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fooling around
so the other day me and my boyfriend were alone at his house and he wanted to fool around. we have done it MANY times before but i just didnt feel like it so i told him i didnt feel like it. he got really weird and pissed off and it made me feel like i had to fool around with him. so we were weird for like a few hours until later at the park we finally fooled around and things were fine. i dont want to do it nemore ever. maybe every once in a while. i feel like i have to tho. we talk about everything usually and we have a really awesome relationship most of the time. we really love eachother. all he kept saying is he doesnt see why i dont wanna do it and i said "cuz i dont want to". if he really loves me should i need a reason? he said we will stop but i feel bad for it and hes mad and weird about it. i hate it. what do i do.
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Your right. If he really loves you would he pressure you and make you feel bad about doing things you don't want to do? Your relationship seems like it is based on "fooling around" rather than on love. If he really loves you he would respect you and the choices you make. The next choice you must make is to stay with him or to leave him. It's up to you.
natalie
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He's a control freak and this is how he is expressing it. It is not good for him to get pissed off. He should respect your wishes and not push you and push you until he gets what he wants. It is not healthy to have this happen to you. This can go as far as rape if you don't intervene now. Let him know how it made you feel, if he doesn't change, dump him.
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No you should not need a reason. If he truly loves you, he will wait until you're ready. If he continues to push the issue or get mad if you don't say yes, I'd suggest moving on since it seems to me that he's just trying to get into your pants.
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Not wanting to do it with him is fine and he is eventually going to have to get over it. Dont feel bad when you dont feel like it you just dont! So i dont think you should have to explain yourself everytime if your bond with your boyfriend is that strong you shouldnt have to worry about this problem at all. i hope things get better for you
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You don't do it if you don't want to. If hes gonna get all mad just let him. he will get over it or he won't, but don't be made to feel like you owe it to him. :)
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