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Okay let me warn you this thing will be like 2000 characters, but let me start by saying i met this girl when i came to missouri to visit my grandma, we like eachother, well we love eachother, i dont feel like i could live wtihout her...we dated last year and broke up and then i tried for a year to get her back and finally did, however i found these questions asked on advicenators..about her ex..while we were going out:
*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*
i knew her ex was coming over to get the scrapbook but she said that was it and that she didnt have feelings anymore and what not...but the most painful is the next one...
hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!
sent while we were going out yet again, i love her with all my heart and i dont know what to do, i finally won her back and i dont want to let her go but i feel like its just a game and she is playing me. Should i keep her or let her go? any advice? (link)
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Have you asked her about those questions? If not I think maybe you should. Let her know she isn't putting anything over on you. Let her know you still care despite it but that you would like an explanation. If the explanation doesn't satisfy you then move on. I know you still care but you have to trust a person or it will all fail in the long run. Good luck :)
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my best friend and i are goin to different high schools next year. i had the choice to go to her high school, but i decided not to because i didn't want to be unhappy at that high school. a month ago she left to go to another country with her family and she's comin home soon. while she was on vacation she called everyone else, but me. durin the school year we only saw each other 3 times and we haven't seen since. she only calls me when she has no one to talk to. we call each other wifey because that was how tight we were b4. she's changed a lot and i just dont know if i want to be her friend anymore. i've been through everything with her and now she's kinda leavin me for her little slutty friends. she's always sayin how she's goin to make it all up. when she makes plans she'll tell me about it, but wont invite me. i just feel like we aren't friends anymore and i've talked to her about this already, but i guess she doesnt get it. what do you guys think i should do?
sorry that this is sooo long, but its just killin me to keep thinkin about this inside. i'm givin advice to other people and i can't help myself (link)
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People change a lot during their teens and 20's. People who are good friends one minute seem like strangers the next. This is pretty normal. Stay friends and keep in touch but you may not be "best" friends right now. You may pick that back up one of these days but for now make new friends and don't feel guilty if you find a new "best" friend. :)
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my friend is coming in to visit from out of state..shes lik a sister to me but im worrie about her and my friends getting along...i just dont want nething dumb to happen bc she wont be here long
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She will probably get along fine with your friends. If she doesn't then just hang out with her while shes visiting since she won't be around long. :)
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im going into my freshman yr & ive known this girl for about 7 yrs..shes changed alot and shes going thru so much...she trys to get noticed by doing stuff with guys..it disgusts me but i still want to know im always here for her & at the same time tell that whats shes doing isnt ne good
please help my friend and i stay close! (link)
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Have you tried talking to her about it? If you are pretty close tell her what guys really think about girls who act the way shes acting. If she doesn't listen to you she won't listen to anyone. All you can do is be there for her because sooner or later she will need a good friend. :)
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Alright, I'm 16 and I have been dating my bf for about 2 and 1/2 weeks. Everything has been going pretty good. I feel like I've known him forever and we are falling head over heels for eachother. His family loves me and my family loves him. It's been perfect. But it seems that everytime we hang out little things bug me about him. Like his friends for example. Most of them play girls and he acts a little different around me when they are with him. Another thing I don't care for is that he can be pretty insensitive about my feelings and is pushy about things. He says and does things and doesn't think about how it might be taken the wrong way. Like yesterday my twin sister pissed him off so he kiddingly yelled at her and then when she said a sarcastic comment back he went over to her, turned her over, and started punching and slapping her ass real hard. And I found it extremely weird and inappropriate because whenever I think of someone grabbing, slapping, or punching someones ass its usually someone they are into, because he does the same thing when we play fight. So it totally disgusted and pissed me off. When he did that it made me offended and mad. My last bf would walk by girls at the mall when I was with him and smack their ass but I never said anything about how it annoyed and upset me because I figured that if I let out how I felt that it might screw things up. Even today we got in a sort of fight over the way things were going between us. As in how fast we were moving physically. It is always me who intiates these small skirmishes and that's what worries me. Most of the issues I have with him happen because I have been through alot of shit with guys in the past and I try to protect myself by not putting up with shit. I just don't want to be the person that fights about shit all the time and feels like an overreacter. But I know that if I keep things to myself that it will end up building up and building up and the issues will never get solved. So is there any way that I can relieve these issues without feeling like I might be causing my relationship to self-destruct? (link)
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Don't fight about it anymore. Sit him down and say listen I like you but this is how I expect mu boyfriend to act and this is how I expect to be treated...go through the list. If he isn't willing to abide by it then send him packing. You will not be happy with things if they continue as they have been. He is being very disrespectful. Good luck. :)
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Okay so i have been talking to this girl for a really long time and she wanted to hangout really bad so she came over one night. I flirted with her a lot and we had sex. And i know this girl likes me A LOTT. but the thing is i dont like her at all and i tottaly led her on by having sex with her so how do i make it as easy as i can on her without dating her? (link)
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Just politely tell her you aren't ready for a serious relationship right now. Then stay away from her for a while. Her feelings are going to be hurt but that can't be helped.
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LONG BUT i'LL LOVE YOU FOREVER=/. i'm not a total idiot, and i usually don't need advice i just give it. me and my ex- [we will call danny] were going out since Nov. 7, 2004, yeah but broke up 4 times. the second to last time it was for a month because i liked another boy [we will call him cody] and i wanted to give him a 2nd chance, yes... i already had gone out with him. so it ended and with a little struggle started going back out, everything back to normal... felt good. i was always comfortable with being with danny. last friday, i'm dissapointed to admit, i cheated on him with cody. danny hadn't been calling me, and when he did VERY RARELY. so i called him yesterday, he doesn't know i cheated, and we argued & he said he didn't know if he wanted to go out with me. so i just said it's over & he said he wasn`t happy but was going to go. i haven't talked to danny since. cody REALLY likes me and everything and he's a really good boyfriend, but i always end up just wanting danny. please just give me .. SOMETHING, anything. my friends are too dumb for this stuff. (link)
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You will just have to put some distance between you and Danny until you are completely over him. It could take a while. I mean no phone calls, no talking in halls at school etc. No more contact than is necessary to be polite. Once you get over him if you want to be friends then you can, but until you get it through your head that he is not a boyfriend you want to have keep your distance. Otherwise you will waffle back and forth indefinitely. Good luck with Cody :)
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so the other day me and my boyfriend were alone at his house and he wanted to fool around. we have done it MANY times before but i just didnt feel like it so i told him i didnt feel like it. he got really weird and pissed off and it made me feel like i had to fool around with him. so we were weird for like a few hours until later at the park we finally fooled around and things were fine. i dont want to do it nemore ever. maybe every once in a while. i feel like i have to tho. we talk about everything usually and we have a really awesome relationship most of the time. we really love eachother. all he kept saying is he doesnt see why i dont wanna do it and i said "cuz i dont want to". if he really loves me should i need a reason? he said we will stop but i feel bad for it and hes mad and weird about it. i hate it. what do i do. (link)
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You don't do it if you don't want to. If hes gonna get all mad just let him. he will get over it or he won't, but don't be made to feel like you owe it to him. :)
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ok. ive been goin out with this girl for 2 months and i wanna kiss her bu ti dont know what to do to get to that point. we hang out everyday at this place that alot of our friends go to. should i kiss her there?. or there but somewhere private. what should i doo?? (link)
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I think a quick peck might be OK if you're in public but any really good kissing should be done in private. You don't have to do anything to get to the point of kissing. You just go for it. :)
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this is really stupid.. but i met this guy online and i started to like him ALOT. well anyway i met up with him yesterday he is the sweetest/cutest guy EVER. I mean we had such a GREAT time! Well anyway he asked me if I wanted to go out another time.. and I said yes.. but see he's never done ANYTHING with a girl except for hug.. and yesterday we didnt do anything! If we go out again will he have the nerve to hold my hand?? and if he doesnt do i just grab his HELP ME PLEASE! (link)
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I think its okay for you to just grab his hand and hold it. Don't rush things to much other than that. Once you get to know each other better he will loosen up. Really, its nice to know there are still a few gentlemen to be had out there! :)
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theres this guy troy. i really like him and he likes me i think. we hung out today and he took me out to lunch and i donno we get along really good. and we were totally flirting. the only problem is..its my best friends ex boyfriend. their still friends a little..but she broke up with him...its notl ike he broke her heart...she treated him like shit. she doesnt know how lucky she was to have to boy like that! he drove to see her all the time, doesnt cheat, always called, and never canceled on her. hes soo hott too.and he met my mom today. and she likes him to. and were hanging out friday...and when he walked me back to my door today he gave me like the longest hug EVER...but hes my friends ex!! err idk what to do..help?
ps..when they broke up i told her shes going to regret it cause hes such a great guy...and she was like then you can have him..but she said it sarcastically...omgg i dont know.. :( (link)
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The magic word is ex. If your friend wanted him she should have kept him. He is now free to be all yours! If your friend has a problem with it that can't be made your problem. He sounds like a great guy so don't pass him by. One thing I do want to suggest is this...even if your friend appears to be okay with it all do not under any circumstances listen to anything negative she may say about him. Just simply say in order to get along I don't want to hear it. :)
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okay how gross is this...
on dates with my bf while talking casually about what we've done before meeting each other (usually involving a rush to get out of bed) ect I always list down that I managed to brush my teeth and have a drink before leaving the house... him on the other hand spends his mornings on the computer or watching TV... he doesn't even BOTHER to brush his teeth or anything :S and he tells me this! can you be more of a turn off... ewwww... and once he got really mad at me for not wanting to kiss him but can you blame me!! how do I subtely get the message across to him that that is the biggest turn off like, ever :|
plus, I dunno, is this like a hint he can't be bothered? he's always dragging on about how he doesn't care about his appearance ect.. but after 3 months he's never even complimented how I look and I always try my best, blah...
Please help + opinions on this
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Sounds like you got hold of a slob. There are a few of them out there! You will just have to tell him...You want to kiss me go brush your teeth. Take a shower and put on clean clothes. I don't think all the hints in the world are gonna do it so you might have to do a little threatening! If he doesn't straighten up and you can't stand it any more you'll have to look for a new one. Try to get him straightened out first. :)
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Sorry its kinda long... My boyfriend and I get along really good but he thinks I have too many guy friends. I am pretty good looking *not to sound big headed, its just what people say* so he thinks that whenever I go spend time with him I will cheat on him. He doesn't trust me at all. Just the other weekend I went to see my guy friend I have known since I was born. He moved when we were 6 so I go visit him all the time. My b/f called me every 30 min. to make sure I wasn't cheating on him. He didn't even want me to wear a bathing suit infront of my frnd. Of course while I was there I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Is there someway I can make him trust me with my guy friends?
Thanks for the help.
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You can keep reassuring him but that is going to get old after awhile. You need to have a long talk. Tell him that you do have a lot of guy friends but he is the one you chose for a boyfriend. Let him know that his jealousy could very well end your relationship someday if he keeps it up. If it would help and he doesn't know them already you might want to introduce him to them. If they become his friends too he may trust them more. Tell them ahead of time (and this goes for you to!) No flirting while the boyfriend is around. :)
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There's a guy who in 6th grade-- long time ago, he liked me and he told me so, but I never really thought of him that way... but now, that he's grown up a lot, he's still got a great personality, and just because I told him I did not feel for him, we were still friends and all. And we go to different schools now, so I have only seen him once since 6th grade and he's really hott now. We won't be in the same school for another year and I don't want to lose him! I'm so confused... should I wait til a year or should I do something now? I haven't kept in touch so I think it would be kinda weird for me to just call him or something outa the blue after a year of not seeing him. (link)
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If you can find out where he hangs out you could arrange to bump into him somewhere. Tell him you've missed him, exchange numbers, Take it from there. :)
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there is a girl. she doesnt know how i feel about her, i think. she's been helping me boost my self confidence. i want to show her i appreciate it. i just dont know what to do.
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Pick a flower for her and tell her it reminds you of her. Ask her out for a soda or ice cream...something simple so you don't feel pressure of a big date. It will help boost that confidence so when you're ready you can move on to going to the movies or something like that. Just tell her how much you appreciate all her help and you'd like to pay her back by buying her ice cream. :)
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ok today i was supposed to go to the mall with a clsoe friend of mine except the person that was goin to take me is in LA right now and CANT take me today.. except me and my guy friend have been watin forever for this day and really want to go btu there is no way i need to tell him i cant go the easiest and nicest way possible.. how can i do this ?? thanks (link)
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You simply tell him you lost your ride and will have to make it another day. Be sure you let him know you feel bad about it. :)
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okay so the guy ihave had a crush on might come for my b-day but if he doesnt his sis is and i want to write him a letter telling him how i feel of him but im afraid that we will lose the freindship we have cause of that so any suggestions on what to write or any other stuff try not to make it nasty make it okay for a 14 year old guy
will rate HIGH!!! (link)
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I guess you and his sister are friends.
Here is the deal. Writing a letter is fine but I wouldn't involve his sister in it. Most siblings don't get along real good for one thing and he may not want her knowing his business. The next thing is he could just think it is a giggly girl thing that you two or doing and are only joking around. In that instance it may even make him mad. So, If you can't speak to him in person ( without sis) Write a letter yourself. Write what you feel. :)
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Alright, so me and my boyfriend have been into it last night and pretty much all of today. The thing is, I think I really get jealous too easy when he talks to other girls. Heres the thing. It may be long, but I need help. Alright he kinda cheated (what I consider cheating) on me with some girl at his church and I asked him last night if he had talked to her since we had gotten into it about that. He said that last SUnday she asked him a question in front of the sunday school class, and he didnt want to seem like an asshole to everyone, so he just answered her and carried on a conversation. The thing is, I just wanna know if I have a reason to be mad about that. Part of me just wants to think he was just being nice, but then again, why wouldnt he just ignore her or say "why do you care?" I really need help... and I rate 5s! Thanx (link)
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You have to learn to get past his cheating. That is where the trusting him problem is coming in. If you can't honestly believe he won't do it again then the relationship is basically over. You can't spend all your time worrying and looking over your shoulder for him to make a mistake. He can't walk on egg shells and fear your reaction every time he looks or talks to another girl. So,hard as it will be you have to stop bringing the cheating up...and by not trusting you are doing just that. If you just can't get past it then break up and find someone else. :)
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okay my ex boyfriend (my first love) broke up with me about a month ago! supposably he doesnt like me any more. But every time i dont see him for about a day or two he is always flirting with me like grabbing my butt, asking me to sit on his lap, hugging me, and/or cuddling with me. Every one says to give him time he likes you he just wants to see if your the one so let him date other people and he WILL come back to you. i dont know if he is trying to get me back by this or what he tells everyone that he dont like me but everyone tells me that by the way he acts around me and the way he gives me special treatment! i dont know please help me (link)
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Tell him if he doesn't like you he needs to keep his hands to himself. If he does like you perhaps he will confess. If he doesn't like you he shouldn't be leading you on. :)
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okay if you are on brown(heroin) is there a way you could get off it but not with proffesionall help like ya can do it by ya self.
i dont inject just smoke it but i dont want to do it no more so can anyone help any tips but please dont say go to meetings cus i dont wanna do that (link)
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I suppose there are a few who have. It is not real likely that you will just stop without professional help. Heroin is very addictive and one of the hardest habits to kick. Trying yourself is certainly commendable but if you run into problems (withdrawal from drugs can be deadly if you've been on it long enough) Please seek emergency attention quickly.
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