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I love her, what do i do?
Okay let me warn you this thing will be like 2000 characters, but let me start by saying i met this girl when i came to missouri to visit my grandma, we like eachother, well we love eachother, i dont feel like i could live wtihout her...we dated last year and broke up and then i tried for a year to get her back and finally did, however i found these questions asked on advicenators..about her ex..while we were going out:
*well my ex boyfriend is coming over tomarrow and i made him a scrapbook of all our memories cause i want him to know how much i still care about him! he has told me 3 times since we've been broken up he loves me and hes said he misses me all the time! but theres also another girl that he likes and im trying to pretty much win him over..but anyways..i was just wondering if you had any ideas on how i could do like a scavenger hunt kinda thing to lead him to it cause i want this to be special!!! please help asap! thanks!*
i knew her ex was coming over to get the scrapbook but she said that was it and that she didnt have feelings anymore and what not...but the most painful is the next one...
hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME!
sent while we were going out yet again, i love her with all my heart and i dont know what to do, i finally won her back and i dont want to let her go but i feel like its just a game and she is playing me. Should i keep her or let her go? any advice?
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I'm sorrie if this seems rude, but you need to "let her go". I know this is MUCH MUCH MUCH easier said than done.. but honestly.. did you see ANY mention of YOU in there, other than the "we both have went out with other people"??? And call me crazy, but THAT line wasn't exactly HEARTFELT, now WAS it?????
Though unfortunate, I think the best thing for you to do is to gather up the pices of your broken heart, and walk away from this relationship. I apologize for being so blunt, but she OBVIOUSLY doesn't 'love' you, Hun. Whether she says it or not, she doesn't, plain and simple. She may have at ONE POINT IN TIME, but NOT anymore. The way I see if [and please tell me if you agree or not]: If you 'love' TWO people, you simply CAN NOT 'love' EITHER ONE ****ENOUGH****. Period; NOOO possible way around that fact. The reason why I said "she obviously doesn't 'love' you" is because if she DID she wouldn't WANT anyone else... because NO ONE else in the ENTIRE WORLD would be able to even COME CLOSE to COMPARING to you, and to what the two of you have together. 'Love' [whether the term is used lightly or not] is reciprocal, my friend. MEANING, it's NOT just ONE-sided. In my opinion, the meaning of life is to live it happily, and accomplish whatever greatness we can possibly can achieve. Now, many times people find happiness IN SOMEONE ELSE, and this is why we have a little thing called 'marriage'. We find that ONE person we know that we simply can not live WITHOUT. But HOW do we get to that point??? Through something called "dating" and "relationships". The point of a relationship is to get to know your partner. I guess you can view it as a marriage BEFORE marriage, if that makes sense?? OBVIOUSLY you like the person, because if you DIDN'T you WOULDN'T be dating them, but in today's world... just because you're WITH someone.. DOES NOT mean you have feelings for them. Now tell me... does that just SUCK???? Isn't that disgusting and unfair??? Think of it this way: what's the point in giving your heart away to someone who isn't willing to give you theirs? I'm telling you to use your head here, and to think of your *OWN* well being on this one. Don't waste any more of your time, tears or effort on her. She's CLEARLY not worthy..
I wish you the best of luck - hopefully I've been of SOME assistance here. Know that I am *ALWAYS, ALWAYS* here if you ever feel in need of a second opinion. Also, if you could update me on this, that would be terrific. I'd really appreciate it. Until then, chin up, Darlin'... you'll be okay...
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this is not to be mean but honestly i doubt you really love her...you think you do but really you dont want to let go...move on and find someone that actually cares bc you deserve better
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Honestly it looks like you've been played and several times at that. Move on and find someone who really loves you. You deserve better.
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Have you asked her about those questions? If not I think maybe you should. Let her know she isn't putting anything over on you. Let her know you still care despite it but that you would like an explanation. If the explanation doesn't satisfy you then move on. I know you still care but you have to trust a person or it will all fail in the long run. Good luck :)
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Hey Sweetie! I'm really not sure who she likes better. It seems as if she still likes her ex, but im not sure if she likes you as much. I kno that you dont wanna hear this, and that it will be hard, but you should try to talk to her about it. Try to get her to tell you the truth on who she likes better, if it's you, then tell her that she needs to get over her ex, and if it's her ex, then you should respect that and see if you still wanna go out with her and/or if she still wants to go out with you. But, just respect her answer and try not to get pissed off at her, because i can tell hat you really like her, but she really cant help who she likes better, so try not to get mad. Hope i helped...love ya! JoRdAn!
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Ok... i understand you have feelings for the girl and i say this in the most sensetive way possible... dump her. Your too good for her. You seem like a great guy if you care this much and have this much feelings towards her. She is, like you said, playing you. If you don't want to be too drastic maybe approach her and try to discuss the two entries with her... maybe there is an explanation... are you positive they are hers? You don't want to jump to conclusions. But be careful... she seems liek a good liar. Your young, there are a lot fo other girls out there that won't hurt you like this and realitically this girl isn't "the one" for you so you might as well move on and get a girl that truly cares about you. Hope i helped. Thanks for your question and feel free to ask more.
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well what i would do is ask her how much she really cares about you and if she says it like she means it then she is playing a game with you. but if you reeaaaaaaaaallllllllllyyyyyy love her and she rreeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaalllllllllllllyyyy loves you then you should keep her. dont get mad at me if you dont like my advice. its just that im in a depression right now cuz my parents are splitting up. but i really hope i helped!! put me on your fav columnist thingy ^O^
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Just let her go. It sounds like you have other things on your mind besides her. Girls' hearts are VERY fragile and if you break that, she may never forgive you. Just stay friends with her and maybe things will get better. Good luck! Hope I helped!
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you should sit down and talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and find out if she feels the same or not. maybe she's just confused on how you feel about her..if you tell her how you feel & how much you love her..then maybe her hearing it will help. im sorry i couldnt be much help..i dont really know of anything else. anymore questions..feel free to ask.
<3 brandi
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