was the 3 for?!
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Since she still believes your friendship is as strong as ever, you should probably go to her party. Tell her when you get there that something has came up and you won't be able to stay long.
Before the party comes around or after it's over, tell your friend that you haven't been spending a lot of time together and you'd like to get together with her to talk. Tell her that she may not realize it but certain remarks she's made are hurtful and that while you appreciate her concern about you, your life is your choice. She may not realize she's doing it and will appreciate you bringing it to her attention. A true friend will back off rather than ruin a friendship.
Good luck. I wish you the best.
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