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Q: Okay, here's the deal. My one guy-friend told me he liked me and that he wanted to go to the movies with me.. and I said yes ; because I did/didn't like him ( cause I haven't seen him in for like ever ) but I didn't want there being awkwardness so I had my one friend kinda invite herself ( lol yeah I know.. ). So she was coming to the movies. But then he didn't have money for it, so he couldn't go, so he suggested just hanging at his house. Well all day nothing happened, and it was getting latish kinda around 7 or something so I didn't even think I was going...but then he suddenly said he could come and get me. So I was allowed and stuff which was awseome! But then we stopped to rent movies, and his mom went shopping and stuff, so we didn't get to his house till like 7:30 and I had to go by 9 ( so we had to leave before then ) so then we were holding hands and enjoying ourselves and stuff and then I went home. And then my mom tells me she got a call from my friend who said she was upset because we ditched her or something ( and I didn't mean to like intentionally, I just thought that I was only there for like.. an hour or so, so I thought by the time she got there, we'd all have to leave anyway so I thought next time.. ) but she's not talking to me now and stuff and it's become this huge thing and stuff... and I don't know what to do, I mean I feel really really bad and stuff...
=( PLEASE HELP ME!

Have you explained to her what happened? If she's such a good friend, then she should understand that you didn't do it intentionally. You should give her a call and tell her to just listen, and tell her the whole story. If she hangs up on you or won't listen write her a letter or email. If she still won't talk to you, it's her problem, not yours.
♥ Megan

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♥ Megan

Q: I apologize in advance because this is going to be pretty long. I'm a sixteen year old girl and I've been single my entire life up until now. I met this great guy at work, and we both liked each other. Our first date was absolutely perfect. It was more of a date to make things official seeing as we already knew a lot about each other. He gave me a red rose, we held hands in the mall, cuddled in the movies, and he kissed me goodnight in the rain. It was perfect. With this being my first relationship ever, I'm freaking out. I know you're not supposed to kiss on the first date, and I wasn't exactly ready for it either. I know that in a relationship, a guy is going to want something "more" than what I'm willing to give. My morals are that I don't want to go past kissing wiht a guy until I'm married. I'm not ready for anything sexual...I'm only 16! Everyone has told me that before you love someone else, you have to love yourself. That could be an issue with me, since I'm full of self-loathing and I have no self-esteem. I can't understand how a guy would pick me in the first place. My internal conflicts are seriously creating a huge dilemma for me and I don't know what to do anymore. This guy made me so happy at first. I could not stop talking about him and I was so happy for once in my life. But now that things are moving faster, I'm freaking out and instead of smiling all the time, I cry. I don't want to give up something like this...what I've longed for my entire life. At the same time, I can't just ignore my issues. I need help. Please tell me what to do. :'( Thank you so much.

Wow, first of all I would like to say good for you. Most girls are really eager to go ahead and do sexual things. You can't be exactly sure if this guy wants to do anything really sexual right away, unless you ask. You should tell him your morals and let him understand. If he is really that great of a guy, then he'll still like you no matter what.
♥ Megan

Q: Okay well im going into the 8th grade and last summer i had a huge crush on this guys.. lets just call him "Jermey" but the entire time i liked him he was so mean to me and always said bad things to me and then during the 7th grade we became best friends. He tells me everything and he truts me and he told me a lot that he liked me but i had finally stopped liking him. But then he told me that somedays he really really really liked me a lot and other days i was just his friend. Towards the end of the year i started to get boyfriend/girlfriend feelings for him again because we kissed a few times and he told me how much he liked me and if it werent summer he woul go out with me but now it is summer and ive only seen him like 3 times and i dont know if he still likes me the way he used but i still like him completly.. no questions about it. I know he's interested in other girls too now, but when he's around me i can tell that he really likes me a lot and only me even if he wont admit it. I saw him yesterday but we didnt talk.. we both seemed really nervous and im worried that he doesnt like me anymore but i dont want to ask him if he still likes me because that would kind of be cheesy.. Please Help!

Do somthing really fun together on a day you are both available. Maybe it will let you see if both of your feelings are the same torwards each other. If you said you were both nervous that day you saw him, then maybe he has the same feelings for you, and like you dosn't know how to let you know. You have to spend some time with him to really know if he wants you in the same way.
♥ Megan

Q: I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!!

Tell her how you feel about her being mean and controlling. Tell her you don't feel comfortable around her when she acts like that. Maybe she does that, but just doesn't know it because you don't stick up for yourself as much as you need to torwards her. After you tell her, thing should get somewhat better, but if they stay the same or get worst, you should end your friendship.
♥ Megan

Q: Ok Well My boyfriend and I have been together since May and now things between me and him are just getting boring but i dont wanta leave him because i really love him but I dont know what to do things are just so boring now should i tell him how i feel ... he might take it the wrong way
plz help

If you think it's getting boring enough to the point where you have to break up with him, then do it. I think you should just sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Tell him exactly why you want to break up, and that he shouldn't take it the wrong way. You seem to really love him still. Maybe you should tell him things are starting to be boring, and give him a little longer. If you still don't like the way things are turning out, break up with him.
♥ Megan