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too many guy friends?
Sorry its kinda long... My boyfriend and I get along really good but he thinks I have too many guy friends. I am pretty good looking *not to sound big headed, its just what people say* so he thinks that whenever I go spend time with him I will cheat on him. He doesn't trust me at all. Just the other weekend I went to see my guy friend I have known since I was born. He moved when we were 6 so I go visit him all the time. My b/f called me every 30 min. to make sure I wasn't cheating on him. He didn't even want me to wear a bathing suit infront of my frnd. Of course while I was there I didn't cheat on my boyfriend. Is there someway I can make him trust me with my guy friends?
Thanks for the help.
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at first it may seem flattering to you but in the long run a jelouse man is hard to live with. Believe me I know. It starts small and gets bigger and bigger.
Just tell him straight out. Ive known these guys longer than Ive known you..if I had wanted to date them I would have already so you have nothing to worry about.
If you have that hard of a time trusting me how are we going to maintain a relationship?
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i think that you should dump this dude. he won't leave you alone. he doesn't trust you and one of the things that form a foundation to a relatioship is trust. he doesn't have any. he is trying to controll what you do with YOUR friends, and what you do is your decision...NOT his.
you won't cheat on him, that is what you said. i think that he needs to learn that you aren't going to do that. next time you are alone with your guy friends, keep your phone on for a little while and after he calls a couple of times, turn the phone OFF. this way, he has no way to know what you are doing and this is where the trust factor is going to come in.
i hope everything works out.
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When a guy has a girlfriend he usually has a hard time trusting her because he's jealous and wants his g/f all to himself and doesnt like her to have guy friends, but it's not his decision. Your gonna have guy friends. Almost every girl does. Anways if he cant trust you when your with your guy friends then I strongly advise you brake up with him. No relationship is going to last without trust. You could try talking to him about the situation but it usually windes up in an argument. Hope i helped... *Beth*
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Heya,
to be honest, relationships are built on trust, so if he doesn't start trusting you soon, it doesn't look good for your future together.
How do you act with your guy friends? do you flirt at all? Because if you don't then invite your boyfriend to hang out with you and your guy friends, so he can reassure himself that there's nothing going on between you and your mates.
He's just insecure about himself, and most likely thinks that he isn't good enough for you; so go easy on him and just try and talk it out, explain that you love him, and that he's the only one you're interested in.
XxXxX
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always assure him that you love him so much and that he will always have you and your love.. show it.. develop the rust between the to of you.. but if he stil doesnt trust you.. break up with him.. how can he say he loves you that he can't even ern to trust you.. and it doesn't mean that he's your boy and your his girl, he can stop you from socializing with others.. your his girl but he doesn't own you gal!! but don't break up with him immediatley give him a chance to learn to trust you...
++ not your ordinary gal ++
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You can keep reassuring him but that is going to get old after awhile. You need to have a long talk. Tell him that you do have a lot of guy friends but he is the one you chose for a boyfriend. Let him know that his jealousy could very well end your relationship someday if he keeps it up. If it would help and he doesn't know them already you might want to introduce him to them. If they become his friends too he may trust them more. Tell them ahead of time (and this goes for you to!) No flirting while the boyfriend is around. :)
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yuor b/f just has insecurities about himself, thats why he doesnt trust you. he sees your guy friends as a threat. he think that, because he's insecure about himself, that naturally you will feel the same and find other guys that are betterthan him. but you need to sit down with him and explain to him that they are just friendsand thats all because he wont change. he willalways think that you are cheating on him. and if there is no trust then it will never work because you will always feel that you are betraying him when you go out with your guy mates because u know he doesnt want you to, but this shouldnt happen. he has to know tht you will have guy friends and he shouldnt try and come between you and them. but just make sure he know he came trust you and that you trust him.
hope i helped!
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he's insecure and controlling.
dump him.
sorry for bluntness.
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Guys like this will probably claim "I do this because I love you" but what they really are saying..."I do this because I dont trust you". You have to talk to him and let him know, he cannot control your life...he is not your parent or anyone to tell you who to hang out with and who not to. He needs to respect you and your friends...and if he cant do that, he's not worth being with.
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ok getting along great with your bf when its you two is great, but thats only 1/2 the relationship. the other half is being able to be apart and trust the otherr. your bf is most definately lacking the other half and this is not your fault and this isnt something you can fix. its something he needs to work on. trust is an essential part of any relationship..whether its romantic or just friends. if your bf cant start to trust you, im sorry but i would honestly dump him because he needs to understand that you have a lot of guy friends
i hope i helped
-meliss
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I’m afraid there is very little you can do. You can try talking to him (the bf); assure him you’re not cheating, explain what you have just stated to me, and ask if there is something he wants to talk about (just in case there is something that is troubling that is more deeper than u seeing your friend, but keep in mind there is a possibility that it won’t work. If that happens I can just say give it time, it may be just a phase. From that point you must decide on where to go afterwards.
Best of luck, let me know if I helped in anyway.
~Teen Guru~
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Get your boyfriend to meet your guy friends and let them all get to know each other. Or have your guy friends talk to him. Let him know that you need time with your friends no matter what gender they are. Tell him how you trust him and how he shouldn't have to worry so much. If you guys dont trust each other then there's no point of being together unless you guys try to work things out. Hope this helps!!
-Manda
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I suggest you let him meet your guy friends, or drag him along when you go to see them. If he meets them, he might feel less worried.
My guy and I had a fight, sorta, about that. I have a lot of guy friends too, and when I introduced him to them, he told me later he didn't know why he was so worried.
I'm not so sure it's you your boyfriend doesn't trust - it might be other guys. That was my guy's issue. But talk to your guy and find out why he's so untrusting. Maybe he had a problem with another girlfriend and he's a little scarred from that.
Take him with you when you go see your guy friends - not every time, just a few times. Also, Do you hang around with your guy and his friends?
If you don't, ask to tag along with him and "the boys" every once and awhile. That way he can see how you are around other guys, and that you don't even flirt with anyone else.
I strongly reccomend you talk this out with your guy - let him know how much it bothers you that he doesn't seem to trust you.
Also, trust really is a huge thing in relationships. If there's no trust, there's no real relationship. He's gotta be able to trust you or it'll never work, and you might wanna tell him that.
All you can do is tell him this stuff and try this stuff out - he's going to have to learn to trust you on his own. He's gotta decide that you're trustworthy by himself. You can tell him you are all you want, but if he doesn't believe it it won't matter.
Talk it out. Talking fixes a LOT.
(Trust me, I've gone through this (sorta))
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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When you have a boyfriend. The thing that you want when you have a bf is "trust" if your boyfriend doesn't have trust in you then i think you guys aren't ment to be.
Really i'm not trying to break you up. But you need to tell him to have some trust in you. And so on, you should have trust w. him too.
BleSseS.
Soraa.
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oh goodness. tell him that if he cares about you he'll trust you! if he keeps being (for lack of better word) possesive, you will feel the need to cheat on him. maybe next time you hang out with your friend, have you boyfriend come and see that no, your not cheating on him, you guys sit there and do whatever you do when you hang out. he needs to chill out. hope this helps! <3
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in a relationship the whole big thing about it is trust u need trust for a relationship to go on..if he doesn't trust you then you should tell him well if i cant have your trust then why are we together..if he really liked you he would trust you and if he knew that you like him alot he would know that you would never cheat on him...try and tell him how much you like him and that might change his mind...hope i helped
xoxoxo
tina
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