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How old should i be to have it (link)
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There is not a specified age for this,although I do believe that 14-16 is still too young, These ages I think are the times for you to experience boyfriends and find qualities that you believe in that will further developing the idea of your future husband. A good time to have sex is when you feel the time is absolutley perfect and beautiful that there is no better time ever. That is how old you should be..
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okay so im 15/f and my boyfriend is 18. we started dating about a week ago. well hes older than me hes just a lot more experianced than me. we make out all the time and hes really like "fast" with it but its been fine with me. but i let him finger me last night and it was the first time someone has. well he was really fast and when it started to hurt i told him to slow down and he would just whisper to me that "ill be fine and he knows what hes doing" and he kept going just as fast. so i finally told him to just stop and he didnt and so i closed my legs and he just pushed them back and held me there until he was done.. im kind of scared now cause we've talked about having sex but im scared he'll hurt me a lot more and i dont really know what to do cause i dont want to break up with him but it really scared me when he was basically holding my legs apart when i was telling him to stop. what should i do? (link)
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Do NOT let him do that, you need to stand up for yourself hardcore, and in this case that would mean breaking up with him. He obviously does not consider you in these situations, and that is not what boyfriends should be like. That is awful, trust your gut instinct which is not letting him do those things. Protect yourself, this situation could possibly get bad.
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Hi,
Im 15/f,
When Im in school I have a good few friends but when it comes to the summer hols or weekends I never hear from them and often meet them up town and feel kinda put out they never asked me. I have three groups of friends and a few from other different groups. I dont know if its my paranoia or at school they kinda have to hang around with me. I asked a friend could I go out with her and her friends one night and she said she would text me and she seemed uncomfortable.
Do they actually want to be my friends or is it my really bad paranoia??
Plz help
xx (link)
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It kind of sucks whenever you do feel put out because you don't understand their insiders or sometimes even the way they react to things. Please don't feel bad, this happens to everyone. If you're getting this vibe from them maybe they do want to be your friends but possibly aren't the best people. Maybe they don't feel comfortable with new people with their friends because they don't really know you that well. Keep the effort up and work with your friends to become a better one with them. Invite them places instead of going along with them. If things don't work out don't be afraid to form your own group, with people you are friends with from different groups. Try not to have paranoia, be confident.
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Ok I had sex with my boyfriend the first time, he wasnt a virgin, but afterwards it didn't really bother me, why do people make such a big deal out of your first time? It wasn't all it was cracked up to be, am I thinking normal? (link)
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I don't think it's so much of the innocence aspect. People make a big deal out of their first time because it is an action of real love. People save it for marriage because they know that they're truly and completely in love and it would mean so much to the companion that you saved yourself for them because you have waited for them your entire life. So then they know that they truly are perfect for you.
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hey im a guy 13 . i know this emo girl shes not that emo she just dresses like one, shes quite normal. shes really hot and has loads of friends...she was going to smake out my best friend until he backed out. now I talk to her alot. I talked to her about music for about an hour and every song I said she liked it or liked it alot.. she said she didnt know I had such good music taste. then she asked me who was the hottest girl in her school. I didnt say her... then we started talking about strange stuff.......like what find hot in a girl what she finds hot in a man....I want to know if shes interested in me.. she called me a loser kind of joking.....she doesnt act interested in me when my best friend is around. when hes around she acts alot less immature and strange. she thought i would like rave music. she also set me up with another girl one (of her friends)....I said I wanted to go out with this other girl and she said she was a complete loser and I shouldnt go out with her and shes hated by everyone BTW Im not in her school but I used to be she wasnt there then....I think she cant make up her mind whether she likes me or not? how can I tell if she likes me? now we dont really talk... we dont get the chance.... when im hanging out with my friends and her friends we dont talk to each other much... but when im with her with like one or two other people she will say small things like someone else said ive grown etc.... but she comes across as not being shy at all, and shes got loads of guys to choose from. (link)
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you're so sweet. ok, this is what I think you should do. I have friends just like what you have described minus the emo part.. Be confident my friend. I honestly believe confidence is key. You should build a friendship with this girl, a strong one. Show her that you want to hang out with her and invite her places so you can have the chance. Girls go crazy whenever a guy tries hard to get them. Try to get her! Don't just sit around, put forth some effort! punch your best friend in the face ;) just kidding! use his knowledge I'm assuming smake means go out with? So he should obviously know a thing or two about this girl. He could maybe do a little convincing? Which should be your last option! Let her like you for you. Take the opportunities you are provided and feel that she likes you. Wait to feel it, instead of wondering.
ha... I hope I didn't lose you there.
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I REALLLLLLY want a talent show at my school. but my school dosnt have talent shows. what do i do??? (link)
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have a talent show party! Invite all of your friends and make cute invitations. That would be so much fun!
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hello there , i have this big problem! ok there is this boy and we have been "talking" If you no what i mean . and well he says he likes me and i really like him , but i jsut found out he goes out with this other girl and i dont no what to do! so i really what to know what i should do please help me ! thank you (link)
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hi :) calm down. It's great that you have been talking to this boy, its always nice to have someone to talk to like that. And I believe that that's the main ideas of having a boy. He obviously means a lot to you, but to be honest.. I believe this doesnt sound like a nice guy. You guys aren't going out, yet he is already going to provide difficult situations like this for you. If you haven't already talked to him, you should. Get to the bottom of this.. try to understand his reasonings and if this situation is even true.
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ok well i'm pretty good at keeping friends (when i'm in school) but anyways i don't know how to keep them interested,you know? people get bored of me fast,i hate it ! i just stop my energy for some reason after a cirtain point. how can i keep my energy up? i'm not sick of them, its nothing to do with them,its me. i just loose energy and stop being so talkative,its weird because i'm usually so much more talkative. any help? this is probably confusing.sorry. (link)
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Don't lose confidence! If people see you losing confidence in yourslef it might cause them to venture away from you. Don't think you make them bored, this might be whats causing you to be less energetic. Prevent this from happening, since you are a talkative person don't be afraid to use your gift! Have movie parties.. you know things to motivate you to keep your friends, it should improve your energy
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I am a 16 year old female. I gave my virginity to a good friend. He acted like he liked me then and when we talk. Should I ask him if he likes me and if anything is going to happen with us? (link)
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I think that would be a great idea. Including the fact what weight it would lift off of your shoulders to know what he thinks. Answers make everything better.
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well I really like this kid and he asked me if I had one wish what would it be? and I honestly my wish would be to be with him :] but Idk if I should say that... it seems to forward.. Im like way sure he lieks me back... but idk.... should I tell him that I like him??? or would it mess it up? (link)
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oh my goodness yes you should tell him. He obviously expects that answer! yay :] I am quite excited for you. Taking this risk could result in a lot of happiness for you. be fearless!
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Kay well my parents' are spliting up , and I've been expecting it , I'm not sad or anything [no I'm not in denil either] and I have a desision to make , who I want to live with.
1) My mom : She sooo nice and I can tell her anything , But she can get moody and emotinally abusive [just a little bit].
2) My Dad : He is always asleep or a work or on the computer ,I can't really talk to him about anything.He is always in a bad mood and is vitiamin D deficiant [usually really bad mood in the winter] and he over grounds me for everyhting.BUT he brings me places and gives me money and treats me my age. (link)
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Personally I think it's a very important thing to have your mother around all of the time. I am sure the materialistic things are all very great with your dad, because who doesn't like the luxury life? But if you're a teenager you're going to need someone to talk to and enjoy their company which your mom seems she can provide. If I were you, I would want to live with my mother. And be able to be there for her as well because she might be emotionally abusive and you could help her.
I have a dad that sounds just like yours. I love him to death, but I need someone to talk to from time to time.
good luck with everything
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okay so i am going to be getting a chinese fighting fish pretty soon.
i know they need some special things.
but im not sure what.
does anyone know what they need?
thnx in advance. (link)
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http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_care_for_a_Chinese_fighting_fish
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my boyfriend's mother just died from huntingtons disease. he also has this. he has seen a lot of people die in his life. i would like to make a cd of songs telling him how sorry i am for his loss, and letting him know i love him and am there for him. does anyone have any song suggestions? please and thank you, it means a lot. 15/F (link)
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I believe that Drive by incubus would be a good one. It would address his fears and how you will always be there for him.
Also don't be that note- by scene aesthetic.
I'm sorry I don't know more.
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alright. i have this friend and i kind of love him. he's the totaly opposite of me and i've done some things he doesn't agree with. most of them, he knows about, a few he doesn't. this kid knows me better than i know myself and by not telling him, i've felt kinda guilty. so. question basically is, should i tell him, have him be disappointed, or just kind of let it go and not worry about it?
thankss. (link)
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confide in your best friend. he's practically your other half.
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I have a boyfriend and we use to use to go to the same school until he started a new one.Now we can't stop but to c eachother. The thing is in persn we can't stop talking but then when we are talking it's so hard to come up with a subject on the phone. On myspace we r lovebirdz..I lov him but how do i talk to him on the phoe wat should i say i need advice help me out please!! (link)
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calm yourself child. there is plenty and plenty and plenty of things to talk about. He went to your school and I am sure that you two share a lot of the same friends. Give him some updates on them and tell him funny stories that you might have. Also possibly common t.v. shows that you like would be good. If you're reading a book tell him about it and see if he's reading anything. Have you gone to any crazy parties? tell him about it. Any memories of him that you always think about? remind him so you guys can laugh. Show him you have this much care for him and ask him things about his new school.. family.. new people he's met. How he feels that day if he misses your school what he thinks about a lot. Does he like music? what concert has he always wanted to go to? does he skateboard? has he learned any new tricks? Try to keep things cool and non akward. be comfortable.. that is the main thing. Enjoy talking to him and be yourself.
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i know we all hate these questions but im clueless here. i have NO idea what to get my boyfriend for our one year. i spent over $250 on him for christmas and for valentines day gave him candy and a list of "100 reasons why i love you". he downloads all his music so he has every song he wants so i cant burn a cd. and im not doing a scrap book w/ pictures. concert tickets arent an option. i want to get him something he like so i thought about guitar strings or picks but at the same time i want it to be special for our one year ya kno? hes taking me out to dinner & a movie and getting me something but i dont know what. any ideas? (link)
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I don't know if he is touchy or sentimental but I think it would be extremley cute to buy a pack of picks and decorate them for him. it would be amazing if somehow you could even put a picture of you two on one? can you imagine how awesome it would be for you two to make a song together? come up with some lyrics.. and enjoy seeing his creative side as he plays the guitar to your words. something sentimental.. make it special.
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i met all of my best friend's homegirls n homeboys, and they were pretty cool. the homegirls kept telling me i was quiet, n the guys said that too. usually, with my friends, i'm really talkative, but for some reason, with them im really shy. what are some things i can talk about with them? like what can i say to them? how do i start a conversation n keep one going? its so weird cos i feel so awkward with them. (link)
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it's completely understandable to be shy the first time meeting new people. And in time they will become good friends with you and your talkative side will most come out.. They need to be patient until you're comfortable. Try to relax and keep things cool. I understand akwardness just as every one else. And you definitely have one thing in common.. which is your best friend so you could talk about memories with her and ask her friends what they enjoy doing the most. Movies of course which is always good schools and football teams if you're in to sports. Once any sport is mentioned my friends go crazy and have tons of things to talk about. So maybe that would work for you. plan things out next time that might help. To keep one going pick a topic you thing you are most comfortable with and can talk about for a while.
:] I honestly know you will become more comfortable with them. good luck with the conversations. be confident.
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I really need advice on how I can stop myself from getting angry at my parents! every time I get angry I start flipping out and it gets so bad I try running away and I get in trouble with police and everything just because of my anger!
How can i make myself not get angry? (link)
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Wow. You need to try to consider what you are doing to yourself. Think about it when your are freaking out at times try to recognize your anger before its happens. When you find yourself beginning to get angry just take a deep breath and try to understand where you parents are coming from. Yoga? A lot of people say this is very relaxing. stupid, I know. but anything is worth a chance when you could get in trouble with the police :( even try to talk to your parents about this problem apoligize to them and see what they have to say maybe that will help them understand you and better yet you understand them. Try to calm yourself and dont let it build up ok? Well good luck :)
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yesterday a boy came over that i really like. Ok so things got heated and we started kissing, makin out a lot.yeah. Then we got into my room and he fingered me. Now im afraid that maybe he doesn't like me or somethin or just doesn't have any feelings for me. He's not the kind of guy that would use a girl like me like that because I know him really well and he treats me differently than other girls (in a good way)but for some reason I'm still worried that he's just gonna forget about me and go with another girl or something. What can I do to maybe prevent this from happening??? thankss! (link)
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I am sorry :(. But I think that if you act like you are hesitant to how yall's relationship is going to end up toward him he will think that YOU are uncomforatable... so just think positive consider how he treats you different from the other girls and just don't blank out and not talk to him for a while because that would give him the idea that you are avoiding him... just go on like normal and be confident, I'm sure he still likes you! well good luck with your situation...
:)
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im not sure if im exsperincing a real feeling for a "guy" friend of mine or if im just doing it to like someone. I'm afraid to ask him to do something because i don't want to ruin out friendship but I'm afraid that if i don't say anything than I may miss a good chance. i want to try to like him but i don't want to ruin our frienship, which i value more.very confused here..please help! (link)
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Don't stand in the shadows and not tell him how you truly feel, just tell him the truth get that weight off your shoulders, let it sink in with him and then see how he feels. If he doesnt feel the same way then dont feel bad, just consider it a sign from God that he wasnt meant to be your boyfriend just there for you as a best friend you know what i mean? And its ok to like your best friend as something more believe me. BUT if you are not sure about you really liking him then give it a little bit more time and see if your feelings are pure THEN tell him! But, if you think you are ready to reveal your secret then let it out- live life without regrets k girl? (Kisses)
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